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My boyfriend wants to move too fast
I love my boyfriend alot but sometimes he wants to move too fast in our relationship if you know what i mean... I dont want to hurt his feelings but i always tell him no when i feel too uncomfortable and then he gets either really upset or mad. I don't know what to do, please help me.
-Takeitslowbabe
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I'm going to be the bitch here... Isalito or whatever. Your answer was stupid. Like seriously stupid. She never said she was going to spend forever with him and she may even be 15 and i really doubt if she is young they are going to be together "FOREVER" Even though guys say that, thinking it will let you get in their pants. Tell him he is moving too fast and if he still keeps pressuring you or getting mad about it, HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU. HE IS USING YOU. So kick that boy to the curb and find someone willing to wait.
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I completely disagree with the person before me (Istalio, I think?).
It isn't about hurting his feelings. It is about your feelings and your comfort level. YOUR body.
The relationship goes two ways and you need to tell him that he should be respecting how you feel and your boundaries and that you don't feel ready. Stand your ground and don't let him talk you into anything.
I moved too quickly into something and I loathed myself for a long time because of it.
If you love each other and he respects you, he will understand how you feel and wait.
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Well I believe if you love him soo much, and plan on spending the rest of your life together..then what does too fast mean really? you only live once, and your never guarenteed to have tomorrow, so do what you feel today. thats the rule I personally live by, Goodluck to you. Anything else you need help with, Im Here. -Istalio
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Speak up, Tell him that you are not ready and if he loves you then he needs to respect that.
Pushing, pressuring and manipulating someone into doing something they are not comfortable with it wrong. It's not love to talk someone into doing something against their will, Be upfront and honest about your true feelings. If he bolts then obviously he never really cared for you to begin with. A man who really cares for you will stick around and wait for you. Doing something you are not ready for will only end up making you feel guilty and regretful in the long run. Be smart and be stern
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relationsships should always be that the guy wants to go further than the girl. they will always be a little bit upset when you dont want to go further but in the end they are usually just testing out how far you are willing to go, theyre always gunna keep trying until you stop them. So either compromise with him and be willing to go a little further, or tell him that your not ready yet and either hell understand or if not then the relationship probably wasnt the best anyways.
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