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what to do when my bf is acting somehow?
hi.im a girl of 19 years and im in a relationship with my bf for 3months now.it is a long distance relationship.i love him so much and he is my everything.i messed up and i dont know why i did what i did because i love my bf.few days me and my bf we were fighting but we sortes things out.he asked me to forgive him and i did.so now i messed up but dont think we will be fine again.i kissed his roomate on june but he found it out now.so he is angry but he said we should give it a try again.the problem is things are not the way the used to be.it is like he is pretending now.dont know what to do now.im trying to make things right but it is still the same.when i tell him how sorry i am.he told me that im like his exes and he will not forget he is just trying to move on by accepting and heal.i love my bf and dont want to lose him like this.
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Mistakes happen. And I believe everything happens for a reason. It is nice of this guy of your to try and move on from things. But the ways things are now, will never change. I have experienced this. I was with someone for 4 years and the first summer, I was kissed by my boyfriend cousin at a fire. Even though he tried to forgive me the incident came up over and over again. He used it against me with everything I did wrong. My advice to you, you may love this guy but you will never loose that feeling and neither will he. It will cause fights and cause you into depression for him continuously remembering. The trust in your relationship will never be the same. Trust me. No matter how hard you try. It's better to quit while your ahead. Stay strong girl.
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First I want to say it is normal for your boyfriend to feel these feelings. He was hurt...by you. Right now he is in a really tough spot. He likes you a lot and is now trying to overcome his negative feelings. Now, here is where it gets tricky. His emotions will cause you discomfort and hurt. The question you have to ask yourself is, are you willing to stick it out? If the answer is yes then you must be willing to help rebuild his trust and rebuild his self-esteem. If you are not willing to stick it out and endure...then walk away now. But please keep in mind that just because you did something wrong does not give him the right to degrade you in anyway. If he can't move forward and won't move forward then problems will arise. When it's all said and done the choice is yours.
***Check out my self-improvement blog at mindfulmema.wordpress.com for more advice.***
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You shouldn't be worried.
That's the bottomline. You see, relationships have fights that end up weirdly, a person forgiving another one seems so cold after the apology. It's like you're floating, really. You don't know if you're gonna fall or if you're gonna elevate. The key to succeed is trust. If your boyfriend's acting crazy now, it's not because he's on the verge of unloving you, but he's trying to keep cool so you wont feel guilty.
Trust me, it'll be ok
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