I wish I could have one ounce of control of my life. I'm stuck in a household that is always drama every night. I'm 20/female, and I have no one else to go to. Everyone is hateful here and threatening me they will ruin relationships with the little family I have with rumors. I didn't cause this and I'm the one left with the shame. Why did God give me this? Could I make it on $400 if I moved now? That's all I have. If I'm lucky I'll find a job somewhere but nothing is ever guaranteed. I don't have any friends or anyone that cares in my daily life. If I moved to another state, maybe that chance are better than the chances of trying to survive this hell. If nobody helps me, I might as well commit suicide tonight.
Never, ever, ever lose hope. I know it's so cliche, but things really do get better. It's so hard to see it from the bottom, but it does go up. Prove to yourself and everyone around you that you ARE stronger than this.
You DO have control over your life. Try looking on the internet for local support groups maybe for help for people to talk to, to lean on or something. I don't know much about them or anything, I've always used different resources, but they seem like they might be helpful to you.
You should definitely go out looking for a job. Apply, apply, apply. The worst they can say is no. And you can't get a job if you don't apply.
Just don't give up. Your life is worth living. You deserve to live and to be happy.
Feel free to contact me and talk to me if you EVER need ANYTHING. :)
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So I met this guy at a party and we chatted for 30 minutes. We had a lot in common and he really seemed to be interested in me. I had to leave so he gave me his number and told me to text or call him up so we could hang out. Two days later I text him, and texts back saying: whats up? How are you? I answered back and he never replied after that. I texted him today (4 days later) saying hey whats up? He hasnt replied. Should I give up?
Yeah, I'd just say give it up.
Totally not worth it. Parties generally aren't the best place to meet a quality person anyway, from my experience. I mean, you can have a good time and what not, but nothing worthwhile.
You probably dodged a bullet.
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Hey!I’m a 16 year old girl from New Jersey and I AM SO LONELY. Like I’ve been in relationships before but for not more than a couple months. I really would not want anything more than to be in a relationship with a guy for like a year or longer! However I’ve talked to guys in my town and who go to my school before, and I do not like anyone of them, they all do not know how to treat girl’s right and respectively. And any guy who does is already taken. I’m seriously so sick of being single and really want to meet some nice cute guys. I’ve tried some online dating sites, and all I found were horny males. That is defiantly the opposite of what I’m looking for. I have tried to have my friends from out of town hook me up with some of their friends, didn’t work. I try to be outgoing and fun in public, doesn’t work. I’m really not that picky, and I am told I’m really pretty and nice, I’m not prude, I don’t know what else to do,I just can’t find anyone, and waiting is just making me feel lonely as ever. Do you have any ideas as to how or where I could meet someone I can actually be in a relationship with??
Here's the harsh reality.
You are 16. Being single is not the end of your life.
You should have other priorities.
I am almost 21 and I have never had a boyfriend.
I know I am not forever alone. Yes, I get lonely; yes it would be nice to have a boyfriend; yes, it gets depressing sometimes to see absolutely everyone around me in cuddly happy relationships.
I understand that it's really frustrating. But, shift your focus elsewhere. There are seriously way more important things.
And it's a lot easier said than done to just "stop looking and they will find you."
Especially when all you want is to be in a relationship. I know this firsthand. It is really, really hard.
But she's right, stop trying so hard.
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So ... I need to know pushing out a guys sperm out of your vaginal or where da seamin goes does it make a different weather you do or not or can u still get pregnant ??
Yeah, you can't push the sperm out. I don't even know what you mean by that.
But you can take the morning after pill up to 5 days (120 hours) after sex. Of course, it is most effective the sooner you take it. But there is still always a chance that you will get pregnant.
Um, good luck, I guess?
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I love my boyfriend alot but sometimes he wants to move too fast in our relationship if you know what i mean... I dont want to hurt his feelings but i always tell him no when i feel too uncomfortable and then he gets either really upset or mad. I don't know what to do, please help me.
-Takeitslowbabe
I completely disagree with the person before me (Istalio, I think?).
It isn't about hurting his feelings. It is about your feelings and your comfort level. YOUR body.
The relationship goes two ways and you need to tell him that he should be respecting how you feel and your boundaries and that you don't feel ready. Stand your ground and don't let him talk you into anything.
I moved too quickly into something and I loathed myself for a long time because of it.
If you love each other and he respects you, he will understand how you feel and wait.
