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Boyfriend found my porn and now things are awkward
Im an 18 year old female and a nympho. The other day I was really horny and my boyfriend was at work so I decided for some reason to look up lesbian porn and old men and young women porn to masturbate to. I'm not attracted to either,girls or older men. Later that night he asked to use my phone and let him,which was probably a mistake. He went to google and it showed the list of things I looked up such as lesbian porn and old men porn. I knew he saw it because it wasnt the last thing i looked up and when he saw it in the google window he clicked on it and left it on that site.The rest of the night it was awkward and then he started talking to me like nothing happened but I knew he saw it so I couldn't help but be quiet. Lastnight he texted me and asked why I was so quiet and I said because of what you saw..obviously. I don't know what to say or why I did it. I feel fucked up in the head for doing it and more the old men porn. Now he wants a few days for space to think. I'm fine with that but I feel like he just found out the biggest secret about me and I don't want him weirded out. Idk what to do or what to think. I love my boyfriend 100% and I don't want this ruin anything. I'm not a lesbian,never will be,I'm not attracted to older men..I just don't know why I looked up what I did..? Answers on all of this please
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lol .dont worry about it hes probably more turned on than anything.its not abigy.
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Do you have any idea of how many people that look at porn when they are in a relationship? It's completely normal.
Because someone in a relationship with someone doesn't mean that they have no right to look a porn. I am in a healthy relationship, We have a healthy sex life and I still look at porn. My partner looks at porn and sometimes we even watch it together. You don't have to be sexually attracted to girls or older men, Everyone has fantasies and different things that turn them on. Again, This is all completely normal
Try talking to him about it.
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Just talk to him openly and honestly. Explain to him that it makes you uncomfortable because you don't know what he's thinking and you're worried he's judging you. Don't be apologetic, there's really nothing at all wrong with what you did/are doing.
If he has a problem with it, move on. Flat out, if you're the kind of person who wants to look at porn and he's either too prudish or too insecure to be perfectly fine with that, you two are going to have problems revolving around sex for the entire duration of your relationship, till death do you part if you take it that far. It's not even specifically about the porn, just about how he sees sex and how you see sex that makes you pretty sexually incompatible. You will, at some point, get sick of being made to feel wrong or ashamed of what you just want to do.
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My husband and I used to watch porn before having sex once in awhile to try something different. He knows I used to look up porn and he was fine with it. You need to just explain to your boyfriend you were turned on and he was at work. You decided to look up those things just out of curiosity. There is no reason to be embarrassed by it almost everyone does it.
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It's normal for people to be attracted to things that are "out of the ordinary," especially with such taboo topics like porn. It's a very perfectly healthy and normal thing to look up. Curiosity is responsible for such things, it's ok too. Don't feel abnormal or mentally unbalanced just because you found the thrill out of watching some girl on girl action or some oldermen getting into it. When it becomes an obsession, then that's when things should be looked after. Your best bet would be to allow the space your boyfriend wants and then after you when you're ready and comfortable you can try to explain things for him. Evenso, you shouldn't have to be guilty or forced to explain. But if you don't quite know what to say you can just tell him, it was a one time thing you were just curious. Then you can try to be more discreet about it and clean your history as well disable the Google auto fill/ recent search tool.
Well hope I helped.
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My boyfriend had a problem with porn. It torn me up inside. I believe that porn is for someone who isn't in a relationship. Especially when the sexual needs are being met.
To me, porn is absolutely disgusting.
Reasons of why I'm telling you this is because porn really messed up my boyfriend and my relationship. So we went to a relationship guider.
He told us that reasons why people look up porn is because they aren't recieving the proper sexual satisfaction from their partner. That people who come across porn as a problem in their relationship, never stop. If they do stop its because their desires and needs are being met.
Is it normal why you do this? Yes.
Is your boyfriends' reaction to what he found normal? Yes.
Guys aren't the type to talk about how they feel. They get upset, and move on. They drop it like it never happened, because thats how they are. They feel weird for expressing feelings. Girls feel. Guys think.
Maybe your boyfriend wants space because maybe it caught him off guard. If you really love your boyfriend, sit down and talk to him. Nothing will get resolved if you ignore the situation (like your boyfriend wants to);
ask him what he thought about it;
ask him if it bothers him.
If it does, than stop doing it. Have him made a video for you of you guys doing it, or even of him doing something you find sexually attractive; that way when you urges- you can watch him.
I can tell you right now. It's going to be hard to stop; you will always have temptation since you are a nympho. You just have to turn the internet off your phone; block porn sites from it; or whatever you have to do so you have no ACCESS to it.
But I'm sure everyhing will work out. Your not a weirdo, and your not 'fucked' up. Your normal. Some people just get turned on by different things.
Not a big deal!
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