Member Since: February 18, 2012
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Hi!!! ok so i like this guy in my class and i DONT know if he likes me!!! why? well cuz sometimes he's nice and super cool and funny!!! (which is what i like about him!!!!) but on some days he's sooo mean!!!!! (and a a**hole) i DONT even know if he likes or not!!!! he even ask me out then said he would NEVER go out with me!!!! (which really hurt my heart!!!!) HELP!!!!!! (link)
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Sounds like this kid has either anger issues or is Bi-polar or something of the sort. to be nice somedays and terrible some other, and to ask you out one day and another day say he would Never go out with you, makes me believe he is mentally unstable and needs to seek advice from a mental health official. My advice would be to stop talking to him immediately and stay away from him..if he starts conversation.. ignore him. Hes no good for you... you can do better. Goodluck to you. -Istalio
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My bf's birthday is coming up and I want to get him a scent that will just make me want cuddle up next to him or jump his bones lol like the sort of scent worthy of spraying on my pillow or on tshirts that I wear around the house to remind me of him. He's in his early 30s and I have no idea what kind of scents I like on guys so any advice would be appreciated. Thanks! (link)
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i dont know if you have these stores around you. Im from West Seneca, NY which is a town outside buffalo... we have a store in our malls called abercrombie and fitch...Im a guy and i usually use "Fierce" ... its an amazing smell, and they ladies have always loved it. hope this works for you Goodluck -Istalio
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I have a boyfriend which every girl seems to like. I've been getting threatening phone calls from girls. What should I do? (link)
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My personal opinion, I would ignore them. Let them call and say what they want. unless they say there going to kill you or physically harm you...then call the police and have the calls traced and press charges on these jealous little immature people. in most cases like these, there just threats, there usually fake and mustered up from jealousy. if you feel there truthfully threatening though, better safe then sorry. Goodluck -Istalio
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17/f I like my best friend, and i have for awhile. My girl best friend just told me last night, that she was questioning his best friend about me and him, since she knows he tells his best guy friend things, and he told his best friend that he didnt want to date me because my life was too fucked up. Like my family and stuff.. I cried for a really long time because you would think that's when a person would want to be there for you more, i dont see how thats any reason not to be with someone, and i dont know what to think..expecially since hes like my best friend. (link)
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As hurtful as this can be, maybe hes looking into the future and is saying to himself, why date someone just for now? maybe hes looking into the future saying, look at the family, they would be my in laws and i would have to deal with them the rest of my life. ya see, the reason im being so blunt is to get right to the issue so you can address it. My advice is, assure him that if you two date, and even get married someday, that hes dating you, and marrying you, not your family. Goodluck -Istalio
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I use to get bullied and now im scared to talk to people. I really want to make friends but people think because i dont talk that i dont like them or something. I started doing online school this year but i thought it would be better if i went back so i could at least try to make friends. Does any one have any tips on how to be less shy or how i could make new friends. (link)
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Well, entering a school that you would actually have to attend would be a good start. Just let go of that feeling that you cant talk to people, leave getting bullied in the past, move on from it and dont let it affect your whole life. start out trying to make conversation with people at the supermarket, the mall, whichever, a cashier, or someone in the mall, ask them a question about what clothing would look better with these pants, or shirt, etc... just for starters to try an open up. Goodluck to you -Istalio
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So recently I had my first panic attack during a blood test-anyone who's had one will know how scary they are.
I was wondering, because I have to have other blood tests soon if anyone has any good tips on overcoming panic attacks.
Any advice welcome-prefferably someone who has had a diagnosed panic attack before :) (link)
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Panic attacks are rough, and this may be weird advice but hear me out.. If you have a happy place (almost like on happy gilmour) weather it be a night over grandmas house as a kid, or riding your bike through the woods, whatever your favorite memory of your life is.. start going over that in your head so you know it really well, well enough to picture every aspect, and zone in on the subject matter...and make sure you have that well rehearsed for when you get your blood drawn again... as soon as you sit in that chair, close your eyes, picture your happy place, go there. it works for me in certain situations as well. Goodluck -Istalio
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My guy friend is getting a lot more touchy feely and flirty lately, this week he grabbed my thigh, and pokes my butt with his binder, and tickles me a lot, and today he kept trying to put his hands up my shirt, on my stomache to "warm his hands up" and did it more at our locker trying to tickle me. then when we hugged goodbye after school he put his hands up my shirt again. Why could this be?
