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Hi! So today I opened my legs and then a fart just came out.. Up front! It keeps happening everytime I open my legs!! Please help, I'm scared! Is there something wrong with me?? Does it have something to do with me not starting my period yet?!
I'm also 12 :) but anyway no its got nothing to do with not having your period most of my friends who's 12 don't have there period yet either. This is nothing to worry about and its seriously normal :) I was looking at the last answer and they right :)
I am 9 and getting my ears pierced on March 24, when I turn 10. I'm a bit nervous, and I want to know if it hurts or not. Thanks! :)
Yes it is sore but not for very long I got mine pierced when I was still really young also and with a gun I have a belly ring and my ears are pierced and to me the ears was the least sore and to my friend she has a nose ring also and her ears was also the least sore I'm 12 btw. You shouldn't not get it because its sore because the older you get the more sore it is. It isn't sore for to long but becarefull for infections. And its totally worth it because beauty is pain right?
hope I helped
Michaela x
So i jusr got out of a relationship about 2 months ago with (guy number 1). We broke up because he was way to controlling and i couldn't take it anymore. I also had feelings for a guy in the past i dated before him (guy number 2). I have been seeing the guy from the past (guy number 2) and i felt like i had feelings for him at first but now idk for sure if i do/if it is right. Guy number 1 changed completely and is trying to get me back with me and he wont give up. I feel like feelings are coming back for guy number 1. So now i'm super confused because i like both guys. Help :( what should i do and btw sorry this is so long and confusing to follow i didn't know how else to put it. :p
Well if you like two guys at once choose the 2nd guy because if you really were in love with the 1st you wouldn't of fallen for the 2nd 1 is one of my fav quotes. Hun the guy who was controlling might of not changed he could be acting or he could even think he has. Guys can't just change you could take him back it could all be good at first but then BAM he's back to the controlling person he was
Hope I helped
Michaela x
I got asked out in school on Wendsday and he's my first boyfriend and I don't know what to do! I'm really shy. I really like him but since I don't know what to do I'm scared he'll break up with me.. HELP!
Just be yourself because he obviously likes the real you and how you are if he asked you out. Sweetie if you act like someone else then he's liking a fake person and not you and might not even like the fake you. Just be you sweets*
Hope I helped
Michaela x
I'm in Middle school and all of a sudden from time to time I feel that ai should not live anymore. It's hard for me to though. I like this band Blood On The Dancefloor I got into and I think it is triggering to this. I don't really like my family anymore either. How can I get rid of this feeling forever! Help me!
Well I don't think you should do it honestly once you die there is no coming back! Because you gone! You actually actually gone! Think about everyone who loves you they will be scared,shocked,devistated,over whelmed,sad,just so many feelings but you still can't come back because you are dead! Right now you going through a tough time I see that but it will be over nothing will last forever! Don't make a permanent decision to a temporary problem its really the worst thing you can die! Reading stuff like this makes me sad because I know you probably won't take the advice and die anyway and I don't even know you want will everyone who does know you feel like? I tried to kill myself once but I stayed strong and now I'm happier than ever! Please don't kill yourself! Please! Get help phone a suicide hotline talk to a phycoligist anything! But please get help!
Hope I helped
Michaela x
*ps:if you need to talk email me on michaela.star@hotmail.co.za*
Recently, I was qutie ill. I ended up in the hospital where they told me because of the massive bowel infection my heart had been attacked. My first thought was good, it is finally coming to an end.
Sometimes death if far more preferable to living in a society where:
My governmetn condones and encourages large MV Vessels loaded with crude to come down the inside passage of BC
Where a fool can go into a barber shop for a haircut and then goes to Human rights because a practicing Muslim will not touch a woman outside his family
Where dogs, kids, old people, etc are tortured on a daily basis and their torturers pay a big time lawyer who knows nothing about justice to get them out of jail.
It is your time now. I have had mine. I have refused meds and am patiently waiting for it all to be over. I just can't do this anymore.
So who is right and who is wrong?
Well I think you should take it honestly once you die there is no coming back! Because you gone! You actually actually gone! Think about everyone who loves you they will be scared,shocked,devistated,over whelmed,sad,just so many feelings but you still can't come back because you are dead! Right now you going through a tough time I see that but it will be over nothing will last forever! Don't make a permanent decision to a temporary problem its really the worst thing you can die! Reading stuff like this makes me sad because I know you probably won't take the advice and die anyway and I don't even know you want will everyone who does know you feel like? I tried to kill myself once but I stayed strong and now I'm happier than ever! Please don't kill yourself! Please! Get help phone a suicide hotline talk to a phycoligist anything! But please get help!
Hope I helped
Michaela x
Hi,I'm Jazz 14/f.I'm very confused as of right now.
There's this guy named Andrew.He's two years older than me,and also my brother's best friend's.Every since I first met him last year,I've had a crush on him.I would try to go where I knew he would be.
