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my friend and i are falling apart
My friend I’ve known my whole life I guess we were like best friends. We always told each other it but never did anything out of school except email aim and talk. Then we liked each other a little a lot. Everyone tried to get us together as in dating or alone together. Then there were a lot of mishaps at parties. Many good time so many bad times. Old games like truth or dare and zap. Our relationship fell apart. Im friends with a lot of guys and most are older than him. I am always with them. I don’t like any of them but him and another guy. I’ve never dated because I always fell for my friends and I never wanted to loose them. Four guys like me that I know of right now but I cant do it I’d miss him to much. They know I won’t date because of all that’s happened. My friend says he’s afraid on what id think, my friend told me. Doesn’t seem to like the guys I talk to anymore. We always talked, now almost never except at school a little. We always had silly little arguments on kinds of donuts and stuff always talking. He always gave me high fives or would do anything to hold my hand even for a second and then every time we saw each other he’d give me a high five or we arm wrestle or play games like red hands but he never wanted to hurt me. We used to really care for each other now we do a little but it’s falling apart. He talks to my friends more than me now. But I just don’t know what to do anymore. Im even to nervous to talk to him I’ve never been nervous for any guy. I don’t know what to do??? 13 about 14 femalee
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I'm sorry to say but this was written out pretty badly and I only got little bits of this whole question. So you have a guy best friend, let's call him A and you guys liked each other but didn't go out because you guys were afraid to lose the friendship? And you have 4 other guys that like you but you don't go out with them because they're your friends as well? And now you're losing your friendships with all these guys and they're getting friendlier amongst themselves without you?
If that's the case: guys are hard to keep as best friends when you're a girl. It just so happens that guys make friends with guys and girls with girls. Not many guys are willing to hold onto a girl that is a friend as they grow up. Especially if the guy likes you and you don't want to go out with him. If he really did value the friendship and/or you, he'd stick with you no matter what but if the friendship didn't go as deep, then he might just lose interest in you and have moved on. Just go out with whatever guy, even if he is your friend. If he's a true friend, even if you guys end up breaking up, he'll still be your friend. If he isn't, then he'll leave if you don't go out with him eventually or he'll not likely be that good of a friend after breaking up. Life is all about taking chances and you should indulge in chance taking. Who knows, something might work out. As for keeping the friendship, just be acquaintances and maybe something will work out. In the meanwhile, making new friends can't hurt so go out there and try to find some other friends. You're only 13 (or 14?) and you'll have more guys to and girls to choose from to be your friends.
And if I interpreted your question incorrectly, don't give me a bad rating because I tried as best as I could and it is not my fault for wording out the question as you did so. Just send me another inbox message with a question typed out more clearly =)
Good luck!
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Emily
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It's really hard for me to give you a solid answer only because I don't know why you're falling apart. But I'll still try!
Ok well, you need to talk to him. Tell him how you feel and how you really still like him and that you miss him alot. If this guy is affecting how you see other guys then you know that your feelings for him as strong.
I have alot of guy friends and I know how you feel about falling for them. I fell for my best friend once too. And it's hard. And when he liked me, I had no idea. But we're still friends mainly because we talked about it.
If you want to be more than friends with him you really outtah speak your mind. Keeping feelings inside doesn't make anything better.
And if you're scared of trying, always remember. Failing is worse than never trying. Don't be afrais of the unknown.
I hope I could help!
Let me know how it works out!!!
Signed,
cheapxphotography
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Aw:]. This is sweet. I would invite him to a movie, or a dinner or something. Try to talk to him more, and make more of an effort. Does he go to your school? If he does, and there are school dances- then dance with him at the dance:D. Try to call him, and instant message him more, too.
good luck:D
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Thanks for the inbox ♥ i didn't really understand your question to be completly honest but im gonna try to help you with that i sort of understood.
You must really like the boy but you got to learn to be confident infront of him if not maybe im him or text time just say what happened to us i want to go back to the old us and maybe you should ask him why do you talk to my friend more then me and i really miss you,you have to talk to him to sort it out you can just watch it pass by and thinking it'll be better but it won't it causes more pain and maybe you should give those other guys a chance yeh sure you'll miss him but your stilla teenager we're just seeing life the way it is you'll move on trust me you will and maybe one of those guys are one of the nicest guys you'll meet everyones deserves a chance. you need anything else just inbox me.
Or you cna just tell me i answeard it wrong cause like i said i didn't really get it sorry.
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by the way you talk, you kind of sound like a lesbian that wants to seem straight.
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