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Can't get over her
14/m
So there's the girl I like. I always liked her and it feels like I always will.
We were never dating but we were close. But now she's moved on to another guy. I can't get her off my mind!! I'm always thinking about her..she just seems so..perfect.
And now and then I look at the old notes she wrote me. The ones saying she likes me and looking at those it..it hurts. I wanna just throw them out but is that really going to help? I want to get over her...right?
Really confused,
Greenlalablue
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Well these notes keep reminding you of her so get rid of them. They'll just cause you more heartache and make you think of her constantly. One day, she'll realize how she feels. Hope I helped!
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ok well yea sounds like me i had the same problem and it does sound like your first love and you should keep the notes and just put them away somewhere you wont look at them distract yourself with something like a hobbie sport w/e now if she doesnt like you anymore or something it's her loss and you cant stop her from not likeing you or likeing another guy so just try your best to forget about her and i really hope things work out and hope i helped at all if not i'm terribly sorry also i'm looking for some more guy friends so if you ever wanna talk or get to know each other better we can talk on aim everyonesproblem@aim.com or yahoo messanger For_ever_ur_problem@yahoo.com so thanx i guess and sorry if i didnt help
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She sounds like your first love, and you're never going to get over that. It's something you're always going to remember because their your first. They were special to you.
I wouldn't suggest throwing away the letters ; keep them as memories. If you did, you'd probably regret throwing them out later in life. I would just suggest putting everything about her into a box and putting her away somewhere. Under your bed, in your closet, wherever you won't see it or bother to look for it.
I know it might take awhile, but you just need to distract yourself. Take up a new hobby, learn a new instrument, draw, write, paint, listen to music, maybe even attempt at writing some music. Try exercising more, playing a new sport. Just improve yourself and focus your attentions elsewhere and any time you find yourself thinking of her, try to quickly think of something else. What I do sometimes is put a really catchy song and get it stuck in my head and that's all I'll think about pretty much all day.
But you don't want to get rid of those letters. They're special memories for you and will always be, and you can look back at them and just be like,"Ha, oh yeah, I remember her." But you'll be able to look back at them without thinking of any pain or anything. You'll just smile and remember the good times. And maybe even show them to your kids. But even though she seems perfect, there's a girl out there somewhere whose even MORE perfect and she'll want to be with you and she'll stay with you.
I hope I helped. <3
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okay leiimie tell u the same things hapened to me but only twice the only thing i can suggest is that you ride it out, keep her as a friend and whatever you do DO NOT throw away the letter cuz when you do get over he youll be glad you kept them (i stoopidly threw mine out big mistake i ended up kiking myself for not keeping them)
hope i helped!
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Youll get over her soon enough.Just keep her as a close friend.Throwing away the letters might help you get over her but you should keep them as memories.Once you get in another relation youll get over it.I got over my boy friend one time by going into a online relation.Thats always fun cause you dont have to worry about what you have to say.
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well one thing is that you should keep her as a friend. you should be happy for her. and if she brakes up with her boyfriend and you still have feelings for her, ask her out. she might say yes and she might say no, but at least you will be giving a shot. you could say" look i really like you like you but i understand if you just want to be friends." but you should say that if she brakes up with her boyfriend of course. but you should keep her as a friend.
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well i think its really sweet that you like this girl this much. this may not be what you want to hear but be fore when she wrote you those note didnt you like her? it just seems like if you did you made her wait for you and she didnt want to wait. it could be too late now but theres also a chance that its not. you could tell her how you feel and dont just say i like you cause i know when a guy says that it really doesnt mean that he cant stop thinking of me and if he told me that i would think twice about going out with him. any ways back to your situation. after telling her how you feel and IF she rejects you then tell her that will be waiting or how ever you want to put it after she gets over this other guy you will have your chance!!!! it mite take a little time but she should come around sooner or laterbut if you really like her you will wait!!!! hoped i helped!!!! <3
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Your first love is always the one that will come back to haunt you throughout your life. No matter how old you get or even if you are very happily settled, occasionally something will remind you of her.
There is always the possibility, because you are still quite young, that you may be able to get back together. No one knows what the future brings.
However, what I suggest for now is get a little box and pop in the things that remind you of her like the notes and put it away at the back of a cupboard. You may feel that one day if you look at them they mean nothing to you and you can get rid of them. Keeping them does not mean you will betray another partner, it is what makes you who you are. These experiences will build your character into the young man that a girl will fall head over heels in love with.
If you feel ready now to part with these reminders, read them again, tie them together, tell them how you feel and then either burn them or throw them away. You are not getting rid of the love you felt for her but you are letting go. I know guys tend not to go for mushy things like that and it is entirely your choice - but nobody need ever know.
I wish you all the very best for a wonderfully happy life. You sound like a great guy.
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