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I got accepted into college and Im leaving in July.I live with my mom and we are extremely close. I chose a college that is far enough away, but close enough, maybe about 6 hours away.
Im nervous about people might not liking me or I might mess up doing something. I don't know anyone in the city that Im going to and I don't know how i'll get around, maybe the bus
Im actually extremely nervous. Im not used to sharing anything or having roommates, I don't know if they might like me. I know I'm going to be homesick. Im really quiet around people I first meet and it takes a while to come out of my shell.I'm nervous that maybe my roommates won't like me or they think I'm too quiet
but how can I hold my own in college, and prove to my mom Im going to be ok?
Well, first off -- congrats! :)
Believe it or not, there will always be someone that likes you. It can be hard to believe at first, but you will make friends.
I like to consider myself quite the authority on these matters because, well, I am a junior and I am currently at my fourth college, sooo... take that for what it's worth.
I am a really shy person at first. I don't really like to branch out.
You have to get involved. Join clubs, go to events, etc. Do something, don't sit in your room all the time.
A lot of the time, or at least initially, you will make a lot of your friends through the people on your hall in your dorm. Then you will meet friends of friends, etc., and then you will have YOUR friends that you consider yourself to be close with :) once you have those people, you will start to forget about being so homesick because you will be spending time with them.
Also, if you are a part of clubs and stuff, being involved, you will also be keeping yourself busy that can help keep your mind off being away from home.
If worst comes to worst, you can always change your roommate if you honestly do not get along. You can do that - I have had friends who did that, but that rarely actually happens.
Remember, everyone (the freshman) are in THE SAME position as you. Most of them are equally as scared and nervous. They have the same fears as you, you won't be as alone as you think you will be.
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what qualities does girls like in men?
A lot of what I have to say will mimic what flare said, but I'm going to say what I have to say anyway to add to the pot.
I don't think I have ever met a girl who didn't like a good sense of humor... but it has to come naturally. And, unfortunately, everyone has a different sense of humor, so "good" is subjective, so take that for what it's worth.
Girls like guys who don't try too hard.
Guys who are honest and genuine. Caring.
CONFIDENCE. Probably the biggest thing of all. That is true of both men and women, I've learned, and many people struggle with it.
But, like flare said, it all varies depending on the girl. I have odd taste in guys, like, really, my friends are usually confused.
Just being yourself and true and open to who you are and you'll generally attract the right people. :)
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I was with this guy last night and like he showed a little interest with me before this night. He is a player for sure but a few nights ago he said that he is a player but wants love and is only a player to keep his reputaion up. we were telling eachother stuff nobody knows about us. so anyway we hung out and he was like really drunk and i took a tramadol so i was feeling good and we kinda started talking than making out well we did it like all night he would put his hand up my shirt but never tried to go further he said not untill you like me and we would talk and make out like on and off. He kept saying that we were meant for eachother and all this like sweet stuff and said he wanted me to be his and i kept saying i dont believe you. but anyway i took it for what it was but not going to lie i cant get it off my mind so do you think this was just drunk talk or like it meant something? Im okay with both just confused.
I say don't give into it at all.
I fell for this act before. They're hardly ever genuine, especially while drinking.
I know people say "drunk words are sober thoughts," but when a guy who is admittedly a player is trying to get with a drunk girl, that is not the case. They will do what they can to see how far they can get. I'm glad you told him that you didn't believe him, though, because if you did fall for it right away that could have led to some bad decisions on your part.
My advice is just to avoid it all together, especially if he ADMITS that he is a player. If he is honestly looking for love, he wouldn't care about "keeping is reputation up."
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Basically ive been seeing my boyfriend since august 2010 and well we got together finally in december we got together, but the thing is he's muslim but im so cool with that i dont care haha , only problem is my parents dont think its right if i date a muslim they think he is like them dominent men. But their wrong i want to introduce him to them , but i'm scared that they wouldnt let me see him. Im 18 this year i know its my feelings only thing is that hes a muslim guy, hes turkish. Honestly i fell in love with him, im also his first love aswell and it feels so amazing and well its come to the point where i wanna take things further on with my partner i want to be able to make love with him because i lost my virginity at 15 and well it was horrible didnt like it, wanna make this so special with him but im also nervous cause its the first time im gonna do something with love. PLEASE HELPPPP xx
Well, I'm a firm believer in complete honesty. So, I think it is only right that you tell your parents.
However, you have to go about it very delicately and don't put your boyfriend in an awkward position in case anything unpleasant happens.
