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:.Hey x3
My name is Emily and blah blah blah.


:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.


:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.


:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.


:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.


:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.

If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM

If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.

:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).

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So what would the penalty be for actually spending a night in the school. Like if you got caught. There wouldn't be any break and entry, theres no trespassing charges, so i can't think of anything that they could do if they caught you?? Please don't ask whyyy im thinking of this, just random because im taking a crime and justice course and it would be pretty sketchy to ask the teacher. Soo any ideas?? this is the state of NJ by the way.

Every school differs with their rules. Look in the Student Handbook (or whatever it may called at your school) and look for trespassing.

At our school, if you are at the school after school hours (except for sports, clubs, etc) w/o an adult or something, it's seen as you trying to vandalize, etc.

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Can someone help me translate this??please?


Circe
Ulixes nunc omnia praeter (except) suam (his) navem amiserat.

Haec (this) navis ad insulam Aeaeam venit, quam Circe, maga (witch) potens (powerful), regebat. Eurylochus ab Ulixe insulam explorare iubetur. Ubi Eurylochus homines in regiam mittit, Circe cibo certo nautas in sues mutat. Miseri, rogant, " Qui sumus? Quid sumus? Quis in hoc modo edit?" Tum sciunt et exclamant "Sumus similes suibus! Sed sumus homines! Eheu!" (Alas!)

Eurylochus, qui in regiam non iam processerat, ad Ulixem, cui omnia narrat, maturat. Ulixes ad homines statim procedit. Deus Mercurius Ulixi (dative) herbam magicam, quae eum (him) servabit, donat. Ergo (therefore) Ulixes in suem a Circa mutari (to be changed) non potest (is able/can) .

Nautae in homines imperio Ulixis mutantur, et Ulixes cum Circa multos menses manet. Tum, nautae Ulixi (dat) rogant, "Possumusne (are we able) excedere? Ubi excedimus?" Ulixes navigare parat. Circe eum (him) Ulixem de periculis quae invenient monet.

Thank you in advance!

I'm in Latin V and so far, I have not asked people to translate a big passage of Latin into English for me entirely. I understand that translating can be very hard and frustrating but this seems very easy and straightforward.

Just use the 3 line method.
Write the Latin, leaving 3-4 lines in between each line. Go use a dictionary to look up all the words and write them down underneath the corresponding words. Do that again, except this time, write down the gender/case/number (singular or plural) for the nouns and adjectives OR person (1st, 2nd, 3rd person)/tense/number (sing. or pl) for verbs. Then match up nouns and adjectives & the subjects of each verb. Then off you go. It'll be easy to translate. Yes, this will take a nifty amount of time, but towards the end, you'll get the hang of it and it will become easy for you to translate.

Remember, the only way to become good at anything is by doing it yourself! Plus, we're hear to give advice, like I did. Not here to do anyone's homework for them. And do not use online translators. They suck!!!

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Emily

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Ok me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and one week, he asked me to marry him April 17, i said yes. Now today on Saturday, November 03,2007 he tells me he cheated on me the first week we started going out, what do i do? How do i take this? Will this change my feelings for him? I am a female and Im 15 My Boyfriend or soon to be husband is 17 we started dating when he was sixteen. Thank you
If you need to contact me my email address is darkmagicalmoon@yahoo.com

Sincerly
Karissa


First of all, let me just tell you that you're going to hate me for saying the following.

I'm 15 and I can't imagine myself being engaged.
I would rather have a much better time being free, in a relationship, or just flirting with people.
Not being tied down by something so heavy as an engagement.

And let me tell you about guys that cheat.
Sure, they have really big guts to reveal they cheated. I give them kudos for that.
But the problem is that guys who got away for so long w/o his main girlfriend noticing WILL do it again.
He will, I promise to whoever I believe in, cheat on you again.
Who knows how many times he has cheated in the past?
Is he all clean? How do you know?
You can't.
Once he's cheated, he'll know he can do it again without any consequences if you decide to forgive him for that and marry him.

My advice for you in short words:
You're only 15. Please call off the engagement. He may seem like the whole, entire world to you and the best thing that has happened to you right now...but he's not. At least wait until you guys have both gotten into college and have a solid educational foundation to get married and build a family upon.

