Hey, I'm Ashley I'm 25 years old, since I was on here last, a lot has happened to me emotionally and I feel like Im much more experienced to give advice and support when its needed, We tend to go through life thinking we have it bad when it reality we never realize how much worse it could be, So count your blessings EVERYDAY!! Now, I am here to help if needed and I will do the best of my ability to answer honestly without sugar coating it...... Ask Away!!!!
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Lastnight my boyfriend called me a bitch and said he was kidding and didnt mean it. I told him it hurt my feelings and he said sorry. But i just cant get over it. (link)
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Well you need too because Im sure theres gonna be plenty more of that and eventually your gonna think hes being a dick lol Ive been with my bf for 8 years and I cant tell you how many times we said things like that to one another but let me tell you Im happy as can be.. You dont want to be in a relationship thats so serious and you dont wanna be the kind of gf that gets mad over every little thing trust me on this especially if you love him
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I'm in the process of wanting to commit suicide as I want to be with my son, I haven't got anyone at all, my partner ignores me blames me for what our son did, he wrote me a letter blameing me and how much he hates me and he wished I was dead instead, I'm having nightmares and dreaming of being with my son so so much, iv tryd to get help and I cant get any at all, I'm on medications and it makes me feel even worse, I sit up each and every night now as iv planned my suicide to the end, as I vet left at him on my own quite alot and i know I wouldn't be found till.i am dead, I need help and I cant get it so what's the point, I wouldn't be missed at all as I'm always on my own anyway, I tryd it last year and it felt so good as it took the pain away what I was feeling, cant believe I am still here, please help me or vive me son advice to help me please, next time I'm going to go somewhere very spe ial so I has to be right I do t want to wake.yp I'm done and fed up, iv found homes for my pets tht iv raised and they don't need me now, thank you for reading (link)
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No thats the last thing your son would of wanted, you need to seek professional help to overcome this...... I know losing a child is unbearable and may seem like your life is over but ITS NOT and even though it may seem like people dont care trust me when I say someone does...... Now you say you wanna be with your son and I get that but he will always be with you and I dont mean to get all religious but if you do this you wont be with your son....... The one act God cant forgive is taking your own life, Im sorry things always get better trust me, when I was younger I tried to commit suicide and I thank GOD everyday that Im still here and you should too, get help, go to support groups for people who've lost there kid it will help talking to someone who knows EXACTLY what your going through
GOOD LUCK XOXOXOX just knoW Someone cares.... ❤💛💙💜
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hey im a 15 year old girl from greece.Im kind of worried that i will never find a boyfriend..i mean yes im just 15 too young but when u see your friends having boys and stuff u worrying.I liked some boys..2 of them ver very much but nothing..and i dont thing that im likeable for boys..and im a girl who does not want to be in a relationship just to say it or something so its more difficult because i want to like a lot the boy im going to be in a relationship and never boys im in love or at least i like , likes me back.. (link)
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You are 15 trust me when I tell you, enjoy being young, have fun, make memories you have your whole life to date and make stupid decisions...... Not having guys chase after you yet isn't a bad sign honestly most boys arent focusing on that right now... You need to make sure you know who YOU are as a person before being with someone and thats 1 huge reason relationships don't work while your young because you dont know anything about yourself.....
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My life kind of started to end on July 15 2014. My wife of 52 years and I were sitting on our deck when we looked at each other and said, You know something we got it made. That was because I had finally retired and we had moved into our new house in the mountains. That was around one pm when we spoke those words.
That night around seven we got a call from one of our daughters (Barb). She told us that she had just left the doctors and they had told her she had stage four ovarian cancer, and that she had 1 to 5 years to live.
This as you can imagine floored us. The next morning my wife (Elaine) and I packed her suitcase. We decided that my wife would move in with Barb to help her as much as possible. Barb lives three hours away, so we thought I would drive down on weekends and bring our dog with me.
After three months of Elaine staying there and me coming down on weekends, the stress got so bad between my wife and I. You see, Elaine is 71 years old and she was taking care of Barbs whole house. There are four in the family, Barb, her husband (Jeff) daughter (Kristin age 21) and son (Jeffery age 17). She looked like she was 90 years old. This was killing my wife. Well after three months had gone by, Barb went back to work, so Elaine decided to come home and we would go down on weekends. This lasted till 1/10/16 when Barb passed away.
When my wife came home, I was relieved that she could rest and try to get back to somewhat of a normal life. Well that did not happen. From the minute and I mean minute Elaine walked in the door I was accused of having an affair. I could not believe my ears. Her reasoning was she found Cialis in my bureau drawer. After her throwing this at me I showed her that it was a sample with my name written on it. The funny part of it was, Elaine was the one that picked it up at the doctors office. By the way our doctor not only wrote my name on the box but the date 1/16/2012. Four years before we moved to the mountains.
