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clingy??
Me and my ex bf have been seeing each other for the past 1 year and 7 months Once or twice on a monthly basis and yes we do have sex i saw him oN the 20th nov but did not really have sex anywayz i havent heard from him since sunday 22nov until now so its been like 3 days,he is almost alot online but he dont chat to me..i thought id send him a text askin if hs ok,been quiet.thought id see if hs stl alive and i hope to hear frm hm soon..do u thnk i shouldv sent that text or shouldv just left it and stay away so he wl be able to miss me and text me first..does that text make me seem clingy
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It doesn't make you look clingy but it does look like something else to me. You say he's an ex but you still see each other. Perhaps you're both very independant people and thats all you need in time to spend with someone. Ask yourself if issue that had you both break up, was ever been dealt with? Ask yourself why you are believing that saying, "absense makes the heart grow fonder'. That saying doesn't apply to everyone. For example, when I left my ex husband, I never ever felt myself grow fonder for him as time went on. If the other person is in love with you and you with him, then there would be NO absense or parting, not unless it can't be helped like one of you being sent out on a mission due to being in the military. If two people need too much time apart to be able to tolerate each other the few times they are together, then the true fact is that they are not the most perfect match for each other and most likely a really bad match with no hope. So waiting in silence for a call, assuming it will make him yearn for you is probably just wishful thinking.
The effect of sex on a relationship or breaking up of one: Women want to experience a certain emotional closeness before sex, while men view sex as a route to this closeness. Woman regard sex as both an accompaniment to a strong relationship and a method of securing that relationship in the first place. For men, its a physical act that can lead to an emotional bond but they often seek sex just for the sake of sex. For women, the emotional bond is tied into the physical act so they have difficulty seeing the two separately and thus have the hard time with still feeling love for a guy who mistreats them or broke up with them. So dear, it may be only in your mind where there is an emotional bond to him because of having sex with him, and not there on his part or you'd have a full commitment by now if he was capable of commiting plus being sure you are the right lady to live out his life together with. Hey, I am female and I've been there where you are, believing all sort of misguided beliefs that wasted a lot of my time with the wrong guy. It happens. Ask him if he either sees a future with you to grow old together or should you both part ways and find new partners. Make sure he feels comfortable to share the truth and you need to be able to accept the truth from him. If you keep yourself leaning on him as a sort of emotional relationship support type of thing, you are not going to be fully available to meet and be with the right guy if he does come along. So either you both stop being 'exes' and work on the relationship, being a couple, or you need to walk away from him. Sometimes, no contact from a guy means, its over. Breaking up should be enough of a clue. You can't force a person to want to like you or love you. YOu can be the prettiest most wonderful female in the whole world but if both your chemistries don't match, you're shit out of luck and it wont work.
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That doesn't sound clingy to me, but I can't speak for him. Regardless, you can't exactly unsend a text message, so it's not really worth worrying about.
The bigger problem, if I may, is that you're trying to make him miss you. Speaking from personal experience, these types of games may work in getting a guy interested for a short amount of time, but if you're trying to get your ex back, it will not work.
I know it's easier said than done, but part of moving on is not looking back. Don't worry about texting him/not texting him, don't think about how long it's been since you've heard from him, and don't have sex with him if you're just doing it to get some semblance of a relationship for some period of time.
Of course, I may have completely misjudged your situation. But I was in a similar position a little while ago with an ex of mine, and I really wish I had listened when people told me to stop wasting my time.
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First off, you need to work on your English (Could barely read your question)
Second off, If this boy is not answering you, specially after sex either he is busy with something else ( which is not often the case ) or he just needs some time. Nobody can tell exactly what men are thinking and we cant tell the future. But the question " Does that text make me clingy ", is a obvious answer of NO. Any guy that values you and respects you will not think of you as clingy, and if he does than he is not the guy for you. Being clingy is a obsession. Most people do not understand the word, in the context it is meant to be. if i were you, i would find another interest. Don't pay attention to him. Ever heard the saying "Play Hard To Get?" now is your chance to find something better and make this guy jealous to the point where he will regret what he did. And in the mean time, you get to move on with your life. Plenty of Fish in the Sea.
Much Love - Britt
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