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Q: what are some great sex positions I can use on my girlfriend?

look up kuma sutra or just let your girlfriend take control and lead you.

Q: Ok so 13/f and I have a boyfriend(13) and a best guy friend(14) and they dont get along, at all. Today I hung out with my best guy friend and I didnt really tell my boyfriend about it. We hung out from 1-4:30pm. During this time we went to Tim Hortons, went to our school and played basketball and we walked and talked throughout town. We had alot of fun and he is a really close friend so he was joking around and put his arm around me and stuff. I was alittle stunned but I went along with it. We were walking along this one street and he had his arm around me and we were talking and laughing and all of a sudden, he leans in and kisses my cheek. I was freaking out inside. I have a boyfriend! I didnt even have enough time to duck away. I dont know what to do! Should I tell my boyfriend? I promised my best guy friend I wouldnt tell anyone but Im scared. Most of the people in my school dont know me and this guy are friends and I saw 2 other guy friends and the one shouted out my name so I obviously looked to see who it was. No one except my mom of course knows about me hanging out with the guy. I dont know what to do! Please help! I cant obviously tell my boyfriend about him kissing my cheek but can I tell him we hung out? Advice please!

all he did was kiss your cheek. and you don't have to tell your boyfriend when you hang out with girls so you shouldn't have to drop down and feel guilty for hanging out with your guyfriend. but you might want to talk to your guyfriend because the reason why he may not like your boyfriend is because he LIKES YOU.

Q: how do u make a boy wet

uhm... pour some water on him. push him in a pool. squirt him with a watergun. give him a bath. spit on him...

Lmfao. p.s. only things with vaginas get "wet" if a boy tells you to get him wet he might not be a BOY or he wants you to drown him in ur wetness LMFAO

Q: Im 16 years old, almost 17. I've never had a boyfriend, i've never kissed a guy, i've never been drunk, i've never done drugs, and I don't go to parties. At my age that's all my friends want to do. They get drunk/high, they go to parties, and they hook up with guys. I feel like such a loser because I have no intentions of doing any of that stuff anytime soon. I feel like I don't have anything to talk about with my friends because that's all they talk about. Like everytime i've gone to little get togethers with them everyones smoking weed or drinking, and I just stand there awkwardly. There's been times where I want to try it, but theres just something in my head that tells me not too. What would you think of someone like me? should I continue to be the way I am? are there any other teens out there like me? should I just let go and open up to new things? What does being high/drunk feel like?
do people at parties who do get messed up all the time think badly about the ones who don't? HELP!

WHOA!!! WHOA!!! who cares what we think nor what anybody else does? You are not afraid to be yourself and hell you basically just overcame an obstacle most teens struggle with peer pressure, and asserting your identity. i mean you are willing to say "hey i don't do all that stuff" most people would be like "my friends are doing it so SO WILL I". and if you really must know what i think. i think it's cool. Be you. that's what attracts people. and there are teens like you, yes. and alot of the people who do that stuff do think bad mostly because they think you judge them or your prudy but no fucks should be given about that. and being high or drunk is different for everyone. for some it's amazing. for others it's the only way they survive life.

Q: My boyfriend of four years and I broke up about a month ago and within a week I met another guy. He was older, a grad student on exchange from Europe. Since I studied abroad last year, we had a lot in common and hit it off right away. We ended up seeing each other the next night and he stayed over at my house. We did not have sex or anything and I was honest with him, telling him that although I was technically completely single, I wasn't ruling out getting back together with my boyfriend. Less than a week later we did get back together and I cancelled on a date with the other guy who was very supportive and happy for me. I know I made the right decision getting back with my boyfriend because I do love him and things have been difficult because we have been long distance for over a year now, but sometimes I wonder if I missed out on a new and exciting experience. I just am not convinced that it would have been worth throwing away what I have. Did I do te right thing?

no you knew you loved your boyfriend and you did what alot of women don't do which is admit they still care to the new guy approaching. So the guy knew it was a possibility and part of being human you're always to wonder the "what if" thing. But hey if it's meant to be, it will happen ;)

Q: Hi!!! ok so i like this guy in my class and i DONT know if he likes me!!! why? well cuz sometimes he's nice and super cool and funny!!! (which is what i like about him!!!!) but on some days he's sooo mean!!!!! (and a a**hole) i DONT even know if he likes or not!!!! he even ask me out then said he would NEVER go out with me!!!! (which really hurt my heart!!!!) HELP!!!!!!

hahahaha. welcome to the world of crushing sweetie and this is your typical teenage boy. Not only do they NOT know what they want but at the moment they might not even see the effect it has on you because they don't understand teenage girls either. You said he asked you out, so its obvious HE DOES like you but he doesn't know what he is doing. Talk to the boy (alone) about it.

