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My sexual thoughts towards older guy
I am a 15 year old guy that wants to have sex with my 18 year old older friend that is also a guy. I know that he's straight and all but I want to do it just to do it and I know that sounds strange but I don't know what to do and I have to see him tomorrow morning but I don't know how to tell him considering how ugly I am.
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I don't think your outer appearance is going to matter at all. Like you said, this guy you lust after is straight. There's really no way of winning this. It's best to move on in this situation.
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In life we all have different feelings but it would be wise to not act or encourage others on those feelings we feel are dissolutioned.
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Ok, as a straight guy who kinda experienced the same thing, I'd have to say that guy's really hot. First of all, I'm not that cute either, but I'm sure with the right persuading, you can do it. Just don't do it immediately. If you want to do it fast, then try to give hints first. Never kiss him suddenly, because it's a high risk. Ok? Just ask him horny things like "do you watch porn?" But if he sees you as someone who's not interested in that kind of stuff, ask him "what's porn?" stuff like that. Then let your inner horn do the work
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I talk about the age issue in a bit. First I will talk about want to haves sex with someone of the same sex. You say that, "I want to do it just to do it." This is not as strange as it sounds. You have not said that you feel your sexual identity is that of being gay. That you want to have sex with this one guy does not make you gay either. Sexual attraction does not know sexual boundaries. This and the fact that you are 15, going through puberty and still trying to just who you are sexually.
If you were gay you would have known this long before now. Gay is how you are born not something you identify with one morning when you wake up. being sexually attracted to someone of the same sex may mean you have bisexual leanings or you just want to explore that form of sexuality.
Since you now this guy is straight I would not recommend going up to him and in any form asking him to have sex with you. His reaction will most likely be one of to hurt you. If he is also a friend of yours you will lose him as a friend. I you wish to have a bisexual relationship you are going have to find someone who is either gay or bisexual.
Speaking as an advisor, parent and grandparent who is very liberal when it comes to matters of sex. My advice here would be to wait until your older. If you were to have a same sex relationship even just to see what it is like and it gets out that you did. You would be labeled as gay.
There is nothing wrong with being gay other than your 15 and still in school. Kids your age will not be very accepting of you if you are labeled gay. society as a whole is still not accepting the Gay and Lesbian relationship so having the kids being accepting is all that much harder. The kids will turn on you and you could get hurt. If this is something you feel you need to experience then wait until your older and not in school. You need to trust me when I say it is for your own safety to wait.
As for having sex with someone older than you. In most states as long as the other person is under 18 there is little legal trouble either of you can get into. If one partner is over 18 and the other is under 18 then there may be a lot of legal trouble for the 18 year old and it would depend on the laws of the stat you are in.
At 18 all state recognize this as the legal age of being an adult. Anyone under the age of 18 is considered a minor. Now when it comes to sex there is a second law. Sex requires consent and the second law is the age of consent law. Many states have raised this law to age 18 though some states have a lower age. That age could be as low as 16. If the minor is under the age of consent then the law says the minors is not able to give consent there fore not able to consent to sex. There fore any sex between the minor and the adult is rape.
Given that your friend is 18 you need to check the laws in your state on age of consent before you even approach him. Being that you know he is straight as I said before my advice is not to approach him for sex
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We can't always help who we admire and fall for by any means. Three years isn't a problem. When he's 24 you'll be 21. Hardly a problem. But there are age-of-consent issues here, with you being 15. Which need thinking about seriously. Ugly is subjective, and not really an absolute statement. So don't beat yourself up. If a potential partner likes your looks, you're not ugly. Two identical guys or girls could describe themselves as ugly, not bad or good looking. All comes down to self-image mate. There's also the fact that as far as you know, he's straight. I'm heterosexual. I've got no issue with homosexuality at all, male of female. In fact I know and have known a few gay guys, would count some as very good friends too. (To be completely honest I've found gay guys sometimes far more sharp, witty and interesting conversation than the straight ones!). But I can't feel any sexual attraction towards them. It's just not 'there' in me. So for a number of reasons I've got to suggest you keep him a bit of 'crush' I guess, and leave it at that. I'm sure he's much on your mind at the moment, and it's eating at you. And affection which isn't returned, or just plain crossed by circumstances is not a great place to be in. It does pass though. Trust me. Hang in there.
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First off, hes 18 your not, he could get in trouble for raping a minor so its not gonna happen, secondly if hes straight and your not, its DEFINITELY not going to happen. lol. and thirdly it doesnt matter how you look, if hes not gay and your under age then theres nothing you can do. All you'll be doing here is ruining what could be a good friendship because you cant control your sexual urges around people who you already know would probably not go along with it for several reasons.
If you cant control yourself i think you need to stay away from him period.
It would be regretful here if you tried to pull something on him, he did not like, and then you never got to see him again as a friend rather then just keeping it to yourself, and realizing he probably doesnt like you like that.
good luck
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