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I can't tell if my crush likes me or not!
So this guy in my grade, who I told myself I would not get a crush on because he's gorgeous and popular, is always staring at me and last term we talked all the time but now we don't talk because he's only in one of my classes and we don't sit by each other. We both catch each other staring and quickly turn our heads the opposite way but I'm not sure if he likes me.
Should i leave a note in his locker asking anonymously who he likes???
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When people tend to always catch each other staring at each other, its a sure sign that both are at least attracted to each other and curious to know more about the person but too shy to do anything about it if this is all they do.
Keep in mind that the looks/looking is just the first stage which is attraction. It is this attraction that most people act upon by trying to meet and talk to the other and if they like how the conversation goes they then ask each other to hang out and do stuff together or call it going on a date. Dating at least early on is nothing more than finding out more about each other. Actually each step a person takes is just that, another discovery about the person to see if you are still attracted to who they are beyond their hot/cute looks. The goals are to:
1. find someone with whom you can have the romance part of a relationship where both mutually feel the same, not just one
2. both treat each other like best friends which means liking each others characteristics and personality and lots more of who you are inside.
Based on that, I hope you see that it is really tough to know if you or he will like each other after getting to know each other better. Liking someone by looks alone isn't enough for any person of any age to go on. No matter your age, you will learn as the years go by to be choosier about a persons character and always go for someone a step better in the next one you date.
As to how to get started, yes I remember the putting notes in lockers stuff and I am sorry to say, it doesnt work well at all. The best thing is still the direct approach and not using friends or pretending to be someone else just to discover if the person "likes you" because you already know they are attracted to your looks by the stares. No boy is going to tell a girl he likes her is he doesnt have a clue yet by talking to and spending time with her. Even that is not a guarantee that anything will come from it but girls tend to view things differently and seem to believe at a young age that if a guy stares at you a lot, he likes you, and that if he talks to you or spends more time hanging around you, that it means he is ready to commit to a relationship with a girl. That is jumping the gun dear. Its a combo of fear that a girl will read more into his approaching you, and fear of inexperience and rejection that hold a guy back from getting to know you.
So my suggestion is that you walk up to him sometime soon after the next time you catch him staring at you and say something to break the ice. Be honest and to the point like, "Hey, I notice that we both seem to keep staring at each other a lot but never talking and that is feeling so awkward that I thought I'd just start some conversation with you, introduce myself and see if you might be interested in being friends and if that works out, who knows, maybe more than friends. With a line like that, he shouldn't feel scared of rejection because you haven't mentioned a definite expectation, just lets get to know each other which is what most people want to do but are afraid to ask for.
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Hmm Well first of all what grade are you in?? That's most important because if your in middle school,
Yeah guys tend to be more shy and may not come out and say they have a crush on you but if he's popular I don't see why he wouldn't but if your in High school, I would just ask him face to face which is the best way to get a guys attention as embarrassing as it might be, He would respect you for that
Let's put it this way.... Have you ever seen the movie "He's just not that into you" not to be so blunt but like it says : If a guy is into you it doesn't matter the circumstances HE WILL MAKE IT HAPPEN: That's the only advice worth it I could tell you, yeah he could be into you but you'd never know if you don't ask..... hope that helps a little bit
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