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My name is McKenzie and I'm a freshman at Reedley College, I love to help people out with problems and to write. I want to be a writer someday. I love to make friends. Ask any question and I'll attempt to answer it.


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Um. Well. I'm a 15 year old girl and I just started high school. And I met this fabulous guy in my english class. He's really great. He's adorable, funny, shares my political views, and nearly perfect. Nearly. He has a girlfriend. She doesn't go to our school, so I don't really know her or anything. It's really frustrating because I'm really ecstatic that I found a guy who's not a complete idiot. And I feel guilty because he belongs to another girl, and I feel that I shouldn't even look at him or else I'm somehow intruding. I am NOT looking to break them up. No matter how much it hurts, I would never sink that low. I really think I should get over him. But...I can't. Everytime I make a vow to get over him, I see him and I'm instantly enamoured again. ...He has the most beautiful smile. The heartmelting kind. None of my friends think he's cute because he's a little on the chubby side. He's not totally fat, mind you. NOT THAT THERE'S ANYTHING WRONG WITH THAT. He's just a bit chubbier than the skinny emo guys that go to our school, ya know what I mean? And he has low self-esteem, which is weird because he is just so wonderful...But I really feel as if I have no chance. I don't know what his relationship is like with his girlfriend. For all I know, they could be happy and in love or they could be on the brink of a break-up. What should I do? Wait for them to break up? Move on, no matter how hard it will be?

I know this is horrible, but I'm secretly hoping for them to break up by the end of this month. You know, so I could make my moves on him in time for homecoming. I'm a horrible person, I know. But I need your advice. My friends don't understand. Thanks a bunch!

Well if you really want this guy to notice you, start talking to him. Maybe about the homework or a book you guys are reading for english. Get a strong friendship going since he has a girlfriend. If they do break up, try asking him. Just go for it.

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My homecomming is comming up soon and i dont know how to do my hair. I want something simple. If i could do it myself at home that would be good. But i can go get it done too. I have a straightener and a curler at my house. I have longg hair and side bangs if that make a difference.
also pictures would help
thankss

Well the easiest way would just be to straighten your hair. Maybe straighten your bangs to the side.

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My boyfriend just told be that he doesn't want to kiss at school.

I don't see why he doesn't want to kiss at school. Maybe if it was making out, because I wouldn't makeout in school either. But just a peck?!

I know he has alot of friends, and maybe it would be a little embarassing to kiss infront of his friends, expectally guys. So I understand from his point of view.

But My heart felt like it was bleeding wide open today. I felt like I needed to be with him, I wanted to kiss him. & now I can't.

I don't get to see him constantly out of school either. =/ And plus I'm almost constantly supervised, expect when I'm in school.

I don't know what I'm going to do.. help? =/

Ask him why and see if you can do something to help it. In time, he'll tell you and you'll work it out

Hope I helped!

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Well, there are too boys in my grade that have major crushes on me. Unfortunately they are both major geeks. I know thats mean, but it's true. anyway they both keep asking me out and fighting over me, but i don't like eather of them. I told them both nicely that i don't like them , but they won't listen. Then i told them the mean way, but they still don't get the picture. Plz I ed HELP.The mental kind too.LoL :0)

Well just tell them over and over again and if they don't listen, don't hang out with them if you are. If they don't stop, and its REALLY bugging you, tell a teacher and maybe they'll help stop the problem.


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16/f

My friend and I want to throw an awesome Halloween party but we don't know where to start. A lot of people are going to be there so it can't be lame. Any ideas?

Well try some games like Spin The Bottle is aiways fun. When people walk in, creepy music should be playing. Later, watch a scary movie and party favors should be Halloween themed.

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Okay I personally am a dark person. I love vampires and reading musty books and listening to goth music and I like wearing the color black. Now heres the problem my mom won't let me buy black clothes and I don't know what to do. She won't let me get black nail polish or let me wear eyeliner but I really want to. What should I do? Also my room is really disgusting. In the morning I have very very very very light pink walls and in the evening it looks coffee with creme curtains how do I make it look more gothic or punk. I really want to show my mom that I'm not a normal kid and that she can't change it.

Just sneak the eyeliner to school or borrow a friend's and put it on there. About your room, explain to your mom how you want to redo it and if she doesn't let you, expalin that it would give you a sense of belonging.

Hope I helped!

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i have glasses and i really hate them because they keep breaking and go crooked and i look bad in them. i want contacts but my dad thinks they'll ruin my eyes how can i convince him hes wrong?

