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I dont want to study Engineering so my parents r not agreeing
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There must be a reason they want you to study Engineering. One reason would be to follow in your father's foot steps and maybe join him in his company. This is admirable of them but do they understand that today to get an engineering license requires a Master Degree in Engineering is required.
If they are saying you take Engineering or we won't foot the bill for College; well they are being suborn and wrong. You don't say why you don't want to take Engineering. Have you explained to your parents why you do not want to study as they want? Have you told them what you wish to study?
They may think they are looking out for your best interest by forcing you to study a subject that will provide you with a great income. That is wonderful except for the fact that as my father once told me. "You can have all the money in the world and be miserable or you can work at something you love and make enough money to be comfortable and be happy."
You are 18 or about to turn 18. As an 18 year old you are legally an adult an no longer required to follow your parents wishes. They are no longer legally responsible for you either. If you wish you can strike out on your own and take whatever courses you wish using Pell grants, scholarships and student loans to get the education you want.
Should you decide to go this route I suggest going to a community college for the prerequisite courses and then transfer to a four year college for the core course. Doing this will save you a considerable amount of money; as I am assuming your parents will still allow you to live at home.
This is your life, you have to follow your instincts as to what you want from life. Just remember one thing. There are those people who fail to plan and those people who plan and fail. There is nothing wrong with planning and failing as long as you learn from your failure and make the correction and continue to your goal.
My father in-laws doctor followed his parents wishes and became an Engineer, he was miserable. When they passed away he went to medical school, which is what he always wanted to do. At 40 years of age he was the oldest resident in the program. He never regretted for a minute the hard work of the resident program. He became a great doctor. His only regret was he didn't have the back bone to stand up to his parents and follow his heart.
The choice is yours not your parents. It may be harder to get the degree you want. If so it will be more meaningful when you get that degree and you will be happy in what you do in life.
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At the end of the day, only you know what you want. Your parents aren't going to be effected by your life choices as much as you are, so don't let them pressure you in to studying for a future that you don't even want. Try to make them realise what it would mean to make you do something that doesn't make you happy. I'm sure they wouldn't be pleased with themselves if in 5 years time, you were living a life you wish you didn't have just because you wanted to make them happy.
Would you rather your parents be a little disappointed that you chose a different path, or would you rather do what they want but be miserable doing it?
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Let moi tell you a story. When I was a piglet, my father chased after other sows, and my mother had so many piglets she never found time to develop her mind. As for moi? I would die before I lived like that, so I ran away to another city and followed my dreams. You can too.
Besides, you make a lot of moolah doing engineering. Go for it! Follow your dreams! You are grown up now, your parents can't hold you back anymore. Your future is up to you!
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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