My girlfriend and I recently broke up last month. Note, this was neither of our fault. Something happened with her depression, and she didn't feel the same about us anymore. So I didn't give up, after the breakup I consisted attempts of getting us back together, which ultimately lead to the exclusion of her life completely. This caused me to have minor depression, and major thoughts of suicide considering I cannot get back with the my one love, the girl who saved my life once before. I'm afraid without her I'm most certainly going to lose control as I have already lost who I once was. Please, this is my only chance. I need help to find a way to get her back. And please don't refer me to any kinds of medical help because I'm not ready to open up to that kind of treatment. I just need my one true love back, without her I can't go on.
This is pretty difficult on your side, but you have to do this if you really want her back.
You have to pull her out of depression, you have to do your best effort to show her that you care. The only twist though, is you can't talk to her. Or at least, approach her and simply talk to her. If what you're saying is accurate, then she is barely human now, no offense intended, but yeah, people in the depression stage tend to think differently, they think they're alone and abandoned. So here's my advice, approach her, go to her room or whatever and tell her that you're there for her as her friend, assure her everyday or every hour (however bad her depression is) and that'll at least deflate her condition a bit.
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I'm a white cisgender homosexual female. White racism isn't real, cisphobia isn't real, misandry isn't real, and heterophobia isn't real. Were white people enslaved and segregated for decades and still get killed in hate crimes? Nope. Do cisgenders get an increased risk of being bullied, suicidal, or killed? Nope. Did heterosexuals get burned and prevented from being married and have people insult them for holding hands in public, or people call things they don't like "straight"? Nope. Do rich people starve on the streets and have no clothes or water and need to work their ass off? Nope. Did males ever get sold into sexual slavery, rights taken away, pushed from science careers? Nope. It makes no sense to me these people who had everything handed to them on a golden platter with a silver spoon in their mouth already with a head start in life feel opressed. Why?
Want a hint? Whether you're the core of racism, or if you're the most dominant being on the planet, you'll still find a way to feel as if you're discriminated. Believe it or not, even though a person's white, cisgender, heterosexual, rich, and is a male, he'd still feel discriminated, because discrimination is relative ;)
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My boyfriend asked me tonight if I was a virgin because he is and has never done anything at all. We've been dating on a couple weeks and I didn't know how to answer it though. This is why:
I've gave a few guys head
I've been fingered A LOT
I had anal twice
I masturbate like once a day
I never had like...sex sex, you know? Like the making babies kind LOL. You know what I mean. Does that mean I'm a virgin?
In lexical terms, then no, you ain't a virgin anymore. Because a virgin is scientifically defined as someone with a fixed hymen.
In stipulative terms though, you are. Since you've never had an intercourse. Happy birthday :)
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Well I met this guy in July before I went away on holiday and we get a long great like there was chemistry from the first moment and he tells me he's attracted to me and what he likes about me and how he still wants to get to know me and what not.
It's just when we're away from eachother it's a different thing you know? We hardly text, like he would hardly start an conversation with me, not saying he doesn't cause every now and then he does but whenever I see him online on whatsapp I always think he would talk first.. Don't get me wrong when we're together out in public he treats me like I'm his girlfriend and I love it cause it shows he's interested in me and he's been honest with me so far..
It just puts me off that he hardly talks to me through texts and if we do text it never lasts long, when I was away he would message me first all the time at the start.. I just want to know why he acts so different when we're not together? I don't expect him to text me constantly but to me when he doesn't speak it just shows me he's acc not interested in me and it's really getting to my head, and I wish he was more sweet with me, maybe every guy is diff but I don't know.. Before I left everything was feeling great I couldn't be more happier but I don't know now mmmm please what should I think or do about this it's really bothering me?!!! Please :(
There are two possible reasons to this.
First, He doesn't like you
Might sound harsh but there's a possibility. If you think he's not really sincere about your relationship, try to ask him. If he replies yes, that means he is, cause there's nothing he can gain from saying yes.
Second, He's feeling the same way
Just cause we're guys doesn't mean we don't have fears. Sometimes, we're scared of starting a conversation because it might end it all. So just like you, he might be letting you do the initiative. Who knows? Maybe both of you are just staring at the blinking line in each other's chatbox.
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My friend and I just fought over something that happened weeks ago. Apparently she never let it go and felt she had to bring it up again. She won't leave me alone and keeps texting me about it and I'm getting sick of it. What should I do?
We're not sure what your fight was all about since you didn't state it, but I'm gonna say, your fight's something mediocre, but of course it's gonna cause you two to fight.
