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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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well i like this guy Ryan and he likes my friend Emma. me and ryan were like best friends and 2 weeks ago we went out and it didnt even last 48 hours and he said he was upset coz it was soo short. he said "Im so sorry i messed around with u..I love you soo much but i cant get emma out of my head" and im like Ok then. and i forgave him for messing around with me. and we were just normal friendship again and then he just stopped talking to me and i waited for about a week but he still didnt talk to me then i asked why he is ignoring me but he didnt answer so i asked again and he goes "Im NOT ignoring u!!!! were going around in a circle i dont hate u stop asking stupid questions!!!". and 2 days ago my friend asked him if he likes me as a friend and he goes "Yeah i guess but shes just being annoying and immature in a way because she asks me why im ignoring her and stuff but if she wants to talk to me then im not gonna ignore her but she was just being annoying." and i dont know what to do now..at school he takes glances at me but i just look away.. please help me :(
My best suggestion is take time from each other. I'm not going to say who's immature who's not. Who;s mean who's nice. He's probably really confused and feels guilty. Maybe he's just trying to deconfuse himself from all this and stay awau from you to sort out feelings. Give him time and give yourself time to clear all of this out of your heads. Just give yourselves two weeks. Then see what happens. If he is still acting like that, tell him that you want to meet him and talk to him face to face. No interrupting each other and take turns talking. Never yell, criticiz. just get to the main point. Talk it out. Don't doing on the phone, AIM, cpu, nothing. Justface to face
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I have shortish, frizzy, curly hair which I normally straighten. However, I am shortly going on holiday and would like to avoid the 'frizzball' effect after being in a pool.
Does anyone have any tips on products that will calm my hair and make it look presentable until I go back to my room and can shower it out? Preferably products I can buy in the UK. Thanks to all.
First of all, never use gels and such from the stores. It will damage you hair in a second. Using a lot of products on your hair could make it worse and can damage it perminately. I don't think using products will help since you'll be getting into the water and it would just wash off. Shampoos and conditioners take a while to take effect and even then it may not help.
The best suggestion I can give to you is to just tie it back into a cute pony tail[s] and clip the remaining hair back. And when you get out of the pool, put on a hat or something like that. It'll shrink the frizz for a while until you get back to the hotel and it will protect your face from the hamrful rays =]
I've been sexually active for 2 years. I'm 16 right now and with this amazing guy. We had unprotected sex just a few nights ago, and protected sex a few times before that. It's the time of the month where I should be getting my period, but I'm 2 days late. I was wondering if I should go ahead and get a pregnancy test, or wait another week. my period has been regular for almost 2 years now.
If so, what type of test should i get? One of my friends said get an E.P.T. for the best accuracy. Someone please help.. Thanks
I think you should get a pregnancy test ASAP. Being a 16 year old mother is not a fun thing. Get a test and if it turns negative, don't loosen up yet. Wait another week or so and take another just to make sure.
my cousin: 14/m
me: 15/f
my cousin and i are pretty close in age, which is probably why we get along so well. we're seriously like brother and sister and we are like the best of friends. but, lately he's been acting kind of weird. he use to be kind of gangsta. i don't mean like seriously. he doesn't have a lot of piercings or is a pimp or anything like that. he just talks gangsta, loves rap, wears normal clothes. haha. we were always laughing and making jokes and i could seriously tell him almost everything. he was always at my house. so, naturally, me and my cousin were like best friends.
then, all of the sudden, he started acting really weird. like, totally not like him. i can understand that he loves starwars. ok. i get that that's normal. it's normal to also have a couple of postars or even be like obsessed with it. cause, i know guys can be like that. kind of like how their obsessed with sports. i get that it's normal that when ur a little kid to think that you're a character in the movie or something. i use to think that when i was a little kid too and i'm sure other little kids have too. but i don't think that it's healthy for a thirteen year old boy or a fourteen year old boy to strongly believe that he is a jedi. and he is totally serious about this. he really thinks that he's a jedi. he also said that he was going to go to disney world during star wars week or something like that and go in a black cloak that was being made for him and that he's a jedi. i'm sorry but it's really freaking me out.