But now,it's different since we all go to the same school.
But my two bestfriend's know I had a crush on him.
But I noticed that he was always finding reasons to talk to me,or help me.But i didn't think anythimng of it,I just thought he was being nice since I was his bestfriend's little sister.
So two months ago,the crush I had on him went away.I just viewed him as a friend.
But this month,he told my bestfriend's he likes me,so they told me,and the crush came back that i had on him.
He asked me out,and i told him i would give him an answer later,and he agreed with that.
He writes me letters every other day now,telling me how beautiful and sweet i am.
He even told me he was always trying to talk to me or help me because he liked me since we first met.
He gets nervous when he's around me,and when I hug him,he get's red and blushes.
He says he gets butterflies when I'm around,and my friends keep telling me to go out with him.
But I feel bad,because he's writing me these nice letters telling me how beautiful and perfect I am,but when I write back all I can honestly say is he's sweet and nice,because I don't love him like he loves me.I don't love him at all.
He told me to do what makes me happy.I told him that dating him isn't gonna make me happy,and neither is not dating him.So i just told him now.
But the next two days i thought it over,and decided to date him.but when we went to school monday,he didn't talk to me,he avoided me,and the next day also.I felt bad.He finally told me he started dating his bff monday,because i was taking to long.he apologized and asked if i was ok.i lied and said yes,and he hugged me,and i had to leave so i wouldnt cry.im trying to foget about him but its not working.I put the letters in his locker,but he left them there refusing to take them back.
Any help right about now would do me good.
Well I also like this guy and I also wasn't shure of anything at first like you. I just want to say you shouldn't give up on him giving up is not the best thing to do he probably has feelings for you still because you can't just stop loving someone I think you should tell him how you feel but don't lie and don't be rude because the guy I like was rude to me and the next time he saw he was nice and said hi but I just skeefed him to be spitefull and now I really regret it. You can't get advice on how to not like someone so maybe just try get him back if it doesn't work maybe try getting to know other guys and maybe you fall for them just don't try to hard just be yourself and let him know exactly what you feel for him
Hope I helped
Michaela x
Im 12 years old my boyfriend proposed to me hes 17 we are inlove can I get engaged at my age ?
Sweetie no I'm also 12 and for a 12 year old to date a 17 year old is illegal in some places. Hun say no because he can wate if he truly loves u. I'm 12 and none of my realationships have worked out right even though I thought we were madly in love no girl its just not right. You should rather focus on your hobbies friends and school work of course you can have boyfriends but when you 12 they won't stay forever. Like me my longest relationship was a year but I try focus on my hobbies like modeling,dancing,swimming listening to music being with my friends stuff like that not getting enganged
Sorry hun but its the truth imagin what your parents will say
Ok, so here's the story.
I'm 17, a senior in high school, and I just can't stop thinking about this girl I like.
Over the summer I was lifeguarding with her in a camp upstate, we both lived on the same grounds so we saw eachother every day. For the first week or so that I was there we seriously hit it off, we talked to eachother for what seemed like hours, went on walks to the horse ranch nearby, and so on. Then for a little while she just suddenly stopped talking to me for the next 2 weeks, I confronted her about it and she told me that I had been acting a lot like my roommate, who in her opinion was a major tool. We made up and continued being friends, just we never got as close as we were that first week we met.
Over the course of the summer I found out she kinda had this guy who she liked, and he like her(a lot apparently) but because he had strict parents they couldn't go out, I got some hints over the summer that she might go out with me, and she even told me the fact that this guy can't go out with her wouldn't stop her from going out with other guys.
I can't stop thinking about her, it's getting really frustrating, it's been about 5 months since we met and I guess we are friends(we talk occasionally, I rarely see her though), I really want to be with her, but I seriously don't wanna kill a good friendship and make things awkward.
So my question is, is there anything I can do to make a move at going out with her? Or should I just leave it as it is, and get over it as best I can?
P.S. We don't go to the same school but live in the same area, she's one grade below me(but like 3 months younger)
P.P.S. Sorry I reposted this, last time apparently I did it anonymously.
You should really tell her don't worry about it getting in your friendship trust me I was friends with this guy and we dated and broke up horribly and we still friends then he asked me out again and I said no and we still good friends. All girls need to hear is that u really do want them trust me
Hope I helped
Michaela x
Since d day of marriage I am being neglected by my husband though I was his own choice. Later I came to know he still loves his former wife & son & he talks with her over phone. Secondly it us his basic nature to since childhood to neglect his own family & to do anything for friends' families. For this reason his wife divorced him. It is only after their divorce that he has grown interest in her.I know everyone will say that he is a good person to help others & there is nothing bad in maintaining a friendly relationship with his ex-wife. But what about me? I am tired of severe loneliness & negligence. Plz tell me d ways so that he becomes homely & love me. It is useless to discuss with him. I have shown love & affection to him as many ways as I can. But all r in vain. I have tried to commit suicide twice but have not died.