But I wouldn't suggest giving this guy a second chance.
Once they cheat, they'll cheat again.
No matter how sincere they look or how apologetic they sound.

Call off the engagement and see what happens from there on.



Sorry if this sounded more like a lecture than an advice. But I'm just trying to help in my own way. If you have anymore questions, e-mail me at emilylee_92@yahoo.com in the future to gt a quicker response.

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emily

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My thighs are huge is there anyway to get them tinner or not look so fat.plz help me.

Running.
Swimming.
Biking.
Hiking.
Anything that involves the usage of your legs.

You can go to my forum, click on "Toning Exercises" and go to the quads, outside thigh, inside tigh work outs.

Basically, do squats and it's variations & leg lifts. 8 times twice (so 16 times total) and increase it by 2 when it becomes easy enough that you don't feel the "burn" haha. Do this every day. It won't take more than 10min.

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Emily

p.s. the key to doing this is repetition and doing it SLOWLY.

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I HAVE A HUGE ISSUE. Ok well,this ex boyfriend I dated for 4 months is now dating one of my friends.
They talk very perverted to eachother and one day me and my friend (the one dating him ) went to the movies and she had to go to the bathroom,so she had me hold her phone and i was just looking throught her inbox and outbox not looking for anything specific. But then I saw that my ex's name appear in a text with her saying she wants to get pregnant with his baby and marry him, and run away etc... (she just turned 13,and he's 17). It hurts me really bad that she would do that to me. i thought i had no feelings for him but one day he texted me saying he still loved me. we haven't talked since then cause i know he was playing both of us. ( i dont like him,but shes going to get hurt...shes going to wind up getting pregant and he is going to leave her)
heres some stuff about him
1.has a kid
2. was married.
3.only 17
4. a big player.

heres stuff about my friend
1.just turned 13
2. was pregnant 2wice already.
3. is a slut..

I dont know what to do.
She still don't know that i know they're together.

HELP.

Okay, well first of all, if they ever do anything intimate and/.or sexual things, then that boy is going to jail.

Your friend needs a reality check and that is where you come in. Sit her down (I know, cliche), and talk to her. Say you're really sorry but you looked through her phone that night and saw the message. Tell her that you don't know if she was saying that seriously or jokingly, but either way you're not happy with her going out with your ex not because you still like him/jealous of him, but for these reasons:

Age difference will land him in jail.
Who knows how many STDs this guy might have
Who knows how many girls he's knocked up/have played/is still playing.
If she really wants to handle being pregnant AGAIN and/or handling a kid at age 13.
Him having a kid and being married already will result in the same for her.

Ask her what she finds so attractive in him...
Really, guys who have been married, have a kid, and is a playa doesn't appeal to many.

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ok so i got this whole title of beinhg a whore[but imn really not] from sending someone a picture but it wasnt that bad. like just ass but alot of people saw it caz they stole this kids pohone &+well then this other boy found out about it &+saw it too and i really like this other boy so we started talking &+before i knew it he was asking me for pictures &+stuff well i sent him like two so far just like boobs but he wants more &+im running out of ideas to do. like i dont want to continuously send him the same thing. but yeah. &+we might end up going out caz he likes me &+stuff just adding it in. GUYS OPINIONS WOULD BE GREAT! but girls too anythinbg that maybve youve sent that guys like? so thanxand does thsi sound whore-ish. but thanx for anything.

Let's review this.

You have a rep for being a whore.
You got that rep by sending pictures.
You like this guy.
This guy wants your pictures.
You don't want to be titled a whore.
Yet you're still sending pictures.
You think he wants to go out with you because he wants your pictures.

My dear, sorry to burst your bubble but this guy likes you only for your pictures. If you think that you can get this guy by sending pictures to him, then something clearly needs to be thought out. He doesn't like you for you. He likes you for the pictures you send him.

Also, if you don't want the title "whore", then why are you still doing the thing that got you that reputation in the first place?

Drop this guy and stop sending pictures.

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this question will probably be deleted, but does anybody know how this thing works?! its crazy.

What is "this thing" you are referring to?