he never comes over anymore. and when i'm going to go out and i call him to see if he wants to come with us, he says that he's with his other cousin and that he is going to watch wrestling. since when? since when does he watch wrestling and hang out with his other cousin? i'm not jealous. if i were, i would just write that that's the problem. i don't mind him spending some time with his other cousin. in fact, i think it's normal being it that his other cousin is a guy and they have guy time. but, I don't think that's a reason to blow me off EVERY time i invite him somewhere and when i try to talk to him and ask him what's wrong, he says nothing and that he's just changed
i really miss hanging out with my cousin. i'm an only child so u know how it goes. he always wanted to go to dances at my school and stuff, and now when i call him to take him, he says he doesn't want to go. that he's not into that stuff. i really want my cousin back, my old cousin. what can i do? he won't tell what's wrong. i don't know how to get through to him? sometimes. he has moments where he'll be like is old self and then we start cracking up and then other times he just looks really nervous.
does anyone have any ideas? please? he's not just my cousin, he's my best friend. and i'd really like to have my real cousin back
Know that a lot of guys go into puberty at this time. MAybe it's just their emotions starting up again. You have to understand that even thoguh you guys are close in age, your maturity and his maturity maybe way off. Interests maybe changing dramatically and such.
I think you should respect his thoughts of him being a Jedi...just support him and never make fun of him. Hey, play along with him a few times.
Also, the reason he doesn't want to hang around maybe because his friends may make fun of him for haning out with a girl too much. Or maybe he didn't feel manly haning out with a girl
I suggest that you and your cousin have your alone time. If he say's he's too busy, plan a week ahead or say it's really really important and that he's the only one who can take care of this porblem you have (it's true, isnt it?) Even though it will be hard to work up the courage to tell him what you just listed above, you have to get this all sorted out.
Sit with him alone in a room with plenty of time. Tell him your problems and concerns and ask. Don't yell, don't blame, don't critisize. Just explain to him calmly and nicely. When it's his turn, listen to him and do NOT interrupt. In fact clear that up from the beginning. Tell him to listen to you all the way through then he can talk or vice versa.
Overall, just listen to each other and get this thing over with before it becomes a big jumbled up misunderstood angry family thing
Anybody got any suggestions on how to quit smoking? I've been doing it since I was 15 and I'm 24 now. I smoke a pack a day and I really want to quit. I'm trying to get pregnant so I know I need to and now's the time. Cold Turkey didnt work for me even though that may be the best way to go. It seems like I'll quit for a day or so then something I consider to be "hectic" happens and I feel like I cant concentrate or fix whatever problem I'm having until I smoke. All idea's would be helpful and I'll definatly take into consideration. Thanks.
I'm guessing that you're married, right? Smoking is a really bad habit and it each smoke you smoke can shorten your life by 11 whole minutes! It's ends up consuming 25 years of your life you could live if you weren't a smoker!
Smoking is a hard habit to break. Cigarettes are very addictive and when you try to quite, it seems like you're going to die and such.
But consider this, in that cigarette, there's stuff in there that are used to preserve DEAD FROGS.
Have your husband help you. Get your family to chime in. Try to get yourself away from people that smoke or go to places that will tempt you to smoke.
Pick the nonsmoking sections in restraunts, hotels, and such. Throw away ALL the cigarette boxes you have. Matches, lighters, ash trays. Everything. Occupy yourself all day doing activities,reading, watching TV, etc. When you go out shopping and you know there will be packs of cigarettes on sale, take your buddy that's going to help you quit to resist buying any packets. Or bring only a limited amount of money only enough for food and such.
When you have cravings for a smoke, remember that every drag is like inhaling fume from a toxic waste factory. Chew gum or munch on something. This doesn't mean eat all the fattening food you can or start drinking. Chew gum, buy those patches that help you quit, etc.
