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I am at age 25 and I don't know why my life is like this. But every time I take a job, I end up being miserable and very sick.. ending up in depression is a serious problem of mine.
I am an IT that actually has no passion for it. I don't like it but I have no choice because, I graduated in this field. So, every job choices I find myself always ending up in the technical field, which I don't want and obviously I can't see myself being good at in the next 5 years.
What should I do?
This is not something to get depressed over. Many of us chose a career path only to find out we made a mistake. Mistakes can be corrected. There are different ways to correct this type of mistake.
1. Sit down and think about what career really interests you. Actually make a list if you need to should there be more than one or two. Look at the list you made and see which of them you have any qualifications for and what additional training or courses of study you may need to be fully qualified to apply for this position.
2. Find a career counseling agency and have them administer a placement test. There are tests they can administer that can tell you what career(s) you are best qualified for based on intelligence and aptitude .
These tests are fairly accurate. I took one in high school and it suggest a career in sales or public service. I did both, I made my employment in sales and did very well. I also volunteered with the local fire department which for me was stress relief from my day job.
Once you have the results of the test look at the positions returned as best qualified for. Look at those positions and see what they entail. See what qualifications you may have and what you need to obtain.
3. You can also try asking friends and relatives what they feel you are best suited for. You would be surprised what others see in you that you don't see in yourself. Don't be surprised if your friends see in you what the test returns if you take the test.
Once you made a decision on a new career choice and know what qualifications you need to obtain to go after that career. Visit your local community college or a Technical School to arrange to get the needed course. There is no shame in going back to school at your age. People twice your age have had to go back to school to learn new careers. It has become part of life in the 21st century.
You do not have to be stuck in a job or career you hate. As you are suffering you can see why this is so. There is no need to make yourself sick when if you have the will there are ways to change course to a better life a better career path.
My father once told me this. "You can have all the money in the world and be miserable or you can make enough money to live on and be happy." What he meant by this was; do not pick a career based on how much money you can earn, pic a career you are happy in and you will never work a day in your life. Meaning work will be fun and exciting. When work is fun and exciting it is not really work.
As for the depression your felling. It is a natural form of depression that should not require a doctors care other than the fact it makes you sick. This may impede you from having the will power you need to pick yourself up and do what needs to be done to change things for the better. I suggest you see your doctor and tell the doctor how your feeling and why. Ask to be screened for depression.
If you have not worked yourself into a clinical depression then the doctor can help you with being sick.. If you have worked yourself into a clinical depression the doctor can help you there as well. Both conditions are temporary until you get yourself to a better place.
Well,the weekend ( Saturday&sunday) my bf and I had sex. He came inside me twice. I immediately went to the pharmacy the sunday to get the morning after pill. Then the monday morning I peed out some of his sperm..would that still make me fall pregnant?
You had unprotected sex on Saturday and Sunday, you know better than to have unprotected sex. You took the morning after pill on Sunday Morning. It doesn't matter what happened on Monday.
Since you took the morning after pill within 24 hours of intercourse the chances are good that it will be highly effective as long as you do not have any more unprotected sex. TO rely on the morning after pill for birth control is not practical as it is not as effective as birth control medication. The chance of the morning after pill; not preventing a pregnancy is much higher than if you were on birth control.
If you are old enough to purchase the morning after pill then you are also old enough to go to any doctor and ask for birth control medication without parental knowledge or permission. Under a federal law called HIPPA this is a right anyone over 14 has. You can go to any woman's clinic or doctor and just ask for it and say you want confidentiality under HIPPA.
Please i want to know if Ovulation comes before menstruation or after menstruation and how does it work.
Thanks
For 85% of women ovulation happens between the 7th and 21st day of their menstrual cycle based on a 28 day cycle.
Based on the way you structured your question the answer would be after your period ends. For the next 7 days it is safe to have sex for the following 14 days it is not safe to haves sex for this is the period you are most fertile. For the last 7 days of your cycle it is once again safe to have sex as you have passed the time when you would or should have ovulated. This is called the rhythm method of birth control and has the highest failure rate of any method of birth control.
For the other 15% of women they can ovulate at anytime including during their period. This is why it is important to know when you ovulate. Not just to know when it is safest to have sex but also to know when it is best to try to get pregnant when you are ready to have children.