You have to respect your parents, their views and opinions, but you also have to stand your ground. They're not always right, contrary to popular belief (hah).
As for sex. Hm. Well, I'm certainly not going to tell you not to do it, that would be silly. You say you love him, I believe you.
No one can tell you how to make it "special" because it's your relationship - we're not inside it, we don't know what is special between the two of you.
All I can say is be safe for God's sake.
Use a condom. Every time. The whole time. Even if you are on the pill, I don't care. Better safe than sorry. Seriously, don't believe any myths.
You don't want to get pregnant or and STD (I dk, just saying, don't take that the wrong way).
Even if it "doesn't feel good," which is utter crap anyway, giving birth feels worse.
Sorry, end rant.
My point is, I think you need to tell your parents but you need to choose your words wisely and do NOT get in an argument about it; no yelling, accusing, etc.
And just have safe sex, please, please, please.
Good luck.
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Long story short- I did not do so well during my first semester in university, purely my own fault and I do not blame anyone or anything but myself.
However, now I have to deal with the consequences and work ultra hard until summer to make sure I pass everything and get a passing grade to finish this first year at university...
However, the more I think about what's happened, the more depressed I feel. I'm on the verge of having a break down, which I've already had before and I feel like I've really ruined my life for myself.
What would be the best way to progress from this depressing state? As I know I will manage to finish the year properly..but whenever I think about it I just want to burst into tears.
How to I get myself back on a more positive track?
The thing you have to do is remind yourself of the GOOD things you've done.
Yes, you messed up. But that's over, and you set yourself straight and you're doing better now. Don't forget that!
What I do, which I don't know if you can or can't depending on your dorm, etc., is I write notes on my mirror to myself with dry erase markers; just positive reminders, inspirational quotes, stuff like that. It works for me.
Mostly you just have to be really conscious of your thoughts and when you have a negative thought, you have to push it from your mind OR say no and counter it with a positive thought, something you've done right or are working on.
Something else you can do is reach out to other people for help and guidance. It's not being weak at all to talk to other people about it. Most schools have free counseling options and that can be very helpful for many students, especially in situations like yours. Don't be ashamed or embarrassed or too proud; no one is going to judge you on it. Better yet, no one even has to know, especially if you do it on campus! More people go than you would think. I don't know what kind of person you are, though, because some people adamantly refuse and loathe the idea of counseling, so it may not be an option for you, I just know that it has helped me for so many problems in my life.
On a side note, I kind of messed up my whole college career (in my opinion). I'm currently a junior and I'm already at my fourth school, so it's been really hard bouncing all over the place, unable to get my footing and not getting into my major classes, so now I'm trying to play catch-up and it's really stressful. So I get upset with myself, too, for messing everything up right from the start. (It's a really long story, feel free to ask me if you want).
Just keep your head up! That semester is behind you, you can't change it and you just have to let it go.
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So there's this boy. He's a sophomore in high school and I'm a senior. (he's 16 im 18) I really really am starting to like him, but I think he might be too young for me? I don't know. Another problem, I used to like his older brother, but things got complicated and he went to college this year not wanting a girlfriend. I was ok and now we're just friends. But is that weird too? Could I be confused about my feelings for the sophomore and his older brother? I really do like matt (sophomore) I just think people may see us as too differnt in age. And I want to ask him to prom!! He always tells people how gorgeous he think I am and he's so sweet and funny. I'm basically really confused.
Honestly, I am in the middle of the same thing right now, and I don't consider the age to be a big deal. The only difference is that I'm a freshman in college and he's a junior in high school.
I know it's hard now, but seriously, try not to worry about other people. It's something that I've been working on FOREVER, and still struggle with sometimes, but it's your life and you have to make decisions for yourself and no one else. So what if they do have an opinion about it. The ones who matter will support you regardless of what other people think.
Bottom line is that you can't help how you feel. You are struggling with your head saying one thing and your heart saying another, another thing I, too, am dealing with right now. But, I am one who generally chooses to go with my heart. You have feelings and you can't deny them or try to suppress them, it doesn't work very well.
Best of luck :) If you have any specific questions, feel free to send them to my inbox!
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so i have a 2.8 gpa
yes i know it is quite terrible but it is that low because i recieved two C's in Latin, and one C in Math.
and i got a 990 out of 2400 on my SATs which is really bad i know,
I want to go to IDC-Hertzaliya and they take 3.4-3.2 GPA but they said thats not 100%.
