Omg please help me you guys. This is gonna be kinda long ,but im just really confused!
Okay. Here goes :
I have friends that are twins(Kateri&Teresa). And i have another friend named Emily. Emily goes to highskool and she's a freshman.So am i. and Kateria & Teresa are in 8th grade but they should be a freshman but w/e thats not the point. Okay Me and Emily haven't seen each other in sucha long time but we hung out on Friday with out friends.
Emily and the Twins were really close when we were all in skool 2gether .Like really close,almost like best friends. Now when me and emily hung out on friday i was totally happy to see her since i haven't seen her because she goes to a different highskool than me. And we started talkin about the twins. And Emily was like "I don't really like the twins anymore." and i go oh my god why not you guys are like best friends. and emily was like "i kno but there just soo...clingy" and i was like in shock.
Me and the twins totally talk still and i luv em. And they started talkin about how emily was acting really weird and stuff..Like everytime they invited her to hang out or something emily would just be like "Well i don't really have time.."
Now i don't wanna go behind emily's back and just tell the twins. Becuase it was really good to see emily and i totally missed her. But i don't want to NOT tell the twins because im afraid that they'll tell Emily that i told them and i don't wanna hurt them either. Im just soo confused and omg its like irritating!! My question is should i tell the twins what emily said and go behind emily's back? Or should i just not tell the twins. Oh my god im super sorry that it is soo long but im soo confused! i don't wanna hurt anybody because i feel so bad!! and i don't wanna start drama!! =( please help!!
PLEASE!!
While you are in a fairly awkward position, that requires a little delicate handling , I think that your basic dilemna "To tell or not to tell" is answered quite easily- "Don't". Because if you do, you run the very real risk of losing the friendship of both Emily and the twins. These middle/highschool friendships can be rather volatile: too often, peacemakers and well-intentioned bearers of bad tidings can end up as the common enemy, the shot messenger.
Your situation is eased considerably by the fact that none of you go to the same school(I assume that the eighth grade is in the junior highschool?).If you were all at the same school, Emily's contempt for the twins would blow up more dramatically and involve you much more directly: as it is, you can , with a little care, keep alive your frienship with all three girls.
Don't tell the twins that Emily said they were clingy- if you must say anything , hint that Emily has made new friends at her new school and is genuinely too busy with them and with her new and heavier courseload to keep up with them. You could even imply that she has also been a little cool with you, though I'd go carefully on that -you don't want to lose your integrity or jepordise your frienship with Emily. Just be as good a friend as you can to all parties and it should all come out in the wash, Sorry for the long answer:your situation is, as you say, confusing. Best of luck.
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Okay, I'm definitely not in a very good shape and up until a couple of days ago, I had been pigging out and just being normal but now I've started to work out (I'm doing very little cause like I said, I'm very out of shape) and today in gym class we had to run 3 laps. I did horrible, of course, but when we were done.. I could NOT feel my feet at all! I got that feeling like when your foot falls asleep! It was so scary and it took like 40 minutes to go away. I could barely walk.. and now I just got home from my aunt's house and I had to walk.. it wasn't even a very long walk and I got that feeling AGAIN! What does this mean? What should I do? I'm sure we have to run again tomorrow, and my gym teacher won't let anyone sit out. HELP PLEASE! ANYTHING!
First up, don't panic! A lot of people find themselves out of shape at one point or other of their lives- which doesn't incidentally, have all that much to do with weight,some very thin people are also very unhealthy, by which I don't mean anorexic- and get themselves back to normal with just a bit of effort. Where you, perhaps, went wrong was to do too much at once(though three laps are not all that much, running is quite a shock to the system if you're out of shape and out of practice.