Okay well I really think you guys should talk it out,I'm only 12 so I can't give much advice but I'm gonna try here. DON'T commit suicide please!! Its the worst thing you can do! I think you and your husband should seek counsilling because you really shouldn't make a permanent decision to a temporary
Problem. You deserve to be happy and if he can't make you happy maybe you guys should have a break or something because if he wants his ex wife then what are you still doing being with him? I'm sorry and its probably not what you want to here but he wants her and probably not you and maybe you to should give it a rest and see other people
Hope I helped
Michaela x
I think I have feelings for my friend. We've only known each other for 3 months, but we've become pretty close since then. My issue is keeping my cool around him when we're out. I always either avoid him completely or act standoffish. He's a flirt and that bothers me which I really wish it didn't! I need to learn how to just go out and have fun and enjoy myself without constantly looking over to see who he's flirting with or what he's doing. I feel like I turn into a crazy person when I like someone and that's not what I want to be nor my intentions at all. Thanks.
Act how you would act when you with your friends since he was your friend before you liked him(I'm guessing)anyway just stay cool and like the other person said act like you one of the guys but still girlish don't worry about the other girls there just be yourself
Hope I helped
Michaela x
So..
Theres a guy in one of my classess I like. We've only spoken twice and the last time was 6 months ago now!
He's shown sign of liking me (looks at me, laughs at things I say) and I overhear him say things to his friends about a girl-the things could easily apply to me I you get what I'm saying.
So, bearing in mind I'm really shy and he's two years older than me, is it abit random to add his as a facebook friend? We have no mutual friends on facebook either :/
Well shure! People add each other on facebook a lot even if they don't have mutual friends. I added my crush on facebook and we started dating so you should totally give it a try doll
13/f
okaay, so everyday my boyfriend kisses me and hugs me everyday b4 we get on the bus to go home. but today he didnt. i asked him why he didnt, and he said he just wasnt himself, because his grandmothers dog dies, and he was really close to it. i felt bad and sent him a frowney face, and he never answerd me. i sometimes feel like he doesnt like me. or love me in our case. we've been dating 2 weeks as of tommorrow...but i feel really bad for him, and he wont answer me. i'm scared to text him again because it makes me feel pushy. do you think was wrong for asking why he didnt kiss me? and should i text him and tell him that sometimes it seems as though he doesnt like me and tell the truth?
Okay look doll I'm 12 and I've been in a smiliar situation. Don't ask him because u guys have only been about 2 weeks and even by a month it shouldn't really be "love" after u date 4 a long time then shure it is. But maybe tell him its bothering you but be careful about over doing it because if you carry on about it you can make it turn out badly. Maybe just send 1 message telling him it feels as if he's lost interest in you and you would like to know if there's anything you can do to help him through this tough time if he doesn't reply don't send annother message wait for him and if he does reply well I'm shure you know to take it from there
Hope I helped x
how do i lose weight ?
Well I'm a model and I'm 12 so I'm pretty used to trying to lose weight the best thing is to exerise,eat healthy,drink a lot of water and that sweet thing you've been dying for all day don't eat it think that if you don't eat it you can eat it tomorrow and lose weight then the next day all you think is well I could do it yesterday I can do it today and eat what's nessasery and once you lose weight don't go all crazy thinking you've lost it you can get back to eating a lot like mad again of course you can eat but if you go mad with it you'll pick up twice the weight same with any other diet and don't starve yourself don't take laxitives or anything like that it can really mess up your body trust me I learnt that the hard way
hope I helped x
13/f
hi, okaay so im 13 and a female,im really nice and pretty(not to sound self concieded)and i have exactly what i want all around me. Unfortunatly, kids in my school are all picky about what u wear and how fat you are. i have a boyfriend. and i have over 225 friends. i'm one of the more social (popular) kids in school, but for the first time today i was called fat. it bothers me so much now that, i cant wear anything but yoga pants without feeling fat. i hardly ever eat, but when i do its soup salads chicken and healthy stuff. i'm not anorexic, i eat 3 meals a day, i just dont eat anything in between. it keeps getting to me, and now i wonder alot more often, why i have such a good boyfriend, so many good friends, etc...i dont know what to think of my self anymore. how do i go back to the old me?