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i'm kind of lost as what to do for a holloween costume. what are like cute easy holloween costumes to be? i need good ideas help!

and like if theres any cute boy/girl costumes that your with a boy like those ideas would be greatly appreciated, too. thanks!

Boy: plug
Girl: plug outlet
(I thought this was adorable and funny)

Pick a celebrity couple =)

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how do you do the splits??
i used to be able to when i was 7 but now i can't and i'm 15 now
i want to be able to them again??
any excercises on how i can learn to do them again??

You need to warm up your body first.
Do some plies (Stand in 1st, 2nd, and 5th ballet positions and bend at the knees. Do 2 demi plies, then full plie for each position) and jog in place for like 5min.
First, stretch. Touch your toes with your hands several times. There are 2 things you can do to help you get your flexibility back.

1. On a slippery surface (i.e. hardwood floor), wear socks or ballet slippers and put your right foot in front of your left foot, legs straight. Slowly slide your feet front/back as far as you can get down. Make sure your legs are not bent and that your hips are not turned to the side and are facing straight ahead. Hold that position for 20seconds. Repeat on that side. Do the same with left foot front and right foot back twice for 20 sec each.

2. Do front lunges. Right foot front with knee bent at 90 degree angle. Put your left leg back straight. Hips facing front. Pull down as far as you can by either sliding the back foot back and keeping the back foot where it is and lean forward on the right leg. Hold for 20 seconds twice. Repeat on other leg.

Remember, warming up is important in order for you to not injure yourself! After you do these stretches, stand up, touch your toes.

**Learning how to do the splits can take up to months to achieve so don't be frustrated with yourself if you can't get it in a week. Also, you should try and do these every day.
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Emily

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I'm in 10th grade, 15/f & we'll call him Joe. Joe is in 11th grade, 16/m.

Background on Joe: He's very sweet,nice,caring, and a cheery person. 2 things that he does that note that he REALLY likes the girl are: talk about her a lot to everyone & leave a [(Name of girl)

Seems like I pressed "Answer this question" instead of "Add additional information" thing.

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what are some good bands that are similar to the following:

-boys like girls
-jacks mannequin
-we the kings
-goot

if you dont know them then look them up maybe but idk i really need new music =]


thanks!

http://www.pandora.com/

Emily
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how much effective is morning after pill? is it 99% effective? i heard that the first time, you never get pregnant. is that true?

95% effective if you take it 24hrs after having sex and only 85% effective if you take it 24 to 48 hours after having sex.

And you can get pregnant your first time, fifth time, whatever time. Sexual intercourse without protection can very much lead to pregnancy whether it's your first time or your last time.

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Emily

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ok well i am not really sure what is the best way to check if a condom has broken after haing sex???????

The best way is to fill it up with water. Wipe it dry on the outside and squeeze it gently to see if there are any leaks.

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how to i get a girl to like me if she doesnt know i exist?

Do little things to just get her attention, which will basically give off the feeling that you like her.

If she's standing like 5ft away from you and doesn't notice, go up to her randomly and say "Hey, what's up. Don't talk to you much."
Or something like that.
Wave/smile to her in the hallway if she sees you.

Do you guys have lunch or classes together? AT lunch, talk to her and sit next to her if you want. In class, sit next to her if you can and ask her if she wants to partner with you or if she knows the hw for that classs (this is when you get home after that class that is) Get her AIM or e-mail and just be friendly and talk to her often. But if you get the hint that she's busy or isn't interested, don't linger on her and try to make conversation because it'll just piss her off in the end XD

Good luck!
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Emily

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if you only smoked a few times, do you think the dentist could tell you've been smoking?

i haven't, i'm just curious about that?

Well I hope you haven't been smoking at all nor will you plan to do so in the future.

A few times, no. More than a few times, yes.

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Ok, so I think my hymen might have broken, but I'm still a virgin. I'm only 14, and sex seems like a scary thing to me. I think it might have broken while putting a tampon in. Later this month, I have a doctors appt, for kidney stones, and they have to go up inside me. I'm worried that if it really did break, they'll tell my mom. She would freak out. I don't think she'd believe that I've never had sex. Do you know maybe what I could do? Like, what I could maybe tell her?

The doctors won't tell your parents anything you don't want your parents to know unless it's potentially life threatening.