Here's the thing, if you love your friend and you don't want her to leave you, you should try to be understanding. If it's something you did, everytime she texts you, just say "I'm sorry", it doesn't have to be sincere, just text her everytime she texts you, I'm sure that'd be easy since you don't have to act and cry and everything, you're just gonna type, unless you meet, then just do it with more emotion ;)
If you don't care about her, and you don't exactly want her to be around, then just ignore her until she gets tired of saying it over and over again. That's not that hard. Or at least say "I don't want to bother you anymore, I'm getting out of your life." then ignore her forever.
Typical teen problems ;)
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can someone rebirth into an older person like i dont know how to explain it right, or do they have to be reincarnated into an infant first? plz dont think im stupid, im just wondering
Nope, all reincarnations start off as an infant. I'm guessing someone died, someone who might be important to you, then someone came into your life who's extremely like him/her? I'm sorry to say, but it's not him/her. Although looking at it the spiritual way, he/she might not be the reincarnation of that person, but who knows? Maybe he/she was sent by that person as a way to say sorry
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It's my last year of high school and I regret one thing, I regret staying in my one group of friends (two people) and not branching out and befriending other people, I mean I've made many acquaintances but the relationship never becomes at least a friendship. Long story short the friends that I came into high school with aren't the friends I'm leaving high school with, one of the friends completely cut me off she was never really my friend I knew she was waiting for an opportunity to cut me out of her life and she finally did last year. The other friend is my friend but we only talk in school, last time we hung out in public was at her birthday last year. Now it's my last year and I feel like a total loser I have no social life, I'm always home and I barely have any friends. I know I should be greatful for the ones I have but how would you like it if you had friends and they always made you feel left out or the third wheel? It's like a cycle with me ever since elementary school I've always been that third friend to two best friends. Nobody has considered me they're best friend and if they have they have another friend who they'd call their sister, so it's like the "best friend" title is pointless. Like I've tried making different friends but like I said earlier the relationship never passes the acquaintance stage. Here's some background info on me I'm almost 17, female I am socially awkward and have socially anxiety people complain that I talk too quiet but I don't understand it's like when I'm around people I don't know too well I feel uncomfortable, my eyes feel like they're gonna cross and I start to stutter (I've never had a stutter before) also I don't have any guy friends, the ones that I do are from my elementary school so they don't really count. My school is basically a school where if you're attractive, people will approach you no matter what and everyone will know your name or want to be friends with you, if you're not attractive like me you're basically fighting to fit in, or at least get someone to talk to you. (but that's for another story) anyways please give me some tips on how to make friends and how to make my speech better because it wasn't this bad till I started high school, in elementary school boys made fun of me saying my voice was too deep (this was before they hit puberty) ever since then I stopped talking and now people complain that I'm monotone, soft-spoken and mumble. It's like I can never win
Ok, just to make you feel better, before I met my bestfriend, no one would approach me. I could sense you're the kind of teen who always sits in the corner and mumble about how you don't have any friends, don't worry, everyone's like that once in a while. But after some time, you'll realize that it's not exactly socially healthy to just sit there and wait for someone to come and befriend you. Like you said, you're physically unattractive, so most people'll not try to befriend you. But trust me, a friendship that initiates through physical qualities are false friendships.
Here's what you should do. You're surely a fan of something right? Let me guess, you like books, or games, or something, so dwell on that. Having friends is not limited only to the people in your school. Decypher what you really want, if it's something popular, then surely there'll be a fandom, or a fanpage on facebook, join that group and you'll find the best kind of friends you could pick from the fruit tree. Who knows, you might find someone who's just around your area
Hope this helps ;)
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Several months before I met my current partner, I made out with someone (let's call him Tom) who I later learned had chlamydia. I didn't think anything of it at the time, because I figured there was no way I could get oral chlamydia from making out with someone.
However, now that I am with someone else I am worried that I did, in fact, receive chlamydia from Tom. My logic is this; if Tom received chlamydia from a previous partner, it is probable that they have engaged in oral sex, during which he could have picked up oral chlamydia from the girl's genital chlamydia. Then I suppose it is possible that he could pass on the oral chlamydia to me through mouth to mouth contact, and then I could have passed it on to my current partner.
I haven't spoken to my current partner about this because I never even thought about this possibility until now (I have bad health anxiety and these thoughts come to me randomly). I don't know what to do. I'm really nervous and I'm not sure if it's even possible to get chlamydia through making out, much less what I should do. Any advice?
Thank you.
