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I lied to my boyfriend about how I look...I feel horrible
So, I'm 15 and my boyfriend is 16.
We met on a teenage chat site and started talking, afterwards I snuck and call him from my house phone (I was on punishment at the time and not suppose to have boys calling or call them)
After a while he said we wanted to know what I look like so, I was scared of if he's think I'm ugly so I sent him a picture of my really pretty cause instead.
He said she was BEAUTIFUL and he send me a picture back, and now I wanna let him know how I really look but he said the only reason why he really really loves me is because I'm honest but I'M NOT, I LIED :( I'm so scared to tell him but its eating me alive.
What do I do, my parents don't even know I talk to him everyday, they think I'm talking to my best friend.
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Put yourself in the reverse scenerio...how would you feel if a teen in chat send you a pic of his cousin who is tall cus he thinks he's too short.
Im using height issue cus thats one thing some guys worry over and lie about. So he never tells you and you meet face to face and you feel angry and betrayed because he lied and he was still taller than you and it was acceptable to you but now you worry he might lie about other things and so you dont trust him enough to continue relationship.
Now imagine he is scared to tell you he lied but he still does write and tell you online before you meet. You'd wonder why he did that if honesty was so important to him. He tells you he thinks he's not tall enough of a guy and gives his height. You are surprised, and tell him you don't think that is short at all. So you have a chance to forgive on line and re-establish trust before meeting in person.
Which scenerio has the better outcome?
I think you know what you must do and do it quickly!
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You have to tell him the truth as soon as possible. A guy friend of mine was dating a girl online and she did the same thing to him. He didn't even care about her looks and really liked her personality. Everyone in his school picked on him for having an online relationship, but he really liked the girl so he spent every day defending himself for almost a year. They didn't get to meet for awhile because they lived in neighboring states. The girl stuck with the lie and it went so far that my friend ended up going to her prom to meet her for the first time. He didn't just show up, it was planned and she never told him the truth. Not even when he arrived and she was clearly a different person. Even though he really liked her he was so angry that she hadn't been honest and acted like nothing was wrong when he showed up that he broke up with her online after he got home. To this guy, when he finds out, which he will, you will be a liar and a bad person. If you tell him now, explain why you did it, apologize over and over, and send him a real picture of yourself, he may understand. If you don't expect him to stay with you, there's more of a chance that he will. I wish you the best of luck. Tell him TODAY. Do not delay it because you don't want to end up hurting someone that you care about for selfish reasons. The longer you stick with the lie, the harder it will be to tell the truth and the less likely it will be that he decides to stay with you. Do not string this guy along, wasting his life as well as yours. He's sacrificing parts of his life to spend time with you that he can never get back. He could be hanging out with his friends, but instead he's spending time with this girl who he feels is very honest. Live up to what he thinks of you.
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Well if you want an actual relationship with this guy, you suck it up and you tell him that it wasn't you.
It will keep eating you alive until you tell him. There's not really another way to get around the guilt.
So if he breaks up with you, it wouldn't be the end of the world anyways. You're 15 and you're dating a guy you've never met. It's more fun to date guys that are around because you actually get to hang out with them instead of talking on a phone.
So you tell that the picture wasn't you, you were feeling insecure, ect. Just tell him the truth. Lying in relationships will ruin them.
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