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Foreign Fling: Should I have had sex with him, or gone back to my boyfriend?
My boyfriend of four years and I broke up about a month ago and within a week I met another guy. He was older, a grad student on exchange from Europe. Since I studied abroad last year, we had a lot in common and hit it off right away. We ended up seeing each other the next night and he stayed over at my house. We did not have sex or anything and I was honest with him, telling him that although I was technically completely single, I wasn't ruling out getting back together with my boyfriend. Less than a week later we did get back together and I cancelled on a date with the other guy who was very supportive and happy for me. I know I made the right decision getting back with my boyfriend because I do love him and things have been difficult because we have been long distance for over a year now, but sometimes I wonder if I missed out on a new and exciting experience. I just am not convinced that it would have been worth throwing away what I have. Did I do te right thing?
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no you knew you loved your boyfriend and you did what alot of women don't do which is admit they still care to the new guy approaching. So the guy knew it was a possibility and part of being human you're always to wonder the "what if" thing. But hey if it's meant to be, it will happen ;)
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It's all what you're feeling. It is good that you didn't have sex with him because that should take more time but if you're not happy with you're boyfriend and you're having second thoughts you need to figure things out. If you love your boyfriend and you want to stay with him, then that's fine, stay with him. But if you keep having second thoughts and you don't know if you want your boyfriend or you want to date around then you might want to break it off. Good luck.
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Really dating you boyfriend while you may having feelings for someone else is unfair.
If you aren't happy with your boyfriend then end it and keep that way. Decide what you want to do in your life but just to put it out there it should take well over 2 dates before you think of having sex with someone.... Yes, You've pretty much answered your own question. I think it's only fair to be honest with your boyfriend about how you really feel and move on with your life.
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I think you did do the right thing, because thats someone that you apparently have alot of feelings for. and what if you had had sex with the other guy and it turned out to be something horrible then you wouldve regretted... all im saying is that everything that sounds new, fun, and exciting sometimes isnt the best thing you need
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You answered your own question, you said you love your boyfriend and despite it being hard with long distance you love him. So ..that's you're own decision, if you had slept with the other guy, I mean you and your boyfriend were broken up but how would you have felt and how would your boyfriend have felt when he found out??
I think you did make the right choice, but if you're also having second guesses like this, that's an answer and something to think about :/
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