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nervous...... please help :D My parents don't know I am dating a muslim
Basically ive been seeing my boyfriend since august 2010 and well we got together finally in december we got together, but the thing is he's muslim but im so cool with that i dont care haha , only problem is my parents dont think its right if i date a muslim they think he is like them dominent men. But their wrong i want to introduce him to them , but i'm scared that they wouldnt let me see him. Im 18 this year i know its my feelings only thing is that hes a muslim guy, hes turkish. Honestly i fell in love with him, im also his first love aswell and it feels so amazing and well its come to the point where i wanna take things further on with my partner i want to be able to make love with him because i lost my virginity at 15 and well it was horrible didnt like it, wanna make this so special with him but im also nervous cause its the first time im gonna do something with love. PLEASE HELPPPP xx
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I guess we are dealing with two separate issues here: parents and sex with your boyfriend.
About the parents: regrettably they have to find out sooner or later, especially if this relationship stands the test of time as it has done so far.
I would try having a chat to them first about prejudice and religion before bringing up the matter of your boyfriend's faith.
Take for example that a lot of the world's population are Roman Catholic, they have had a lot of pad press over a minority using their position to abuse children, but that doesn't mean all Catholics and catholic priests abuse children. Well it is the same with Muslim men, not all of them are dominant and other prejudices alot of the world have.
As for the matter of sex with your boyfriend on a personal note, yes it is a bother for a woman the first few times, there isn't much anyone can do about it because the body has to learn to accept the male visitor so to speak. However it might be something that you and your boyfriend need to discuss if he is a practising Muslim that sex outside of marriage does not conflict with his religious views.
Hope this helps.
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Well, I'm a firm believer in complete honesty. So, I think it is only right that you tell your parents.
However, you have to go about it very delicately and don't put your boyfriend in an awkward position in case anything unpleasant happens.
You have to respect your parents, their views and opinions, but you also have to stand your ground. They're not always right, contrary to popular belief (hah).
As for sex. Hm. Well, I'm certainly not going to tell you not to do it, that would be silly. You say you love him, I believe you.
No one can tell you how to make it "special" because it's your relationship - we're not inside it, we don't know what is special between the two of you.
All I can say is be safe for God's sake.
Use a condom. Every time. The whole time. Even if you are on the pill, I don't care. Better safe than sorry. Seriously, don't believe any myths.
You don't want to get pregnant or and STD (I dk, just saying, don't take that the wrong way).
Even if it "doesn't feel good," which is utter crap anyway, giving birth feels worse.
Sorry, end rant.
My point is, I think you need to tell your parents but you need to choose your words wisely and do NOT get in an argument about it; no yelling, accusing, etc.
And just have safe sex, please, please, please.
Good luck.
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