Better than running, or even jogging, is brisk walking, which you can anywhere. Walk instead of taking the bus......You know the rest. If, however, you feel yourself to be really unhealthy, you must consult a doctor, who in addition to assessing your fitness level will give you healthcare advice.(They might, of course, also weigh you, but that wouldn't necessarily be bad- remember that what the scales say is no judgement). If the doctor thinks fit, of course, he or she will also give your gym teacher a note saying that you can take things gently until you get back into shape.
Best of luck, Lucretiax.
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this may seem silly but i may already no the answer to my question just need quildance. Im currently flirtin with a lad at work whos 4 years older and hes bit of a ladys man although i total fancy him i did some over time starting early where it was just me and him and having sex talk hes often tryed to get me in bed although im shy im not a virgin just a big girl and hes fit i dont wna have a one night stand and get everything told at work where my mum also works hes confessed to me that he often gets bored in realtionships and hes was open euff to tell a few younger girls about him breaking up with his ex . im been day dreaming about gettin him somewhere close and having him undo my shirt and feel my newly pieced nipples just as a bit of a tease i dont no what i wnt to happen plz help
Oh blimey! Yes, I think you already do know the answer. Don't do it! Unless , of course, you really are only after a bit of casual sex (and there's nothing wrong with that). But you say that you "don't know what you want to happen. Very dangerous with casual sex, as it suggests that the pure high, the body rush, isn't quite all that you're after.
If you could catch yourself dreaming about any kind of future with this man you could be in trouble. I got caught that way with my last date, who while not quite as blatantly irresponsible and sex focused as yours, was still fairly wild. It becomes more difficult not to pin your hopes on someone, however unsuitable, after you've slept with them. The physical sharing of sex fools our bodies into thinking we've poroperly bonded with someone, and our bodies, in their turn, fool our minds and hearts. Just nature's little trick to continue the species. Keep this man as a fantasy and wait for someone better who really likes YOU and doesn't just want to score.
The best of luck and feel free to consult me again! Lucretia xx.
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Me and my bestfriend had a fight...I told him that I was talkin to someone that he doesnt like, im the kind of person that doesnt judge before actually getting to know a person, so he got really mad and told me never to talk to him again. I dont know what to do he wont answer me when I talk, and he ignores me. It's hard to just say "oh well i'll move on" because we shared so many things we even thought about going to prom together (im a girl) and now he doesnt even want to talk to me or anything. I dont know what to do I want him to be my friend again. I know he wont talk to me b/c he is doing it (not talkin to her) to someother girl who was talkin to his ex. He is the kind of person who holds grudges alot and cant forget things easy.
I just want him back :(.
You are in a difficult position- naturally you don't want to lose your best friend, BUT at the same time it can't be denied that he's acting unreasonably. I'm sure it's already occured to you, but does he perhaps have stronger feelings for you than those of ordinary friendship? It could be that he just feels jealous of your talking to other people.
Having said that, the reason for his acting up is actually fairly irrelevent. More to the point is the fact that his strange attitude is judging you for being the wise, kind and sensible person that you clearly are from your question.
It's his problem, not yours!Knowledge of which is, of course, no help to you in dealing with the situation now that it's blown up.On the other hand, it should help you to know that you really shouldn't apologise to him, however tempting it might feel and however much you miss him and feel that apologising would bring him back. The best thing you can do is to tell him that while your love for him is unchanged, you will talk to who you want and make friends based on how you think people behave. In short, you're not controlled by him!
(I do suppose that if this person that he didn't like actually did something real to upset him, you could promise not to get close to them, but the principle still holds). Basically, try to make your friend feel as secure as possible, but not to the extent that his friendship will become a stifling burden, stopping you from behaving naturally. No friendship is worth that price.
The very best of luck and enjoy the prom, no matter who you take as your date! lucretia xx.
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Hi, I would like to know simple exercises that I can do in my bedroom which will enhance my breasts and butt. I am a female and am so freakin flat on both ends that I feel masculine when I'm facing the mirror and just really disdain looking at my backside. Please help.
Thank you.