thanks.
i'm 17 btw. (link)
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He's obviously more interested in you then just a friend. You didnt state if you would be interested in him as well or not so heres both sides of the coin.. if you are interested, go with it, let him do what he wants, maybe even do a little touchy feely of your own..show him your into him as well.. if your not interested, tell him nicely when he does it again that it makes you uncomfortable as his friend to be touching you in that manner. Best of luck to you -Istalio
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I love my boyfriend alot but sometimes he wants to move too fast in our relationship if you know what i mean... I dont want to hurt his feelings but i always tell him no when i feel too uncomfortable and then he gets either really upset or mad. I don't know what to do, please help me.
-Takeitslowbabe (link)
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Well I believe if you love him soo much, and plan on spending the rest of your life together..then what does too fast mean really? you only live once, and your never guarenteed to have tomorrow, so do what you feel today. thats the rule I personally live by, Goodluck to you. Anything else you need help with, Im Here. -Istalio
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Well I really need some love advise. My ex has recently popped back into my life for the fourth time we have gone out three different times that only last a month or so each month in different years. Everytime we talk so many unsure feelings come back but everytime we say we should give it another try it never last mainly because of me. I'm only 19 and I always feel like maybe Im too young to be commited. But this time I'm more sure of who I am and so is he. we have gone through our little phases and we aren't really young and lost. So my question is if anyone can help me figure this out somehow, it is really confusing for me and I really do not want to hurt him in anyway or hurting myself (link)
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My personal opinion is.. if someone shows up back in your life for the fourth time, take that as a metaphoric slap in the face, like a wakeup.. More then likely you 2 are meant to be together. And is 19 too young to start a committed relationship? Absolutely Not. Havnt you ever heard of the term "highschool sweethearts" ? that means theyve been dating since highschool, got married, had kids and are still happy today in most cases. Id say open up your heart a bit, be more accepting to him and the relationship. Goodluck to you -Istalio
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i am an aspiring artist. i love art and everything that comes with it, i am also an active member of Subeta.net a virtual pet site wher i see other artists work and try and get inspired recently i finished this work and asked for peoples opinion. they said it was 'sordid'. I feel let down because i really work hard in what i do and i thought it came out fairly well.
I just hate that im never good enough! it kills me cause theres so many other people who do so much better then i do and i can never reach their level of skill.
what am i supposed to do? shouls i just give up my dream on becoming a concept aartist?
16/f (link)
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I say never give up on your dreams...not matter what they are or how long it may take to achieve them. You may not be as good as you want to be now, but work at it, make changes, take different aspects of what your doing, dont just give up because right now your not at your prime. things will get better, and at Very Least...you enjoy what your doing. Goodluck To You -Drew
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So there is a boy @ school that I. Have liked for 2 years... i m popular but way to snooty and spoiled for him! He's so cute and he isn't to popular for me! People say tht we would make a cute couple but he doesn't think any thing like tht of me! How do I get him to like me? I'm obviosly a girl and I'm in 7th grade. (link)
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Well first off, I would say, dont judge someone on popularity, some people have the capability of being popular and just dont like the spotlight. Some guys want to just hangout with their friends and be normal. Tell him you like him, or atleast try to spark a conversation with him, it may work out well for you. Goodluck -Istalio
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Me and this guy have been really good friends for like 2 years now, I thought maybe he had feelings for me before, but i don't know now. He flirts with me a lot, and we talk all the time. I do have feelings for him, and he recently started hanging out with his best friend's ex girlfriend and everytime they hang out, he tells me. I don't know why he tells me this, although i would like to know. it does make me jealous. Like last night he didnt talk to me at all like he ushually does, and then this morning he told me he was hanging out with her till 1am. -_- I think i'm just hurting myself by liking him still if he's obviously more interested in her? I don't really know what I should do, clearly there isn't anything I can do about it. But should i try and stop liking him? And give up on my feelings that aren't going to get me anywhere? Or just continue even though it's hurting me inside..