Well i have contacts. They kinda hurt the first couple times but after 3-4 times to put them in, they don't bug me at all. Try telling your dad that your eyes will be better with them and you won't have to like take your glasses off and clean them if they get dirty. You leave them in all day and take them out at night before bed.
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ok well i have had black teachers and every class ive been in a class with a black teacher (only females) i end up hating that class even thought its my favorite school subject.and i also hate the way they talk i mean their accent and the way they move. but i do have some black friends (males and females) and i dont have any problems with them we hang out and go places and just do stuff

OK so what's your question. If your having trouble adjusting, just deal. Try to put yourself in their shoes and think of how diffucult it would be if you were them.

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Okay, so this summer i went to a sleepaway camp for two months and i met my (current) boyfriend there. He lives in a different state then i do and in the beg. it was'nt hard at all to keep in touch and have a relationship with him, but now that school started we stopped talking as much as we did before (we now talk like once a day and maybe twice). But tonight i was at my house with my friends and we were talking online and he told me that he had to talk to me "about us" and then he quickly mentioned that it wasnt bad. so i called him after my friends left but he was busy with his friends so he hung up and called me back like an hour l8er and said "hey i'm really messed up right now so ill call you tomorrow bye" (i thought that that meant that he was drunk) so i hung up right away without syaing bye because i was kind of upset at him for ignoring me the whole night and i guess i was also kind of scared of what he might have to say to me. so i was just wondering what you guys think he might have to say to me and if you think our relationship could maybe be over?

thanks so much

Maybe but I wouldn't jump to conclusions. Its tough because he lives in a different state. Maybe he met a different girl closer to him. Don't jump to conclusions just yet though. See what he wants and then make a decision based on that.

Hope I helped!!

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my ex-boy & i dated for about four months. we broke up in february. we barely talk. he recently went off to college & he imed me today asking me if i wanted to hang out. what does this mean? is he just trying to make me feel better? what?

Maybe he just wants to be friends again. Go hang with him but be careful because he may want to date you again. Hope I helped!

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14/m

So there's the girl I like. I always liked her and it feels like I always will.

We were never dating but we were close. But now she's moved on to another guy. I can't get her off my mind!! I'm always thinking about her..she just seems so..perfect.

And now and then I look at the old notes she wrote me. The ones saying she likes me and looking at those it..it hurts. I wanna just throw them out but is that really going to help? I want to get over her...right?

Really confused,
Greenlalablue

Well these notes keep reminding you of her so get rid of them. They'll just cause you more heartache and make you think of her constantly. One day, she'll realize how she feels. Hope I helped!

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Well...i just find out that i wont be going to the school i wanna go to and be with my best friend.Im going to a new school now.How can i make it through a new school?Please help me!

Well keep in touch with your friend. Call her up and make an effort to see all your old buddies again once in a while. You may find new friends at the school you'll be attending but don't forget about your other friends.
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ok so her it is.
i have this boyfriend and we have been going out for almost 10 months.
i just recently moved to hawaii.
i dont know if he wants to stay in a long distance relationship, and when i ask him he says yes, but i dont know if he is telling the truth because he always sounds kindof shakey or something.
I'm not sure how i can ask him to not make him feel nervous or something.
What should i like ask him?

Well ask him if he really wants to stay toghther or he's just messing around. I've always wanted to visit Hawaii. If he doesn't tell you straight out, dump him and move on. Hope I helped!

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im on a new club soccer team and i dont know any of the girls! i have to go to a party with them today, and alot of them know eachother! how do i make new friends without looking like a loser? THANKS IN ADVANCE

Get to know some of the girls on your team. Chances are, someone will want to be your friend but are too afraid to approach you. Just be yourself. Hope I helped!

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i havent seen my friend all summer so we kinda drifted apart since school ended. i was talking to her online but she was kinda ignoring me and didn't say much. when i asked her what shes been doing lately she just says "nothing" and i was expecting an actual full answer from her. i've been asking her to hang out but she makes up a stupid excuse every day why she can't. and get this, ill ask her to hang out she will say she cant then 2 seconds later her away message is "going to ___'s house" i can't stand it. and it happens all the time too. shes not a busy person and she couldnt find 1 day this whole summer to hang out with me. if i call her she says she has to go within a minute and just hangs up. i've had several conversations with her asking her what the problem is and she treats me like a 2 year old and says i need to get over it.school is starting soon and we are on oposite sides of the school and we wont see eachother will keep us farther apart from eachother. i want my best friend back. the one that likes to talk and be around me. what can i do to get her back?