Talk to your pharmacist to see if they carry the kits that will help you find out when you ovulate. If they do it is a good thing to purchase and follow the instructions to find out when you ovulate.
Will this pills help me if I want to get an abortion
This pill is not marketed as a morning after pill or an abortion pill. It is marketed as one of the less expensive contraceptive pills. I don't think it is recommended to be taken if you are already pregnant.
Please right with more information, including your age. Your age is important especially if you are looking for an abortion as there is federal law that might apply that can help you get one without parental knowledge.
You can write me a private message if you wish.
I'm a 21-year-old female. I recently noticed that I might have a thing for older guys; late 20s to even late 40s. Sometimes I find myself lusting after them and I feel like it might be totally wrong but still so right. I don't have any "daddy issues" either and I'm definitely not after any guy's money, so my question is: is it weird that as a particularly young college student, I'm attracted to older guys? I've never been in a relationship before so I'm not sure if it's totally normal or I might be confused....
There are several different ways at looking at why you find yourself more attracted to older men.
One reason for this would be simple comfort reasons. Older men are going to be, in most instances, more gentlemanly especially those in the older ages. They will treat you like a lady. They will wine you, dine you and not be someone you have to fend off all evening. Their objective is the same as the younger male, they will eventually want to have sex with you, it is just they have a bit more fineness about them, generally.
The second reason you might find older men attractive is also about comfort though for different reasons. Is it possible you are still a virgin? If so that is nothing to be ashamed about more so something to be commended for. If you are a virgin or someone who is not very sexually experienced. You might see the older men as someone who sex will be more comfortable with, someone who be gentler. An older male will be someone to make sure the sex is good for you before having his pleasure.
Then of course there is the fact that older men are generally more stable. Have good jobs and ready to settle down. There is a lot less trial and error with an older man. Younger men greatly confuse love and lust and in general see the two words as being synonymous. The older the male the better he knows the difference, the truer his intentions.
There is nothing wrong with any of this if any of these may be your reasons. Be honest with yourself when you think about why you're attracted to an older man and one of these may be the reason.
You have every right to be treated like a lady. No women should be treated like a piece of meat which many young men do. It is not just today's young man; it goes back long before your grandfathers day. Yes our mothers instructed us on how to treat a lady and you will instruct your son on how to treat a lady. Some will but most won't follow what mothers teach them.
Should you be a virgin or sexual novice an older man will be, for the most part much, more considerate when having sex with you. Younger men, in general, are only interested in their pleasure and are not truly concerned with the woman's comfort or pleasure.
Older men are more stable, the older the man the more stable and the more set in his ways. There is a trade off here you need to be comfortable with in being with and possibly marrying a man much older than yourself. That is what you will miss out on by being with and possibly marrying an older man.
For a man in his thirties a night out may not be dinner and dancing. Dinner yes and maybe a play or a movie. Most likely a nice dinner at a fine restaurant and home to bed and maybe some sex or a good book.
Your definitely not confused about anything as I see it. You seem to know what you want just not understanding why you want it. There is nothing abnormal in dating above your age. Age is just a number a way of tracking the years of a life. If in all other respects you find yourself compatible with an older male then go for it.
I have been very stressed out lately. I have a diagnosis of bipolar disorder, and my family situation is very tough in addition to that. The only people who really support me and are there for me are my closest friends, however I have started distancing myself from them. I used to love talking to them and venting to them and seeing them, but I keep pushing them away lately. I can't really figure out why I'm doing that. When a friend tells me they'll call to check up on me, I tell them not to. I'm not half as excited as I used to be when I'm with my friends who always make me feel better. I don't know what suddenly happened, because those are the people that make me laugh and feel better when I'm stressed out and depressed like this. However now I will find every reason to lash out at them to alienate them and it scares me. I don't know why I do this. Does anyone have any idea why I act this way? I just started taking the mood stabilizer Trileptal if that makes any difference. Thank you for taking the time to read this. Any advice or theories would be much appreciated since this is incredibly upsetting to me. Also, do you think I might lose my friends by getting upset at them for silly reasons so I have an excuse to not talk to them? Thanks again.
Some of what you are experiencing is a side effect of the medication you are taking. I looked up Trileptal on WEB MD and is primarily an anticonvulsant. Like many drugs Trileptal been found useful in treating problems. Trileptal has been found useful in treating bipolar disorder.
