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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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So, Im a 13 year old girl who cuts. I started at 11. Its nothing big. Im happy most of the time. Except at home. Im not looking for people judging. I have about 7 people i talk to about everything. But only 2 know it all. Im just wondering, what to do? How can i stop? Is there an easy way out? How do i avoid questions about scars? Do i just say i cut myself? Or do i stay silent? What can i do to get rid of the scars? Someone??
While I agree with Witty
I learned that cutting is a form of depression, It is a way some people seek to cope with their emotions. The best way to stop is not only to seek an alternative by doing multiple things but also seeking therapy or a support group. A psychiatrist may be able to get you on antidepressant medications if you need to be on them. While cutting can be triggered from numerous things and sometimes while we think it may be the way out it only leaves nothing but scars and painful memories. It is a fact that many people who cut actually end up inducing the pain by self inflicted injury that leads to scarring. Onto what Witty suggested; Use an alternative. Find something that you enjoy and keeps you busy whether it may be reading, writing etc. I've found that when I'm in my depressive state or I've got things running through my mind that journalism helps tremendously. It's great for the mind and excellent way to cope with feelings.
P.S. For scars you can try using Bio oil or Merderma
What should I have at school if I have my period
Use a pad I'd imagine they would be more comfortable anyway. When you go to school just bring two pads and put them in your backpack with a change of underwear if you need. Can never be too safe!
13/f
I was with my cousin today hes 18 and he was touching in the wrong places. I told him to stop, but he said that he knows I like it. Now I feel really dirty what should i do.
Report it
Tell your parents. That is disgusting and very very very wrong of him to do. That is sexual abuse/molestation. You need to tell someone, An adult preferably a parent and let them handle it. Please do not let the dirty bastard get away with it, You didn't do anything wrong. HE IS WRONG 100% and you need to report him for what he did.
Can you get pregnant from fingering youself? I'm really scared I finger myself everyday and I've gotton my period already
You can't get pregnant from fingering yourself, In order to get pregnant you have to come in contact with a penis and sex comes later on in life when your much older.
Im 24yrs old female partnered for 8 years two children an he hits me he has had a aggressive upbringing and a motocross crash Which left him with a fused ankle,pain and a anger problem I love him an don't want to leave him, I don't never want anyone else but my old partner back should I leave him
He hits you? Why the hell would you put up with that crap from anyone?
I don't care how long you've known someone and if he is the father of your children, If the man is abusive then GET OUT. Men that are abusive need professional help. If you have children involved then you need to do what is best for you and your children! Staying with someone who abuses you is only going to set a real bad example for your kids. I don't care what his excuse is about some accident, There is NO excuse for abusing someone. Dump his coward ass, A real man doesn't hit women
Hi everyone i'm 23 yrs old and a young mom i have a situation and would like some input,I've been going over this so many times and don't know what to think.Today my boyfriend of 2yrs and myself got into a heated argument and I wanted to go home (we live apart but stay over at times) anyway i got all my things threw it in his truck and in the process scratched the interior leather roof of his truck and he flipped out our 3 month old was strapped in the back during all this and i was sitting in the back with her . He got out and started calling me a bitch and to get out i refused because of our daughter was still strapped in and he tried pulling me out and when i didn't get out he punched me twice in the stomach out of anger of what i did.My question is he going to do it again, am i in the wrong for starting it by throwing my things ?and should i stay for the sake our daughter? I'm still in shock and don't know what to think of the situation its the first time something like this happened.
Get out, Stop seeing him and press charges.
That IS the best thing you can do for both you and your daughter, I don't care what the argument was about that is ABUSE it is wrong on so many levels. Yes, I would go to the police station file a report and press charges against him and for the sake of you and your daughter please seek a restraining order on the bastard. Generally, Something like this usually happens again as long as you allow it too. There is a child involved, You as a mother and for yourself need to take the proper steps to protect the both of you. In the meantime DO NOT contact him, Don't answer his text, calls, emails, facebook messages. The guy is abusive and he COULD OF took it out on the baby and I thank god that child was strapped to the car seat in the process. Imagine what could of happened if that child was were in your hands?
