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Breaking shyness
I'm 20 yrs old and it kills me dat ave neva had a serious relationship. I long for someone to just hold me and love. Guys neva ask me out and i know am not ugly so maybe its cos am shy. I feel so lonely sometimes, i cant even bear to watch romantic movies anymore.
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Everyone on this planet is lookin for that.So dont feel your alone with being alone & lonely.Your so young dont feel the need to rush into a life of love.Sure its great but Im WAY older than you and have a very similar problem Except I still love watching romantic comedies.Lighten up about it When the time is right for you He will be right in front of you.They say love will come when you stop looking,so stop looking & see who pops up into your life..Good Luck Cheriscope
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My Idea..first off, if you take my advice on this, BE CAREFUL!!! make sure you talk to a guy for a while before meeting them..but try www.plentyoffish.com, www.eharmony.com or www.match.com believe it or not like 50% or more relationships start on the internet now a days. be yourself, upload respectful pictures of yourself, no need to be too flashy, the right guy will like you for decency. Goodluck :) -Istalio
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One day your prince will find you and will feel blessed to have had. In the meantime you need to help yourself be ready. Right now you need help with overcoming shyness and with social skills that will help you get on better when socializing.
One thing that may help you are programs where you have to learn how to speak to all sorts of people. Student council is a good idea, definitely take drama courses inside or outside of school and get involved with a theater group even if it's only backstage as you'll get tons of practice talking to different people.
There's NOTHING wrong either with seeing a therapist and working on your shyness as well as telling a doctor about it as they'll have coping skills for you and challenges.
If you like someone start talking to them, ask about sports, interest, etc. etc. and start a friendship. Hell, even saying "I would like to be your friend." will do it for you. Build from that and who knows.
If you can't even watch movies and enjoy them because of this we have an issue that needs professionals to help you as obviously there's a ton of pain to work through and I think until you do you'll continue feeling miserable when in fact you could be soaring (in a god way). Become comfortable with yourself or guys or whomever won't be with you. Your body language and self-esteem is what they can see and right now they sense you have a problem and are backing off.
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You just have to keep thinking in you head you want to be out going and just do it. I have usually shy and my husband loves me but has wanted me to be more outgoing. So i been playing softball and volleyball with him I go to he bar once a month with him (we have kids so we dont go very often) and I dance when we are there and im 20 so im sober while doing it while everyone else is drunk.,
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