about

My name is Julia

things change. sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worst. that's how life is. i'm almost 16 and i make mistakes just like any other person. i'm far from perfect. i love to act, sing, dance and do anything involved with the arts. i really want to learn to play the guitar and i plan to learn. i play tennis but it's only to pass the time. i write poetry and lately i've been reading alot. i'm really goofy and i like to make people smile and i love to laugh. i don't trust that easily and i love even lighter. i don't believe that anyone is better than anyone. i've been going through a tough time lately and i've been confused about alot. i have my best friends and besides them i don't care what other people think. i have an amazing boyfriend and i love him. we can get through anything. i don't hate. sometimes love. and always smile. don't judge me before you get to know me. i'm loud and will make you laugh.

I also love to give and get advice. I believe that people should come together and help you to get by. But always remmeber, advice is help. You are the only one that can make a final desision. I would love to help you with anything as long as you respect me and I'll return the same respect.

advice

f/15
does it really hurt for a girl for the first time cause if it hurt so bad then why do people do it again>>>

You always have to remmeber that not everyone is the same. ALot of girls believe that the first time is very painful and uncomfortable for them. It depends on the situation. If you're comfortable enough with the person that you're engaging in sex with then you'll be able to tell him what exactly hurts and what feels good. If you can talk to him about it you can ask him to go genteler or switch positions. Also, nervousness can add to the pain because if you aren't relaxed then you won't be able to have good sex.

Sex sometimes can hurt. I have alot of friends that have said it didn't hurt but that's because they had dont other things with their partners for months before they decided to engage in sex.

People do it because either...
~They're in love and want to expericane eachother
~After awhile it does feel good.
~They think everyone else is doing it
~They're ready to take it to the next level
~They want to fully give their body to the person.

Remember to never do anything that you don't want to do. Wait until you are ready and don't rush.

I hope I helped!

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Okay, well me and my boyfriend have been dating for 6 months(as of today!), and well i guess you could say i love him.. But i've still kinda liked one of my best guy friends, i've like him for almost 2 years now, and i can't seem to get over him, and he told me that he liked me, which probably wasn't the best idea, but he said he wanted to tell me cause it was bugging him from me not knowing. And well sometimes i think i like him more then my boyfriend, but then other times i can't really see him more then my bestfriend. And last week i thought i REALLY liked him, and me and my boyfriend almost broke up(nothing to do with my friend), and i was kinda hoping we would have.(i know, bad thing to say) but now, i'm glad we didn't. And my friend is in Flordia right now, and i havn't talked to him in like a week, and i don't like him as much right now, but when he gets back, and we start talking alot again, i have a feeling that i will start liking him. Like he's ALWAYS there for me, not matter what, and he's such a great friend, and he's like everything that i'd look for in a guy. But i don't really want to end things with my boyfriend because it would kill us both. I don't really know what to do, if there is anything, and i've tried "following my heart" but that just confused me even more. Sorry for this being so long, any advice would help. Thanks. :)

Ok. I really think that I will be able to give you the best first hand advice here. Before I start, sit down, relax and take a deep breath. Eveything's gonna work out. I promise. I've been there.

So anyways, hey, I'm Julia and I'm 16 years old. I don't want you to think you're getting advice from someone with no experiance, but hun I've definatly been there.

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a little over 8 months, but it hasn't always been like this. Right before we hit the 7 month mark, I feel for another guy. A friend at that. We started to hang out more and more and deeper i feel for him. Little did I know that I was just really confused because me and my boyfriend had been fighting.

So me and this guy were hanging out. I looked in his eyes once and I saw in that moment that I was where I wanted to be. So without thinknig about it too long, I broke up with my boyfriend. (FREEZE)
You need to remember that you can't rush into anything without talking to your boyfriend about everything that you're feeling. Remember to think all your thoughts through before getting anyone else's feelings involved. Even thought guys don't show it, they have a soft side. Granted you've been together for 6 months, he loves you.