That was the end of that session. But two weeks later she told me my girlfriend stole five pair of her jeans from the closet. I could go on an on about the accusations but to name just a few. Cigarette butts found in the street meant my girlfriend was standing there watching the house. I was told while we where both out shopping together that there was blood on our mattress pad. When we got home the blood had disappeared. Now remember we never left each others side.
I won’t bore you with more details because there is over 50 accusations made. None of which were true.
Anyway last week a new neighbor moved in and you guessed it I was having an affair with her.
Well two days ago she left me, drained our bank accounts of over $125,000. Leaving me not only with my wife of 52 years but without a penny.
I can’t do this anymore. As much as I love her I want it all to end. I can’t stand the pain. I sit here and look at a bottle of pills the doctor gave us for depression and can’t stop thinking this would end my pain. I was a strong willed man all my life, a rough and tumble construction worker. Well I am a broken man now. She broke me and took my will to live.
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Let me start with I am so sorry about the loss of your daughter....
You seem like a good guy and no person should have to go through all of that at once or even at all but trust me when I tell you no body should ever make you feel like dying is better then living... We've all been through situations to make us feel that way I am only 24 but I have been there and its not a place you wanna be. I am assuming you've had a great life and you deserve to live the remainder of it HAPPY and at peace, Sometimes things happen out of our control and we start blaming ourselves wondering how we could of changed it or done something differently. That is a long time to commit your whole self to someone just to get heart broken so I understand why you feel this way but please its not worth it, taking your own life is NEVER worth anything or anyone, take it from me things ALWAYS get better even when you cant see the light, Now I dont know if your a religious man or not I believe but I am far from a church goer and I rarely preach on HIS behave but when I tell you there is a purpose to all the hearache and frustration there is, let me tell you something someone told me once that changed my life... " Sometimes the devil lets you live life free of trouble because he doesnt want you turning to God ever notice how people dont start to pray till things go wrong in there life.... Everyday is a test, everything has reason your NOT ALONE" I truly believe that and you should to now I dont know your wife, it could be a breakdown for all you know when parents lose there children its AWFUL but when a mother does its IRREPLACEABLE and let me tell you there is nothing worse and as much as your hurting I guarantee shes hurting so much more.... I will tell you though those type of accusations are a little concerning I have been working in health care for 6 years now and seen it all especially when it comes to dementia, people often don't realize there are so many more signs to it like claming, " Your girlfriend stole her pants" or about the medicine SHE picked up it could be the result of something that happened so long ago between you to that shes just reliving, just think back about everything lately maybe you missed clear signs its possible and happens more ofton then not.... I really hope you the best and hope you think about all the good and your family and realize you are LOVED and need to find that fighter in you that strong willed man and FIGHT for you and FIGHT for your wife..... I truly hope you find happiness because more then ever LIFE IS SHORT and once your gone thats it... Game over and this isnt how you wanna go out by giving up, thats not what a fighter does.... I hope this helped even a little
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im a girl, 3rd in high school...and i like one guy from our school..he is in 4th year, so he is a year older from me...we dont know each other since we re in different grades...i only see him during breaks in hallways..2 days before valentine day i sent him a valentine message (i wrote it bc he´s always surrronded by his friend and i didnt know how to approach him)...saying that i like him..i only wrote my name bc my friend advised me to do so..so he probably doesnt know who wrote him that message...and about week ago i send him friend request on facebook...and i also texted (on fb) that i like him and that it was mee who sent him valentine message...but after 3 days i deleted that text bc i was depressed etc.he diidnt see it but i didnt cancel friend request..im still waiting for him to accpet it...my question is what should i do ? should i keep waiting for him to accept friend request..and will he be able to see that deleted message when he accept my friend reuest....please help me :) ...i dont know what to do (link)
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Yes he will still be able to read it once you deleted it the message is only deleted from your computer, so since he is gonna see it anyway if he hasn't already you might as well own up to it if you like this guy try just saying hi in the hallways or try to start out with a positive attitude and confidence. guys find it sexy when a girl is confident in herself that's all it takes what's done is done, So now you just have to hope for the best
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so I was using a condom when I was having intercourse with my boyfriend and it was during when I was ovulating and the internet from what I understand is that when you're ovulating those Are
the most unsafe days to have sex if you don't want get pregnant so I would like to know if you're using a condom while your ovulating can you still get pregnant (link)
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No.... Your not supposed to have unsafe sex while your ovalulating because that's the easiest time to get pregnant, Since you were using a condom unless it broke which is highly unlikely your perfectly fine... Just like your not supposed to have unsafe sex while your on your period for the same reason aND a lot of people think you can't so they do and end up pregnant lol