He's 18, i'm 17. We're both seniors in high school, so is the other girl.
Anything helps, thanks. (link)
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Love is a funny thing, but my first point of advice is.. dont just let it go that easily. Talk to him, sit him down an say...ya know, the way youve been acting is kinda making me a little jealous. The only way to get anywhere in life and love is to tell the person how you feel, Dont Hide Anything. Ask him how he feels so your not in the dark forever. Goodluck, Any other questions, feel free to write me, -Istalio
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.. attractive?
I feel like I don't want to be involved with him because I don't find him to be physically attractive, but at the same time I really like his personality, and I think through that I've become pretty sexually attracted. ugh what a mess
teenage hormones suck. but i can't help from fantasizing about him, even though i think i'd be embarrassed to be seen with him in that way, apart from as a friend. i guess it kind of makes me shallow, but I'd just want to be romantically involved with a guy I could feel is hot, and who I wouldn't be embarrassed to be seen in public with, since I'm physically attractive myself (i'm not trying to be cocky, just being honest). i mean the guy isn't THAT ugly, or even obese, i think he could actually look a lot better if he just took care of himself better, wore better clothes, and perhaps got a gym membership or something.
see, im picky like this and this is how im perpetually single. but i dont want to be desperate and go for a guy i'm not fully into, you know (link)
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I would tell him exactly how i feel. explain to him, exactly as how you explained it to me, except, leave out the part where you think you might be embarrased being seen with him. Tell him looks wise you want to work his appearance, but his personality really has ya attached. and or fantasizing if you will. be open, be honest, but dont let him go, you may have a good thing.Goodluck to you.
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I'll start by saying I am still in high school. I am sixteen.
I have been with my boyfriend for six months now. He is the definition of perfect to me, everything I have always dreamed of and wanted. He is so respectful, polite, dorky, goofy, and never lets anything get in the way of our relationship. He never gets frustrated with me, never yells, never raises a hand at me, never even looks at other girls. I have been through a lot of guys, all jerks that used me, manipulated me, and left me at the slightest flaw they didn't care for or could tolerate. But my current boyfriend accepts me for me. He never gets angry when I get insecure or annoyed at him or close him out when my mother yells at me or I'm having trouble learning a math problem or something. He has taught me a lot about myself and he always helps me conquer my fears. He always opens doors for me, waits for me to finish eating at the table, and helps me with my problems. He is practically prince charming. He never ever pressures me, never judges me, and the best thing of all: I can truly be myself. I'm not scared of saying something embarrassing or telling him a dorky thought or just being my goofy self. He always tells me I'm beautiful and wonderful and everything to him. I've never ever had such a strong, amazing, loving relationship with anyone before. He is genuine and his intentions are good. He promised the first month we dated that he would never hurt me or never leave me or never give up. I've heard that a lot, but when he said it, it was different. He didn't just say it, he backed up his promise by giving me so much happiness and love. He always surprises me and goes out of his way for me. He is a senior.
We often talk of our future, but I feel awkward sometimes 'cause I get scared I might seem too clingy. He always assures me. We do everything together, even if we don't live together. We cook, clean, babysit, go grocery shopping, fix cars, and all other household chores or anything like a couple would be like when living together when my parents are busy or away or needing help. We can talk for hours, but I'm always comfortable in the silence even. He is my other half. I swear I'm not myself around him. I got ahead of myself last night, and looked him deep in the eyes and said quietly, "One day, I'm going to marry you." It took a lot of guts to say it, but I did, and his face lit up. He became ecstatic, "Really? Oh babe that's so wonderful that you want me in your future!"