So I was single. I began living the life I thought I loved. Meeting new people, kissing other guys, and also keeping my new intrest close, not realizing that my new behiavor was hurting him as well.
(FREEZE)
This was sooooo wrong of me. I didn't aknowledge anyone's feelings besides my own. Even though you have to follow your heart you have to remember you're not the only one involved.

In the end, I realized that I missed my boyfriend and I wanted him back. Luckily I was able to win him back but this didn;t come easy. I had to let everyone in the situation know what was gonig on and this meant hurting the other guy. But hey, we're good friends now and me and my boyfriend are still together. Although there are spaces, we're willing to fill them.

Also, I still will admit that sometimes I have feelings for other guys. Sometimes it gets to the point where I really want to take a chance but I realize that It's not worth ruining what I have.

This decision is all your own. All I can tell you is that you need to weigh your options and see what one is worth is more for you. Don't do anything without knowing what you really want and try making a pros and cons list. I really hope my story has helped you. I apologize for the lenght but I'm really trying to give you the best advice as possible.

Also you may want to try gonig on a nice walk. Where I live, the weather is starting to get nicer. Taking time to be alone in fresh air will defiantly help you!

GOOD LUCK!
Julia

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how much does unlimited text messaging cost for verizon? ive searched the site and still cant find out. the plan i currently have is 500 minutes (they dont have it anymore though) and 250 texts. Also, if i added unlimted, is there a way to do it so that my whole family plan can use that and not just my phone?

I Have verizon unlimited family text mesageing. It costs 30 dollars a month and you're whole family can have unlimited text! It's so great. I have a family of 5, but I'm not sure the limit. It's unlimited IM's, text, pic text, and vid text. IT'S GREAT

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Its the 2nd year I'm with my guy... I love him alot....
we've been through alot of problems through the last year.. but we love eachother alot and want to go on....

for this valentines i thought of burning some CD's full of love and romance movies along with some other presents...
I need help

please can you give me names of beautiful meaningful movies biased on love and romance???

in addition to that
something like a perfect guy movie would be great too..
also a movie that shows how two people realize they cant live without eachother would be great too


Please please help me..

I need names of many movies as possible biased on love and romance...

I'm going to be upright honest with you. Guys aren't usually into romance movies. They usualy fall asleep through them or will occassionaly pretend to be enjoying it just to make you happy or to make you feel good. If you really know that he will enjoy these sorts of movies...then I'll give you a few. But just keep in mind that the chick flicks are usually NOT dick flicks.

a Walk to remmeber is a great movie where two people from totally differnt worlds go through many problems but realize that they can't go on without eachtoher. This one isn't too chicky and I watched it with my boyfriend. I wouldn't say that he enjoyed it...but...he tolerated it.

A really good one that he will be able to enjoy as well is Fever Pitch. I realize that someone already said this but they didn't explain. This movie shows the male mentality in a realationship and it might open his eyes on how he needs to pay attention to you more. =0]

DO NOT GET THE NOTEBOOK! Guys HATE this movie more than anything in the world.

I'm quoteing a guy friend right now. "Get the wedding singer, It's a bomb movie." This movie has a romactic theme and guys love it!

I hope I could help! Have a great Valentines day with you're guy and I wish you to a happy future!

Signed.
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Hello everyone. I was hoping someone could tell me some stores where I could find fuzzy pants, or some type of sweatpants. When I don't go anywhere I love lounging around in fuzzy pants, the ones that are really soft and tie in the front. I like the ones that tie so I know they'll actually fit me. Well I usually try to go to Deb and look for fuzzy pants, but I really didn't find much. I ask for these types of pants every year for Christmas too, but my parents didn't really get me any. I just wanna know of some stores where I could get some, whether it's going to an actual store, or ordering any online. I hate going shopping in actual stores, but I'm pretty sure that's what I'll have to do. If anyone knows some actual stores, please let me know! I don't want ones that are too expensive either, but they don't need to be too cheap either. I want a whole bunch of different colors. Black, Grey, Navy Blue, Light Yellow, Red, White, pretty much any. Thank you very much to anyone who answers.