Go to the police and file a report, If you have to go to the cell phone carrier and have them block his number and please block him on facebook.
Abuse is abuse, There is NO what, ifs and's about it.
Things are going very well with me and him. The reason he couldn't come and see me was because his grandma is dying and he wanted to spend more time with her. She seemed really sick when i went and visited her with him once, now, she is just getting worse. He gave me a promie ring for an early valentines day present...he told me that once he gets out that he PROMISES to change his enviorment, friends, habits, and people he talks to. He told me he would NEVER cheat on me or ever hurt me. I believe him....yes, he did use my friend. But she is stuipder than me, and puts out easier than me. He told me he never used her....he said that she asked if he wanted to have sex, and him being a boy, asked her out before they did..and said yes to having sex. He is straightening up very well, without me even having to say anything. My best friend (who dated his best guy friend) told me that she txted him if he REALLY DOES like me,And he replied to her "hell yea, I love her with everything I got..I plan on spending my life with her
Why the hell do you keep repeating the same exact question if you don't like what we are going to tell you?
My answer still stays the same from your previous question. The guy is a dirt bag, They don't change. They change WHEN THEY WANT TO CHANGE. Seriously, It doesn't matter how stupid your friend may be. YES, You are just as gullible as your friend you convince yourself that he is going to change, You believe everything he tells you. You don't see how that is gullible? lol
You are setting yourself up for a long haul, If I remember correctly you are ONLY 13 years old. Who in the right mind excepts a promise ring at 13?! I couldn't agree with Nascar anymore then I do. People who rush things end up ending things. TRUST ME, I am a lot older than you and I know from experience. You are just setting yourself up to fail by being with this dude. Peer pressure that is exactly what it is, You got to have some sort of noggin to get by in this world. You don't know shit, Sorry if that is harsh but hun love IS NOT manipulating someone. The best and smartest choice you could possibly make is to dump the jerk and keep it that way. Stop letting other people talk you into things and convince you, You need to learn to think for yourself not let others think for you. Part of growing up is knowing RIGHT from WRONG. You are not "in love" if you were in love you wouldn't be here asking us these questions. Your friends don't know shit, You don't either. You are just another girl on the sidelines in his eyes. Plain and simple! Just because your his girlfriend doesn't make you anymore special then this friend of yours that he used. Once you open them legs, His ass moves onto the next bootycall.
Ok, so i'm recieving scary messages that might be one of my old friends that hate me. The end of the text messages say "-" then an initial.. What?!
What do i do?
Block them, Call the cell phone company and tell them that you are receiving harassing text messages. They might block the number free once but anytime after that they will charge you a $10.00 fee after. Either that or ask if you can have your cell phone number changed!
If it bothers you that much go to the police and have them give a warning but from past experience the police don't do much over a text message. I would go to the cell phone carrier and have them block it or change your number. If these people send nasty text messages DON'T answer them, Answering them is giving the person exactly what they want. Ignore them, Block them and leave it at that.
