|
is it a good idea to do anal with my boyfriend
my boyfriend wants to do anal but i dont know if its a good idea. i need help!
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
I have some basic rules that I give out when it comes to these types of questions.
The first one of course is that you are old enough and mature enough to be engaging in this type of adult sexual relations.
After answering that question the following is my advise to all.
Sex between two CONSENTING ADULTS is a beautiful and wonderful thing. The operative word here is CONSENTING, meaning both partners have to want to partake in any particular act. If either partner has any reservations about any sexual act it should not be done.
Whatever you and your partner consent to do in the privacy of your bedroom is never weird or depraved as long as their is mutual consent. It matters not what others may think or do. They are not you and they are not in your bedroom. The operative or key factor is the words MUTUAL CONSENT.
You seem to have reservations about anal sex. That to me says that for now you and your boyfriend should not consider exploring that area of sex. Should you decide you want to try anal sex you have to make your boyfriend understand and you must be confident that he will stop if you say stop. Stop means stop right then not wait, not give it a minute, it means stop now. If he doesn't stop the consensual sex becomes rape. Make sure he understands this.
Anal sex is something you are going to either love or hate. There is no in between. It is also something you should not enter into if you have reservations as it requires you to be completely relaxed.
]
This is a personal choice only you can make, We cannot tell you if we think you should or not. Everyone's experience is a little different then others. Some will tell you it's pleasurable while others will tell you it hurts like hell.
Only YOU know whether it's a good idea. However judging on the fact that you had to ask complete strangers I'm going to assume you aren't ready to try it. Wait until you are fully ready to try something new or else you are going to put yourself in a real uncomfortable situation.
]
If your asking if girls actually like it then the answer is yes. Your probably scared that it's going to hurt even more than sex did your first couple of times and it will. But just like sex once you get use to it it's more pleasure than pain.
No matter the size of your guy use lube until you know you can do it without, with some guys you'll always have to use it (7 plus)
Relax and be patient with it, sounds funny but take it a inch at a time, in a couple minutes you'll be use to it and won't hold back.
Gl and I hope you get more input from a women's point of view; I'm a guy but me and my ex were really open to talking about this kind of stuff so all this is basically from her
]
Well, if you don't know if it's a good idea, then how can anyone else?? It's up to you. The ultimate decision is yours. If you want to then go for it, but if you don't then don't do it. If your boyfriend wants it, but you don't then just talk to him and tell him you don't think it's a good idea, and that you either need more time to think about it, or just don't want to do it( :
Hope this helps,
If you ever need advice, you know where to fine me!!
~(:
]
If you want to. I think it hurts.
]
More Questions: |