No excercises on this planet will "enhance your breasts and butt". It's just not possible- the only thing that you will do is make yourself muscular, which I presume is not what you want.
Nothing except surgery will fill you out.
Having said that, why do you want a different body shape? Don't think that I don't sympathise- I spent about two years absolutely hating most aspects of my body, and compliments made me feel even more insecure. I had the opposite problem from you- I felt too voluptuous (after having spent my childhood being mistaken for a boy). The body has the power to make us feel trapped, frusrated, and revolted/ing. But only if we let it! One good excercise to do, (which will only enhance your sexual confidence) is to masturbate, naked or partially clothed, in front of a mirror. It sounds extreme but is, in fact very enjoyable. Just think of your body as strong and functional rather than decorative and you'll be going the right way.
Potential sexual partners will find this confidence very attracive-you will be far more likely to inspire "the absolute yearning of one human body for another particular one and (its)
indiffernce to substitutes" (Iris Murdoch, The Black Prince) in your relatively boobless body if you have confidence, than with D cups and still obsessing about some other aspect of your appearance(which I guarantee you is what would happen, women are never satisfied). Try reading The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf and see where that takes you. Good luck! Lucretiaxx.
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Okay, I'm curious as to what you all think about this.
My boyfriend tends to travel in the summer. The summer between 11th and 12th grade, he went to Vegas. The summer after that (this one), he went to Florida. Both times, I cried quite a bit (I also happened to be PMSing both times, I think, but I'm not sure if that actually has anything to do with it). On saturday, he left for Florida again, for college. This is the start of (essentially) a five-year separation. I know this, and it upsets me...but I didn't really cry. I mean, there were a couple of tears, which he adorably wiped away, but there weren't like..."storms of tears", as a friend would put it. I really don't understand why I'm not more upset about him being gone. I won't see him until mid-December, and I'm used to seeing him quite a bit. (We're a very clingy/touchy couple)
We're engaged, so I'm not worried about him going and finding some other girl. He was only home for about two weeks, one of which I was stuck at school for, so I only got to see him for...well, threeish days (I kidnapped him, kinda, and kept him in my dorm), and then about four hours on friday before he left.
Shouldn't I be more upset that we're separated?
I think part of the reason I'm not is because I told him to go. He's going to Full Sail, which I hear is an incredibly good tech-school-type-place, and I wanted him to go and get a jumpstart on his career. I don't do regret, so I don't regret telling him to go, but I miss him...
But at the same time, I'm not upset...like...at all.
What's going on in my head? (Not that you can actually answer that...but you can try, right?)
Please, no stupid answers or chatspeak. I'll only rate you down.
-Siren =)
I think that you've answered your own question: you're not upset at his leaving because you feel secure in his love for you,in fact you're secure in your love for each other.
Ah wait, but are you? I'm guessing(but this is just a guess, I can't as you so rightly point out, know what's going on in your head) that you're worried that your lack of angst and heartache means that you're not truly in love with him. Our culture makes so much of heartbreak- the agony of love, unrequited, challenged, or desroyed, features in everything from Shakespeare's The Winter's Tale to Stevie Nicks's Silver Springs- that we are suspicious of any love that feels untroubled. I won't pretend not to have felt this myself - my best boyfriend , the one who gave me the least pain and drama, was also the least exciting for that very reason.
Thus, this is where you have to make a choice. To open or not to open? So far, you don't have a problem- you're engaged and happy, not in any turmoil. Feel lucky, because you are. But what of other things? What of all the bold badness of life, the admiring gazes of other men, jealousy as well as solidarity of women, life as it is,an ever changing series of experiences and events, not something warm and safe and reliable? Noone can tell you the answer to that dilemna, or even if it is a dilemna, for we all want different things at different times. I've been no help at all, have I? That's because your question has,in some ways no answer.
Ultimately, my advice is to let your fiance go with a happy heart, knowing that you will always love each other as friends at the very least. After that, just live your life and see where it takes you. Good luck, and let us know how it went, Lucretia xx.