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So I have been dating this dude since October of last year.I fell in love very fast its just IMA Taurus and we love hard n fast.but anyway I been dating him for months now I actually moved in with him and his baby mother and daughter. Long story short me and his baby mother are very cool she found out we was messing with each other she flipped out or whatever but some how me and him persuaded her that we wasn't and now me and him are into it because he is a Taurus like me and I ignored him he put me out we didn't speak now we starting to come around a little bit and I just feel like I don't know what to do BTW his daughter loves and adore me he even got his baby mama acting like me and he is controlling sometimes like he just want everything his way idk I'm just confused like should I try to get back in a relationship with him or not I want him to leave his babymama but I like her too ad a friend you know I just need advice right now (link)
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NO!!!!!!!! stay out of it, why would you want another woman's man especially when they have a daughter together, that's not right, your better then that aren't you??? Come on, you know the guy never leaves his girlfriend/wife for the other woman especially when a child's involved, that guy is just selfish and wants whatever he can get. You don't love him you just love the attention he gives you, use your head even if he did leave the baby momma for you do you honestly think he wouldn't do the same thing to you?? and start sleeping with your friends it's common sense, if you really were a friend I'd leave that man alone plus why would you want to be with someone who is controlling that's something you shouldnt want in a relationship..... find someone else someone who's single and will treat you right and ONLY wants you, I'm sorry I had to be so blunt but sometimes that's all that works it's only right you don't need that, he isn't a good guy he's a dog and dogs don't make for good boyfriends
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Morning,I am really worried because I almost had sex with my girlfriend my like five or six months ago but wen I tried to have sex with her my penis didn't go through at first but I think on my 2nd trial that same day I tink it went half way in buh it was really tight..so I stopped especially since I wasn't having condom with me...so she rubbed my penis for like five to ten minutes before I ejaculated... That happened on oct9 now it's feb13 I having worried if I have contacted any form of std especially HIV but I haven't really had any symptoms of any std...I and my girlfriend went to the same school for 6six years buh neva noticed a sign of STDs.. She is always.Active even compared to other girls in fact she really loves playing basketball with boys she doesn't fall sick in school or anything... Her period do come regularly... She isn't thin or any thing in fact she has a good physique... I myself haven't loosed any weight...I have had any fever to last upto a week since,no temperature,no chronic Fatigue,nd I used have night sweats we came together due to d amount of heat in room at night...but since after we almost had sex I haven't really experience any form of night sweats,I don't have lesion in my mouth or tongue,no rashes, no real pain,excepr I used to masturbate very frequently maybe like thrice in a day everyday so i do suffer back pain...no blurr vision buh its simples I have a swollen lymph nodes on my neck...i have no easy acess to any form test nd dat incident was the first and only time i tried to engage in sex...we do kiss a lot e.t.c,please advice me on this situation (link)
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What exactly is your question then????? If you don't have any symptoms and she doesn't have it that you know of why would you think you have HIV?
How old are you??
No offense but nothing you said really makes sense if your worried about it, go see a doctor but honestly I don't see why you would be worried about it
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Hello I'm a 23 year old woman from America and I think I'm in love with a man I met online.
This isn't what the hard part is for me, the toughest part is that I have two male friends who both claim to be in love with me. I've never been very strong worded but I've shot down all their advances on me and they won't seem to take the hint. Both of these men were with me when my fiance and I split, they were very good to me during this time and I found myself leaning on them. One of the men, let's call him Sean, also put his divorce into action practically the same time I was leaving my fiance. I spent a week with him and did every but 'the deed'. When it came time to go home I asked him his intentions with me and he said he didn't know, that topped with his chameleon personality and knowing that we weren't compatible sexually lead me to telling him that I wasn't interested. The problem with this is that whenever Sean touches me, my heart races and it makes everything so confusing. Whenever he gets me alone he tries to put moves on me until he can try and sweep me away to the bedroom.
Now while all this happens I currently live with the other man (Jacob) as I have since I was kicked out of my home I shared with my fiance. Jacob and I tried dating but I went through a pretty hard depression, which caused him to ignore me for 3 months while I got myself together. Sean has never cared about interfering with this relationship and put a lot of stress on me while I figured out that relationship. I've since ended it with Jacob, but he seems to think there's a chance he can win me back. I can't find it in my heart to forgive someone who just left me at my lowest. Both of them are very sweet and have helped me to an incredible degree, but now I find myself wanting them to back off and simultaneously not being able to pay for an apartment on my own. This is especially hard as I have no other friends in this area.