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i have this project and we have to make a pun about density.. like as an example my teacher put "what are you made of.." haha anyone got any good puns? im horrible at making up stuff like that haha. thanks.

You seem a little dense

???? Haha. That was lame.

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ok my ipod video is like...over a yr old now. and when i try and turn it on it has a picture of an ipod with a dead face and then the apple website. i went to the website and it told me i need to restore my ipod, and to do that i have to connect it to itunes, but when i plug it in it doesnt come up on my itunes and says "please wait, very low battery" i have left in it for a long time but it still says that. im pretty sure its the battery thats whats wrong with it. my question is, could anything else be wrong with it and can i just replace the battery and not get a whole new ipod video? and where would they sell them if i could do that.(and how much)

thanks for anything
xxx

The low battery thing happened to me as well.
It could be that your computer isn't powerful enough to charge your iPod or you may have left your iPod one too many times with low battery and used it until the battery died then recharged, repeat.

I took it to the Apple Store and the guy asked if it would be alright to clear everything from my iPod and I said yeah. So he did and he basically charged it a little bit so that it would turn on a function for like 2min. And then I went to Circuit City and bought a wall charger to charge my iPod. It's worked for me. The computer thing just doesn't charge my iPod for some reason.

Oh, he didn't charge us either.

Emily
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Which foods contain a high source of fibre?

Usually most veggies do.
Broccoli
Celery
Peas
etc.

Google "Fiber foods" and you'll get a list of foods...

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Emily

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My friend I’ve known my whole life I guess we were like best friends. We always told each other it but never did anything out of school except email aim and talk. Then we liked each other a little a lot. Everyone tried to get us together as in dating or alone together. Then there were a lot of mishaps at parties. Many good time so many bad times. Old games like truth or dare and zap. Our relationship fell apart. Im friends with a lot of guys and most are older than him. I am always with them. I don’t like any of them but him and another guy. I’ve never dated because I always fell for my friends and I never wanted to loose them. Four guys like me that I know of right now but I cant do it I’d miss him to much. They know I won’t date because of all that’s happened. My friend says he’s afraid on what id think, my friend told me. Doesn’t seem to like the guys I talk to anymore. We always talked, now almost never except at school a little. We always had silly little arguments on kinds of donuts and stuff always talking. He always gave me high fives or would do anything to hold my hand even for a second and then every time we saw each other he’d give me a high five or we arm wrestle or play games like red hands but he never wanted to hurt me. We used to really care for each other now we do a little but it’s falling apart. He talks to my friends more than me now. But I just don’t know what to do anymore. Im even to nervous to talk to him I’ve never been nervous for any guy. I don’t know what to do??? 13 about 14 femalee

I'm sorry to say but this was written out pretty badly and I only got little bits of this whole question. So you have a guy best friend, let's call him A and you guys liked each other but didn't go out because you guys were afraid to lose the friendship? And you have 4 other guys that like you but you don't go out with them because they're your friends as well? And now you're losing your friendships with all these guys and they're getting friendlier amongst themselves without you?

If that's the case: guys are hard to keep as best friends when you're a girl. It just so happens that guys make friends with guys and girls with girls. Not many guys are willing to hold onto a girl that is a friend as they grow up. Especially if the guy likes you and you don't want to go out with him. If he really did value the friendship and/or you, he'd stick with you no matter what but if the friendship didn't go as deep, then he might just lose interest in you and have moved on. Just go out with whatever guy, even if he is your friend. If he's a true friend, even if you guys end up breaking up, he'll still be your friend. If he isn't, then he'll leave if you don't go out with him eventually or he'll not likely be that good of a friend after breaking up. Life is all about taking chances and you should indulge in chance taking. Who knows, something might work out. As for keeping the friendship, just be acquaintances and maybe something will work out. In the meanwhile, making new friends can't hurt so go out there and try to find some other friends. You're only 13 (or 14?) and you'll have more guys to and girls to choose from to be your friends.

And if I interpreted your question incorrectly, don't give me a bad rating because I tried as best as I could and it is not my fault for wording out the question as you did so. Just send me another inbox message with a question typed out more clearly =)

Good luck!
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Emily

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