Please, please, please quit. A lot of people die from smoking and not only the smokers but also the people around you inhaling the fume.
well i am moving to a new school. i mean these girls are beautiful and very mature. i made 3 new friends over AIM but they seem to be real sexually active. like they grind with boys, make out, and one girl even sticks her hand down boys pants! but i have never even kissed a boy and there are parties and stuff and i dont think i know how to grind or kiss or anything. I find it kind of gross but, i want to fit in. wat do i do?
First of all, how old are you? Going to school means that you aren't over 18 yet. I think. Making out isn't uncommon. Grinding and sticking hands down boys pants?!?!!? They are just selling themselves short!
Just know that you should NEVER change yourself to fit in. Within time, you'll find the gorup you belong with.
Maybe you're not as experienced as these girls. But who cares? If they are truely your friends, they would understand and not make fun or pressure you to do any of these stuff.
If you find it gross, don't do it. You'll know when it's the right time for you. Not them. Not anyone else. ONLY you.
Don't sell yourself short and risk being called a slut or such. Just be yourself and find the kind of people who respect you for who you are.
hey,
i have a question that has been stumping me for a while now and i was hoping you all could possibly help me on my lil situation. so here is the question
when you loose a friend who was really close to you a friend that called you a name and you called them one as in nicknames and it seems that they have forgotten you but you know you will never forget them and you will do everything to try to have the realtionship even if it is a friend that is a minor
how would you come about trying to regain a friendship of the past???
like how would you attempt to get a friendship with a person of the past. even if you mesed up in the past but have changed now. how can you try to find somthing in that person for them to notice you???
if you can answer anything on this then please do. any help is greatfully thanked.
you are all amazing people and god bless to you all.
monn
I know what it feels like to lose your best friend. I've moved around a lot and I've lost two of my best friends that I will NEVER forget. Great friends never forget about one another. Just know that. But you've got to remeber that friendships can't last forever. Friends come and go. As we grow up, we change and start to have different interests. If you can find what your friend is interested in, try and set up an activity to do together. Remember the first time you guys met and there was the one thing that was the most memoriable thing you guys did together? Why don't you do that?
im 16/f going into the 11th grade this year. now of course, all the teachers are going to say "get ideas on what college you want to go to & what you want your career to be" but really, i don't know what i should do. since i only have 2 more years of hs left & take the SATS this year, i really want to have an idea of what i should be doing. i know what most of you are probably thinking. most kids decide a few years into college, but i really don't think i should do that. most of the time, i thought i would become a nurse. most people say 'thats what i should do' because im good with people & i dont get grossed out easily. ive watched surgerys before in the OR & i find it intersting. on the other hand, i really like computers. im good with HTML & web design & i also can fix them. i go over to my grandparents house a lot & always seem to fix things & hook it up for them. this doesn't seem like a job to me, this seems like fun. basically what im asking is, what do you guys think about my situation & if i do decide to go to college for computers, what good colleges can i go to in the PA, NY, NJ area & what are jobs i can do??
thanks!!
