E-mail: brittjeankon@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Calgary
Occupation: Accountant
Age: 20
Member Since: August 4, 2015
Answers: 15
Last Update: November 26, 2015
Visitors: 1256
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Me and my ex bf have been seeing each other for the past 1 year and 7 months Once or twice on a monthly basis and yes we do have sex i saw him oN the 20th nov but did not really have sex anywayz i havent heard from him since sunday 22nov until now so its been like 3 days,he is almost alot online but he dont chat to me..i thought id send him a text askin if hs ok,been quiet.thought id see if hs stl alive and i hope to hear frm hm soon..do u thnk i shouldv sent that text or shouldv just left it and stay away so he wl be able to miss me and text me first..does that text make me seem clingy (link)
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First off, you need to work on your English (Could barely read your question)
Second off, If this boy is not answering you, specially after sex either he is busy with something else ( which is not often the case ) or he just needs some time. Nobody can tell exactly what men are thinking and we cant tell the future. But the question " Does that text make me clingy ", is a obvious answer of NO. Any guy that values you and respects you will not think of you as clingy, and if he does than he is not the guy for you. Being clingy is a obsession. Most people do not understand the word, in the context it is meant to be. if i were you, i would find another interest. Don't pay attention to him. Ever heard the saying "Play Hard To Get?" now is your chance to find something better and make this guy jealous to the point where he will regret what he did. And in the mean time, you get to move on with your life. Plenty of Fish in the Sea.
Much Love - Britt
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Im 25 and my boyfriend is 24.
We've been dating for a couple months now and things have been great except one issue - his ex girlfriend. She will not stop texting/calling him even after he has told her that he's moved on. I was uncomfortable with him still speaking with her and he told me he understood and would take care of it.
Well last night his phone was on my night stand and I see his phone lighting up when he was in the bathroom. I peeked over and there was a text from his dad, and a missed call and text from his ex. His ex texts him dumb questions its like she just finds a reason to text him. But I didn't say anything when he came back in the room about her texting him. I just said you're phone was blowing up. He looked at it and I just said jeeze who was blowing up your phone and he said my dad. I said your dad must have something important to tell you if he's sending you so many messages (messing around) he just laughed and said yeah my dad sends me stupid stuff.
He never once mentioned that his ex tried contacting him. This really upset me it's like hes trying to hide it from me. I was sick to my stomach all night about it. I don't know how to bring this up to him without him knowing that I was peeking at his phone seeing who texted him. I even gave him a chance to tell me too.
About a week ago his ex came up in a convo and I simply said whens the last time she's tried contacting you? He said today actually she asked if my neighbor had any football tickets for sale. He said he simply replied no. So that time he actually told me when she texted him.
I don't know if he didn't tell me she texted him last night because he didn't want me to get upset or what but it's still not ok that he blatantly lied to my face. How can I bring this up? (link)
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You need to confront that boy. the feeling you talk about "Sick to my Stomach" i have felt the exact same way, and it is the worst feeling a person could ever feel. The bringing up part is the worst, i understand that. But if you don't find a way to do it, you are going to resent him and things are gonna get ugly. Best way to do it, just come right out with it. Tell him the day you seen it and the way it made you feel, if he is guilty ( which he is because regardless he lied to you) he will get a gut feeling that will hurt him and hopefully make him smarten up. I wish you the best of luck, i wouldn't wish the feeling of not knowing on my worst enemy. Much Love - Britt
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Iv been in a relationship for only 2 months with my boyfriend, we get along amazingly, when I'm not with him I miss him, and when I am with him I just want to stay with him all day!
But.. Iv started to become close with a guy I work with, we flirt occasionally and he knows I have a boyfriend. I was on a work night out with this guy and our other friends of course (my boyfriend was not there) and me and the guy from work ended up getting a cab together because our friends got in the other cab, we were both really drunk and flirting hard, he would try to wrap his arm around me and continued to tell me I was the best looking in the job, I told him the same, I feel really guilty because we almost kissed, I stopped it because I would never be unfaithful to my boyfriend, now when ever I'm in work I hope that we have the same shifts and I feel really guilty because I do love my boyfriend. Can anyone give me some advice to stop wanting to flirt with this boy (link)
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The only way to stop it, is tell this guy you work with how you feel. Its hard, really hard but its the only way to figure it out. If he stops and respects you in the way that he at least tries to stop than at least you get to have a relief from it. If he gets mad in anyway or says something mean, than you can figure out just what type of guy he is. In my opinion, if a guy flirts with a girl while knowing she has a boyfriend he is either a ass or he likes you so much that he cant help it. You need to figure out just which one he is.