Victoria's Secret has the most comfy sweatpants ever! They come in all colors, including vibrant ones. The are a little expensive racking in at about $38 dollars a pair, but the quality is definatly worth the money. Mostly all of them have ties in the front and come in XS, S, M, L, XL all with unique disigns from letters, to puppies, to rhymstones!

I hope I could help!
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P.S. These are even cute enough that you could wear them to school and no look scrubby! They're my favorite. I love them!

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Okay background info first.
so I went to a show the other day, and there was some guy that needed an extra ticket. I had one, and let him have it really cheap, and I chilled with him the whole night, he picked me up the next night, I hung out with him for that whole night and stayed over there with my best friend. The next day I got to kind of know him, and we cuddled and made out. He's a really sweet guy, but the only problem is he lives a good 30 minute drive away, and I can't drive. Also doubt my dad approves of me dating a guy 3 years older than me. Right now i'm pretty limited to only seeing him at shows, or unless he comes and get's me on weekends. I guess what im trying to get advice on is making the decision of either going ahead and having a kind of long distance relationship where i'd see him about twice a week, wait for someone better to come along, or maybe convince my dad to be cool with it. another thing is, the only reason I hace some hope for a long distance with this guy is he is definetely not an asshole, I trust him, and I see him differently from any guy I've dated.

Hey.
I should be able to help you because I was in this same situation. My boyfriend lives 35 minutes away, but we don't consider it to be a long distance realationship. I usualy see him about 3-4 times a week. Since he is older than me, he can drive and he's willing to come get me or come see me all the time. My parents approve of him so they let him come over when ever he wants.

I honestly think you should go for it. He doesn't live that far away and I'm sure you could work it out. You should also talk to your dad about it.

At first I thought that me and my boyfriend would never work out. I'm really glad that I tried though becuase I love him so much and we've been dating for almost 4 months.

Don't be afraid of it not working. You'll feel better if you try!

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I'm on the second day of my period, and I had unprotected sex in the shower. He pulled out, which I know is absolutely NO good considering pre-cum and all, so yeah, Is it possible that I could get pregnant, because I thought when you're on your period it means that the egg left your system and youre getting rid of the uterine lining because the egg wasnt fertilized, so that would mean for this week i have no egg in my system right?

ehh, just let me know what the chances are if I could...

Alright.
I really hate saying this. But I'm going to warn you...what you did was dangerous.

when you have your period, its easier for you to get pregnant. Since there are eggs currently everywhere in your system, the odds of you getting pregnant are much higher. When people are trying to get pregnant, they have sex during their period becuase it's when your cycle is at it's peak.

pulling out will NEVER prevent you from getting pregnant. Like you saidm there is still pre-cum, and that's just as dangerous as flowing sperm.

The only advice I can give you is to get a pregnancy test RIGHT away. Make sure that you're with your boyfriend and you should warn him that what you both did could result in a life changing experiance.

I'm sorry that I had to be the one to tell you. I'm not saying that you're definatly pregnant, but I'm not going to lie to you. You're chances are high.

Please let me know how everything works out. You should never have unprotected sex...even in the shower! Actually it can be worse because the heat can cause guys to get harder faster.

Please b careful and let me know.

Signed,
cheapxphotography

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15/f

my friend, gets picked on by this pink haired goth emo freaks. all the time. their mean to her just because she has blonde hair and blue eyes and she wears abercrombie. she doesnt even know these kids names. & they book her and say mean things to her all the time. i wanna always stand up for her. but i dont. because they all said they wanna kill all the people in school that just look at them the wrong way. so, i dont wanna mess with them.

what should i or my friend do?

hey. Thanks for posting.

