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The outcast in a new place
i am a 25 year old single mom, i was working a job for five years, and i wasn't making much, so i found another job where i make more money... i was so happy, the happiest i been in a long time once i got the job, i was sad to leave the old job because i was cool with everyone, they all loved me. but now working at this new job i just feel like the outcast, most people don't speak to me, they have attitudes mostly, and when i need help, most of them are impatient, and sometimes rude to me. barely anyone even talks to me, some people may do a little, i even overheard some ppl talking bout me... and it hurts, and it's hard, because i am a hard working person, and i want a better life for my daughter and i. i mean, I've always been a loner kinda person, in high school, but like i was loved on my other job... and now i feel so awkward, so alone at a place im at five days a week, eight hours a day.. i'm not a quitter, i don't wanna give up... but this is hard u know, what should i do? no better question is, what would you do?
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Money, is an object. You cannot base your life on an object. Your daughter and yourself is your main focus as it should be. Your daughter will not be happy if you are not happy. You need to quit and keep yourself happy. Your daughter will understand and your happiness means the world to her. It's much better to work somewhere your appreciated and get less. Than get paid an extra 1$ or so. It's not worth the extra stress that's being put on you and your family.
Stay strong and do the right thing.
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We've all been the newbie,the outcast even but as soon as you get use to the job things will get better,it always does guarantee you.
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So you're the new kid on the block so to speak and finding it hard to break into the existing clicks. I think most of us have been there and have the mental scars to prove it.
Not knowing what type of work you do or how many people there are in the office I'm somewhat hampered in suggestions to make. If you are good at baking you could try bringing in a cake, cupcakes or even cookies to be shared during the coffee breaks or just to put out near the coffee pot. Someone I'm sure will ask who brought them and they will discover it is the new girl.
You could look at the calendar to see what holidays are coming up. The calendar is filled with little known holidays that are never celebrated like Italians Fisherman's day. You could try to organize a potluck lunch to celebrate. August has five full weekends, 5 Saturdays and 5 Sundays. This will not happen again for decades definitely something to celebrate. If you are fortunate enough to be paid every two weeks the month has an extra payday in it as well another thing to celebrate. Then there is also the option of inviting some of the people you would like to know better to your home for cocktail or dinner.
These are just some of the things I can think of. Listen to what they talk about and be creative in trying to immerse yourself into their clicks. You have to go from being a loner to being more outgoing and that will take time and effort on your part.
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This is common when i new person starts working at a place where everyone else knows each other.
I would just keep my head down, keep doing a good job and slowly they will come to accept you and start being friendly. Your still in that much hated "ehhh its the new girl" position in the eyes of the people around you and not everyone will just automatically take to you right away. Give them some time.
Just smile, be friendly, try to compliment them when you see the chance and sooner or later youll kill them enough kindness that they wont have any complaints. ; )
this will pass.
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