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So u think I should just forget about him im going to see him but I told him that I would not sleep with him that we would talk im just confused about the whole thing So you think hes lying about leaving his gf?
It may sound harsh, but I do really think that you should perhaps just consider cancelling your trip and breaking up with him by phone.
Of course, I am in no position to tell whether or not he's lying about leaving his girlfriend- I thought however (correct me if I'm wrong) that he said he still loved her as well.....
As I said before, all this is only my opinion-only you can know the man you love and, ultimately, you must decide what to do. All I am saying is that you should be careful of yourself and not rush into anything. Let me know how it went and please feel free to query me at any other time. Good luck, Lucretia xx.
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There is a guy I know that I really like but he has a gf We are really good friends and he likes me to but he does not cheat and I would not ask him to I never have the good thing is he is far away but next week I am going to see him I don't know what will happen because we like each other so much and the thing is I have a bf to His gf is in Chicago tho and he is in San Francisco she is stupid because she told him the only way she would move with him to San Francisco is if he married her and hes not ready for that yet Im gonna be leaving my bf soon because im not happy but I don't know if he will because he says he loves her but I know he likes me and thats why im going so we can talk in person and see whats going on What should I do? Im confused Should I sleep with him or no? Female/23
No, you most certainly should not sleep with him. Apologies in advance for coming over the moral heavy, but it's a) Not worth your while, since your crush at least SAYS he loves his girlfriend (more about that later)and b)it is,IMO,just plain wrong.
But to return to point a):Sheer Practicality, remember that you only have his word for the state of their relationship. It's an unfortunate fact that unsrucpulous people, slightly more men than women I believe(sorry guys) will tell any number of lies in order to cheat on their partner and keep them. I don't understand what motivates such people, perhaps a sense of danger, intriuge , idk. But one thing's for almost certain, the "other woman" will be the loser. Read, "He's just not into you if he's married" chapter 10 of the largely excellent "He's just not that into you" by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tucillo.
Seriously, if you want to break up with your current bf, go ahead, I'm sure it's the right thing to do, as things clearly haven't worked out between you two. But I would strongly advise you to wait a little before you try to find s/o else. And this time, make sure he's available before you become attached. Good luck, lol lucretia xx.
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ok i asked this really beautiful girl. and well i asked her out on a date to the movies. but the problem is that well she is going to be the first date i went on with a girl. also its her first date too with a girl. and i wanna know how i cant stop my self from being so nervus and what can i do to make sure i dont screw up this date i really like this girl and i mean alot!
p.s. 14/f and my name is joanne
Cool! You must be v. excited as well as nervous(which latter i understand-but that's just first dates , whether same or opposite sex). Have you, I wonder, been on a date before,with a boy. if so, then relax, cos girls are no different. It all comes down to personality, whether two people click or gel or whatever other horrid cliche comes to mind.
Just have as good a time as you can together and don't beat yourself up if it doesn't go great at first. Just give yourself, and her, all the time you need and take it from there.lol lucretiax.
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tuesday i turn 15. and i have lived with my mom since i was born. her and my dad got a divorce when i was realy little. i go to my dads every other weekend. my dad hasnt really been the kind of dad he is suppost to be. but i still love him. Well my dad lives in newnan and i love it down there all my friends are there and i have so much fun down there. My mom lives 2 hours away in lawenceville and i hate it here. We moved here a couple months ago and i have been in this new high school for 1 month now. I have no friends, everyone is stuck up and annoying there. I want to move in with my dad. Not because i love him more, but because i like it better there. my mom is always complaining that we dont have any money and i spend too much. Well i love her verrrrry much but if i tell her i want to live with my dad, she will get very upset adn like cry and all. What are some good ways i can tell her without her getting so upset? any help is wanted.
I RATE HIGH!!!