For the side effects you are experiencing the manufacturer suggest contacting your prescribing doctor and advising the doctor of these changes and the depression you are feeling. The doctor may wish to change your medication or add another medication to handle the side effects you are having.
Bipolar disorder is also known as manic depression. This is a type of depression where some days a patient feels really good, as in being really high. When really high a patient may go on spending sprees, and anything that feels good. Then they fall into a deep depression. When they do they lash out at people, they want to be alone, suffer anxiety attacks and other things can happen as well. One thing for certain is their perception of things is colored by the depression and they really do not see things as they are.
What the doctor tries to do is with the help of medication and talk therapy is to bring the patient back to, let's call it the middle. The place between the ultra high and the ultra low. The place where most people are at.
What is very, very important for someone suffering from bipolar disorder is once you reach this middle; is you feel normal. When you feel normal you see no reason to take your medication. It is important, especially once you reach this middle to continue your medication and to continue with your talk therapy.
My advice is simple and straightforward. Call your doctor today and leave a message with the answering service about the side effects and depression you're feeling. The doctor will decide if you need to be seen today, if a change in medication is needed or if you should come into the office on Monday. It is very important that you call the doctor today.
I am a 15 year old guy that wants to have sex with my 18 year old older friend that is also a guy. I know that he's straight and all but I want to do it just to do it and I know that sounds strange but I don't know what to do and I have to see him tomorrow morning but I don't know how to tell him considering how ugly I am.
I talk about the age issue in a bit. First I will talk about want to haves sex with someone of the same sex. You say that, "I want to do it just to do it." This is not as strange as it sounds. You have not said that you feel your sexual identity is that of being gay. That you want to have sex with this one guy does not make you gay either. Sexual attraction does not know sexual boundaries. This and the fact that you are 15, going through puberty and still trying to just who you are sexually.
If you were gay you would have known this long before now. Gay is how you are born not something you identify with one morning when you wake up. being sexually attracted to someone of the same sex may mean you have bisexual leanings or you just want to explore that form of sexuality.
Since you now this guy is straight I would not recommend going up to him and in any form asking him to have sex with you. His reaction will most likely be one of to hurt you. If he is also a friend of yours you will lose him as a friend. I you wish to have a bisexual relationship you are going have to find someone who is either gay or bisexual.
Speaking as an advisor, parent and grandparent who is very liberal when it comes to matters of sex. My advice here would be to wait until your older. If you were to have a same sex relationship even just to see what it is like and it gets out that you did. You would be labeled as gay.
There is nothing wrong with being gay other than your 15 and still in school. Kids your age will not be very accepting of you if you are labeled gay. society as a whole is still not accepting the Gay and Lesbian relationship so having the kids being accepting is all that much harder. The kids will turn on you and you could get hurt. If this is something you feel you need to experience then wait until your older and not in school. You need to trust me when I say it is for your own safety to wait.
As for having sex with someone older than you. In most states as long as the other person is under 18 there is little legal trouble either of you can get into. If one partner is over 18 and the other is under 18 then there may be a lot of legal trouble for the 18 year old and it would depend on the laws of the stat you are in.
At 18 all state recognize this as the legal age of being an adult. Anyone under the age of 18 is considered a minor. Now when it comes to sex there is a second law. Sex requires consent and the second law is the age of consent law. Many states have raised this law to age 18 though some states have a lower age. That age could be as low as 16. If the minor is under the age of consent then the law says the minors is not able to give consent there fore not able to consent to sex. There fore any sex between the minor and the adult is rape.
Given that your friend is 18 you need to check the laws in your state on age of consent before you even approach him. Being that you know he is straight as I said before my advice is not to approach him for sex
I rarely have intercourse but I feel like every time I do the outside of my vagina tears. At first it's painful because it's like a little cut but then as it heals it gets itchy which I know is normal for healing. I have been using neosporin which helps it heal faster so the itching goes away faster. I guess I am looking for advice on how to avoid the tearing or how to better deal with it so it isn't so uncomfortable.
The fact that you rarely have intercourse is probably behind this problem. Depending on what you mean by rarely it could be that when you do it is like having sex for the first time all over again. If you’re having sex with the same partner it could be that he is also what is called well hung meaning somewhat oversized and the fact that you do not have regular intercourse you are not use to stretching to accommodate him.