If these pink haired kids are threatening to kill people, then the situation is way out of your hands. In school you or your friends shouldn't feel scared or thretened. School is supposted to be a safe place for everyone. I know that in high school, (assuming that you are from your age) "snitching" is not considered cool. I'm not telling you that you should tattle tale, but you really do need to get a parent or teacher's help. You don't want to get yourself hurt and you seem to be a true friend. If you want to help your frined, help her tell her parents and get something settled out.

good luck!
signed,
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I'm thinking to buy one of these iPods.
Do you think it's worth my time and money?
What would you rate this iPod on a scale 1-10.
If you have this iPod, what are the cons and pros of this iPod?
Thanx!

hey!
I happen to have this ipod and the technology is AMAZING. It may be small but the screen is so bright and the battery likfe exceeds the old nanos. Also, the music and video capicity is really high fo it's size. Alot of people are like "omg. it's so cute, but I'd defiantly brake it." The new nano has great stability and doesnt break unless it's what you're looking to do. There are alot of cool new features. The games and album swilvel are new and so cool! I love the new ipod and I'm actually listening to it right now.

The only con I can think of is that fact that it's kinda small. I love the size but most people thnik it's too small. The screen is big enough that I can watch my favorite shows and movies without having a problem.

I definatly think that it's worth it to get one. I give the new ipod a 9 out of 10!

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Hey. well, the last night i was talking to my boyfriend on the phone and we decided to hang out tomorrow (November 14th.) and he asked me to go uptown with him, and then back to his house.

I really, really want to becuase I really like him alot. The thing is, i'm not gunna lie, i have no experience.
Chances are going to his house will lead to stuff like him fingering me adn stuff.
I know this is really embarassing and gross and stuff but like i don't know what to do while he does it.
i mean like, is he gunna leave my pants on and just go down them, or take them completely off? and when he's fingering me do i look at him?! or do i like makeout with him while he's doing it?!
i need help becuase i really like him and want this to go smoothly, i don';t want to embarass myself. please help, i do rate.

Hey. I think I can help you with this one.

If you really like him, then you obvioulsy have no problem with moving forward. Just please bofre you do anything, make sure that you're comfortable and ready to take that next step with him.

If it gets to the point he he does finger you, if your along he'll probably start by just going down them a little. Eventually he'll probably pull them all the way down and he'll do it that way. (It's easier for both of you).

Fingering DOES hurt at first. It's nothing to be scared of. Eventually it will start to hurt less and feel better.

As for ig you should look at him, he probably won't be look back at you. He'll be focased on other things. If he's true to you he'll look up and make sure that you're ok. If he's close enough you should makeout with him. Also, to let him know that it feels good when it does, grab his face and makeout with him because then he knows how you like it.

Also remember to no let him pressure you into doing anything that you may not want to do. If you're really not ready for him to do that, tell him. Also, if he feels that becuase he did this for you, you should repay him, you might want to rethnik your feelings for him. Make sure he's into you and not into what you can do for him.

I hope I could help
Signed,
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How do you makeout with someone? Like what are the little details that you should do?

Honestly, there's no "essential" way to makeout. There are no little tircks or details, it kind of just happens. Makeing out usually involves the movement of your tongue and theirs working together. But when it's happeneing, you can't worry about if you're doing it right because there is no rule book to doing it! The little details you should know is to relax and just stay with it. Usualy the guy will lead and you'll follow. I promise it'll be fine!

I hope I could help!
Signed,
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If a guy likes a girl, why do their pupils dilate? Is it just a nervous reaction?

Pupil's dialiate when they focas, or it's a reaction to something. It doesn't necessarly mean that a guy likes a girl. It's just them focasing at you. So the fact that they are focasing on you, may mean he likes you! =0]

Hope I could help!
Signed,
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This is really werid but I really need some advice. When I play sports I dont sweat under my armpits but I sweat really bad on my back down to my butt (mostly my butt). The problem is that I have basketball now and I sweat very easily and I dont want to get up from the bench after playing and have a disgusting wet butt. That is why I mostly wear black shorts when I play sports (but the uniformed basketball shorts are a light blue). This is a truly embarrasing problem. PLEASE SOMEONE HELP!

This happens to alot of people and it's nothing to be embarrassed about! I'm not sure if you've heard of these, but there are shorts called sliding shorts. They're tight. black, spandex shorts that you wear under your basketball, softball, ect shorts. They help control sweat and they're tight enough that they won't buldge and won't be noticed.

You can get them at dick's or any other sporting goods store.