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My boyfriend asked me tonight if I was a virgin because he is and has never done anything at all. We've been dating on a couple weeks and I didn't know how to answer it though. This is why:
I've gave a few guys head
I've been fingered A LOT
I had anal twice
I masturbate like once a day
I never had like...sex sex, you know? Like the making babies kind LOL. You know what I mean. Does that mean I'm a virgin? (link)
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I'd say your a "virgin" if you still have your "cherry". Because if you and this guy do have sex and he thinks your not but you still have your cherry he's going to be wondering what's going on right. But since you had be done anal which is sex. Your a vagina Virgin but not anal Virgin.
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So I have a bf for almost a month I'm really happy and I love him so much but my ex keep on making me confused like every 2 days my ex keep on tweet about me on twitter and then I think about me and my ex the whole day I just don't know if I love my ex or my bf answer me please (link)
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My advice is, if you moved onto someone before your ex came into the picture - you have already answered your question.
I was with my boyfriend for almost 4 years, after we broke up i was so heart broken (Even though i broke up with him) Thinking that i was still in love with him.
It took me 1 year and 4 months before i could even LOOK at another guy, because of the way i felt about my ex.
Even after all that time, i realized that since i was eventually able to move forward that i didn't love my ex and it was just old feelings.
Another suggestion for you would to be to tell him to stop tweeting you. Sometimes the reason people are still feel connected is because there was no closure. Sometimes that is the only way to move on (IT was for me!)Maybe you just need to talk to him and figure out what his motive is.
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Well I met this guy in July before I went away on holiday and we get a long great like there was chemistry from the first moment and he tells me he's attracted to me and what he likes about me and how he still wants to get to know me and what not.
It's just when we're away from eachother it's a different thing you know? We hardly text, like he would hardly start an conversation with me, not saying he doesn't cause every now and then he does but whenever I see him online on whatsapp I always think he would talk first.. Don't get me wrong when we're together out in public he treats me like I'm his girlfriend and I love it cause it shows he's interested in me and he's been honest with me so far..
It just puts me off that he hardly talks to me through texts and if we do text it never lasts long, when I was away he would message me first all the time at the start.. I just want to know why he acts so different when we're not together? I don't expect him to text me constantly but to me when he doesn't speak it just shows me he's acc not interested in me and it's really getting to my head, and I wish he was more sweet with me, maybe every guy is diff but I don't know.. Before I left everything was feeling great I couldn't be more happier but I don't know now mmmm please what should I think or do about this it's really bothering me?!!! Please :( (link)
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If your on his mind, he would message you.
If he was thinking about you he would message you.
Since he is not, hes not feeling that way.
Truth is, people have different lives, if he says he likes you and what not he probably isn't lying, he just has other stuff going on.
I get asked about this kind of situation all the time. I think what some people don't take into perspective is that people have stuff going on in life. They are doing there own thing. maybe he is in a time in his life where he is use to being on his own and he does not thrive for the attention for others.
You have to determine, is he talking to other people all the time and just ignoring you? or is he just not that involved with internet/messaging type things.
Its hard to exactly tell what a person is going through or what type of person they are. Some people are still old school where they prefer to be with someone, oppose to messaging/texting someone.
Maybe he jut doesn't want to annoy you or push things.