If he is overly large then two things use plenty of lube and he has to very gentle entering you. If he is your same age he is probably not as gentle entering you as he should be. One thing to remember though is what comes out of your vagina. No matter how big he may be he is smaller than what the vagina is there to deliver to the world. When you are older and have more regular intercourse you will learn to stretch and accommodate him or a guy who may be overly large.
Average Vagina Size
Relaxed
Length 3 1/2 to 4 inches
Diameter 1 Inch
Aroused
Length ("tented) 5 to 6 inches
Diameter 1 1/2 to 2 inches
The average male penis when erect is between 5.1 & 5.9 inches long and 1 to 1 ½ to 2 inches in girth.
It might be advisable to visit with your GYN and discuss this with the doctor to make sure nothing has been harmed and to see if the doctor can recommend something to help.
So one day my mom had to rush off to work she told me to look after my baby brother. after finish washing my baby brother whose 5 months old and when I got him out of the tub we latched on to my breast because apparently he was hungry. But at the time I was wearing a tank top and no bra because I had just gotten up. So what happened was I pulled him off and I started uncontrollably leaking breast milk all over. I got him dressed and put him to sleep and for the next ten minutes I was trying to stop from leaking milk. When I finally got it to stop i changed my wet clothes and cleaned up. I thought everything was fine and that the baby had just somehow made my breasts start leaking. But the next day when I heard from crying for food my breasts started leaking again. Also another problem is that I heard how when ladies who had just had their babies leak milk when babies are crying but I've never had sex so its weird. Also women who breast feed have rapid breast growth and I think its happening to me because last week when the first incident happened I was a large C cup but now I'm a small D cup I don't know what to do about the leakage or the breast growth can someone please give me good advice on how to stop this without having to go to the doctor. thank you for helping.
As a moderator on this site I can look back at your previous questions. You have gone from 14 to 20 years of age in a matter of 48 hours. We don't mind answering your questions though we would prefer to spend our time answering questions that are real and not the figment of someone's imagination.
If you're asking a question for someone else or if you are just curious about something or confused about something say so. We will still answer your question. Knowing why you are asking does help in formulating an answer.
Example this question: This should not be happening. Virgins should not be lactating. My advice would be to see a gynecologist ASAP for there is most likely a hormonal imbalance in play that needs to be corrected.
Don't try opening new accounts each time you ask a question either. The new accounts will get flagged and the administrator will close them. We are happy to answer questions just play straight with us. I have not at this time informed the site administrator of what you have been doing. I will the next time.
I am a 26 year old female and I don't really where to start but here goes I was molested by my dad when I was 3 and when my mom found out supposedly she called the police and they seperated because of this even though I was so young when it happened I don't remember any of it but what I was told. Then my mom and dad finally divorced a year later when I was 4 and then my mom married my stepdad who is black and it caused a whole war between her and my dad's side of the family because they believe in interracial marriage and they said she lied on my dad so she be with my stepdad.my dad died when I was 12 so I can't even ask him his side of the story of what really happened so my life has been in turmoil ever since I was 3j not knowing who to believe. My life is a mess. I started living wild wjen ai was 16making sleeping around , going to wild parties, and smoking pot kust to put my mind at
ease.Then when I turned 23 I stared going to church
after 7I years of living another life. I found myself going back to wear I was before and now I feel like a complete failire like a mistake even though I talked to my pastor about my situation and he says to go easy on myself that I don't have to be perfect kust to try to put my past behind me but how do I do that when there is so much going on in my head?
First off I agree with your pastor to go easy on yourself. Nobody is perfect. I can see where life has thrown you a curveball and how you have reacted to that throw is understandable, there are better ways to help yourself then going back to your old ways.
I would be surprised if you weren't moderately depressed over all of this. Not to the point of needing antidepressant medication but to the point where you could use the help of a disinterested third party to talk with and help you see things more clearly. someone to help you put things in a better perspective so that you can have a better outlook on life and enjoy life the way it should be.
TO do this you can try talking with a psychologist or ask your pastor to recommend pastoral counselor both work with you just by different methods. I recommend the psychologist as they are trained to work to help you help yourself through talk therapy. A psychologist is someone you can tell your deepest secrets to knowing they go no further. You can discuss anything and everything with your therapist to find a better way to deal with something and properly put it behind you.