Oh honey, I feel for you, I really do. Of course you miss your friends and the happier life you have with them, of course you miss your dad, and still love him, and of course, you don't want to hurt your mother. But you shouldn't feel bad. Remember that pain is above all else something we create in our selves, that if we allow another's actions to hurt us WE are ultimately responsible. (There are, of course, exceptions to this rule, such as abused children, who can and must never be held responsible for the actions of their tormentors.)
But your mother is no such exception. She must understand that the pain you have to go through, the negative energy you expend just on living day to day in lawrenceville is wearing you down, making you ill. Explain matters to her in no less strong terms than that. Obviously, she knows you love her(though telling her won't hurt-I still tell my mum I love her all the time, even though I'm nearly 22 :-)).
Having said all of that, I'm not entirely sure that just packing up and moving back with your dad for good is the answer. You suggest that he's a little inadequate as a father-perhaps weekend parenting is about his limit? (Note I'm not saying this for sure, only wondering aloud). Probably your mother fears for your wellbeing staying with your dad, as much as or more than any division of your affection. My best suggestion is that you move back with your father for a trial period of, say, a month or at most,a quarter.Make clear to all parties the time limitation, at the end of which the rest of the future can be discussed. The very best of luck, and do let me know how it all went. Lucretia xxx.
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Okay... My boyfriend Chris and me started going out this tuesday (9/6/05) I really like him but my friends cousin told me that he was kissing my best friend and asked her out. When me and him started going out my friends cousin told me that my friend called her cryin because me and him went out. Should I talk to them about or let it alone?
Thanks,
Ashley
Oh dear. I have already answered a question slightly similar to this today,about people named Kyle and Katrina (see my column). I would say that your best friend has , perhaps unintentionally, put you in a rather awkward position.Why, for example, has all this been relayed to you by your friend's cousin and not your friend herself? It could be , of course, that your friend is too upset to confront you directly: unfortunately though,it's just possible that she's being deliberately tricky and manipulative. Only you can know her well enough to tell.
There is, however, no doubt at all that Chris is behaving like a jerk. Dump him, and have as little to do with him as possible, for your own happiness and self respect quite as much as for your friend's. Good luck, Lxx.
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There was this boy we will call him Joe. Last Year Me and Joe used to hug and talk alot. Joe never hugged any other girls only me and he's really popular and I'm not that pretty. Alot of people like him. Then my friends Ally, Jen and Kayla said I was stalking him and he didn't talk to me any more and I felt really unconfortable around him. We used to walk home together and chill. Now we don't. I'm in love with Joe and I want to go out with him I talk to him a little now that I'm friends with him again and I have new friend's Rita,Shawna,and Jessy. I really really want to go out with im but I'm afraid he won't like me anymore. He's nice to me now.
Do you think he would like me anymore?
My advice is to STAY AWAY FROM MEN NAMED JOE. That was the name of my last bf.Y'see, I have a theory that all these Josephs have a complex from all the responsibility of being named after Jesus's stepfather. That's why they shorten their name to Joe in the first place, to distance themselves. Only of course, your boy isn't really a Joe is he?
Jo(e)king apart, however, I think that you're in a good position-firstly, you lost those "friends" who worked to turn him against you. Congratulations! Let's hope that your new posse turn out to be genuine buddies and not jealous backstabbers. Which brings me on to my next point, which is that friends can be more important, at certain times of our life, than lovers. Ideally, of course, your lover should be a friend, perhaps your best friend. But hey, it doesn't always work out that way, which is why you need a few loyal people(or even just one loyal person) to pick you up again.
Having said that, "Joe" sounds like quite a good guy. Perhaps he just cooled off from you thanks to the machinations of your former "friends". (Which in itself makes him weak but not bad). Play it by ear, enjoy him as a friend and see how it goes. One last point(sorry i'm rambling on so much,i'm tired, it's nighttime here in London y'know). You describe yourself as "not that pretty". No guy worth his salt is hung up on how a girl looks. Personality is everything, and you sound like you have a lot. lol Lucretia xx.
