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ok before i get to the point i just want to say that i really do love my boyfriend but...
he told my friend that he doesnt really like me anymore, hes also been lieing to me and make me mad ON PURPOSE to get me to break up with him. well i havent talked to him sence i found aout all of this because we live in diff citys (only 35 mins away) and he hasnt called me sence the last time i saw him. i was going to break up with him when ever i talked to him next but the problem is that i CANT do it. i love him too much i mean i am IN LOVE with him. its NOT fair either i mean i thought i was being a good girlfriend to him. and another thing is i DO NOT need responses saying things like "oh your too young to be in love" and "just dump him hes not worth it" i hear that enough from my family and friends ok. im coming to advicenators for support not to feel stupid. but anyways i love him but hes making me really upset at the same time. i know he st least did love me when we were dating (we still are but i dont think for long) but i guess he doesnt anymore and thats what i dont understand. please i just need some help on what to say to him the next time i talk to him and what to do. thanks so much to those who help
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I feel so bad for you, it sounds like you're really hurting right now.
I'm not going to tell you this guy isn't worth it. After all, you wouldn't be with him unless he was. However, it does sound as though, for whatever reason, he hasn't got the courage to end this relationship, despite telling your friend that he is no longer happy in it. While I won't say he isn't worth it, it's difficult to hold much respect for someone like that.
Here's the thing. You say that you love him. If you love him and you suspect that he might be unhappy in your relationship then you need to talk to him about it. No relationship can survive without communication and until you find out what the problem is, you won't know how to fix it, or even if it can be fixed.
You need to call him or meet up with him. I would personally recommend seeing him face to face, and you need to find out once and for all what is going on. Tell him what your friend said and see how he reacts. If he says it isn't true, then you need to figure out how to deal with your friend who may or may not have been lying to you. If, however, he says it is true, no matter how much it hurts, you need to let him go.
I'm so sorry to say that. I know it isn't what you want to hear but if he is unhappy and does not want to remain in the relationship, you cannot force him to be with you for your sake. It's not easy to let go but if you love him then you will realise that it's the kindest thing to do. If you try to keep it going, you will both be unhappy and keeping each other from going out and finding the people you really are meant to be with. If that is the way he feels, then it isn't him and although it might not feel it, there is a greater love out there for you.
The first step is just to talk to him about it. Don't make any decisions until then.
I really hope it all works out for you.
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just ask him why he told your friend that he doesn't like you anymore. If he doesn't tell you straight out, he either likes someone else or he just wabts a break. People on Advicenators are not here to lecture you, we just give advice. Hope I helped!
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