As for is you mother telling you the truth about your dad. Given what you say about your dad's family's feeling towards your mother I would say she has told you the truth. Though it is easy enough to check out. Arrest records are a matter of public record as are any court proceedings.
If mom had your dad arrested and he went to trial there will be a record of his arrest and a transcript of the court proceedings on file at the courthouse. If you know where you lived at the time it is just a matter of contacting the courts and asking for copies of those records. There is usually a transcription charge for sending you this information. If you still live in the area you can visit the courthouse and view the records at no charge.
I would suggest that you contact the court and find out if there is an arrest record for your father around the time you were 3. If so either go to the courthouse or send for the record and any trial transcript. This will put your mind on this matter at ease once and for all.
I met this guy who is a single dad of 3 boys and we have fell completely in love. We are getting ready to move in together alone with my 3 boys. His mom and I have got off on wrong foot and I want to make things right with her for myself and how I feel. She has helped my boyfriend raise his boys for 4 years cause their mom isn't around. She feels like I'm stepping in and taking her place and I'm not trying to at all. She is a sweet lady with a huge heart and I want her to know I would never try to take her place at all..
To start with the problem is not you. It is a problem anyone would have stepping into the world of someone who has been a caretaker for as long as she has. No matter what you are going to be seen as an interloper into her domain. Facts are if you are moving in to his home with your children you are going to be a de facto stepmom to his children. It has to be this way and he has to become the de facto step dad to your children just as she will become the de facto step grandma to your children.
Fact is that living together, combining two families must include each of you allowing the other to parent the others children. If not then don't give up the place you’re living now for the relationship won't work out. His mother also has to be able to be a parent and grandparent o your children when she is with them. This in the nucleus of the new family you are going to have. Not only does his mother have to understand this but so do the children. You have to explain to both sets of children that what won't be tolerated is hearing "you’re not my mother or you’re not my father."
I would suggest that you and your BF first talk over the parenting arrangement of the others children. Where in this arrangement his mother will fit in for she must be included for the benefit of the children she raised for 4 years. Then either together or singularly you speak with her and explain to her you’re not replacing her.
She has to understand that her sons’ family is taking on a new dimension. That you are part of that dimension as is she; that you are not looking to toss her aside but are going to need her help raising not 3 but 6 children. The only thing that will change is where her word was final that in some instances she will have to defer to you and your boyfriend. You are the parents and you are parenting the combined family together.
Is treatment for acne really needed or will a home remedy work?
There are two things to consider. First: How bad your acne is. Second: Could you make it worse using home remedies or over the counter products?
If you are covered under health insurance a visit to a Dermatologist would be a covered visit minus any copay. Getting a doctor's opinion of just what type of acne you have and the types of treatment for it is probably the best idea to start with. If you use the wrong treatment for your type of acne not only will it not be cleared up but you could end up with pock marks all over your face.
Dermatologist I know don't always go for the heavy guns. If they feel over the counter products will work and they are less expensive than the drugs they may prescribe they will instruct you in how to use them which may be different from the label instructions.
By visiting a doctor you may also find that an antibiotic is needed to help clear the acne. If so all the over the counter and home remedies will not help. Therefore my suggestion to you is; if you are covered by health insurance that if you are of age you see a doctor. If you are a minor ask your parents to make an appointment for you to see a Board Certified Dermatologist. Board Certified means they have completed a Fellowship in Dermatology and past all the requirements to be certified to practice Dermatology by the College of Dermatology.
Once you have been seen by the doctor and told of the type of acne you have and the doctor's treatment plan. Then you can decide to follow the doctor's instructions or if you want to try home remedies. This way you are making an informed decision.
My boyfriend invited me over to his house this Saturday but since he's 3 years older then me she doesn't trust him, she thinks I'm going to have sex with him or something, but he is moving and it will be the last time I get to see him for awhile and I don't think my mom will let me go:(
These are the hardest questions to answer. You're correct in that it is not you that mom doesn't trust it is your boyfriend. Remember mom was once your age and she remembers what it was like to be your age.
You did not give your age so I am going to have to make an assumption when giving the following advice which is; that your boyfriend lives at home with his parents and they are moving as a family. If what I'm thinking is true there are two possibilities.
1. If Saturday is the last time you can see him and he is living at home. Then I would think his parents would be there busy packing up getting ready to move. If this is true see if his mom would be willing to call you mom and let her know that she will be there and that you two will be well chaperoned by her. This might allow mom to change her mind.
