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am I in love with my bf and ex
So I have a bf for almost a month I'm really happy and I love him so much but my ex keep on making me confused like every 2 days my ex keep on tweet about me on twitter and then I think about me and my ex the whole day I just don't know if I love my ex or my bf answer me please
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My advice is, if you moved onto someone before your ex came into the picture - you have already answered your question.
I was with my boyfriend for almost 4 years, after we broke up i was so heart broken (Even though i broke up with him) Thinking that i was still in love with him.
It took me 1 year and 4 months before i could even LOOK at another guy, because of the way i felt about my ex.
Even after all that time, i realized that since i was eventually able to move forward that i didn't love my ex and it was just old feelings.
Another suggestion for you would to be to tell him to stop tweeting you. Sometimes the reason people are still feel connected is because there was no closure. Sometimes that is the only way to move on (IT was for me!)Maybe you just need to talk to him and figure out what his motive is.
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If the ex broke up with you, perhaps he has changed his mind but its too late, your'e with someone else. Right now its only comments about you that you see online. He's free to write what he wants. However if he calls you, you politely tell him you understand he;s changed his mind but its too late, you're with someone new and love them.
If you broke up with him and he thinks he has a change of winning you back, maybe you need to go over the reasons of the breakup. with relationships, no matter how old the person, the goal is that you leave a relationship if something about the other person weakens you, perhaps something they want but thats not you and changing who you are to be right for someone never works (i've been there, done that) or something of how they treat you goes against your principles, or is unhealthy for you, mentally, emotionally or physically. So once it is determined what you left a relationship for, the next relationship you get into should be a step better, an improvement, not the same status quo or worse....settling for less.
Only you can know if this is the case. You didnt provide enough info so I am just guessing here.
If you are committed to the new boyfriend and don't want to go back to the old one, then stop reading twitter for a while if thats what is taking away your peace of mind.
You also need to know that each person has two minds in operation at all times, Your conscious and subconscious mind. The subconscious one is where all your emotions are attached to. And the subconscious mind will react with emotions and it takes a while to get over someone, even if they werent right for you or dumped you. The subconscious doesnt see logic and reasoning, only your conscious mind so often it takes the sub mind a while to catch up to the decisions your conscious mind has made. This is a case where you can't make a decision to go back to him and dump the new boyfriend all because of feelings you still have, as it will take some time for those feelings to finally fade and lessen with time. It could be months, it could be a year or two...it all depends on the individual. The new BF deserves to have you living in the moment and being really there with him, not focused on your past. If you feel you have made a grave error and do not really love the new bf and want to ask for the other back, be honest and to the point. When it comes to love, its unfair to a person for them to believe you love only them when in fact you feell you are in love with both or even more people, or neither, or the other. They deserve to be let go and be free to really find someone to love if it can't be you. Sure it hurts. But love and relationships do hurt. None of us go through life without being hurt in relationships at some point.
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