Look hun I do modeling and I'm 12 so not that much younger than you,I also feel fat somettimes. I'm very self consious about what I eat what I wear I'm so scared of what people think BUT what I did was not eat at all after a while I started trying laxitives but then I stopped because I realized its wrong. You musnt worry about what people think of you just remember even the most famous people and models such as VS models or anyone actually everyone has inseucrities just some people don't let it get to them and that's how they got to where they are today. I'm also trying to say you musnt try starve yourself or take laxitives or anything if you really are worried about your weight try exercise and eat healthy if its the 1st time I'm sure you not that persons just trying to get you down trust me I have a lot of experience when it comes to thees things. It sure would help if you told us your weight but anyway if you are tall then you will weigh a lot anyway but you really musnt let it get to you doll hope I helped :) x
Molly/ 13
Im a freshman in high school and this junior guy named Michael has been sexually harassing me. When he sees me he would grab at me and he would make disgusting remarks. Today i was leaving class and he pulled me into the bathroom and pushed me against the wall and put his hands down my panties. I tried screaming but he covered my mouth. I dont know what to do about him I'm to scared to go to school and I dont want him to hurt me for telling. Please help me.
This happened to me but it was my brother in law who sexually abused me. I know its hard to tell someone but you need to tell a adult you trust weather its your parents,teacher,prefect,principal,neighbour,aunt or uncle pretty much anyone! This is a crime and you shouldn't feel uncomftable or scared of going to school I really hope you take this advice and tell someone I know its hard but you did the right thing of comming here. I'm 12 by the way but I have the experience. If you ever need to talk you can email me on michaela.star@hotmail.co.za or inbox me
Goodluck x
ok so I'm a 12 year old girl and I met this guy on facebook he said he's 13 and we never met but ya he started like talking to me sexualy but then he said he's 15 and I didn't mind and he got my number and asked for naked pix and I sent them well after a while he said he's 18 and stil I didn't mind and he started sending me pix and stuff and he said he's 20 then 25 and now he wants to meet up but I'm scared he's older and say now he's like a really old perve and rapes me ! Flip I'm scared must I go and trust his age? How do I know how old he really is?
Everyone I know her and she got it sorted it sorry she didn't know how to like make people stop posting on here since she doesn't have a thing and all so she asked me to right it on here please stop posting answers on here because all of it is sorted out thx x
Do you know how to get rid of a sore throat really fast? I have to sing in a couple days and my throat is really, REALLY sore!
Eat chicken soup it helps me
Okay, well when I was about 10 my brother started playing with me. I mean in my vajaja. Well, as I got older it started to give me more and more pleasure. Well, he told me to get on the floor with him one night and he 69 it. Meaning I had to give him a blow job and he started liking and tounging my vajaja. I think its wrong but don't want my parents to find out and I have to get birthcontrol pills and the doctor looks down there! Please HELP!!!
Okay well STOP family should NOT do this at all !it was probably hormoans but yeah.I think you should tell him to also stop because its not right and if he forces you then its rape so yeah.
I am teenage girl turning .Before 3 days I left my only lovely place (my school)the school end and I will move 2 a new 1 I love my school ,my whole class and my teachers AND The most beautiful things is My family are horrible .My brother beats my mother every 3 or 5 mins .Because she was keep insulting him and said 2 him wish you die .When he was 8 ysold .Because he is walking strangly (disease) .I stand in front of her everytime 2 protect her So my brother beating me instead of my mom when I tey to stop him.So my whole body is hurting me now.And I cry all the day because of I will move 2 a new school.Plus I wake up in the morning everyday by my mother screams & crying out. Plus ain't go anywhere my family prevent me to go out even to the supermarket that's very close 2 my house.Also They never 4ever go out 2 having fun 2gother.I am feeling bad about my school I can't believe that I will leave it .I am considering them as my family .My class as my sisters.My teachers as my sisters and my mother.I was waiting every summer vocation 2 pass 2 go 2 my school again. When I mistake or argue with someone at my school .I was keeping blaming myself until I apologize 4 that person. This was my best one.I said 2 my dad I will go with my friends to the same school. He screamed at me said :I swear if you tell the principle to send and move you to another school that I want u to go .I'll kill ya( because it's far away from house).So I can't go with my friends .Also I tried and thought about fail to stay at my school.But I am nerd so I can't fail even I didn't study 4 the final exams.I love my school more than my awful family alot . Now all I do is lying on my bed crying and hearing squabbles outside but I keep ignoring.my body hurting me m brother every when he sees her in front of his face.I feel like death is the best choice 2 me help wt i have 2 do about this. Ain't stupid to do this but feeling like doing this
Oh my word ! That's terrible ! I can't give you much advise cause I'm only 12 but yeah I think you should phone childline or go to RAINN.org because what your brother is doing is abuse ! and please don't kill yourself! You have a wonderful life ahead of you IF you tell an adult childline a social worker or go to RAINN i know how you fell I was abused but I told my teacher and I got help. Please don't make a permenent disision to a temporary situation. I'm begging you to tell someone because you need to get some help even tho he's your brother you need to do something about it before he beats you to death. Feel free to inbox me anytime
Goodluck and I hope you make the right desision and phone them you can talk to me just rember that !