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there's this guy that i've met a couple of times, i see him at parties and shows. at the beginning i could tell he was really attracted to me, and i was attracted to him too. he used to stop and try to have a conversation with me, but now it's deteriorating. that is, he gives me a hug, and he doesn't even stick around to talk. he just walks off. he's so intimidating that i don't know what to say to him, or what to do to make him think i'm really confident and that i want to talk to him. because i do, but i just don't know what to say. i think he's lost interest in me, but how do i even become friends with him or get him to get my number? I CAN'T EVEN TALK TO THE DUDE! our relationship is totally stagnant. does anyone know how to take that relationship out of ground zero and move it up a level?
I'm intriuged and impressed at your having made even the most tentative contact with a guy at random parties and shows. To be honest, that kind of used to be the way I would hook up as well-never really worked out longterm, but what the heck, it was fun.
But enough of me- what do you really want. A fling? A relationship? Plain old S-E-X? You don't mention either of your ages. You say you want to make him think you're really confident-don't, if that's not you. Just go up and talk to him at one of these shows or parties- aided perhaps by a little Dutch courage(not too much though, you don't want to be off your face). Just try to enjoy the whole party vibe, come out of your shell and let him see you talk to other people(not only guys, you don't want to seem like you'll flirt with just anyone). take care and party hard!Lxx
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Ok.. i just got a kittie.. but i have no idea what to name her. My kitties a girl.. and she's gray with tan and white splotches on her.. she's very lady - like.. and loves to cuddle and play.. she's delicate and sweet.. her eyes are green.. and she loves to hide under my moms bed.. so can anyone give me any ideas for namess pleasee.. thanks =]
what about Meg, after the beautiful and charming oldest sister in Little Women. Or if you don't like giving animals human names, how about pirate or bandit(if the patches are over her eyes). Not in accordance with her temprament, I understand , but a little reverse psychology never did anyone any harm.
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ok this is my problem .i like this guy named nelson.i think he may like me too. he always looks at me for periods of time. like at times we go for eye to eye for like 10 seconds.then he bats his eyes. also his always talking to me in class and telling me stupid stuff.but then out of class he just completely ignores me.doesnt say hi to me or any thing.but i really like him.does he like me.
Sounds to me as if our Nelson is a bit of a tease (Lame name anyway IMHO). The question you need to ask yourself isn't "does he like me" but "why do I like him?" A loser is a loser. Forget him and move on to pastures new. lol Lucretia xx.
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ok theres this guy and i like him and he was talkin to me n hes gonna ask me out tomarrow but hes not a virgin n ive never even kissed anyone but i dont want him to no that ..can u give me some advice on how to make out and "stuff" if u no what i mean
You Americans and your incessant "stuff"! Why so coy? Why not just say sex, good, plain ol'fashioned humping, shagging or whatever else I'm probably not allowed to say on this site.....
Linguisitc considerations aside, however, I would seriously recommend honesty as being,most certainly in the case of relating levels of sexual experience, the best policy. DON'T LIE TO HIM. Tell him you're a virgin, don't let foolish pride let you claim more experience than you actually have. And above all, don't let him pressure you into anything that you're uncomfortable with. Just be happy, enjoy his company and see what develops from there. Take care, best of luck Lucretia xx.
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My eyes are a grayish blue and I have very long and dark eye lashes. My eyes are about medium sized. What color eyeliner should I wear? My mom told me like a charcoal gray because If i wear blue it would be competeing with my eye color. What do you think?
I agree with your mother, that you should leave blie eyeliner alone, her point is valid. Indeed, I would venture to suggest with such striking natural assets, that you skip the eyeliner altogether and just allow your lashes (you lucky thing, I'm green with envy) and the expression in your eyes work their own magic. lol Lucretia xx.