And to the person who said he is bipolar you may need to brush up on your definitions of bipolar disorder because being bipolar doesnt mean you feel one emotion and then another the next day. its LIKE a period of time where you feel high like you do anything like you are unstoppable and then one day out of nowhere you begin to start to feel low for awhile.

Q: Well, I don't know what to put this under. So I am 22 years old and I am just now getting a bit more comfortable accepting my body dysmorphic problems. As far off as I can remember I've always wanted to be a boy. I was born female. Growing up was terrible for me, kids made fun of me up until junior high, for acting and dressing like a boy. My parents put a stop to it and told me to "act normal" or else I would never have any friends. For the longest time I've felt very confused, I just always wanted to appear more masculine to others and I don't really know or understand why. Putting sexual orientation aside. My parents and brothers and sisters would pick on me and thought maybe I was a lesbian. But when I told them I liked boys over girls they began to laugh. My mother even once told me, "Let me get this straight, so my little girl is really a little homo." Yeah, well putting that all behind me now, I finally moved out but I feel very distraught about it all. Living alone means I can finall wear what I want. Meaning male clothing. But I am very nerve wrecked about shopping. And about cutting my hair. In high school for my junior year when I cut my hair I was called a dyke all through out until graduation.

So I guess I would just like some tips or sites or books that can point me in the right direction of passing as a boy rather than having people view me as a butchy lesbian. Not that I have anything at all against them. I just feel terrible having to force myself to look all female. I've done some searching online but all I find are ftm but "lesbian" wise. Nothing on "transfags." One more thing is,I work with two siblings of mine in my mothers catering business. So of course I see them everyday for a few hours. I feel uncomfortable about it all with my family for obvious reasons. Everyone else in my family is, "normal." Meaning straight. At least that we know of, so it only makes me feel more alienated. I don't know what to say to my family about it if they ask. My youngest brother is support of it, he always asks me about it, and he states. "You'll make a handsome gentlemen one day sis." lol But as for my sisters and elder brother, they tell me I'm disgusting and to just be normal. Otherwise I will never get married or have children. Which honestly I don't care much for finding anyone, I just want to feel comfortable with myself and understand myself. I mean you can't love anyone else unless you love yourself first, right?

Well I'm sorry if this is long and hard to understand. But any help at all, thank you for it.

sweetie, what you are going through is one of the toughest things about being a trans... being accepted by others. Now many people will tell you things like your lesbian and stuff but you know what... FUCK EM. Dress however the hell you want. get your hair like however you want. there are plenty of girls who dress like guys who like guys. there is nothing wrong with you and your family is honestly messed up for what they've said and been saying. be proud of who you are and confront your family because what they are saying obviously is effecting you and your transition to finding yourself. tell them exactly how you feel when they say those things.

Q: Now before I write this don't get me wrong I love my husband with all my heart but.. We have been married 2 1/2 years. We have 2 children in the home 5 and 2. My 5 year old is his step son who he is really to hard on and he feels my son should do everything when hes told or already know to do it. My son has, adhd, separation anxiety and Aspergers. We never cuddle if we cuddle at night it last 2 minutes and then he wants to have sex. We clean up and roll over and go to sleep constantly. He is very unromantic. If I try and talk to him he does not want to hear it he will stare and the tv or computer screen instead of listening to me talk or hell say i dont want to fight with you and i reply babe im not trying to argue i just want to talk this out and then hell post on facebook worse night over i cant wait until its over. When we didnt even get to talk. I just dont know what else to do to get him to understand a marriage needs to be about communication and love.

when you married this man, were you aware he was like this because if so this is what you signed up for? and it's obvious he isn't willing to communicate and whether he loves you or not if he isn't willing to communicate you guys will have way more problems like this and divorce could be in your future. you could try marriage counseling but the problem is even getting him to sit down and talk about it. It's time you go head on. and the next time he posts something like that on facebook, like it and comment "it will be over when you can actually tell me what's on your mind instead of facebook."

Q: I'm a 20 year old female from America. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 7 months, but we've known each other since we were little. But my boyfriend has a dark sense of humor. He'll make jokes about other girls or breaking up with me or other things. He sees them as just jokes, and I'm not the type that can't take a joke but sometimes he does it too much. He tells me he'll tone it down but it just seems to occur again. How can I handle this? Thanks in advance! :)

alot of guys have a "dark sense of humor" the question is have you told him straight up, those jokes aren't funny and they actually do offend you? If you haven't you should. but if he continues you, you can either ignore it or keep confronting him till he gets it. hell you can even do it back, but i don't thinkthat's a good option

Q: I am really interested in playing games with others online. I really enjoy lifestyle themed games. I don't necessarily mean "normal" life. I enjoy fantasy. I also can appreciate a good arcade style game.