They said you can write a seperate essay explaining any outside influences that impacted ur bad grades.
my paretns are going through an awful divorce (still are) so i can write about that, and explain how Just latin wasn't my thing, and math is a struggle for me.
i am a really good writer so i think i can produce a really outstanding unique essay-
do you think if i have a good essay it can outweigh my grades and SAT scores?
do i need to re-take the SATS i really don't want to.
I agree with ceejay. Taking the SATs again is always a good idea, even the slightest improvement looks good because it shows that you really tried.
A strong essay, or essays, definitely helps a lot too, so good luck on that, though it is always a combination of many things.
One thing you didn't mention, however, that I would suggest is trying to set up an interview at the school. That always helps and gives you an opportunity to 1. explain some issues and 2. let the school see who you are as a person instead of just on paper.
Good luck! :)
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ok so ive had this BEST FRIEND since like the 6th grade (i am now going into the 9th). we were inseperable forever. until i had to move to germany. but i came back and everything and we would always talk on the phone and/or make plans. but she always had something to do and shed tell me the day before we were supposed to go wherever we go. or she just tells me straight up that she cant go because her mom has a new boyfriend and theyre trying to bond (the bf thing is true, im not so sure about the bonding thing). i always tell her to call me when she can do something and she says she will. but she hasnt called me since i came back which was in may. its not like i stalk her or anything, i just call her occassionally-maybe twice or three times a week. and lately she hasnt been answering my phone calls and it takes her forever just to call me back. im so sorry this was so long =[
please help me !!!!!! =/
First of all, I'm sorry to hear about your situation. But it is impossible to know what she is thinking if you don't say straight up how you are feeling. I mean, if you moved away for a while then she clearly had to move on -- she can't stay attached to some one that isn't always there. Sometimes people just drift away, but if the friendship is really this important to you then you definitely need to be completely honest and ask her whats going on -- don't beat around the bush.
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Hi, I think my bf is ready to have sex. It's like i kinda want to, but i don't think i'm ready. How do i know when I am ready.
Basically, i think that if you have to question whether you are ready or not - more than likely you are not ready.
But if you aren't sure whether either of you are ready you definitely need to talk about it together. If you just assume that he is ready, then you could pressure him or unintentionally pressure yourself kind of into doing something you aren't sure about.
Anyways, if and when you do end up having sex, be safe. For whatever reason, people find sex and everything hard to talk about but its a real issue. The easiest thing to do is use condoms which can protect from pregnancy and STD's. If you are on the pill, STD's are still possible.
Ps. I'm part of a group that specializes in peer education involving sex, etc. so if you have any other questions feel free to ask me!
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okay, i took my first ap class this year (european history) and i couldn't really perform well on the test and finally decided ap wasn't for me. the thing is, my friends (group) have always been in the same class as me and for next year, i chose only one ap class while most of them chose four or five (even though some cant even handle it..they just want to be able to show off about it). i chose my classes to my strength and ability..im in all honors. but now i feel like im gonna be disconnected from everyone else..because they have harder classes. i feel like they're going to be smarter than me..and they're going to grow away from me...and organize their group so i'm not in it. i WILL have some friends who wont be taking aps either, don't get me wrong..but i feel so bad. i dunno why.
am i worried for nothing? cause i KNOW i CANT do more than one ap class.
thank you
16/f/junior.
honestly, don't worry.
I am the friend that takes all of those AP & honors classes even though i have a majority of friends who don't -- it makes no difference. even if you are in the class together you aren't in there to socialize and plan hang outs, you are there to learn the material. plus, if you're friends are honestly like that where they would leave you just because you weren't in their class then its not worth the effort. besides, i think that catering to your strengths is the best way to go -- especially if you enjoy it. it only makes sense!
sooo basically, you are worried for nothing. i don't consider myself particularly smarter than my friends because i take/took AP classes. we all have our strengths, and for some people taking all AP classes just isn't the right idea.
and ps. you are smart for not trying to take on more than you can handle in order to be in their classes. In the big picture, you wont be nearly as stressed out and you will be able to focus and generally do better overall. its called logic & congratulations, you have it :p
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I've gone through things I want to do.. then I don't want to. Then I get discouraged at how long I'd have to go for such and such, so I change it. I cannot figure it out. I just am not book smart, and I couldn't see myself being in college that long.
I want my major to be something with art. I like designing things, mixed media stuff, photography, painting .. pretty much everything. What specifically can I do for that interest?
