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He doesn't want to be with me because of my family
17/f I like my best friend, and i have for awhile. My girl best friend just told me last night, that she was questioning his best friend about me and him, since she knows he tells his best guy friend things, and he told his best friend that he didnt want to date me because my life was too fucked up. Like my family and stuff.. I cried for a really long time because you would think that's when a person would want to be there for you more, i dont see how thats any reason not to be with someone, and i dont know what to think..expecially since hes like my best friend.
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As hurtful as this can be, maybe hes looking into the future and is saying to himself, why date someone just for now? maybe hes looking into the future saying, look at the family, they would be my in laws and i would have to deal with them the rest of my life. ya see, the reason im being so blunt is to get right to the issue so you can address it. My advice is, assure him that if you two date, and even get married someday, that hes dating you, and marrying you, not your family. Goodluck -Istalio
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SMH. One thing you should honestly never do is have a friend ask a friend if your friend likes you... hahaha confusing way to put it. I mean there are so many people in this equation that could be lying or covering up or anything else. Your friend could be lying because she likes him. His friend could be lying because he likes you. The guy could be lying because he doesn't want others to know he likes you. IN OTHER WORDS, Ask him yourself. It's better.
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You don't know what to think? Why are you letting other people speak for your friend? So your friends says one thing...How do you know it's not another? If you both are best friends then you should be comfortable enough to be open with your feelings towards one another. Honestly, I wouldn't automatically assume that it's a lost cause over what your friend said. Go and find out for yourself
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boys are really easily scared away and tend to judge quickly based on really stupid things if they are asked to judge. so they key here would be to not put him in that position where he has to decide if he wants to be with you until something is already going on. once something more than friendly starts between you guys he wont care about your family and your life being an issue, hel see past that if he likes you. so work on getting him to like you or if your brave, telling him you like him or whatever and the family stuff will go away.
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