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How to be loved by husband? I have tried to commit suicide twice but have not died.
Since d day of marriage I am being neglected by my husband though I was his own choice. Later I came to know he still loves his former wife & son & he talks with her over phone. Secondly it us his basic nature to since childhood to neglect his own family & to do anything for friends' families. For this reason his wife divorced him. It is only after their divorce that he has grown interest in her.I know everyone will say that he is a good person to help others & there is nothing bad in maintaining a friendly relationship with his ex-wife. But what about me? I am tired of severe loneliness & negligence. Plz tell me d ways so that he becomes homely & love me. It is useless to discuss with him. I have shown love & affection to him as many ways as I can. But all r in vain. I have tried to commit suicide twice but have not died.
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The problem with guys such as your husband is that they have intimacy issues. I think your husband is from a broken home such as mine. If I'm not wrong, he has faced severe physical abuse during childhood. In situations like this, men tend to be cold and reserved at home and find solace in another home. Since they face physical abuse, a soft touch by a close family member is associate with the hard punches he got in childhood. hence he may also keeping a physical distance from those living close to him. Ask him about this childhood. if he has really faced abuse in childhood, he really needs help & consultation before he can open up to you. Good Luck!!!
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Okay well I really think you guys should talk it out,I'm only 12 so I can't give much advice but I'm gonna try here. DON'T commit suicide please!! Its the worst thing you can do! I think you and your husband should seek counsilling because you really shouldn't make a permanent decision to a temporary
Problem. You deserve to be happy and if he can't make you happy maybe you guys should have a break or something because if he wants his ex wife then what are you still doing being with him? I'm sorry and its probably not what you want to here but he wants her and probably not you and maybe you to should give it a rest and see other people
Hope I helped
Michaela x
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I know people just like your husband, my father and myself included. My father never changed. For me it took an auto accident that changed my life; causing me to become disabled and developing a severe case of depression. After months of therapy for the depression I started to see what I had been doing wrong in my life. That my father was wrong in the way he lived. In fact I learned not to like who I had been and learned I could do better.
I don't recommend your husband go out and have a life threatening accident. I do recommend that the two of you get counseling by a qualified psychologist. It is quite possible that your husband, like myself, is suffering from a mild form of depression and seeks the love, approval and affection of others as away of dealing with the depression. Not being a doctor I can't say for sure. What I am reading though sounds a lot like who I was.
You need therapy because of the suicide attempts. Suicide is not an answer to your problems. It is the wrong solution. You need to learn why you are driven to this point and learn how to deal with it better.
You both need individual therapy before you try marriage counseling to fix your marriage.
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