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How to stop him hitting me
Im 24yrs old female partnered for 8 years two children an he hits me he has had a aggressive upbringing and a motocross crash Which left him with a fused ankle,pain and a anger problem I love him an don't want to leave him, I don't never want anyone else but my old partner back should I leave him
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Tight Situation for Sure. I believe you should sit down an talk with him. Tell him how you've been feeling and your plans if he dosnt change. Give him a couple weeks after that talk, and see what justice it did. if hes been trying to be nicer, stick with it, and work on select problems and solutions together as a couple, if he reacts badly and says things like "whatever, or I dont care" or is flat out mean about it, then leave, Because he dosnt plan to change. Goodluck, Hope to hear things went well.
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I would suggest telling him if you love me you will get help and if he refuses to get help no matter how much you don't want to you need to leave him you and you're kids are more important and you shouldn't have to live everyday in fear
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You are in a ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP. No one has the right to hit another. This is something we all learned as small children. As boys are mothers told us over and over we can never hit a women.
I understand he is in pain. I suffer from chronic pain as a result of an auto accident that should have killed me. That doesn't give me the right to hit my wife and I have never in 40 years of marriage ever raised a hand in anger to her and never will. I know what pain feels like, I know how it makes you feel. I also know there are way to deal with it that will make the pain tolerable.
If he is hitting you because he is in pain then you either get out of the relationship and take your children with you or he agrees to the following:
1)He seeks treatment for his pain from a pain management center. Most Hospitals have a pain management center, which is run by staff anesthesiologists.
The one I am treated at is attached to a medical school and teaching Hospital. My Doctor is an Assistant Professor of Anesthesiology at the Medical School and a staff anesthesiologists at the hospital. If there is medical school near you I would start there.
2)Pain causes depression and depression causes pain. I've learned this in my treatments. Your partner not only needs therapy for pain management by a psychologist for anger management as well.
The pain management center I visit makes provides a complete course of treatment. If they accept you as a patient then you agree to follow their treatment plan which includes actual treatment of the injuries as well as physical therapy and mental health therapy with a staff psychologist to learn to accept whatever disability one may have as a result of the injuries. How to deal with them, the depression one may be suffering and in your partners case; his anger management issues.
If he is unwilling to seek treatment that will help him feel better then your only option is to leave him.
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He hits you? Why the hell would you put up with that crap from anyone?
I don't care how long you've known someone and if he is the father of your children, If the man is abusive then GET OUT. Men that are abusive need professional help. If you have children involved then you need to do what is best for you and your children! Staying with someone who abuses you is only going to set a real bad example for your kids. I don't care what his excuse is about some accident, There is NO excuse for abusing someone. Dump his coward ass, A real man doesn't hit women
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I think you need to stick up for yourself by explaining to him if he doesn't get help with his anger management and to learn to stop hitting you that you are going to have to leave him that you don't want your kids raised seeing its okay to be hit by a man and you don't want to be hurt anymore.
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