I'm 19/f. My boyfriend is 18/m. I've been trying for about a month now to decide what to do with my relationship. I've gone back and forth about it so many times that my minds just GONE concerning the situation. It's gotten to the point where I'm so confused and unhappy that I've been crying every single day. I've been dating this guy for 16 months. We have had our ups and downs, but I really think that our problems are my fault. For starters, I was in a 1-year relationship with someone else right before I met my current boyfriend, and I was unhappy in that relationship, so I broke up with that guy and almost immediately started dating my current boyfriend. I think that jumping into this current relationship was my first mistake. I didn't allow myself any time to recover or soul search after the last relationship, so I really feel like I have lost sight of myself, and who I want to be, almost completely at this point. I've changed to please other people, especially my boyfriend, and I know he's changed to please me. We care about each others feelings so much that we aren't able to be ourselves anymore. We also got really serious really fast. It's to the point now where I feel like I'm trapped in a committment so serious that I basically feel married. I'm not comfortable with that feeling at this point in my life, and I want to be free from it. I feel like I grew up too fast, and I want to go back and see what I missed out on. When my current boyfriend and I first started dating, everything was great. We were super close, could talk to each other for hours, and did lots of fun and spontaneous things. We were together all day, every day for almost all of the year and a half we 've been together. We used to hang out all night until 5am on school nights almost every night because I was just crazy about him. I shut out my friends and everything else in my life and put him first, which was fine for a while, but soon I missed the other parts of life. I told him I needed space. So he granted my wish, and we tried hanging out less, but obviously I had gotten used to having him around all the time and missed that, so I'd call him WHENEVER I had a free moment, and the cycle of being isolated from my social life continued. Now, whenever I hang out with my boyfriend, the atmosphere between us is SO uptight. I act uptight, which makes him act uptight, which makes me act uptight. Being on edge all the time makes us get into plenty of pointless arguements. He never wants to hang out in a group, so I feel held back from so many social situations. It's almost like he wants to smother me and keep me away from everyone else, but not consciously. I don't even know if I can genuinely be happy around him anymore, but he's a really sweet guy, so I always try to be happy because I want it to work out. I want us to be happy together! But another huge problem I have is that my eyes have wandered multiple times during this relationship. I have had feelings for 2 other guys while we've been together, and it's been so bad that I've even admitted it to my boyfriend. I never have physically cheated, but I did seriously think about what it would be like to be with those other guys. My boyfriend stayed with me though, and we worked through it. I have so many questions that I want answers to, like why would I be interested in other guys if I have a boyfriend? Is there something missing in my relationship? Do I just want attention from other guys? Am I just too committed and I don't want to be tied down yet? I just feel like I've been selfish to this guy who has done nothing but treat me well and forgive me for my misbehavior, and I really want to change, because I don't want to hurt him anymore, and if it doesn't work out with him, I don't want these problems to continue over into every relationship I ever have. Another problem is that my boyfriend doesn't have a job right now and he barely graduated high school and hasn't gone to college. I'm very ambitious about my future; I go to school full time and ive already begun my career at the same time. I feel like I have to take control of my boyfriend's life because he's not taking control of it, and I really have tried to help him. I basically have held his hand to try and get him a job and into community college. I printed out all the forms for school for him, and I drove him around town and helped him search online for jobs multiple times. I want to feel more like his girlfriend and less like his mom. I know that it's not his fault that he doesn't know what he wants to do with his life yet, and I respect that, and I know times are tough as far as getting a job..but I know what I want to do with my life, and I am making it happen for myself. I want him to be more driven. I don't know what else I can do to encourage him. It's become a problem because I think that our lifestyles are making us grow apart, or at least they will eventually. It's been tough to be the only serious committment in his life, too, because it puts a lot of pressure on me. And he doesn't understand that I have other committments. I really just need someone to tell me which path I should take. I tried taking a break to sort out my feelings. We didn't speak to each other for two days, and I was totally fine with it. At the end of the break, I broke up with him, because I figured that if I could be without him for two days, I'd be able to do it for good. But I quickly relapsed and was throwing rocks at his window two days later, begging him to talk to me. I was crying so much and was so relieved to see him that I kissed him and we got back together. Then we broke up again, an after being on and off for the past week, we're currently together. Meanwhile, my sister's best guy friend has a crush on me, and I ironically had a dream about him that we were more than friends. There is a lot of chemistry between me and him, and we've been talking a LOT, like all day every day, amidst all of these problems with my boyfriend. So now there's basically a love triangle going on, and I'm stuck in that situation too, and it's so confusing. The other guy makes me feel happy and alive for once. I'm developing a crush on him, and he's been the one that I've been thinking about all day every day, not my boyfriend.:( I know it's wrong to think about another guy, and it's so hard for me to even admit it! Whyyyy is it happening?! I don't know why it's happening. I DO NOT want to jump into another relationship though, ever again. I need to figure myself and these problems out first, and I recognize that. I also REALLY care about my boyfriend, and his feelings.. and point of view, so much. He's my entire world; I consider him a part of me, and he has been for such a long time. But I don't feel passionate about him. I love him. Well, I thought that I loved him. He's been my first; I initiated losing my virginity to him. I think I do love him and that I always will, but I'm not 100% sure. I still do have love for him, but if I really loved him, why do I have all these doubts and problems? Can it be fixed? How can I work it out with him? Or is it just hopeless? Thank you so much for reading, and sorry it's long.
