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fingering....
My boyfriend just started fingering me. He's the first guy to ever do it to me. He's done it about 3 times now and everytime he does it... its not pleasurable at all. It's actually just kind of uncomfortable. I think something's wrong isnt it... i mean getting fingered sure def be pleasing to the girl right? Please help me. I'll rate. Thanks!
~Nicole
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well if you dont already, masturbate so you know what feels good and if the finger-in-vagina-thing doesntm work for you, try getting him to pleasure your clit. im pretty sure it should please you. <3
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Well if you find it unpleasurable... then he is obviously not gttin the job done right. How would you feel about letting him eat you out? If fingering doesnt seem to be pleasing you either cause its just not your thing or hes not doing it right for your likings, then either let him eat you out and get pleasured that way. (feels better anyways) Or, you can tell him how he should do it to please you. If you don't know what it is that will please you then tell him to do something different then he's doing or explore for yourself to find out what you like.
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I'm sad to tell you the bad news, which is that nothing is wrong...... except that your boyfriend doesn't have a clitoris. Thus, it's quite natural that he won't be any good to begin with, this is only the first three times , right? Plus, you don't say how old you guys are, but I'm guessing somewhere in the early to mid teens. Well I'll tell you this much, guys just aren't innate experts. It's a technique which comes (no pun intended) with practice. Even my forty-seven year old ex-boyfriend, who was an excellent lover in nearly all other ways, gave hopeless finger(and he'd had over thirty years of practice).
None of which is intended to depress you-I'm just saying that you need to develop good communication skills. Don't moan and groan in false delight just to soothe his ego- if necessary, sweeten the pill by praising some other sex skill of his before confiding that his hand jobs don't do it for you. When you do tell him, be consructive, perhaps search out some support material(Em and Lo's The Big Bang is an excellent guide)and read it together- hopefully that'll get you all turned on , which is the perfect mood to set out on your quest for sexual bliss. Good Luck! Lucretia x.
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