Well maybe you ned to find a new bestie. Do things with other people. Or if you really want her back, corner her and ask straight out, " What is your deal?" If she wants your friendship, she'll respond. If not, find another girlfriend.
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I used to work at Walmart, until yesterday when I got fired for stealing $50 out of the cash register, to buy a present for my boyfriend for his birthday.

I loved my job more then anything, like it didn't even feel like a job, just because I had so many friends there, and going there was actually fun. I have to pay them back the money & stuff, so I'm not worried about anything happening, because we've already discussed it.

But it's really hard to get over. My parents are so disapointed in me, because my mom told me when I started the job, "Never to steal, you'll ALWAYS get caught." Obviously I didn't listen to her advice, but I just don't know what to say to them anymore, I know it's going to take time. But what can I do to gain their trust back? I get good grades in school, I'm always doing good things for other people, this just happened to be something bad that occured and I got caught.

Please help, I'd really appreciate it.
16/female.

Thanks.

First of all, it is wrong to steal. But whatever, I'm not here to lecture. What I will do is help you. Pay the money back, apologize to the manager and do anything you can for your parents. Eventually it'll blow over and hopefully you'll have your job back.
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so i really liked this guy and i was pretty sure that he liked me to but he was to shy to say it sooo i made the first move and told him that i liked him he told me that he liked me to i was so exited and i thought that we where gunna go out. But summer came and i soon found out that he had gotten a new gf... I thought everything was fine but aparently not... he doesnt really even talk to me enymore..i was so depressed what should I do? What went wrong?

sorry for such a long question plz help tho!!!

Sweetie, I feel your pain. This has happened to me and I also helped my best girlfriend through it. The best thing to do is just to forget about him. Plenty of other fish in the sea, I'm sure you've heard that before. Just do something to get your mind off him.
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okay, well I had an xanga and I wrote something mean about a really popular girl in school. And I said "do you think people actually like ****** for her personality?!?! no, people like her because shes GORGEOUS!" and I honestly meant to say it because people in my school are shallow and dont like people for their personality! I wasnt even saying she had a bad personality. Shes not one of my friends...Ive never talked to her so I cant just IM her and apologize but the thing Im scared of is that ALLLL my personal personal stuff was in my xanga like people I liked and stuff!! :[ What do I do!?!? IM FREAKING OUT I already know she's told a really popular guy because he had it as his away message......YEAH. thats how bad this is. I cant transfer schools. What do i do??!? Basically I just want to know if anyones been through this and can help me! So please tell me your experience and give me advice on this! I have to go back to school in a week and Im scared Im going to be a loner and traumatized.

Well try apologizing to her and if she's rude about it, oh well. It can be fixed, it has to be handled carefully. I don't think its as bad as you have to transfer schools for it. Just think about it next time you wanna do it. Would you want someone writing bad stuff about you on it?
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I have $200 to spend on a digital camera. I want it to be cool [like the slim ones] and have the option of taking pictures and recording short videos. What kind should I get and how many megapixels should I get? Thanks.

Well my friend got a camera for $150 but i don't know where she got it or how many pixels it has. It was like really small and slim so hope I helped!

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ok before i get to the point i just want to say that i really do love my boyfriend but...
he told my friend that he doesnt really like me anymore, hes also been lieing to me and make me mad ON PURPOSE to get me to break up with him. well i havent talked to him sence i found aout all of this because we live in diff citys (only 35 mins away) and he hasnt called me sence the last time i saw him. i was going to break up with him when ever i talked to him next but the problem is that i CANT do it. i love him too much i mean i am IN LOVE with him. its NOT fair either i mean i thought i was being a good girlfriend to him. and another thing is i DO NOT need responses saying things like "oh your too young to be in love" and "just dump him hes not worth it" i hear that enough from my family and friends ok. im coming to advicenators for support not to feel stupid. but anyways i love him but hes making me really upset at the same time. i know he st least did love me when we were dating (we still are but i dont think for long) but i guess he doesnt anymore and thats what i dont understand. please i just need some help on what to say to him the next time i talk to him and what to do. thanks so much to those who help

just ask him why he told your friend that he doesn't like you anymore. If he doesn't tell you straight out, he either likes someone else or he just wabts a break. People on Advicenators are not here to lecture you, we just give advice. Hope I helped!

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