Honestly?
It sounds like you already know what you should do, Sometimes the truth hurts inside but in the end you need to do what is best for YOU not your boyfriend. I learned the hard way from my last relationship that in order to be happy with someone, You need to be happy with yourself first. Judging from what you have written you aren't happy in your relationship. The stress of your boyfriend not having a job is taking a toll, The fact that you are on your way to success is leaning you towards interest in other men because you want something that your boyfriend can't give you at this time. My advice to you is to relax, I think it might be best to just call the relationship off, You stated you didn't talk to for two days and you were okay with it. There is your answer, You need to focus on yourself at this point in your life. Stress and crying all the time isn't going to help you move on and do what you need to do for yourself.
Now there a few options, If you feel you need a break for awhile then sit down and talk to him about it. Tell him that right now you need to get your life on track and clear your head. Call it a two week break and then come and talk again and see where you are. If you two think you can handle it then take it from there.
If you aren't happy, Then you aren't happy. If the whole thing is not manageable then you know what you need to do. Sometimes we need to put ourselves before others in order to succeed. If you think you are better off without him then be honest with him about it and go your separate ways. What you seek may not be what your boyfriend can give you. If you decide to move on I would take it very slow, Don't rush things. Sometimes rushing a relationship is how you end up ruin things. Now my honesty, If I were in your shoes I'd probably move on. A relationship isn't worth tears of unhappiness, You are not entitled to sacrifice your happiness because you have been with him for awhile. Do what makes YOU happy and what is best for YOU. Now to throw it in there, I wouldn't try and remain friends either. Remaining friends with an ex is more stress and drama and rarely does it ever work out. Make the process easier for yourself by cutting contact.
okayy... welll! my boyfriend and i were making love today, and we wore a condom. and then like 15 or 20 minutes later we were fooling around again and we were playing with new posistions and didn't use a condom. but he didnt' cum inside me... i was just curious as to could this make me pregnant?
If the penis had contact with the vagina, Yes.
It doesn't matter if he ejaculated or not. If you two had sex previously with a condom on and he ejaculated then and didn't clean himself then yes it's possible.
If you don't want a pregnancy then use a condom and be safe. From your question, You are nowhere ready for a child.
Im an 18 year old female and a nympho. The other day I was really horny and my boyfriend was at work so I decided for some reason to look up lesbian porn and old men and young women porn to masturbate to. I'm not attracted to either,girls or older men. Later that night he asked to use my phone and let him,which was probably a mistake. He went to google and it showed the list of things I looked up such as lesbian porn and old men porn. I knew he saw it because it wasnt the last thing i looked up and when he saw it in the google window he clicked on it and left it on that site.The rest of the night it was awkward and then he started talking to me like nothing happened but I knew he saw it so I couldn't help but be quiet. Lastnight he texted me and asked why I was so quiet and I said because of what you saw..obviously. I don't know what to say or why I did it. I feel fucked up in the head for doing it and more the old men porn. Now he wants a few days for space to think. I'm fine with that but I feel like he just found out the biggest secret about me and I don't want him weirded out. Idk what to do or what to think. I love my boyfriend 100% and I don't want this ruin anything. I'm not a lesbian,never will be,I'm not attracted to older men..I just don't know why I looked up what I did..? Answers on all of this please
Do you have any idea of how many people that look at porn when they are in a relationship? It's completely normal.