I hope I could help!
Signed,
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does anyone know how to take the lyrics out of a song? i need to for my gymnastics floor music bc you cant have words in the song..

thanks

Hey,
you can't just take the words out. When you dowload the song, you have to download it in instrumental. That way, you'll have the backround music, and not the words.

hope this helps
singned,
cheapxphotography

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so im a sophmore and he's a senior.
in high school by the way :)
so, there is this guy, i REALLY like.
and i mean i think he's kinda into me, even though im ALOT younger and all. well only a year and a half, but anyways.
i want him to like me back becuase his x is trying to get back with him. hmmm.
and im not really the slutty type at all so im not going to go do anything like that.
i dunno.
what should i like say to him to make him like me, but be like playfull and flirty, but not like too flirty, you know?
wow that was like a novel :) hah

yayy! haha. I love these questions because I am also a sophomore with a senior boyfriend so I can totaly relate to the age. Age really doesn't matter to much. To your parents, it might, but to him it probably isn't. You really need to get to flirting with him. Guys love girls that will go after what they want. If you seem that he's into you, then stay the way you are. Don't change who you are just to beat out this other girl. Find out if he's still into her. Ask him if he likes anyone. While your asking him if he likes anyone, drop some hints. Make sure to show him that you're available. But that doesn't mean be slutty. Make sure to not seem like you're easy or that he can take advantage of you. Since he is a senior, he's ready for somethings that you may not.

When I first realized that I liked my boyfriend, I flirted alot. I made sure to not seem physco and I played it cool. When he was flirting back, I realized that he had feelings too. Soooo...we started to talk on the phone. This is when I began to let him know how I felt and I got the 411 on how he felt. After a few convos we began hanging out and after one date he asked me out. IT's been over three months and I'm totally in love with him.

SOOOOOOOOO...the lesson is play it cool. Flirt but don't seem easy or desperate. If it seems like he's liking you too, drop some hints. Eventually you should tell him how you feel.

I hope I could help!
Singed,
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Ok, here it is. I'm "Gothic" and the guy I like is a "Jock". I like him nad I'm pretty sure he likes me. Problem, I have no clue how it could get any farther than smiles and small chat because of the gossip and just people at our school. I swear, it'd be like WW3! Please give me your advise, Anything would be good at this point.
Thanks!
~VampireGirl818

The only surefire way that you can get pass this is looking into yourself. I personally hate lables and I feel that they separate people. You're question shows how in high school you will be shuned just for being friends with someone from a different clique. The only advice i can give you is to talk to him. If you both come to the same conclusion that you like eachother but are just scared of what other people think, then maybe you should stop caring what they think. It's obvi gonig to be tough on both of you, but if you both care about eachother as much as you say, then it shouldn't matter. This sounds cliche, and it's obvi going to be easier said then done, but hte best way to get through high school is to be an individual and not listen to the harsh words of others. You'll gain innerconfindece.

P.S. Watch a walk to remember. I think the idea of it might help!

Hope this works!
Keep me posted!

Signed,
cheapxphotography

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so for homecoming i bought this really cute dress and a bought 2 pairs of shoes. one goes perfectly with the dress but is 3 in!!! the other is pretty cute but doesnt go as well. its shorter about a 2in. the thing is im going with a guy that about my height((without heels)) and i think i'll feel self concious about my height around him and other people too if i wear those 3in way cute shoes. And i would be wearing them for pics((the ones the school takes)). i know that the shoes end up coming off your feet like right when you get to the dance...but still i fell totally tall in the 3in ones and not as tall in the 2in. which should i go with?

ps- im 5ft 4

Being 5'8 I know how it is to be awkwardly tall. If you're going to feel uncomfortable being tall around people, then you should go with what you feel more comfortable in. Like you said, the shoes get taken off, and no one is going to be looking at your shoes saying, "those shoes don't match perfectly." Homecomming is about having fun and being comfortable in your own skin.

If I were you I'd go with the shorter pretty cute ones. Even thought they're not as fabulous as the other ones, I think you'll be more comfortable and won't worry about feeling awkward.

