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How to satisfy myself without breaking my hymen
I'm 20 years old girl from Malaysia..and I'm facing problem during night..can't even sleep..can feel that my body need something..so desirable..I had a good relationship with my boyfriend..but he is in overseas..unable to meet him often..but I terribly miss him..his eyes and touch..I wanna keep my virginity for him to break it after our marriage..but how to overcome my needs..how to masturbate without penetrating or without breaking my hymen
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Lots of women enjoy masturbating without actually penetrating themselves with any sort of sex-toy, similar shaped object or even their fingers. As Dragonflymagic points out, your clitoris is not inside but outside, at the top. It is incredibly sensitive and stimulating it with your finger tips will feel very pleasurable and should lead you to reaching an orgasm. The particular speed, pressure, type of movement and how long you need is something you discover for yourself. Different women enjoy different techniques. It's kind of personal and unique. It can feel very sensitive to direct touch and a good quality lubricant (one designed for sex and available in all high street chemists) is a good idea because they are very slick and slippery and do not dry out quickly. They will be tested and known to be very safe to put on/around your genital area. Hand and skin creams might irritate and make things a bit itchy, especially scented ones. Penetration isn't an absolutley necessary part of pleasurable masturbation. In fact many women find they can reach orgasms more effectively when they masturbate and concentrate on their clitoris than by their male partners just penetrating them during sex. Or when their partners pleasure them with their fingers. And/or tongues if both partners enjoy oral sex. Penetrating yourself could well give a pleasant feeling of being 'full' and an enjoyable stretching feeling but it's definitely not the only way to pleasure yourself. And if you are worrying about tearing your hymen it will almost certainly make it hard to relax and less enjoyable for you than keeping things 'outside' anyway.
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I don't know if in Malaysia they carry feminine products called tampons for womens monthly blood flow. These can be inserted inside and just use of that is sometimes enough to stretch the hymen. The hymen is stretch-able like a rubber band. So in many cases, it will not break and bleed, it didnt for me. What you are talking about is being a virgin as far as having a penis enter the vagina, in English the name for that in 'intercourse'. You can be a virgin to that but still use fingers or a sex toy on yourself to achieve orgasms. So what you will need to focus on is your clitoris which is on the outside, not inside the vagina. Use of a personal lubricant made specifically for sex, is very helpful in helping to add friction without making any tissue sore. You will need to practice is using your fingers to get just the right rubbing, the right spot, pressure and speed for it to give you an orgasm. There are vibrator sex toys made just to stimulate the clitoris that are not inserted at all inside. this could work for you too.
I am including a good explanation a young female did, using a prop to explain just what the hymen is. She uses the term "pop your cherry" which is slang here for the hymen tearing.
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