Because someone in a relationship with someone doesn't mean that they have no right to look a porn. I am in a healthy relationship, We have a healthy sex life and I still look at porn. My partner looks at porn and sometimes we even watch it together. You don't have to be sexually attracted to girls or older men, Everyone has fantasies and different things that turn them on. Again, This is all completely normal
Try talking to him about it.
Hi, I'm in desperate need of advice on how to get through a long distance relationship. I'm from New Zealand and my boyfriend has moved to Christchurch for university. I live in Auckland which is in the North Island. He's in the South. How do I learn to cope with the distance? We are both 18 and have been going out for well over a year.
Please any advice or personal experiences with LDR's (long distant relationships) would be much appreciated. I really love him and would do anything for him and to keep him.
P.S attached is a photo of NZ to gauge the distance.
http://www.nz-tourism.com/new_zealand_images/new-zealand-map3.gif
Long distance relationships are very difficult I'm not going to lie to you. I was in one for 5 years, The things you would need to consider is the time and effort as well as the stress.
I will give you a little taste of my experience, My ex live just a little over an 1 1/2 away. While that may seem like nothing compared to your distance let me explain something.
We lived in two different states and I did not have a car so in order to see him I had to be willing to travel using public transportation. If I caught a local bus at 11am I wouldn't arrive to his house until 2pm. While the traveling was fun for awhile it became EXHAUSTING after doing it for so long and with the poor economy here in the US the cost for public transportation because to creep up to the point where I just couldn't really afford it anymore. The stress of us being apart was unbearable at times because we used to struggle to keep our relationship strong. It was difficult, I would stay a week but I would come home for two weeks then go back up for a week and it began to interfere with my job. The traveling became overwhelming and problematic and before I knew it I was draining myself out and I just couldn't do it anymore. My ex originally lived an hour away when we first met then moved another half hour out. In time, We had trust issues and we just gradually began to fall out. I learned in time that it would be best for the both of us to move on and do what we need to do in our lives.
My advice to you is not to waste your youth waiting around for someone who is far away from you. I was with my ex for 5 years and that is a long time but I still managed to put myself first. Sometimes we need to do what we have to do in order to move on and get where we need to be in our lives. Your boyfriend has in a way moved on with life, He went to college. Sometimes things hurt like hell but in the end everything happens for a reason. Trust me, I wish I had moved on sooner because it did me nothing but prolong the pain when I could of been focusing on my life all along...
my boyfriend wants to do anal but i dont know if its a good idea. i need help!
This is a personal choice only you can make, We cannot tell you if we think you should or not. Everyone's experience is a little different then others. Some will tell you it's pleasurable while others will tell you it hurts like hell.
Only YOU know whether it's a good idea. However judging on the fact that you had to ask complete strangers I'm going to assume you aren't ready to try it. Wait until you are fully ready to try something new or else you are going to put yourself in a real uncomfortable situation.
TRying to remember a movie that has come out in the last 6 months.
I havent seen it i just remember the trailer and i would like to know the name
FRom what I have been told it was about a group of friends/people who had escaped death and in some ways "death was angry and wanted them" and so unfortunate events kept happening to try and kill there people
it was realsed sometime last year. any ideas?
Would it be Final Destination 5??
19 F
So my boyfriend is a really plain guy! Haha. He doesnt like sports that much, or anything like that. So i really dont know what to get him for Valentines day. I mean we have 5 months together so offcourse i want to get him something cute . But idk what? He doesnt like cologne, or candy, or teddy bears. Any ideas on what i can give him on this day that he would like?
Anything is appreciated (:
I know this is going to sound pretty weird but does your boyfriend like pizza?
