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Transexuality? I am not a lesbian, but I want to look like a boy, dress like a boy and pass for a boy.
Well, I don't know what to put this under. So I am 22 years old and I am just now getting a bit more comfortable accepting my body dysmorphic problems. As far off as I can remember I've always wanted to be a boy. I was born female. Growing up was terrible for me, kids made fun of me up until junior high, for acting and dressing like a boy. My parents put a stop to it and told me to "act normal" or else I would never have any friends. For the longest time I've felt very confused, I just always wanted to appear more masculine to others and I don't really know or understand why. Putting sexual orientation aside. My parents and brothers and sisters would pick on me and thought maybe I was a lesbian. But when I told them I liked boys over girls they began to laugh. My mother even once told me, "Let me get this straight, so my little girl is really a little homo." Yeah, well putting that all behind me now, I finally moved out but I feel very distraught about it all. Living alone means I can finall wear what I want. Meaning male clothing. But I am very nerve wrecked about shopping. And about cutting my hair. In high school for my junior year when I cut my hair I was called a dyke all through out until graduation.
So I guess I would just like some tips or sites or books that can point me in the right direction of passing as a boy rather than having people view me as a butchy lesbian. Not that I have anything at all against them. I just feel terrible having to force myself to look all female. I've done some searching online but all I find are ftm but "lesbian" wise. Nothing on "transfags." One more thing is,I work with two siblings of mine in my mothers catering business. So of course I see them everyday for a few hours. I feel uncomfortable about it all with my family for obvious reasons. Everyone else in my family is, "normal." Meaning straight. At least that we know of, so it only makes me feel more alienated. I don't know what to say to my family about it if they ask. My youngest brother is support of it, he always asks me about it, and he states. "You'll make a handsome gentlemen one day sis." lol But as for my sisters and elder brother, they tell me I'm disgusting and to just be normal. Otherwise I will never get married or have children. Which honestly I don't care much for finding anyone, I just want to feel comfortable with myself and understand myself. I mean you can't love anyone else unless you love yourself first, right?
Well I'm sorry if this is long and hard to understand. But any help at all, thank you for it.
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sweetie, what you are going through is one of the toughest things about being a trans... being accepted by others. Now many people will tell you things like your lesbian and stuff but you know what... FUCK EM. Dress however the hell you want. get your hair like however you want. there are plenty of girls who dress like guys who like guys. there is nothing wrong with you and your family is honestly messed up for what they've said and been saying. be proud of who you are and confront your family because what they are saying obviously is effecting you and your transition to finding yourself. tell them exactly how you feel when they say those things.
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One way that you can feel better about yourself is to acknowledge that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. you're a beautiful person no matter what your family or other people may say. you deserve respect from your family and if I were you, I would start to demand it or tell them to shut their mouths. They have no right to deny you love and support that I assume your other siblings get just because you are different. As it has been so eloquently put, "if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all." Something I know you may not want to hear but must hear is that people can and will constantly judge you. Ignorance is rampant in recent times and will continue to be in the future. The important thing for you to remember is that their opinion of you does not matter. You must free yourself from your own insecurities and rise above the bigots who don't accept you for the wonderful human being you are. I can't think of anymore advice to give you but I do extend extend a hand of hope. If you ever need an open ear, I am always available. I may not reply right on the spot but I will soon and I will provide you with the best advice I can muster. All my best wishes to you dear.
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It just means your a tomboy. you are a girl you is more comfortable dressing like a male. You probably get along better with males. You probably like to play sports?
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I think you need to do some scientific research and describe what you really feel inside. You need to dig deeper within yourself and find how you truly feel then maybe you can turn all of this around. As far as your family goes, your family just needs a explanation to the "issue" and time to accept whatever it is going on inside your body. When you have seen things change in your life according to my answer, then you can live in complete peace. Good luck and god bless you! (I'm 12 by the way lol)
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All I have to say is be yourself. I know that's hard but your 22 years old. you're an adult! So who cares if people think your weird for dressing like a boy or whatever. If you act like everyone else you're not yourself. Look there's 8 billion people in the world so you could find a bunch of people like you. Just keeping loving yourself and you're set. If no one is gonna accept you, they're just jealous because you can be yourself openly and they can't.
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