Interestingly enough, I went through the EXACT same thing just a few months ago but it was practically a year-long struggle for me to decide. Anyways, I considered that type of degree field. But one thing that would definitely be a good option for you would be graphic design. I have a friend who is considering doing that and another one who has already started on that path. You could do commercial/advertising design as well (which goes hand-in-hand with digital design, i suppose) or even web design.
But just throwing this out there - if you don't think you could see yourself sticking it out through a four-year college, try out a 2 year community college first and see if it's for you. Also, if you really find a major that you love, I don't think that time would be so much of a factor if you enjoyed what you were studying, etc.
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Dear, good writer..
i need help! everytime i writean essay for my english teacher she says "you were one step away from an A, BUT you need to work on your introductions!" so would you please help me, i dont even know where to start, like i have absoloutly no imagination or creativity at all, i dont know how you people do it! The essay is on William Harvey,.. i found this introduction I thought was great:
"What would it have been like to be a scientist in the time of Shakespeare? Best seats at the Globe Theater and invitations to command performances alongside the King and Queen? Why not, if you are married to the daughter of the Queen's physician? Better yet if you have been appointed physician to the King himself.
By all accounts, William Harvey led a charmed life."
But I didn't want to copy it, so I changed it to my own words but made it resemble a bit.. and whn i showed it to my teacher she said "that's good, but dont use that for your essay, use that for your oral presentation on your essay, that's better!" so now i have nothing, what do you think i should do for the introduction? And do you have any ideas of how to come up with introductions for the future, like is there any good way of thinking? are there any tricks?
Well I don't know if this will help you out at all, ( I hope it does, because it helped me), but i have learned since practically 8th-9th grade (im going to be a senior in september) that you want to open the intro with a clincher sentence that will grab the reader's attention and it has to be a broad statement that can be further developed.
After that, you want to consistently become more specific in your topic, leaving the last sentence to be the most specific.
If you have any more specific questions, feel free to ask me. I'm kind of just going off the top of my head with suggestions. Don't hesitate to ask me (or even your teacher -- they know what they want to see the most!)
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13/f 8th grade
I feel really upset lately but I don't know if I would call it depressed. Because just at school I'm more happy and will laugh but at home I get mad and cry and everything. It just isn't me though. I am usually happy but just not at home anymore. I have cut myself and I have cried every single day but only at home. Except a couple times at school but thats it. Maybe its because I keep my feelings bottled up? But I never feel comfortable telling anyone my feelings. When I do it just makes me feel worse so I never tell anyone anything. I don't know what to do. I only write in my diary. But please help me, thanks. Oh by the way I don't cut myself anymore I have stopped that because I think about it and it makes me feel worse so thanks so much thanks.
take it from someone who went through this literally a year ago -- as hard as it may be, you HAVE to talk to someone about it. if not an adult, a friend who can get help for you. i was in the worst of the worst. i had cut myself, etc and my best friend called the crisis hotline on me because i couldn't tell my parents or anyone myself.
anyways, the most important thing to do is talk to an adult who can get you the help you need. it may be hard to do at first, but it is so worth it in the end -- trust me. the sooner you get to someone, the less likely it is to get worse and the last thing you want is to get worse. all that you need to do is tell someone and the rest will work itself out.
if you need anything or have any questions, feel free to ask me :) im open with everything so dont be afraid to just ask!
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I've been searching for about an hour and a half, and no luck. i'm looking for the "one missed call" ringtone. (american movie version, not the japanese)
does anyone know of a website that has the ringtone for free? (i've already tried the link on the movie's facebook, and my phone won't display the final download step. ):
i have a sprint sanyo phoen if it helps any.
thanks so much in advance. =D
in addition to phonezoo, theres a website where i usually find what i want -- myxertones.com
hope that helps :)
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Doesn't everyone tell you it's incredible stupid, dumb, and unhealthy to do drugs like weed and cocaine, etc? Then why on an ADVICE site does it have questions asking about drugs. No, not like educational things about them, like "Oh when i smoked weed I threw up, is this normal?". I was expecting every answer to be like "You shouldn't have smoked weed in this first place, these are drugs and they are unhealthy." But no the answers were more like encouraging the people to try it again and see what happens? What the heck? Is it ok to do drugs now?
i completely agree with you. people shouldnt be encouraging it. i mean, i understand its and advice site and whatever, but i would expect the advice to be more along the lines of HELPING the people. so i understand completely.
and no, obviously it is not okay to do drugs. but im pretty sure that was a sarcastic question. lol.
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