The wonderful cherry on top here is that while I was down in that slump I met someone online in an MMO I play. We've been 'together' since September and now I feel like I might love him. We've even planned on him coming to visit me before he goes home for the summer. He's from Saudi Arabia and he spends his summers there while he's in college over here. I'm worried about what forming a relationship is going to be like with him but I"m willing to try. I know that I will have to move into my own place but I don't know how to tell these men in a way that will make them realize I'm not interested, even though they're sweet and I have sustained some sort of relationship with each of them, that I'm getting my own place in hopes of having more room to date someone else. I don't want to lose my best friends, but I don't want to ruin their lives or they mine.
How can I tell Sean and Jacob I'm not interested?
Should I give up on maintaining their friendships after all this is said and done?
Thank you for your time.. (link)
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Well first of all I wouldn't exactly say their your friends more like guys who you've been somewhat dating and when that's all said and done you don't remain friends with "exes" So you shouldn't have to spare their feelings obviously if you wanted to be with either one of them you would make it happen, as for this other man, Online is a tricky place if you haven't met him yet maybe you should start there before you declare your love for him, you've been engaged so you know how love feels and what it takes, which is a lot of work, your 23 so I don't have to tell you but I think it's more of a crush then love since you don't really know him know him, my main point is this, you went from being engaged to this Sean guy then to Jacob and now all that's over, you've met this guy, ever think that maybe you don't like being alone?? I'm not saying it in a mean way I'm just trying to say maybe you should try being alone to get to know yourself first before jumping into another relationship, that way you'd know exactly what you want and can devolope a relationship that can last so you'd be happy....
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I'm 16 years old about to be 17 and I wouldn't say I'm extremely overweight but I'm defiantly not petite. I'm really tall as well so I'm not sure if this has anything to do with it. I'm pregnant and I hid my whole pregnancy I'm around 7-8 months and my belly is showing but I feel like other people are bigger by this time. Baby is always active, I'm taking prenatal vitamins and I have my first appointment Monday with a gynecologist, I was first just in a regular clinic. I'm not sure if it's normal to feel small? When I eat my stomach definitely pops more it feels like my inne belly button is about to pop out. I know everyone's different but it just worries me. (link)
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Hey congratulations by the way,
Yes everyone is different I just had my baby Jan 30th and he was 6lbs 8Oz he was a little small but perfectly healthy....
My whole pregnancy I had a small belly I didn't look pregnant not even when I was 9 months when I went to the hospital when I started to have contractions they thought I was early because you couldnt tell I was pregnant but I was a day overdue so it's normal it don't mean anything is wrong I thought something was too because I only gained 7lbs my whole pregnancy..... they even said he was 26in amd should of been 28 so he was just small.... that worried me I didn't know what to expect but when I had him he was my perfect little boy, So relax enjoy it every person aND ever baby is different
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So i broke up with my boyfriend because we're both 14 and he was kinda sex crazy, we never had sex but he talked about it a lot. He told me he would never force me into anything and he never did but there came a time where we fought a lot and i felt pressured into that kind of stuff. So i broke up with him and it felt good to do but he stills texts me apologizing and it's been about a month. All his friends tell me he's always sad and he tells me that he wants me now and he's changed and the truth is i kind of miss him and i think maybe it could work but then again he hurt me. so idk what to do?? (link)
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In all honesty you should not be worrying about being in a relationship at your age anyhow, there's so much more to being young that you will miss out on by focusing on the needs of someone else, you have all the time in the world to date but right now may not be the time. you need to focus on yourself and not on sex or anything of that nature because once you lose your virginity it's gone and to lose it to someone who you probably won't even remember in a couple years would be silly, take it from me and no I'm not just saying this because your just 14 I'm saying in general, I'm not old I'm just 23 but I've seen a lot and there's things I wish I could take back or have a redo but we can't..... once it's done it's done,
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So this guy in my grade, who I told myself I would not get a crush on because he's gorgeous and popular, is always staring at me and last term we talked all the time but now we don't talk because he's only in one of my classes and we don't sit by each other. We both catch each other staring and quickly turn our heads the opposite way but I'm not sure if he likes me.
Should i leave a note in his locker asking anonymously who he likes??? (link)
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Hmm Well first of all what grade are you in?? That's most important because if your in middle school,
Yeah guys tend to be more shy and may not come out and say they have a crush on you but if he's popular I don't see why he wouldn't but if your in High school, I would just ask him face to face which is the best way to get a guys attention as embarrassing as it might be, He would respect you for that
Let's put it this way.... Have you ever seen the movie "He's just not that into you" not to be so blunt but like it says : If a guy is into you it doesn't matter the circumstances HE WILL MAKE IT HAPPEN: That's the only advice worth it I could tell you, yeah he could be into you but you'd never know if you don't ask..... hope that helps a little bit
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