2. If you can't go to him ask mom if he can come to you. If mom is home to chaperone the two of you I don't see what her objection could be. Of course she may have other plans for Saturday so the sooner you ask her the better your chances are that she may agree.
Hi everyone, so I am 19 years old and I am on birth control and have been for about 2 or 3 years. My boyfriend and I had an accident about 3 or 4 days after my period. Which was about 2 weeks ago, and now it's like I'm on my period, but the blood is dark and not quite as heavy. My period isn't due for another 2 weeks. Could this mean I'm pregnant? When could I take a pregnancy test? I haven't messed up my birth control pills, so I'm pretty sure that that isn't the reason why my cycle has started. If anyone could give me advice on absolutely anything I would greatly appreciate it. Such as abortion, or or symptoms within 2 weeks of pregnancy, just absolutely anything. Frankly my boyfriend and I are not stable enough to bring a child into the world, as much as I would love too, that would be selfish to do to an innocent child. Thank you all so much!
First we are not doctors so we cannot make any medical decisions or give medical advice. That being said I do not think your pregnant. If you are having a true period and not hemorrhaging for some reason; you can't be pregnant. The purpose of the period is to clean the womb and prepare it for a pregnancy. So you can't be pregnant and having a period at the same time.
I don't know what you mean by accident. Normally in this situation an accident would mean unprotected sex. You're on birth control so you are protected. Though even on birth control there is a .001% chance of pregnancy.
There is one possibility to consider which is way out in left field someplace. Which is you did get pregnant and you have miscarried. Even as outlandish as this may be the possibility is there which means you need to see your gynecologist and make sure there is nothing left behind.
My suggestion is call your GYN and explain what has happened. Let the doctor tell you what to do. IF the doctor wants to see you make the appointment and see the doctor. If you have miscarried it is important to makes sure nothing is left behind.
Let the doctor decide if your having a breakthrough period. Which is another possibility as they do happen, just why I don't know but I'm sure the doctor can explain it to you.
Im 18. I started dating this guy and there is definitely sexual attraction there. Completely sure of it. I want to have sex. Theres no love between us its just attraction. But I was raised to wait for sex until marriage. Im an ex preachers daughter. I have rebelled but the whole save sex for marriage thing had always stayed with me. I want to.have sex but im scared there will be regret and the hatred I will feel for being weak,but its like sex is all I think about. Help me please.
Since there is only an attraction and not love I would suggest you hold on to your values a while longer. TO have sex with someone you do not love and have no intentions of marrying, at least at this time, will only cause you to regret the experience.
If this guy wants you just because he wants sex from you then he to does not love you he lusts for you. This is a big problem with teenage boys. They confuse lust and love, in fact they believe they are synonymous. This continues right up through their mid twenties and some men never grow up.
This is not to say that there may not come a day when a man comes along who truly loves you and you love him. Marriage may or may not be in the future and you will want to have sex with him. There is nothing wrong with waiting until you are married to have sex. And any man should be pleased that you have waited all this time to give him the greatest gift a woman can give a man.
Today though few if an men are expecting their bride to be a virgin on their wedding night. Sex has become a big part of the courting ritual as is living together prior to marriage.
My advice now and with guy is not the time to give up your virginity. Wait for the right guy. The guy who will respect you, the guy that actually loves you. They guy who will make your first time a wonderful experience. I don't believe this is the right guy to give you this.
If I am virgin can I get pregnant. ...
The only way you can get pregnant is by having unprotected sexual intercourse. Being a virgin does not mean the first time you have sex you will not get pregnant. The first time and every time you have sex your partner needs to wear a condom. If he is not willing to wear a condom do not have sex with him. You should also be on birth control. The two together is 99.999% effective in preventing pregnancy.
Boys especially and men do not like to wear condoms, especially the latex ones as they decrease the sensations the penis gets from intercourse. Well that just tough they are not the ones who get pregnant are they. They have three choices;
1. Wear a latex condom
2. Buy the more expensive Lambskin condoms, which allow for more sensation.
3. Settle for something other than intercourse or no sex at all.
When I was a teenager, back in the dark ages of the Flintstone era, the girls had a saying. "No rubber no lover." It was good then it is even better now because condoms also protect you from many STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus.
