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Ugh… school issues…
Ok. Previously I said that I will be going to a new school for 7th grade. As I said it's the bigger middle school of the town. I've been really excited to go and start fresh. But my dad explained to me why it's a really bad idea to go there. (They gave me the choice between the school my friends go to and this one). My mom and dad both went there, and told me horror stories of being there as a kid. He brought up the fact that in my neighborhood at my old school, we RARELY EVER heard police sirens. At the new place, police sirens are the lullaby of the neighborhood. Meaning that there's a lot of poverty in this area of town- which leads to crime often. There's some serious bully issues at that school. Of course there's nice kids, I mean, more than half the town goes there. So my choices are- go to the small, academically great school where my friends go (along with the memories flashing before my eyes of bullies and kids that are so annoying that I quit public school), OR the new school where there's bullies to the max, I don't know my way around, or any nice kids, and from everyone I talked to, the school has like 2 windows then like all fluorescent lights. Basically a prison. Also for the first option, I have to be driven to school, which I really really really really really really don't want to do. For the second option I have to take the bus through the streets where "the shit bag kids live". Direct quote from dad. I need help. What would you do? Also if it helps I'm a girl who is an extraordinary student.
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I would take the chance. This new school may be the "dumps" but you never know, until you try it yourself. Ask if you can give it a try first. See how things are. I am a 20 year old female, and I went to a tiny school full of idiots and trouble makers. You just have to be sure not to get into the wrong crowd. I'm sure there are people just like you in that school. It all depends. If your parents are so worried, than maybe search some other options that your parents might not have thought of. You will meet bad and troubled people everywhere you go but you will also meet extraordinary people as well. Sometimes, those trouble makers make the best of friends. As long as you don't let anyone influence you and stick to your gut you will be fine. I no how it feels not to want to go to school. And maybe being in a school around people who maybe know how it feels to be a little more bullied and such might also help.
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Sounds like the parents are telling you things to steer you in the direction of choosing your old school by sharing their opinion of the school, kids and neighborhood. They know what it was like when 'they' were that age which was long ago. the school could be the same with same issues and troubles, it could be even worse, or it could have cleaned up its act.
Really, they are the parents and could make the choice but for some reason are leaving it up to you. I would think that the most obvious reason, the reason why one goes to school in the first place should help you decide without a problem.
You go to learn. You need a good school with good rules, great teachers and overall better academically great for students who want to learn and apply themselves towards getting good grades which is what you say about yourself, being an extraordinary student.
Your worry over what other kids will think by seeing you with a parent daily dropping you off is likely the least concern. I understand kids may tease to see a kid who has a 'mommy take them to school' just like when you were in kindergarten. However, you have a good reason, livin outside the schools area to be able to qualify for the school bussing program and not close enough to walk and perhaps even too far with transfers to take the bus, plus then you have to contend with other passengers, which you have to do on a school bus. Whether the city bus passengers are so bad that you'd have to fear for your life, remains to be seen, as right now its only based on what the parents have said.
If they really thought it would be so dangerous for you to take the city bus to the new school or attend there, do you really think they would allow their child to go if it meant you could possibliy end up bullied, injured or dead? I think not.
I still dont understand the 'need' for a fresh start unless you are running from an issue or problems at the old school.
How about this for a possibility: Start off at the new school. give it two months, like just Sept Oct. and if by then you just can't handle it, ask the parents to switch you over to your old school. Or are they unwilling to do that? Just ask them ahead of time if you came to them at any point and wanted to switch, would they commit to taking you to old school? This way you can find out for yourself if your parents perception of their old school when they were exactly your age, is true to life and just the same today or worse than when they attended. Until you know that for sure, you might be giving up a school you might actually like.
I have heard that some middle and high schools began to have a policy of having students go through metal detectors to enter the building and have a police officer whose assigned beat was the school grounds. I know it would sound obvious to do this in the high crime and poverty neighbors. I raised my kids in a very good low crime neighborhood and yet their HS had a police officer on the grounds at all times to assure that there where no problems. Perhaps that is the issue there now and it may actually be quite safe. Its up to you whether to give the new school a try or not, at least for a while. Or you could choose to commit to it for good because you want a fresh start, and have fear of the reaction of mom driving you to old school. Other than Mom driving you, you didn't really give much reasons for deciding against your old school. so perhaps there is some missing info you didn't share?
Hope this helps you decide.
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