It's the best choice to pick what you will be majoring in and stick with it when you go to college. It's a really good idea to know what field you want to be in. Are you good in math and science? Pick a medical, scientific field. (Doctor, Scientist, Surgeon, Dentist, Nurse, Biologists).Then ask. Are you a indoor or outdoor person? Are you better off with people, animals, or just by yourself? Are you good in English and History? There's always lawyers, authors, teaching history or literature (this applies to math and science), historian. And again, ask the same questions. Indoor or outdoor? etc. Picking a job is might be one of the difficult choices in life. Just ask your self a bunch of questions. Are you good with people? If so a child or adult? Animals? Water or land? By yourself? Get my drift? If you need more help, just email me at xchoke_on_Dead_hopex@yahoo.com and i'll give you a better exlaination and help you
ive been "together" with this kid juan for over a year & a half now and he had a girlfriend a month or so before we started being "together" and recently he went to the dominican republic and i started hanging out with this kid jose, and i started to catch feelings for him really really quick, and now juan told me he broke up with delisia so me and him can be together. but jose asked me out like 4 days ago and i told him i dont know because of the hole me & juan situation, and jose got really upset. an i just dont know what to do.. its like a love triangle. ive tried to ask my friends about it and their like i dont know what to tell you & blahblahblah. and im like so depressed & confused. last night when jose was driving me home we were talking about it and he was like no matter what you do im going to be here for you, you know i really do care about you alot and i dont want to interfear with you 2. but its up to you & he gave me a kiss on the forhead & wouldnt stop hugging me. and i dont know, juans the total opposite way. he only acts like that when were alone & like latly we`ve been fighting over the computer about i dont even know what for no reason at all and im ready to just give up with everything & just say forget them both cause its really hurting me and i cant play either one of them cause thats not who i am and i dont want to hurt either one of them .... can someone PlEASE HElP ME ?! =[
Well, it seems like Juan isn't ready to show you off in front of the guys yet. But he did break up with his girlfriend to be with you. Still it seems like he's not ready for a stable relationship. Jose on the other hand seems to be really into you saying he would wait for you and such. Why don't you suggest that you and Juan have a little time off each other and see other people for a while to see if you and Juan should be together or not. If he agrees, see if you and Josa have a better relationship...if Juan isn't too happy with the idea, break it off with him. Tell him that you're really sorry and you know that he broke up with his girlfriend for you, but that you think he's not really ready to go right back into dating again.
i've been having dreams about this boy. he's not a stranger to me, but he's not a good friend either. the last time i saw him was sunday, july 30th at a party. i would say that i'm attractive to him, but not in a crush kind of way. that night, i had a dream about him. it was about me and him kissing in my room. i thought that i dreamt that because i love seeing him and that, like i said, am attractive to him. then, two days after that, august 1st, i had another dream about him. this was about us seeing each other in a store, i hugged him, he asked me out, then i gave him a peck in the cheek. it was more detailed, but i don't really wanna make it too detailed. i told my good friend about this, and she thought that it was weird that i was having dreams about him and that maybe i'm starting to like him. well, since sunday, i've been paying attention to most things that makes me think of him. i think the hug from sunday gave me this feeling. before i left the party, we hugged. it felt really good, and i wanted to keep holding on to him. since then, all this has been happening. i still don't think i have a crush on him, but it seems like i do. i think maybe it's just beginning? he's really cute, with dimples to die for! he's funny, and he's pretty smart. everything i would want. i don't know if i'm starting to like him, but if i am, i don't wanna get too attached, because i don't think i'm his "type", although i'm not so sure. but it just doesn't seem like something he would do - ask me out.
i was wondering what you think about it? what should i do and stuff?
Well I have a friend (let's call him John) He's really funny and awesome and has a great personality with the best hair flip =P I sorta liked him but sorta didn't in a boyfriendish way. I had a dream of him and me kissing and then I began to have doubts about my feelings for him. That was a long time ago and I found out that I only liked him as a friend. Maybe you need to just wait a little bit more and see if you liking him is directed toward the boyfriend way or the best buddy kind of way. Later on if you find out that you like him as a boyfriend, start flirting but don't get attached. If he doesnt ask you out, YOU ask him out. The reason I tell you not to get attatched is because if you do, two things will happend. 1)You guys may just remain friends and 2)The break up will hurt (since there's no guarentee that you guys will be hearing the same wedding bells). If you like him as a friend, get to know him better, be his friend. He seems like a really nice guy =] Hope everything works out
Help,
I lke a boy but he has told me that he dosen't like me so eevry time i am around him though i just can't stop looking at him and i don't want to be a fool around him what can i do?!?
giver19
That happened to me one. I asked my crush if he wanted to go to the dance with me and he said he only looked at me as a friend. It was a heartbreak but soon I found out it was the best that he could've done for me. You don't have to be so nervous around him. Friendship is much more valuable than being his girlfriend. Enjoy your friendship because there are many new things girlfriends can't do with him. Be foolish, act stupid and such. Just have a good time and think of him as your best friend =]