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Sucky position
Okay background info first.
so I went to a show the other day, and there was some guy that needed an extra ticket. I had one, and let him have it really cheap, and I chilled with him the whole night, he picked me up the next night, I hung out with him for that whole night and stayed over there with my best friend. The next day I got to kind of know him, and we cuddled and made out. He's a really sweet guy, but the only problem is he lives a good 30 minute drive away, and I can't drive. Also doubt my dad approves of me dating a guy 3 years older than me. Right now i'm pretty limited to only seeing him at shows, or unless he comes and get's me on weekends. I guess what im trying to get advice on is making the decision of either going ahead and having a kind of long distance relationship where i'd see him about twice a week, wait for someone better to come along, or maybe convince my dad to be cool with it. another thing is, the only reason I hace some hope for a long distance with this guy is he is definetely not an asshole, I trust him, and I see him differently from any guy I've dated.
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First off, 30 minute drive really doesn't qualifies as 'long distance' in my book. Many adult couples live that far away from eachother. My boyfriend is a 40 minute commute from me and that really is rather close... If you think that is a long distance, I worry you might very, very young indeed.
Secondly, and this also makes me worry that you might very, very young, is the idea that you *know* he isn't an asshole. He probably isn't, but after hanging out with him three times, you don't know. I've dated guys for months before realizing they are assholes/players/controlfreaks/racists. Everyone does that.
You don't trust people that fast. You don't *know* them that fast.
My advice: Take it slow, see how things develope. If he remains happy to make the drive out to you, that is a good start to something more. If he continues on in a non-asshole way and you stop thinking about meeting someone better, those are great signs. No reason to decide today. Let him know you like him, but want to keep it casual for a while and get to know eachother better.
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hey
ok well you should give him a chance and see if things are going to work out and then maybe tlk to your dad bout dating a guy 3 years older and jst see what he says if you were to date a guy like that but never really let him know that is what your doing
and then after time if things work out you can tell him the truth
or maybe you just ask the guy if he is willing to tlk to your dad bout the problem and maybe your dad will soften up bout the idea if you dad thinks he is a good guy for you
hope i helped
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Twice a week is not a distance relationship honey. Once a month or less, thats true distance.
If you like him, try it out. Waiting for something better to come along only serves a purpose when theres nothing decent in front of you.
Dont tell your Dad for a while. Give the guy a shot.
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Hey.
I should be able to help you because I was in this same situation. My boyfriend lives 35 minutes away, but we don't consider it to be a long distance realationship. I usualy see him about 3-4 times a week. Since he is older than me, he can drive and he's willing to come get me or come see me all the time. My parents approve of him so they let him come over when ever he wants.
I honestly think you should go for it. He doesn't live that far away and I'm sure you could work it out. You should also talk to your dad about it.
At first I thought that me and my boyfriend would never work out. I'm really glad that I tried though becuase I love him so much and we've been dating for almost 4 months.
Don't be afraid of it not working. You'll feel better if you try!
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