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Heated argument got physical dont know what to do?
Hi everyone i'm 23 yrs old and a young mom i have a situation and would like some input,I've been going over this so many times and don't know what to think.Today my boyfriend of 2yrs and myself got into a heated argument and I wanted to go home (we live apart but stay over at times) anyway i got all my things threw it in his truck and in the process scratched the interior leather roof of his truck and he flipped out our 3 month old was strapped in the back during all this and i was sitting in the back with her . He got out and started calling me a bitch and to get out i refused because of our daughter was still strapped in and he tried pulling me out and when i didn't get out he punched me twice in the stomach out of anger of what i did.My question is he going to do it again, am i in the wrong for starting it by throwing my things ?and should i stay for the sake our daughter? I'm still in shock and don't know what to think of the situation its the first time something like this happened.
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I was in an abusive relationship for over a year, I always though that maybe he would change....they don't he needs counseling or something. If he is hitting you over something stupid like that in front of your child no less! He has major issues and believe me you do not want to stay to see how it ends up..or what your child is going to end up seeing! It will be hard but get away while it is early it will be easier! I stayed too log and it ended up very bad, he beat me in highschool and got caught, he got kicked out of school and we had to go to court and the whole oreadl was terrible!
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I agree with Zane, you need to file a police report and to ask them for help in how to get a restraining order against him.
To answer your questions: "is he going to do it again, am i in the wrong for starting it by throwing my things."
Yes he will do it again. If he hit you once he will hit you again for. 1) He has anger management issues. 2) Once an abuser always an abuser. If he hit you once he will do so again.
You may have been wrong for throwing things into his truck. I really can't say yes or no as I was not there. What I can say is right or wrong is no reason for him to hit you.
What I will say is staying with someone for the sake of a child or children is always wrong. Children are very perceptive even one as young as yours is. They know when something is wrong and it does effect then. Better to be form a broken happy home then from a dysfunctional home.
Make sure you see a lawyer and get the proper court orders to have your boyfriend ordered to support child as required by the laws in your state. You also want to request the court order supervised visitation if he asks for visitation. by filing a police report you will show his violent tendency and the need for supervised visitation.
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WOW...this touched me deeply... im 22 yrs old also a young mother...so what i say to you is coming from the heart... GET OUT! i dont care how much you love him care for him or want a family with him..you can not let your daughter see those things or grow up thinking thats okay..i made the choice to leave my daughters father right after she was born because we to got into an argument and he hit me..no matter if he only did it to you its unsafe for your daughter..stand up and fight for your daughter and get help...go to the police get his rights taken away so you have 100% control over your daughter..your strong enough to handle this situation so prove and show your daughter the right thing to do in life and to never put up with a BOY putting his hands on you..take time to yourself and the right MAN will come along and be a real father figure for your daughter to look up to.
message me if you need anything im here...my daughter is now 6 months.
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Get out, Stop seeing him and press charges.
That IS the best thing you can do for both you and your daughter, I don't care what the argument was about that is ABUSE it is wrong on so many levels. Yes, I would go to the police station file a report and press charges against him and for the sake of you and your daughter please seek a restraining order on the bastard. Generally, Something like this usually happens again as long as you allow it too. There is a child involved, You as a mother and for yourself need to take the proper steps to protect the both of you. In the meantime DO NOT contact him, Don't answer his text, calls, emails, facebook messages. The guy is abusive and he COULD OF took it out on the baby and I thank god that child was strapped to the car seat in the process. Imagine what could of happened if that child was were in your hands?
Go to the police and file a report, If you have to go to the cell phone carrier and have them block his number and please block him on facebook.
Abuse is abuse, There is NO what, ifs and's about it.
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I believe that a man should never hit a woman, in my eye's he is not a man. He had no right to lay a hand on you.
Just like the person below me said, he needs anger management classes and you two need to sit down with a counselor and have a talk.
Now the situation is a lot harder since he is the father of your child, in my opinion that environment is not safe for you nor for your child.
I believe if he was angry enough to hit you over something as stupid as that then I think he'd be willing to do it again.
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You can not stay in this situation and allow your daughter to grow up thinking that, that is alright. I think you should suggest to him if he would like to stay in a committed relationship with you than you think you both need to see a counselor together and he needs some anger management. It is never okay for anyone to hit you and it was not your fault because you threw your things. He should of talked to you about it.
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