Chlamydia can only be caught through the exchange of seminal and vaginal fluids. You can exchange tons and tons of saliva (ew) and still, you won't catch chlamydia. Don't worry :)
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So, first off, I just want to say that I love my son and would still love him no matter what if he turned out to be gay. I ask this because he came out of my room the other day wearing my necklaces around his neck, and my purse over his shoulder. He was also wearing my flats. It just happened; I didn't encourage it, and I also didn't discourage it. I just let it happen until he took everything off. Does that mean anything, or am I just putting too much thought into it?
Dont worry dear ;) You're just overreacting.
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Hi, I am from Australia and am turning 14 soon. I like to have a slim body, not too bulky and muscly (just my preference for me). What is a good workout routine for just at home in my room? I don't have much strength in my arms so I won't be able to do like 50 pushups or something like that. I have a skipping rope with weighted handles that I plan to use more. Thanks!
I agree with Messi completely, but I'd just advice you to do it the easier way. You're an adolescent ;) We do our cardio the natural way :D hahahaha
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No matter what I do, I can't seem to gain of lose any weight other than a few pounds. I'm a 13 year old female, and currently 147 pounds. Even if I'm using the threadmil, or just sitting one the couch, nothing really changes. Is this bad, or is it normal?
I would be the first to answer this, and I can assure you that what I'll say is nothing but the truth.
At your age, it's kind of a 'stuck' case for your weight. It's called puberty, and yeah, it happens to everyone. Just remember that whatever you do during your puberty'll affect everything after. So don't let the present fool you. Exercise regularly ;) You'll love the results
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I complained about this since grade 10, I'm in grade 12 now and I haven't felt this lonely before. I'm almost 17 and I've never had a boyfriend, never had a first kiss and boys rarely hug me too. It's like I repel boys or something all my friends through my high school career have had at least one boyfriend and I can't even get a guy to say hi to me. My little sister who's in grade 10 attracts more boys than me she told me a boy offered to walk her to class but she declined and another boy was playing with her hair and another boy was mad that he didn't get to sit beside her. Also my dad is putting pressure on me saying for prom he wants me with a date otherwise it'll look like I'm a lesbian to his friends. I keep on telling him that none of the boys like me and it's true because I'd always hear boys call me "burst" or "beat" which is slang for ugly. My friends that are obsessed with makeup always beg me to wear makeup too and my mom begs me to wear powder even though I have clear skin. Also I'm average weight I weigh 130 and a little curvy so I'm not overweight either. Here's more background on me I'm socially awkward and whenever I'd have a crush on a guy i would avoid them completely. Some boys used to say they thought I hated them because I gave them a dirty look but I just have chronic bitch face syndrome (Which is what Kanye west has, meaning he never smiles) some boys even thought I was awkward around them when I'm just an awkward person. What could be the problem with me? Even the kids who don't talk to anyone ended up in a relationship like what the heck? The older I get the more embarrassing it is for me to admit that I've never even kissed anyone before. Also do you have any suggestions where I could meet guys my age because the ones at my school are douchebags :) thank you if you read all of this
Do you really want to be in a relationship?
Dear, this isn't a necessity. Find other hobbies! Play golf or something. Hooking with boys is just like playing poker. First of all, it's not healthy, and second, it's based on how much you have (in this case, the looks), do you really want that?
Also, you're seventeen, if you go into a relationship, you'll just either break him or marry him, and I'm sure you want neither...
Lastly, according to your article, you've never fallen in love yet. So wait for the right guy :)
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i am 13, and i live with my adoptive parents. my real mom had me at 16 and got me token away when i was very young. i have always said that i would not be a teen mom, that i would wait for after marriage. but yesterday i found out that i am pregnant. how do i tell my parents? and i will not get an abortion and i don't want to give my baby away. so how will i tell my mom( that is 6 months pregnant) and dad that their 13 year old daughter is pregnant and wants to keep her baby?
So you're pregnant at thirteen? I'm pretty sure you've self-loathe already so I won't try to lecture you about that subject.
Dear, you can't hide it from them, but you can reduce their shock by telling them immediately what the problem is. Yes, they might be sad, or they might even react violently, but here's what I could tell you, if they found out at the second trimester, you're in for an even more painful result.
Telling them doesn't mean surprising them. Gather one of them in a room, the one who has more understanding, and tell her calmly, let her talk to the other parent and hope for the best.