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i am a 25 year old single mom, i was working a job for five years, and i wasn't making much, so i found another job where i make more money... i was so happy, the happiest i been in a long time once i got the job, i was sad to leave the old job because i was cool with everyone, they all loved me. but now working at this new job i just feel like the outcast, most people don't speak to me, they have attitudes mostly, and when i need help, most of them are impatient, and sometimes rude to me. barely anyone even talks to me, some people may do a little, i even overheard some ppl talking bout me... and it hurts, and it's hard, because i am a hard working person, and i want a better life for my daughter and i. i mean, I've always been a loner kinda person, in high school, but like i was loved on my other job... and now i feel so awkward, so alone at a place im at five days a week, eight hours a day.. i'm not a quitter, i don't wanna give up... but this is hard u know, what should i do? no better question is, what would you do?
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Money, is an object. You cannot base your life on an object. Your daughter and yourself is your main focus as it should be. Your daughter will not be happy if you are not happy. You need to quit and keep yourself happy. Your daughter will understand and your happiness means the world to her. It's much better to work somewhere your appreciated and get less. Than get paid an extra 1$ or so. It's not worth the extra stress that's being put on you and your family.
Stay strong and do the right thing.
brittjeankon@hotmail.com
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Well the end of the school year talent show is my friends and I don't know what to do we are girls (link)
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Defiantly a great song! It is so much fun to get out there with your best friends looking hot and showing off. Work on a easy yet amazing dance. Put a good song that will have everyone feeling the beat. More than likely they will be mesmerized by the song and not paying full attention to you, which makes it feel a little less stressful. And it's a super good way to bond with your friends. In high school me and my girl friends did a old song from kiss and all us girls dressed up as the guys from kiss. Everyone was laughing and singing and going along with us. It was super fun, even though we looked funny. ;)
Good luck!
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Ok. Previously I said that I will be going to a new school for 7th grade. As I said it's the bigger middle school of the town. I've been really excited to go and start fresh. But my dad explained to me why it's a really bad idea to go there. (They gave me the choice between the school my friends go to and this one). My mom and dad both went there, and told me horror stories of being there as a kid. He brought up the fact that in my neighborhood at my old school, we RARELY EVER heard police sirens. At the new place, police sirens are the lullaby of the neighborhood. Meaning that there's a lot of poverty in this area of town- which leads to crime often. There's some serious bully issues at that school. Of course there's nice kids, I mean, more than half the town goes there. So my choices are- go to the small, academically great school where my friends go (along with the memories flashing before my eyes of bullies and kids that are so annoying that I quit public school), OR the new school where there's bullies to the max, I don't know my way around, or any nice kids, and from everyone I talked to, the school has like 2 windows then like all fluorescent lights. Basically a prison. Also for the first option, I have to be driven to school, which I really really really really really really don't want to do. For the second option I have to take the bus through the streets where "the shit bag kids live". Direct quote from dad. I need help. What would you do? Also if it helps I'm a girl who is an extraordinary student. (link)
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I would take the chance. This new school may be the "dumps" but you never know, until you try it yourself. Ask if you can give it a try first. See how things are. I am a 20 year old female, and I went to a tiny school full of idiots and trouble makers. You just have to be sure not to get into the wrong crowd. I'm sure there are people just like you in that school. It all depends. If your parents are so worried, than maybe search some other options that your parents might not have thought of. You will meet bad and troubled people everywhere you go but you will also meet extraordinary people as well. Sometimes, those trouble makers make the best of friends. As long as you don't let anyone influence you and stick to your gut you will be fine. I no how it feels not to want to go to school. And maybe being in a school around people who maybe know how it feels to be a little more bullied and such might also help.
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I'm turning sixteen on October 13th and I want it to be a day to remember, but my parents don't have a lot of money.
I'm not sure what I want to do, last year I took 3 friends to a pumpkin patch (where we screwed around and raised havoc in the corn maze) but this year, I want to do something fun that we'll hopefully all enjoy.
I'm taking my best friend to a Twenty one Pilots concert -10/21- which is $50 already down the drain.. And I want to go to the zoo to see the goats. (They're my favorite animals.)
Anyway, I'm taking three friends, three 16 year olds and one 15 year old. We all love doctor who,and supernatural.. So I was thinking I could have my awesome artist brother make a tardis cake, (should be easy for him) and maybe just hang out with them??
I don't know, I just want to do something fun! Any suggestions??
P.s. This is before I start college and have to buckle down and study for my SAT, and other things.. So that's why I want to have fun. (link)
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Some other ideas may be a fire. Also glow Sticks! I love glow Sticks, break them open and splash all over your clothes. Super fun idea and you glow all night!
