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Forever Alone
Hey!I’m a 16 year old girl from New Jersey and I AM SO LONELY. Like I’ve been in relationships before but for not more than a couple months. I really would not want anything more than to be in a relationship with a guy for like a year or longer! However I’ve talked to guys in my town and who go to my school before, and I do not like anyone of them, they all do not know how to treat girl’s right and respectively. And any guy who does is already taken. I’m seriously so sick of being single and really want to meet some nice cute guys. I’ve tried some online dating sites, and all I found were horny males. That is defiantly the opposite of what I’m looking for. I have tried to have my friends from out of town hook me up with some of their friends, didn’t work. I try to be outgoing and fun in public, doesn’t work. I’m really not that picky, and I am told I’m really pretty and nice, I’m not prude, I don’t know what else to do,I just can’t find anyone, and waiting is just making me feel lonely as ever. Do you have any ideas as to how or where I could meet someone I can actually be in a relationship with??
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I am just a bit younger than you and feel EXACTLY the same! The boy I like doesnt know i exist :/ But i think that if you keep looking for a romantic relationship, you wont find one- "sods law" innit?
So maybe just roll happily along in life, and dont worry so much, cus before you know it a cute boy should turn up .. or maybe he's been there with you all the time? (now THERE's Optimism) :0
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OH MY GOD!!! Listen, im from Jersey and this is an example of why i don't associate with many jersey females. What you are being is desperate. You're loneliness has turned into desperation. You are only SIXTEEN!!! you don't need a relationship. I'm eighteen and let me tell you if you can't handle being single without feeling desperate and needing someone to love and care for you, you will never have a real relationship. Your desperation for somebody else to care and love for you is a cry that you don't love yourself... use this time being single to love yourself and do things that make you happy without a guy because i guarantee you'll end up in a good relationship, a lasting one once you've done that. But you're young so take your time you don't want to fall in love with a guy at 16, give him everything, then ten years later realize it was never love in the first place.
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Here's the harsh reality.
You are 16. Being single is not the end of your life.
You should have other priorities.
I am almost 21 and I have never had a boyfriend.
I know I am not forever alone. Yes, I get lonely; yes it would be nice to have a boyfriend; yes, it gets depressing sometimes to see absolutely everyone around me in cuddly happy relationships.
I understand that it's really frustrating. But, shift your focus elsewhere. There are seriously way more important things.
And it's a lot easier said than done to just "stop looking and they will find you."
Especially when all you want is to be in a relationship. I know this firsthand. It is really, really hard.
But she's right, stop trying so hard.
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This was the story of my life last year. I was in a on and off relationship for two years. But I desperatly wanted to find someone who would just stay with me and we'd be like best friends. But I was searching so hard that I never found someone and felt so lonely.
You need to keep in mind that you are only 16. Dating sites are not for you yet. And the people on those are going to see your young and try to take advantage of you.
It seems like the worst kind of advice someone can give...but honestly it has worked for me several times. Once you stop looking for someone, they will find you. I'm not talking like immediatly. But give it a little time and you will. My first real boyfriend when I was 16 broke up with me after a year and a half. I was so devastated I compared everyone to him. I went on small little dates and they just made me feel more lonely. Finally, I just stopped. I stopped trying to replace him. Within the next month, the boyfriend I mentioned above found me. And it was like an automatic click.
The long story about myself proves that once you just relax, be happy with yourself, and stop searching so much, the right guy will come into your life and the relationship will last for longer. :]
If you need anything else. Dont hesitate to ask!
I promise you won't be lonely for long.
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