I recently have been accelerated from the ninth grade to first year college after taking a government issued acceleration test. Now, the results came in a little later than expected, and so I was only able to enroll for the second trimester. I have a couple of months left with nothing to do. We live in a subdivision where commuting is quite hard because of all the road construction, and my mom, who usually drives, recently had an operation. I have a daily jogging routine from 4PM until 5, but other than that I have nothing concrete as to what I should do. I want it to be productive, but it's required that it must be doable indoors. Quick sidenote: I am 2 years into my recovery from dilated cardiomyopathy, so I'm not allowed heavy work, but I do enjoy writing on my blog and reading books. I just think I need to vary my schedule throughout, because I feel so unproductive when I do the same thing everyday.
You could try writing. There are many different things you could write about. You write for the enjoyment of it which is what I do. I don't expect anything I writ to be published I write for the pleasure of it. You write about things you know in a fictional format. You can try your hand a poetry. I also like to cook so I have a file on all of my favorite recipes that I may try to publish if I can get my firefighter friends to chip in there recipes. Some of the greatest cooks are firefighters as they live in the fire stations and have to prepare meals for 4 to 18 people.
You could also take online course in the area of study you wish to follow. I see no reason why you cannot start on some of the prerequisites for whatever major you wish to study.
Then you also have knitting, painting, sculpting scrapbooking and other craft works which can be fun things to do.
so im a 13 year old girl and i act a little horny when i see sexual stuff. is it normal for 13 year olds to watch porn and i want sex with a guy but protected sex. can i do anything sexual by myself to give a sex feeling to myself i know for guys they can maturbate help!
Relax your normal. watching or reading pornography can be sexually stimulating especially to someone going through puberty with all the new hormones pulsing through them. Hence the word horny.
You are way too young to consider having actual sex with a boy. For one thing even though you may be developing a womanly body your vagina is not ready for intercourse even if you are getting your period. The muscles of your vagina may still be locked and not ready to spread to accept a penis which would make intercourse very painful.
What you can do to relieve the sexual tension is masturbate. Now there are many different ways to please yourself by stimulating your breasts, nipples, clit and vagina. If you have not done so yet type FEMALE MASTERBATION into a search engine or HOW DO FEMALES MASTERBATE. There will be plenty of information returned to show you or explain to you how to please yourself.
How do you block sites like kik from your server?
This would be a question you should direct to the site administrator.
We're 14, dating for over 2 years, madly in love, fairly open about our love to. At least for someone in this situation.
I find it sad that us being related makes people sick that we love eachother, I guess I just came here to seek some approval
We cuddle, kiss, go out to dates, everything a regular couple does.
The part no one except my best friend and our other sister really knows about is that yes we have had sex before. A quite a few times. I'd imagine that'll be a turn off point for most people reading this.
We cuddle, kiss, go out to dates, everything a regular couple does.
The part no one except my best friend and our other sister really knows about is that yes we have had sex before. A quite a few times. I'd imagine that'll be a turn off point for most people reading this.
I'm not disgusted or turned off by what you have written. What I am is concerned for the legal problems you two have set yourself up for. The moral problems are between the two of you and of no one’s concerns but your and at your age your parents.
The legal problem is the fact that incest, having sex with immediate family this includes first cousins, is illegal in every state in this country and just about every developed country in the western world.
The reason is the mixing of similar genes in creating another life causes a great many birth defects. This was seen way back in history. It was not understood why this happened but they saw that children resulting from people of the same families had children with these birth defects. The corrective action was to outlaw incest and most all religions made incest a sin.
That is the legal aspect. Now the fact that you two are both 14 tells me you are either twins or step brother and sister. If you are twins it is normal for you two to be closer than most siblings after all you started out together, maybe even sharing the same egg. Though having sex at 14 is wrong and I think you know that. Regardless of the fact you may be twins sexual intercourse for any teenager at your age is wrong. Neither of you are mature enough to handle the possible consequences of your actions.
I'm only adding the following as you need to know this; not as permission to continue to have sex. If you are step brother and sister then there is no incest taking place. You may be as close as brother and sisters and your parents may have adopted each of you. What is not present between you is a similar gene pool. Absent a similar gene pool there is no incest and your sister may as well be the girl next door. What you need to do now is to wait a few years and if your feelings have not changed then you can decide if you want to make a life commitment to each other.