I'm not sure what pizza places are doing it but I do know that Papa Johns is making a heart shaped pizza this year. Call around and ask! ;)
When I was younger my father would chase me into my room and beat me over the littlest things (ie saying I don't like broccoli), but after he got arrested he stopped, mostly. But now my older brother is taking after him. He is a six-foot-four three hundred pound football player, and has tried to break my neck before, and today punched me in the ribs and now I can't breathe right or move my left arm. When I told my parents they told me to grow up and stop being so dramatic. What can I do? (16-year-old girl)
Report it
A school counselor, An adult you trust, Even the police.
This is a child abuse, It's wrong. You aren't being dramatic when someone hits someone it's abuse.
Take pictures of any bruises, Record it with your cell phone and bring any other evidence you may have to the police station. There is no need to be scared as you did nothing wrong but not reporting this could only make matters much much worse so PLEASE make sure you get help.
You having trouble breathing could be a broken rib, He could of even punched you so hard you could have internal bleeding. I'm not trying to scare you sweetie but you need to realize how serious this is. If you feel pain and are unable to breathe then PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE call 911! You can talk to someone at the hospital and tell them what happen. You are 16 years old, You have the right to patient privacy as there is a law called HIPAA basically it's a law about patient privacy act. You can talk to a doctor alone and tell them what you've told us above and they can help you and they can talk to the police for you if you feel more comfortable.
This is for your well being and 911 is open 24.7 so if you feel you need to go to the hospital please call them!
Here is a 24 hour hotline you can call ANYTIME
1−800−799−SAFE(7233)
Go to the police!
I really miss my ex and we've hanged out a bit but I really want him to want me back and show him what he's missing. His best friend sure thinks he's missing out on a lot for some reason. Should I send him a picture? How would he take it?
Are you kidding me? Why the hell would you go and sell yourself off like that?
You want to send nude photos to show him what he is missing? Do you respect yourself AT ALL?! I'm not sure if you are aware but sending nude photos through a cell phone while under the age of 18 is considered child PORNOGRAPHY. Whether deleted or not, It can be traced. A cell phone is just like a computer deleted or not it still stores hidden files and is completely traceable.
Instead of desperately trying to crawl back to someone who dumped you just move on and get the hell over it. Learn to respect yourself, You are giving off the wrong impression and you keep doing that somewhere down the line you are going to give yourself a real bad rep. That is if you don't already have one.
Sending him a photo isn't going to make him want to come back to you, It's going to prove nothing to him but the fact that you are desperate and willing to sell your body as a catch. If he wanted you, He would of gone back to you for YOU not your body. Using your body like that is the wrong way to grab anyone's attention. Stop being desperate and move on
So I recently met this guy, thing is...I've known him sience we were little. we apparently stopped talking because he went to juvy wen he was 6 for grand theft auto. We started dating on christmas of 2011 (last year). My life has been amazing ever sience! I love being with him, around him, and anything that has to do with seeing him. Right now, he is 15 and I'm 13 (don't tell me I'm too young for anything I'm going to say). He is in a residential center right now until march. He has done stuff he isn't proud of, but he tells me that he loves me and is going to change once he gets out. I've also done things I'm not so proud of, so we can relate. I feel like i can trust him, but the thing is.....we usually see eachother on saturdays when he gets out on pass..but yesterday...he didn't show up. I have no idea what is going on and I'm kinda getting scared. I think something happened, but I don't know what. Time for the weird and personal stuff.....he had sex with one of my friends friend, but he only used her for sex....nothing else....he. never loved her, but he told her he did....my friend keeps telling me that he truly does love me, and that if he didn't...he wouldn't go through so much hassle just to be with me...we've been dating for almost 2 months, the girl he only used for sex dated him for 2 weeks, then he dumped her. He hasent tried to rush things with me at all! That is what im suprised about. I dont know what to do! I just think he would cheat on me once he gets out, because my mother keeps telling me that he is using me for a safe place to go when he gets out on his passes....soo... ..my questions are...
#1: Does he seem pretty honest?
#2: Do you think i should trust him?
#3: Do you think he would cheat on me when he gets out?
#4: Do you think he is just using me?
#5: What could I do to show him i truly love him?
