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okay, well I had an xanga and I wrote something mean about a really popular girl in school. And I said "do you think people actually like ****** for her personality?!?! no, people like her because shes GORGEOUS!" and I honestly meant to say it because people in my school are shallow and dont like people for their personality! I wasnt even saying she had a bad personality. Shes not one of my friends...Ive never talked to her so I cant just IM her and apologize but the thing Im scared of is that ALLLL my personal personal stuff was in my xanga like people I liked and stuff!! :[ What do I do!?!? IM FREAKING OUT I already know she's told a really popular guy because he had it as his away message......YEAH. thats how bad this is. I cant transfer schools. What do i do??!? Basically I just want to know if anyones been through this and can help me! So please tell me your experience and give me advice on this! I have to go back to school in a week and Im scared Im going to be a loner and traumatized.
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Well try apologizing to her and if she's rude about it, oh well. It can be fixed, it has to be handled carefully. I don't think its as bad as you have to transfer schools for it. Just think about it next time you wanna do it. Would you want someone writing bad stuff about you on it?
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Well, I'm not saying this to be mean, but you really shouldn't talk about anyone in the first place. It just brings unwanted & unnecessary drama. Don't write stuff like that in your xanga because you know people from school are gonna see it. If you wanna write personal stuff & keep it personal, get a private journal that you manually write in with pens.
Anyways, it's your opinion about her. You should never be sorry about your opinion. Even if it's right or wrong. Never be sorry for it. It's what you think about something.
I post stuff like that on my xanga too, but I don't care what people think about me, or what they have to say. So I post it with no worries.
If you're really all that worried, just apologize to her & let her know that it's just your opinion, & explain to her what happened. And if she's rude about it & doesn't accept your apology, well then you were right along, & she can pretty much go fuck herself.
You won't be a loner. You're just open minded about people & you see through them. =] Don't worry about it. I hope I helped you.
♥TiNA
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Set the privacy setting on the blogs to "private only" and then no one but you can read them.
Other than that, I see no reason to even apologize. It's your opinion and if your right, then why apologize for telling the truth?
I have no doubt in my mind that people will agree with you, so I don't think you will be ending up a loner.
And don't let it get to you. If popular people don't like you, who gives a damn? This are the people who do get where they are for their looks and money and influence. It's not glamorous, in fact it is rather vain and useless.
It's just my opinion, I wouldn't worry about it to much. I've posted tons of blogs and whatnot on how I think people are and I honestly don't care what they think. It's not worth my time to worry.
I hope I helped and just don't let it get to you, you don't need the stress from it.
-Ryan
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I would just go and shut down your xanga, so nobody else can read it. And if you decide to start up a new one, don't let anybody find out the username, and if you're going to talk about somebody, just give them a code name or something. Like instead of her name being.. Jennifer, call her "~!" or something so nobody can recognize who they are.
But if you can't IM her and apologize, try finding out her phone number and giving her a call and apologize, or just walk up to her in school and apologize. Just be like,"____, look, I'm really sorry I said all that stuff. I guess I'm just a little jealous of you cause you're pretty and popular and everything." [ or something like that ]
And if they continue to do anything, you just have to learn to shrug it off. I mean, it's school. People'll talk, laugh, gossip, everything. But it shouldn't really matter what the popular people think cause in a few years once they hit college, they won't be popular anymore, they're thoughts on people won't matter. They'll just be another person.
So just shrug off all the gossip and just hang out with your real friends and have a good time. I'm sure after awhile something else will be said/done by someone and all the gossip and attention will move on elsewhere, and you'll just be yesterday's news. I hope I helped. <3
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well first off you can shut down your xanga site so that nobody else reads it. second if you can't IM her and apologize, you can always tell her in person. don't worry about being a loner, your real friends will be there for you. just stick with your friends, and ignore any gossip.
don't worry about it, it will blow over in a little while. people have better things to do then gossip about your xanga site (i don't mean that to sound rude, lol, i just meant it as don't worry people will forget about it).
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... i know the feeling.
my private xanga was discovered by just one kid in school. the next thing i know? every kid knows; who i like, who i don't, and why i hate certain people. i went through a state for about two weeks, where no one'd talk to me, and every 'popular' boy would laugh when i spoke in class. and the truth is it never really got better. except when i learned to shrug it off, and my actual friends stopped caring too, and hung out with me again. i actually went on my very own hunt. and found one of those popular boys' xanga. it's weird how everyone writes about the same thing, trashes the same people, has the same secrets. i just laughed at it. all you can do is ignore the laughter ridicule. because you're not alone.
... unless you want to tell your parents? but that may just make it worse.
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uhm ;; there isn't really much you can do. except for tell her you are sorry && stuff. people always talk about other people, it's just the way things are... but since you have never talked to the girl how do you know her personality? [i'm not taking sides with her] but out of all honesty, you shouldn't have judged her before you knew her. sure, popular girls get the steriotype of being bitchy and stuck up and whatever... but if you didn't want this stuff to get spread around, you should have never posted it on something like your xanga to where your whole school can read it. i highly doubt everyone will hate you. besides, if she is popular.. i'm sure more people otehr than you feel the same way about her. don't worry about it
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