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Unrequited
Um. Well. I'm a 15 year old girl and I just started high school. And I met this fabulous guy in my english class. He's really great. He's adorable, funny, shares my political views, and nearly perfect. Nearly. He has a girlfriend. She doesn't go to our school, so I don't really know her or anything. It's really frustrating because I'm really ecstatic that I found a guy who's not a complete idiot. And I feel guilty because he belongs to another girl, and I feel that I shouldn't even look at him or else I'm somehow intruding. I am NOT looking to break them up. No matter how much it hurts, I would never sink that low. I really think I should get over him. But...I can't. Everytime I make a vow to get over him, I see him and I'm instantly enamoured again. ...He has the most beautiful smile. The heartmelting kind. None of my friends think he's cute because he's a little on the chubby side. He's not totally fat, mind you. NOT THAT THERE'S ANYTHING WRONG WITH THAT. He's just a bit chubbier than the skinny emo guys that go to our school, ya know what I mean? And he has low self-esteem, which is weird because he is just so wonderful...But I really feel as if I have no chance. I don't know what his relationship is like with his girlfriend. For all I know, they could be happy and in love or they could be on the brink of a break-up. What should I do? Wait for them to break up? Move on, no matter how hard it will be?
I know this is horrible, but I'm secretly hoping for them to break up by the end of this month. You know, so I could make my moves on him in time for homecoming. I'm a horrible person, I know. But I need your advice. My friends don't understand. Thanks a bunch!
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Well if you really want this guy to notice you, start talking to him. Maybe about the homework or a book you guys are reading for english. Get a strong friendship going since he has a girlfriend. If they do break up, try asking him. Just go for it.
Hope I helped!
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If you get along that well I see nothing wrong with your being friends with him and getting to know him better. Why try to get over him? He isn't married yet just dating someone.
If you want to ask him to homecoming I see no reason not to. He may have to say no this time BUT it will get him to thinking about you. Graciously say you understand and then sit back and wait. He will see
you differently and maybe even break up with the girlfriend. :)
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I've been in the same postion and i see what you mean by getting in the way of things but you have to remember your feelings too you cant just keep them bottled up you have to go after what you want or risk it being lost... i say you talk to him about it and tell him you have feelings for him maybe there not as serious as you think...You have to take risks to get rewards and if not then at least you kno how he feels!
<33 mary
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i know exactly what you are talking about! i also met a guy in my english class that is perfect in every single way, but he has a girlfriend. the advice i'm gonna give to you is, just wait for them to break up and totally make your move. moving on will be hard b/c every time you see him you'll just got bak to liking him so just try to wait for them, no matter how hard it will be. i mean, that's what i'm doing. i hope i helped you in some way. keep me posted on what happens.
<3 Chelsea <3
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You never know, perhaps he has the same feelings and thinks the same about you(that he will never have a chance)! You should really look into this more......
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Hey if I were you I'd tell the guy how you feel, I mean don't keep to yourself. It's better to let your feelings out before something else happens. Good luck and I hope everything goes well.
Jen
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