Also, you can always save those tall ones for another dance where your date is a little taller.

But don't say that 5'7 (your height plus heels) is an awkward height. I've been tall all my life and I'm starting to get used to it. Being tall isn't a bad thing. It's a privledge.

I hope I could help,
Signed,
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Ok, so I'm going to a football game this week and I'm going with a few friends, probably 3 guys and 2 girls including me.
One of the guys going is the guy I like.
What are some ways I can show him I'm interested at the football game? We'll probably be walking around a lot, and it'll be cold, so any ideas? :]

Showing that you're interested is the key to starting a realationship. Since you'll be at the football game, the bletchers can sometimes be...for a lack of better words, full, and cold. Sit close next to him and make sure to be very flirty. If he says something jokingly mean or silly, give him a little nudge in the sides but not too hard that he'll thing you're viloent. hehe. Then when it starts to get cold, shiver a little big and be like it's freezing. If he responds that mean he wants to keep you warm. If not keep trying and don't give up!

I hope I could help!
Signed,
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I'm 16 and never used a tampon before. I used a mirror and realized that when i part my vagina with my fingers, there are these very light pink, slimy flaps as well. Where do i put the tampon if theres this thing blocking? I was futzing around with my finger placements, trying to move it around so maybe there was a hole i couldnt see very well, and i think there might be one if i stretch the outer flaps where i can push right past these inner ones.
Is that the hymen? Do i have to "break" this? I tried putting the tampon right on it and it felt VERY uncomfortable and i couldnt touch it without it not feeling good....so how am i supposed to stick something UP there? Im so confused.

I recetly started using tampons and it's normal for it to hurt at first. The best advice I can give is to look inside the box of tampons that you bought. There is a set of directions and some diagrams.

Honestly,
that's what a vagina looks like. Weird huh? There are many differnt flaps and things and it seems like there's no where to go. Where you put your tampon is the hole which is your vagina. The Directions show that.

AND NO YOU DON'T HAVE TO BREAK YOUR HYMON. You're hymon is a soft layer of blood that stays until you are figered up high or have sex. It usualy won't pop because of a tampon.

I wish you the best of luck. And remmeber, inserting one for the first time will be painful and frustrating. But the only way to go it is to relax. You'll do fine.

Singned,
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my boyfriend just broke up with me yesterday and he said it was because he didnt love me n well he said he didnt feel the same way around me ( lately ive been really bitchy and depressed these past months) and then he was like but i still like you and want to talk to you and be friends and i still care about you and all that stuff you do when you love someone, but weve been together forever how can you just stop loving someone? i dont think that is possible, we had so much together i think hes just confused and and we just need time apart but how do i convince him to make this a break and not for good?... that night he called and we talked for like 2 hours about crazy shit like we used to and it was really nice and he was like can i ask you something? and i said sure so he asked if i was still going to the gyno(bc we were sexually active and we wanted birth control) and i was like um yeah and it just popped out and i said are you still going with me? and then i said WAIT no i dont want you to and i dont care but he was like i want to, i want to be there for you and im so confused and let me add that weve broken up three different times and each time it was bc things got akward then when we broke up we got really close and went back out and then it was better each time do you think that could happen again? please help me i need him i really do.

Saying as how he told you that he wants to be friends and that he still likes you was defiantly the responsible thing to do.

I understand that you're hurt that you broke up and that you want it to just be a break. Saying that he still wants to go with you to get birth control stil shows that he cares. Whether he admits it or not, that's a sign of love.

Guys can be really really confusing. I can clearly see that your realationship with him means alot and that you really want it to work for you two. The only surefire advice I can give you is to ask him about his feelings. Get him to tell you why he thinks he doens't love you anymore and why he wants to end what you've got. When you know why he feels that way, then you can work on solving it. Work on getting him back to loving you. That's the best thing you can do. To fix a realtionaship as a whole, you need to fix each person in it.

I hope I could help!
Thanks for keeping me posted!
If you wanna talk more...feel free to IM me.
(contact info is on my column)

Signed,
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