Sincerely yours,
ava
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Hi guys, I've been with my boyfriend for a little more than three months now. He's very great to me and I love being with him. I know love is different to everyone but this is my first real relationship and I've constantly been thinking about what love is, how it feels, when it's time to say it, etc. I know for a fact that I've never been in love before and I don't think I'm in love now. I was just curious to ask everyone how and when they knew that they were in love with their significant other. Did it kind of just hit you? Was it a gradual progression? Was it love at first sight? Is there even love at first sight? When is too soon to say I love you? I'm not looking for you to tell me how it should be for me, I want experience and how it was for you personally.
Like I said, he's a very great guy. I spent the entire day with him the other day because my family went away and I hate being alone so he made us my favorite dinner, even though I know he doesn't love it very much, he made it and ate it because he knows I love it. He knows I get anxious driving long distances and even though he hates long drives, he always drives us both when we go away with friends and sometimes I just look at him when he's driving us around and he'll look over and we'll just smile at each other. Or even when we're just watching our show on Netflix, I'll notice him not watching the show and he'll just be looking at me and then he'll always smirk when I ask what as he looks away and says "oh, nothing". Last week I turned 21 and I drank way, way, way more than I anticipated-he drove me back to his place and let me stay at his house that night and he even called off work the next day to be with me as I suffered through my hangover. He's not a virgin but I am so he isn't pushing it at all. He said he's leaving it all up to me, he's ready when I'm ready. Now, I know what you're thinking, he seems clingy. But it really isn't that way. I only name the times that we're together but really we can only hang out for a couple hours a night after I finish class and he finishes work at 11pm (four days in a row of 12 hour shifts, just for reference on how busy he usually is). Other times, when he's off from work, we each do our own thing. We have a good system and it works pretty well for us.
From my copious amounts of mentioning how great he is, it's pretty evident that I do really like him a lot and I guess it shows that he returns the feelings. I'm really just pretty curious how I'll know when the flip switches and it's so much more?
Thanks for any input!
Love is relative, it's not exactly an emotion, but a kind of perspective.
To prove that idea, have you ever noticed how mothers tell their kids that a stick figure crayon drawing of a guy wearing is like a Da Vinci masterpiece? That's because of Love, you love a person so you don't want him/her to get hurt physically or emotionally.
My experience with love is pretty complex. I am not secluded inside a relationship because I'm trying to avoid scholastic hindrances. I do have my bestfriend, she's basically perfect. Whatever your boyfriend does, my bestfriend's almost as caring. Now I love her, and there's nothing wrong with that, obviously, and she loves me back.
For us, love is a mutual feeling of care. It can neither be gained or decreased, it can only be either there, or not. What you're feeling right now IS love, because you care, what he feels is also love, since he also cares. That's the only thing that matters.
Thanks for reading!
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I got employed recently and got my first month salary a few days back. The problem is one of my friends asked for 1000 bucks to lend him and he said he will return it next month. I know him since I was 14 and I'm 24 now. I know he won't return the money coz he already owes me money. I have a problem telling no and I agreed to give him the money. I am so confused on this. I don't have a lot of friends so I'm afraid of losing him. Further more if my mother comes to know about this she will kill me. I know the mother part sounds silly but thats how I grew up. I don't want to give the money nor do I want to lose him. The more frustrating thing is that I haven't spend any of it for my family nor myself. That adds to my dilemma. As far as l know he is jobless and will probably spend the money to get drunk and do other stuff. We have another friend in common and he has blew him off saying that he spent the money.Kindly advise me on this
Normally, you can lend a friend a dollar and you won't expect it back. But dear, a thousand dollars is not a joke. You can't seriously give him the money knowing nothing will come back.
As his friend, sustaining his vices would be very very unfriendly, what you can do is give him what he needs! and even that's too much. If he leaves you for not giving him the money, then you'll know he's not a true friend.
You might be happy with him as a friend, but if that's how he'll act, then I'll say it now that is not true friendship
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Hello, so we have a ferret and I am highly allergic and suffer from asthma,fur from the ferret makes it worse. Even though there is a ferret cage outside and they are capable of living outside my mum still brings it inside during the nights when my asthma gets bad. It's placed in the living room where I am usually sat. Do you think my mum should put my health first?
Ok, first of all, let's answer the question "why would mom do that?"
Here are the possible answers:
1.) She loves her ferret more than you
-which is pretty improbable, so no
2.) She's addicted to fur
-why did I even put that there?
3.) She's not aware of the sensitivity of your asthma
-you might want to check if she knows, in case she doesn't tell her you're extremely uncomfortable, and tell her what happens with the fur.