I would like an opinion on it. Of course I'm young, and I know I'm too young to marry at this point, but some days I just want to ask, to give him just a simple "I'll be with you forever" whether I have a real ring or a ring from a vending machine. I think about it so much to the point where I wonder. Am I just overwhelmed? Is it okay to feel this way? Or is it wrong? (link)
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I believe at any age you can be in true love, he sounds perfect for you...Even at your age ill say you dont always meet the perfect mate..so go for it :) Goodluck
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im 17 and my bf is 19 we have been together since i was 15 and we really want a baby right now, but i cant seem to get pregnant. idk what i should do, i know we can do it, we are both cery responsible and he has a full time job and im finishing school. but i cant get pregnant, idk if maybe my body is just doing the right thing and not letting me get pregnent but i really want a baby. more than anything in the world i want a lil baby girl (or boy) idc what i get. (link)
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Boy this is a tough one to answer, take it from me... I have 2 kids, and no matter how ready you may think you are...its really tough. Its expensive, fulltime job or not. and being a parent comes with maturity, and establishment. You need to have a nursery setup. clothes, bottles, health insurance... the list is endless, I would personally wait a little while longer, save up some money so your not scrimping to get the next pack of diapers. Having a child is a beautiful thing, i know, but make sure its at the right time of your life. Goodluck
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My brother passed away and left me some money. My sister inlaw says I should share it since her husband helped pay for funeral expenses as did I. The estate will still pay us for those expenses- is she right or wrong? (link)
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As sad as this seems, especially when a deceased loved one is involved, I whole heartedly believe shes wrong. Aside from any other offerings and payments of expenses, that money was left for YOU. His brother. Not expenses of his passing. Goodluck to you buddy. -Istalio
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what does it mean if a guy texts you every day but he doesnt make significant conversation? like he contacts me every day but he only gives me a few words in his texts? he knows im into him (link)
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Well in order to think of you everyday, and text you atleast something...means he obviously likes you as well. Maybe hes nervous an just dont know how to spark a conversation with you, or maybe thats just how he is, but my opinion, he's definitly interested..so next time he texts you, try to elaborate the conversation a little more, ask more questions, stretch out answers, get more involved, even ask him to hangout you may get results, Goodluck -Istalio
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My boyfriend and I have been together since the start of the year and things are going really well. The only problem is that I get very jealous of other girls. I get paranoid when he tells me about girls he knows, or if he finds other girls attractive, but my main issue is with his best friend. They have a history, and he has told me that he used to be in love with her. He has reassured me countless times that there is nothing but friendship between them now but for some reason I just cannot get over it. I've never met her as she doesn't live in the same city as us but she's coming to visit in a couple of weeks and I'm really worried. I plan on being nice and trying to make friends with her but I know I'm going to be paranoid the whole time she's here.
I really don't want to feel like this and I don't want to ruin things with my boyfriend. How can I be less jealous?
20/f (link)
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Well, thats quite an understandable situation. But My best advice is, if you want to be in and stay in a healthy relationship, I would do my best to act as an adult, which you are, and meet his bestfriend and treat her as nice as you would anyone else. Judging by the fact that he has a past with her, it makes me tend to believe it would upset him if you acted any other way, Old ties break hard. trust him/them till he/they give you a reason not to. dont be oblivious, but dont be jealous. Goodluck -Istalio
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I'm 20 yrs old and it kills me dat ave neva had a serious relationship. I long for someone to just hold me and love. Guys neva ask me out and i know am not ugly so maybe its cos am shy. I feel so lonely sometimes, i cant even bear to watch romantic movies anymore. (link)
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My Idea..first off, if you take my advice on this, BE CAREFUL!!! make sure you talk to a guy for a while before meeting them..but try www.plentyoffish.com, www.eharmony.com or www.match.com believe it or not like 50% or more relationships start on the internet now a days. be yourself, upload respectful pictures of yourself, no need to be too flashy, the right guy will like you for decency. Goodluck :) -Istalio
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for some reason, i get really nervous talking to certain people. im fine in groups of 3, but when it comes to one on one conversation i get really tense and can't ever think of what to say. sos! feels awful (link)
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the best answer I can give to that is be yourself, be open, ask questions, I.E. (what have you been up to lately? hows school? hows work?) an if all else fails, give some information about yourself, (what you like to do) what you plan on doing in the future, maybe talk about your lovelife, talk about your boyfriend/girlfriend and ask if there involved.. and how are they doing? theres many things to start a conversation an just talk..seems like the first step for you is to be open with it.. just be yourself..you'll be fine Goodluck
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