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I dont want to study Engineering so my parents r not agreeing
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At the end of the day, only you know what you want. Your parents aren't going to be effected by your life choices as much as you are, so don't let them pressure you in to studying for a future that you don't even want. Try to make them realise what it would mean to make you do something that doesn't make you happy. I'm sure they wouldn't be pleased with themselves if in 5 years time, you were living a life you wish you didn't have just because you wanted to make them happy.
Would you rather your parents be a little disappointed that you chose a different path, or would you rather do what they want but be miserable doing it?
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I'm gonna keep this short and sweet. Why does my boyfriend always play video games with his friends when I'm over. I realize he has friends. But why can't me and him just spend time together. Everytime I come over, his friends will ask him to play a game (He talks to them on Skype while playing)(PC). Sometimes he'll ask me if he's allowed to play because we've got into before about this and I'll tell him to do whatever he wants. If I say no he's gonna do it anyway just like any typical man. What am I supposed to do while plays. I can't watch TV because his desk is right beside it (his body is in front of it) plus he talks. He wants me to watch him play,come on now. Sometimes when I try to talk to him he won't even hear me because of his headphones. Am I making this a big deal? I just feel like that's a nice line between friend time and girlfriend time. He just doesn't see the line. (link)
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In my opinion, no, you are not making this a big deal. A relationship needs to have both compromise and balance if the two involved are going to be happy. As for your boyfriend, perhaps he feels as though he would be disappointing to his friends if he distanced himself to spend time with you. A lot of men feel that way, even if you aren't asking them to remove their friends from their life. Some men will always put their friendships before their relationships, which is usually because they care too much about what their friends would think of them, or they are frightened to end up alone. The real question is, are you willing to put up with your boyfriend constantly pushing you aside for video games, or do you need him to change?
I hate to say it, but sometimes men need a good push to change. And depending on how bad you feel about the situation, maybe you should consider how happy you really are in your relationship. Being ignored by your significant other can lead to resentment, which never ends well. He needs to ask himself how much he wants to be in this relationship, because if he isn't willing to spend time with you, how are you supposed to be happy?
Giving men an ultimatum isn't something women like to do, because it feels like a trap, but in some cases there is no other choice. He needs to make time for you, or you need to find something that makes you feel wanted.
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