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Hello,I've been in a long distance relationship for quite some time now,as of a week ago,I didnt hear from my guy,due to some personal problems and his dad being in the hospital. Below,I have written the text message he sent me:
''Dear___ ,So it's been long enough and I think you deserve an explanation for my absence.I've been drifting apart. mostly because I dont know what I'm doing right now.I need to get my life back on point and I just cant rely on you right now.And when I say rely on you,I mean for you to be okay with whatever life we would live together.There's a dream and then there is reality and right now its looking difficult for me becauseI cant seem to find a stable job.But Ive made a commitment from today and from nowIm going to change my a lot of my ways.And I cant keep this long distance relationship thing with us going anymore.No more photos,no more videos or anything like that.I really need to focus on my life right now instead of our life.I definately think we can work in the future but right now I need to focus on myself sincerely from the depths of my heart.I feel like part of the stress that put my dad in the hospital is my fault.I'll talk to you soon.''
So,essentially,I have different scenarios.
Either Im being let down easy,and this is my chance to exit.
Or,he wants me to wait for him to get his life together
Or he is calling it off but gave me a little hope while he runs away
Or he really means what he says.
Im very confused,first he cuts ties,and then says,yeah,we have a future.... Its confusing....
Its hard,its very very very hard,and I just want to know what to do.I love him dearly,I love his family so much.
He is struggling with jobs,and he wants a stable one,so he can get a place for us to move in together....
Thank you in advance for your advice (link)
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If this guy, took his time to write this, he means it. If I were you I would be proud, don't take it as a bad thing. Take it as this is your time to do the same. He came to the realization he needs to do something for himself and that's a wonderful thing. The way I see it, he loves you. HeS just stuck and need to find himself "you cannot love another until you love yourself". Let him do what he's gotta do, if you truly love him that's the best to do. Be happy for him and be there for him if he ever needs it. He will appreciate it more than you know.
Stay strong girl.
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hi.im a girl of 19 years and im in a relationship with my bf for 3months now.it is a long distance relationship.i love him so much and he is my everything.i messed up and i dont know why i did what i did because i love my bf.few days me and my bf we were fighting but we sortes things out.he asked me to forgive him and i did.so now i messed up but dont think we will be fine again.i kissed his roomate on june but he found it out now.so he is angry but he said we should give it a try again.the problem is things are not the way the used to be.it is like he is pretending now.dont know what to do now.im trying to make things right but it is still the same.when i tell him how sorry i am.he told me that im like his exes and he will not forget he is just trying to move on by accepting and heal.i love my bf and dont want to lose him like this. (link)
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Mistakes happen. And I believe everything happens for a reason. It is nice of this guy of your to try and move on from things. But the ways things are now, will never change. I have experienced this. I was with someone for 4 years and the first summer, I was kissed by my boyfriend cousin at a fire. Even though he tried to forgive me the incident came up over and over again. He used it against me with everything I did wrong. My advice to you, you may love this guy but you will never loose that feeling and neither will he. It will cause fights and cause you into depression for him continuously remembering. The trust in your relationship will never be the same. Trust me. No matter how hard you try. It's better to quit while your ahead. Stay strong girl.
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Hi, i am in a long distance relationship and some days i really like the way things are going, my partner has alot of girl mates who he gets along with and hes still friends with his first ex-girlfriend and at times i feel like i havent given him much sexual attention and i obviously cannot do this physically so im scared that he might go and do something with someone else (his first ex) ive confronted him about this but have not mentioned that im worried because hes getting close with his ex ive just told him im scared to lose him and that he might do something stupid, all he replied was "well i havent done anything yet"
and a friend of mine asked him hows things going between me and him he didnt answer he said that his ex wants to have sex with him now that she isnt in a relationship anymore. also a few months back she even confronted him about her feelings towards him and how she still has feelings for him and now shes getting closer to him and he likes it
so what should i do? should i end it ? should i just trust him ? should i confront him about this girl ? because he hasnt said that he still speaks to her i have found that out from my friend
what should i do?