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My boyfriend just started fingering me. He's the first guy to ever do it to me. He's done it about 3 times now and everytime he does it... its not pleasurable at all. It's actually just kind of uncomfortable. I think something's wrong isnt it... i mean getting fingered sure def be pleasing to the girl right? Please help me. I'll rate. Thanks!
~Nicole
I'm sad to tell you the bad news, which is that nothing is wrong...... except that your boyfriend doesn't have a clitoris. Thus, it's quite natural that he won't be any good to begin with, this is only the first three times , right? Plus, you don't say how old you guys are, but I'm guessing somewhere in the early to mid teens. Well I'll tell you this much, guys just aren't innate experts. It's a technique which comes (no pun intended) with practice. Even my forty-seven year old ex-boyfriend, who was an excellent lover in nearly all other ways, gave hopeless finger(and he'd had over thirty years of practice).
None of which is intended to depress you-I'm just saying that you need to develop good communication skills. Don't moan and groan in false delight just to soothe his ego- if necessary, sweeten the pill by praising some other sex skill of his before confiding that his hand jobs don't do it for you. When you do tell him, be consructive, perhaps search out some support material(Em and Lo's The Big Bang is an excellent guide)and read it together- hopefully that'll get you all turned on , which is the perfect mood to set out on your quest for sexual bliss. Good Luck! Lucretia x.
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Hi. I have a slight problem. There is this guy, his name is Steven. He is my sisters-bestfriend's-brother. My sister said that him and I would look cute together because we have the same type of personality. I've only talked to him online, never in person and he has a wonderful personality! What really turns me on about him is he is friendly, loves God and doesn't smoke, drink nor do drugs. I started talking to him like three days ago, and from the conversations we've had, he's called me georgeous and said I was awesome several times. (He's seen pictures of me.) I really want to meet him, and we're planning on going on like a little group date thing with two of his friends, and two of mine. (My sister and My sister's best friend.) But I'm really nervous and I'm not sure when it's going to be. I really like him and I think he likes me but I'm not sure. He lets me call him Stevie and is just a really sweet guy to me. I don't know what to do about it. I always anticipate talking to him and am really happy when I do. But, what if he thinks I'm ugly in person or have a horrid personality or something? I'm just kind of scared and don't know what to do about it! Can you please just overall assist me in my situation? Thank you very much,
MKS
Oh you lucky thing! I wish that I had a cool online boyfriend! I know what you mean though. This relationship, which has been drifting in cyberspace, too-good-to-be-true,is about to translate itself into flesh and blood. A scary, if delightful, prospect for both you and your cyber-mate. So here is where I quote from Elizabeth Wurtzel, one of my favourite popular intellectuals-"Always keep your mind on what YOU feel(my capitals)not what HE feels"(The Bitch Rules-excellent book and more approachable than her other stuff).
This is all too true. While I agree with the advice given by the other columnist(sorry I've forgotten their name :-( , that you're sure to make a great impression, don't forget that he, too, mightn't live up to YOUR expectations. With that in mind, and promising yourself not to be too disappointed if that occurs, go out there and have yourself a great time! lol Lucretia xx.
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what will help me lose weight that i can eat?
Ok, if you're certain you want to lose weight(and aren't just responding to peer pressure) then try fruit instead of candy (bananas are an especially good substitute for chocolate)and drinking a large glass of water, slowly, before each meal(clears the skin as well as calming the appetite. For the rest, eat plenty of complex carbs(brown rice , wholewheat bread and pasta as opposed to white). Experts say that complex carbs should make up about forty percent of our daily diet.
Try to cook with vegetable oil(olive if you can afford it) instead of butter, yoghurt(which also makes a good snack, with fresh fruit)instead of cream. You get the picture.....Above all, though, don't be afraid to give yourself a treat- say one really nice ice cream sundae or slice of cake a week. More fun and actually, much more effective than sheer grim abstinance. lol Lucretia xx.
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