Ok, most of these answers are dumb. But here's what I ask you to do, talk to her over and over again until she realizes what she's been doing ;)
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hi.im a girl of 19 years and im in a relationship with my bf for 3months now.it is a long distance relationship.i love him so much and he is my everything.i messed up and i dont know why i did what i did because i love my bf.few days me and my bf we were fighting but we sortes things out.he asked me to forgive him and i did.so now i messed up but dont think we will be fine again.i kissed his roomate on june but he found it out now.so he is angry but he said we should give it a try again.the problem is things are not the way the used to be.it is like he is pretending now.dont know what to do now.im trying to make things right but it is still the same.when i tell him how sorry i am.he told me that im like his exes and he will not forget he is just trying to move on by accepting and heal.i love my bf and dont want to lose him like this.
You shouldn't be worried.
That's the bottomline. You see, relationships have fights that end up weirdly, a person forgiving another one seems so cold after the apology. It's like you're floating, really. You don't know if you're gonna fall or if you're gonna elevate. The key to succeed is trust. If your boyfriend's acting crazy now, it's not because he's on the verge of unloving you, but he's trying to keep cool so you wont feel guilty.
Trust me, it'll be ok
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Me...f,48 (but look like I'm 35),gay. I walk to work every day. During my walk I was passing this attractive woman (early 30s maybe), who would always smile at me. We smiled at each other for weeks before I stopped her, talked to her (complimented her smile, and we had a great comvo) and gave her my number(I have business cards, and a habit of jumping first and asking questions later). She didn't ask for it, and as soon as I gave it to her, I felt like she just wanted to go. Well, I've seen her once since then (it's been three weeks...we used to see each other twice a day, every day), and she said "I'm going to call you", which she hasn't done. I know she's been leaving early to avoid running into me. I misread the situation, obviously, but I also want her to know it's OK for her not to call. I'm not desperate. I just wanted to get to know her. I really want to catch her and apologize/explain... I miss her smile... but part of me says just let it go. What should I do?
Ok, let's have a talk ma'am...
Psychologically, you can't really "let it go". That thought would only get stuck at a part of your brain like a chewing gum under a cinema seat.
So with that off the list, let's see the other answer, which is also wrong.
You see, apologizing to a person would make it seem like you're desperate, ironically. No! seriously. Just imagine it. A person gives you a calling card, then when you didn't call, he/she knocks on your door and says sorry. That ain't right, somehow.
I don't know how to put this...
That's not enough level for an apology.
This might be shocking, but it's true.
Now what should you do?
Talk to her when you catch her. Let her explain, and then, you'd apologize. There's a difference now, you know you have a fault, so now, you can say sorry.
But be ready, if ever that's the case, that means she ain't interested to you.
You can be the world's sexiest model, but you can't win the heart of a person who's not interested.
So yeah, hope this helps.
(if not, im sorry, im 15...)
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Hi there I'm a 13 year old male I had an girlfriend o had sex with her and it was a mistake an sin and I think she pregnant I don't know what to do and I'm so scared I don't know what my family would think of me can u you help and the girl is 14 what should my mom do
Ok, first of all, she's on a really really low risk of getting pregnant. 13 year old cum isn't that mature, you know? Also, the only way of finding out is through the normal signs of pregnancy, so don't worry at all! If she did have a child, never go to abortion. Trust me, no one will hate you. People make mistakes! So don't worry
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Hi! Sorry I had to type this again I didn't realize that I wasn't logged in but you answered my questions about me wanting to have sex with an 18 year old guy while I'm 15. What are the hints that I could give him to help him understand that I want to with him? And also I don't know how he would react if I asked him what's porn or if he watched porn. Also what did you mean by let your inner horn do the work? I have no idea what that meant. Him and I are close friends and all but by no means do I want a relationship with him. I see him 5 days a week for the next two weeks and I'm gonna approach him about it I just needed more clarification on what to do.
Dude! Im so so sorry I've only answered now! But if im not too late, here's my side.
Ok, here's how:
If you're a sweet innocent guy, and he doesn't know you well, then ask him "What's porn?". There'll be three ways he'll answer:
1.) "Dude, you're too young to know that"
-if he says that, persevere! ask him and ask him continuously until he says number 3.
2.) "I don't know"
-he's lying, ask him and ask him continuously until he says number 3
3.) He explains
-I know you already know what he's saying but act interested. Then do what every innocent anime character does, tell him "my thing's getting hard." and from there you'll see if he's interested, look at his eyes! the answer's there! you just have to look.
If he's not interested, then ask me again what you should do. My friend ain't interested at first, but it just takes a little persuation
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