#6: Is it weird to worry this much about him?
THANKIES!!!! XD
Don't ever use the word wigger, That is racist, offensive and extremely insulting.
Now to answer your questions
1, If your boyfriend went and used your friend, Convinced her that he had feelings for her when he didn't then there is a very high chance that he is doing the same thing to do. You are nothing but just another girl he is keeping on the side lines. A player is a player, A cheater is a cheater. They aren't going to change for you even if they promise you they will. They chance and do things on their OWN time at their OWN time.
2, Why the hell would you trust someone like that? The kid pretty much has done everything possible to destroy your trust. I would never put my trust into a jerk like that.
3, Your friends are wrong, He doesn't love you. The guy loves the fact that he can use you because you are very likely gullible and believe anything he tells you. Someone like him uses that too his advantage and he knows that.
4, Is he being honest? No. The guy can't even being honest with himself he most certainly isn't going to be honest with you.
5, Is he cheating on you? Probably. The guy certainly didn't hesitate to use your friend and take her feelings into consideration, He isn't going to take yours into consideration. You can't change people, He needs to grow up and stop acting like a little boy and again that is something he will do on his own time not at your time.
You have known this kid for years, He is known to have a bad rep. The kid is already 15 and he is still known to cause trouble. Someone like that doesn't have goals in their lives, Right now he is going nowhere. If you want better then go out and find better because what you've describe isn't a relationship. You are just a doormat he can use whenever he pleases, Move on and find better for yourself and stop contacting the ass cause he isn't worth it.
People at my school call me emo.
I cut myself,(Which i'm trying to stop) and I do kinda wear a lot of black...
My friend is emo, and she is like me.
The other day, my friend dared me to cut myself with a rock, and I did...
Am i Emo?
You are not "Emo" and doing what your "friends" tell you do isn't going to make you emo.
Friends don't dare other friends to harm themselves, Sounds to me this isn't a friend. Also, If you are trying to be "emo" I think you are misunderstanding the term.
Emo refers to someone who is emotional, It is not a style or a way of life. I would say you are easily influenced. It's not cool, It's not awesome and it's not going to gain popularity by trying to be someone your not.
this girl is ALWAYS staring me down. shes a wannabe bad ***. she stares me down, gives me cold looks,and shes always talking about me , I hear her all of the time, shes not a good whisperer. She talks about me to her friends and they don't even talk about me or have a problem with me. I am not a mean person at all, I don't fight and argue with people and I have no idea why this girl doesn't like me. She gets mad when her friends come over and talk to me. It really gets on my nerves cuz I take 3 classes with her and shes always staring me down and giving me mean looks. I have never done anything to her and I overhear her all of the time talking about me to somebody, I hear her every time. She gets pissed when her friends talk to me and I overheard her telling them she doesn't like when they talk to me. I cant stand it when I walk into class and shes staring me down and giving me mean looks, its annoying and shes been doing it all school year. im not good at confronting people, I don't like arguing and fighting. I Have never been a b**ch to anyone lol. please help. what should i say/do?
Ignore her, People who tend to go out and pick on people are obviously trying to get a reaction out of them. If people never gave a reaction to bullying then why the hell would people go out and pick on others? I'd be pointless.
If you don't show a reaction then she isn't going to get a reaction. Trust me, If she wants to be a bitch let her. I'm sure her friends will learn soon enough that they no longer want to be associated with someone that acts like she does. Sometimes you don't need to be a bitch, The girl is insecure about herself and that is exactly why she picks on you. Sometimes people pick on others because it makes them feel better, Maybe she stares you down because there is something about you that she envy's you for.
Also to point it out there if you show you don't give two shits she will eventually get bored and move on. If you hear her talk about you I bet any money it would really piss her off if you laugh it off and act like you don't care ;) She isn't a good whisperer because she is deliberately trying to grab your attention and seek a reaction.
Let her continue to make a fool of herself, You be the bigger person by laughing if off and walking away.