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What would you think about a girl who doesn't drink, do drugs, sleep around or party all the time?
Im 16 years old, almost 17. I've never had a boyfriend, i've never kissed a guy, i've never been drunk, i've never done drugs, and I don't go to parties. At my age that's all my friends want to do. They get drunk/high, they go to parties, and they hook up with guys. I feel like such a loser because I have no intentions of doing any of that stuff anytime soon. I feel like I don't have anything to talk about with my friends because that's all they talk about. Like everytime i've gone to little get togethers with them everyones smoking weed or drinking, and I just stand there awkwardly. There's been times where I want to try it, but theres just something in my head that tells me not too. What would you think of someone like me? should I continue to be the way I am? are there any other teens out there like me? should I just let go and open up to new things? What does being high/drunk feel like?
do people at parties who do get messed up all the time think badly about the ones who don't? HELP!
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WHOA!!! WHOA!!! who cares what we think nor what anybody else does? You are not afraid to be yourself and hell you basically just overcame an obstacle most teens struggle with peer pressure, and asserting your identity. i mean you are willing to say "hey i don't do all that stuff" most people would be like "my friends are doing it so SO WILL I". and if you really must know what i think. i think it's cool. Be you. that's what attracts people. and there are teens like you, yes. and alot of the people who do that stuff do think bad mostly because they think you judge them or your prudy but no fucks should be given about that. and being high or drunk is different for everyone. for some it's amazing. for others it's the only way they survive life.
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first of all you are such a darling and sweet heart girl i just want to say never mislead yourself
how about you try to get new friends who are like you who doesn't drink, do drugs, sleep around or party all the time.
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They have no idea yet but these people who are always on drugs, drinking and partying either hit rock bottom or die. There's no escaping what that lifestyle does. It destroys your life and you one way or another.
I know you badly want to fit in but you shouldn't sacrifice morals, beliefs, principles and what feels right for you. What do I think of you? I think you're normal and wise enough to know that this lifestyle is destructive and they're self-destructive. You see and know the reality of what they're into.
Are there other teens like you? You can bet on it! People just don't advertise it. If you want to meet them I suggest talking to people with MADD in your area and asking them where you can meet people who don't drink or do drugs as they would know of groups. There's an idea.
That voice in the back of your head is one of reason and if it's saying "don't" it always knows what it's saying. Being high or drunk is being completely out of control of body and mind to make the slightest decision or function.
Cocaine for instance is a high feeling that doesn't go away for a long time, parceled with inability to sleep, no concept of time, poor decisions, sexual or otherwise and grandiose ideas/delusions in most cases. Not fun. Why anyone does it mystifies me too.
There's nothing wrong with not ever doing this stuff--it fact it's the sane choice. As far as drinking goes as long as it's 1 drink and done on a special circumstance it's okay if you know where that limit is.
As far as boyfriends and kisses go it will happen. Eventually, the right person will meet you and you'll both know it when it happens. This has nothing to do with age.
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When I was 17 one of my closest friends was only into doing drugs and drinking, and I resisted for a few years. I even asked a question on advicenators inquiring what to do.
Continue doing what you're doing and stay away from drugs: do not make the same mistake I did because it will fuck up your life.
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YEAAAHHhhim a teen out there like u! Im only 15 tho, but im in the same boat. I think I got drunk once, but all I remember was having a bad headache in the morning! But seriously, dont worry about it- you will get those experiences, dont force them on yourself. And you'll probably be better off in the long run. Picture a reunion: the druggies are there, looking 10 years too old, and then theres you; happy, healthy with a really fit husband and kids.Why not? :D
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I am very proud that you don't do this stuff! If you continue not to do this stuff then you will get farther in life and have a brighter future. Yes, our econemy is like this now but I think we should but an end to underaged drinking, sex, and other things that are not helpful. Do not try any of this stuff because it screws you up and people may take advantage of te fact that you are drunk. I am a little bit younger than you but I am with you. I dont plan to drink or any of that stuff. You asked "what do you think of someone like me" well right now I think you're pretty mature and a leader. I see you getting farther than your friends in life when you're older. But do try and have fun going to a party can be fun.
Hope I helped and be your self, you dont have to do wht your friends may pressure you into doing or what they do.
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