Suggestions please!

imvu

Q: Is it ok to be taller than your boyfriend? Im a couple inches taller than him and my friends say its weird...

uhmmmm... it depends on how you feel. i know girls who like shorter guys. me, myself i like em tall ;) so it really all depends on your preference and if you love the person height shouldn't matter.

Q: OK, so my boyfriend and I had sex last monday. I have been thinking that I may be pregnant (I'm 18)but my parents don't like my boyfriend. I am determined to tell them if I am pregnant that it was with my boyfriend ( of which they don't know about nor do they like). How can I go about telling them if i am pregnant that I am pregnant without them yelling at me or freaking out?

uhm before you even totally jump ahead FIND OUT FIRST if you are pregnant.

Q: If a married woman is cheating with a married man and she hears him tell his wife he loves her and 5 minutes later is having sex with the other woman what does this mean?

well obviously he doesn't care about the woman he is cheating with... nor the woman he is married to the guy probably doesn't even know what love is but then again since he is cheating with a married woman and she feels the need to care he is loving HIS wife, she is stupid because she probably goes around saying she "loves" her husband too.

Q: I have an interview for a job in several days (the 15th I believe), and I'm pretty sure I will be drug tested. I am most definitely not a frequent smoker. I've only tried weed four times in my life. Unfortunately, twice was in the past month. What will have been 25 days prior to the test, I drank bizarre weed infused vodka and what will have been a week before the test I took one hit at a party. I'm not sure the hit would really show up in the drug test, as I don't think I did it right. I am a 19 year old female and 5'4 and about 135 pounds. Do you think I will test negative? Does anyone have any detox tips?

there are actually ways to pass a drug test. you can even buy a liquid that wipes all drugs out of your system. googling it is your best bet so that you can find the nearest store by you that sells one of the liquids.

Q: how to say goodnight in a cut yet flirty way

"try not to dream about me ;)"

Q: Thank you for answering my question on how to send a text to my friend's cell phone but I can't get the SMS flag to drop down after clicking Compose in Yahoo Mail.

Any suggestions?

what you do is you click the little aarow thing next to click compose message it drops down and then you click SMS and a little thing should pop up.

Q: did masterbuting leads for losting my virginity

what do you mean... are you asking me if masturbating leads to you losing your virginity? No because you can make the choice to masturbate and you can make the choice to have sex.

Q: Friend has gotten a cell with unlimited free texting and has asked me to send her a text message. Can I do this from my computer using Windows xp and FireFox and if so, what steps do I follow?

on yahoo, if you have a yahoo email you can text people on it by clicking write new SMS instead of new email.

Q: Im 16 years old in 10th grade and it seems my weekday routine is Step #1:Wake up. Step #2:Do not kill self. Step #3:Sleep. Step #4: Repeat. I have 1 or 2 "friends" at school that aren't really close they are just "friendly" to me. I have some close friends that I hangout with every weekend but during the week its so hard for me to get out of bed and go to school so i am low on attendency. I don't necessarily get bullied but I do see people pointing and staring and talking about me a lot which really makes me REALLY upset. I guess I am very sensitive. I usually come home for lunch and cry then go back to school and ill often cry at night. My parents and friends are aware of this and I go to a counselor but it doesn't seem to help at all its been getting worse and worse. I think im so ugly and I know i have a good life im not poor and i have family that loves me but I'm just so sad and I want to die. I don't want to commit suicide but I've definitely thought about it before. If I don't have something to look forward to at all times I get really depressed I usually look forward to the weekend and hanging out with my friends but now its just to hard to make it through school the whole week because it seems like I just get judged. My grades are getting low even though it seems like I try so hard I can't get them up. I try to do little things to motivate me to get myself out of bed like doing my hair a new way and things like that and it worked for a while but not anymore. I like to sleep a lot because cant feel sadness when I'm sleeping. I've never done any drugs. I'm not good at anything (seriously)I hide my face with my hair and I am emo I cut myself sometimes. I'm just tired of living....I just want to love myself but no matter what I do I just cant.

you like every other high schooler, doesn't believe it when adults say what people think of you in high school ro what happens there, DOESN'T MATTER. Well i just graduated last year and let me tell you all this people that ever made fun of me and said shit to me are not only far behind me whether i see them or not. THEY DON'T MEAN SHIT NOW AND HALF OF THEM WON'T EVER BE SHIT. Stop worrying bout high school and focus on yourself. and by the way you're just another person feeding into the "emo" stereo type by saying you cut yourself... not all emos cut themselves and its PATHETIC to do.

Q: Should I be offended if a guy I'm interested in takes an hour to text back? :/ thanks!

nope, but you have the right to be annoyed as hell.

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