i dont know what he does in his spare time whether he lies to me when he says hes going work or going out with family etc i dont know :'( i feel like ending it with him but i love him so much to the extent where when he asked me "if i do something dumb would you take me back" and i said yes because i truly love him and i understand the situation we are in (link)
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The fact that he asked "if I do something dumb would you take me back" that makes my heart sink. And I'm not even in your position. Honestly I'm in a position where my boyfriends first girlfriend just moved back here and all she did was message him once and ask if she could see the dog. That situation alone made me feel sick to my stomach, I can't even image what you are going through. But honestly, the way he is acting and the way you feel. It MEANS something. You can say you trust him all you want, but you don't and you never will. Anything a guy says sticks in a girls heads forever. Those words and his actions will never be gone. You say you love him truly but it sounds like the feelings art mutual. If he truly loved you, he wouldn't put you in the position where you would feel like that. You need to tell him and be firm. You need to set things steight before you end up living your life with someone and hate yourself for doing it. Love is the greatest feeling and thing in the world. Don't SETTLE for something that does not mean the world to you. Please for heavens sake, don't let him control you and make you become a bad person for his actions. Think about your future, in 5 years, do u think you would be able to forgive him? Do u think that all the feelings you have now are just going to disappear. There NOT. This feeling will forever haunt you. And no matter what you will always have the feeling that you cannot trust him because it will always be in your mind. You need to think about you. Think about it as, if your best friend was going through this. What would you tell her? Your too close to the situation itso hard to see the cold hearted facts. Be smart girl.
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I'm gonna keep this short and sweet. Why does my boyfriend always play video games with his friends when I'm over. I realize he has friends. But why can't me and him just spend time together. Everytime I come over, his friends will ask him to play a game (He talks to them on Skype while playing)(PC). Sometimes he'll ask me if he's allowed to play because we've got into before about this and I'll tell him to do whatever he wants. If I say no he's gonna do it anyway just like any typical man. What am I supposed to do while plays. I can't watch TV because his desk is right beside it (his body is in front of it) plus he talks. He wants me to watch him play,come on now. Sometimes when I try to talk to him he won't even hear me because of his headphones. Am I making this a big deal? I just feel like that's a nice line between friend time and girlfriend time. He just doesn't see the line. (link)
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I went through the exact same thing. He would never pay attention to me, I'd be trying to sleep and he would be constantly yelling and playing his game. I loved him truly so I tried my best to stay calm and try to make the best of things. But in the end I realized, he is still a boy. I don't no how old you are or your boyfriend. But both me and my bf were 20. I realized he was not ready to be in a relationship. And sometimes that's what you have to determine. When your in a relationship it will not work out unless both parties are involved. You deserve the best and you deserve someone who will pay attention to you always. You need to determine a line. You need to tell him straight out how you feel and tell him something needs to change. You need to think about your future aside from how you feel first. You need to look into 5 years from now. Do you see yourself with this guy? Do you see him making a change for you? If not you need to ask him so that you can have that. If he gets mad about it, he is not going to change. And it doesn't matter how many times you bug him or get mad. He will not change unless he really wants to. If your old enough to be dating, your at the age where you need to think about your future. You need to tell him, either you make changes or you find another girl. Either he will change, which means he does love you and he wants to make it work. Or he won't and he will get mad or say "whatever" in which you just determined, the guy won't change for you, you need to move on and find someone who is there for you and not this guy. Trust me it will hurt and it could easily end your relationship. But you either keep living your life in pain and sorow or you figure it out now and get your process on to start your life off right. " never settle" life is full of surprises, and especially people. Never settle for something "alright" when "amazing" is right around the corner waiting for you.
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I dont know if its normal, i masterbate about 4 times a week, every time i do i watch porn, i love it and it fees so good. But is this normal. Im am 16 years old and im a boy
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I would just like to say, it is completely normal. But another aspect of this topic is how will it effect you. Correct me if I am wrong, but in my experience I have heard of "desensitization" meaning a boy or girl who is casually doing such activities will become desensitized. When your grown you will need some type of porn to assist you. As the typical male/female will seem lame and boring.
Can anyone else, expand on this?
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