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how will i stop missing someone who is always in my mind?



Assuming you mean a breakup?

Sometimes the best way we can stop missing someone is to learn to accept the fact that it was what it was and nothing more.

I would need more detail to help you.

Sometimes relationships are only meant to be a learning experience and if it's not meant to be then it isn't meant to be.

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Hey everyone :)
I'm sorry if I offend you in any way in this question.

I started to think it would be amazingly problem solving if the world did end on December 21.

Now there's something you all need to know before you answer this, angrily.

I'm a very happy person, I love my family, I love everyone. I just see my life, & everyone's life, as pointless. Everything I care about, everyone I love, is not permanent. Everything dies, nothing lasts forever. So I don't see the point in caring so much about a life that is so unimportant as the ones we lead. This is something that really worries me at times. I feel like my thoughts are very negative, me being the happy, very grateful & thankful person that I am. My own thoughts confuse me sometimes, though.

I think that with all of these people I see on Facebook with completely naked pictures & people saying they hate their parents, bath salts, babies with iPhones, people who don't say I love you to their parents because its "embarrassing", crimes committed every day that involve deaths, people with no confidence, peer pressure, jealousy, addiction, teen pregnancy, rape, shooting in a theatre, shooting of children that could be the next president one day, & just
negativity in general.

I'll tell you one thing. When people commit suicide, I don't feel bad at all. In fact, I don't respect the idea of it at all. It's kind of even funny to me. The only people I would cry over taking their own life is a schizophrenic. They all have a good reason to want to die. They're trapped in their own brain. The brain is such an important thing to have control over. It literally summons up everything that ever happens for you (if you're confused, watch the movie "The Secret") and to not have control over it, you're basically as good as dead, anyway

People take things for granted. I would never take my family or my friends, or anyone who wants to be around me in general, AT ALL for granted. My life is too important to me for me to be spending it with hate.

Keep in mind, I want to live my life. I want to be happy as much as possible. But I can't just sit back & not say anything about the very sad & careless things that happen every day, & the crimes committed toward innocent people every day. This is my first attempt at saying something. Feel free to call me names, speak your mind. I want to know what people think.

Is it bad that I feel this way? Am I the only one? Am I wrong?
Any comments/opinions are appreciated.
If in any way, this upsets you, please let me know why.
Thank you for reading :) & have a nice day :D



No, It isn't all bad you feel this way.

It's the truth but on the other hand we also need to remember all the people that have never had the chance to live. We were all put here for a reason. We may not be permanent but we maybe we are meant to change someone else life, Maybe we are meant to save a life, Help someone, Make a difference or even just set an example. Sometimes it's better to be thankful for what we have, To enjoy life and to love memories that come of it. People that we love, We should be thankful once again that we got the chance to know them, love them and be apart of their lives. Hurt, Lies, Betrayal are all apart of creation, Identity and morphing people into who they are or become. Life isn't about dwelling on what is but rather cherishing memories and creating them.

I used to feel this way, I realized as I got older that life isn't about what if, It's about living and making the best of things. There is a reason why I am here and that reason I may never know, but while I AM here I must be the best I can be. I n my lifetime I have lost 143 lbs in less then 2 years. Now I am handing in down by doing public seminars for those who need motivation and advice on how to loose weight. Well, I feel personally that maybe this is apart of my path too life. To help others, To motivate them and to pass down a life experience that not many have. We each have a reason, We just need to find it.

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is it okay to ask out guys?



Yes it's okay

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Long story short-
I dated my ex (my first love)for more than 2 years, got engaged, were soon to be married , did crazy things together which i might never do with anyone else.Then we hit a bad patch. His family thought I was not good enough for him, etc.We broke up. He came back, I took him.He left to a different country, we continued to be in the relationship. In one year after he left, his behavior changed, he met new people, started ignoring me etc. I called it off. He comes back to me,asks me to marry him. He promised to behave himself,to come for me in a few months and get married. I gave it one more chance, he goes back, same old behaviour. Lied to me, ignored me etc. I called it off. And moved on.I Found someone and am getting married in a month. Now he is back again after an year, and is begging me to marry him. He seems like he has changed. The arrogance is gone, sends me texts all through the day and in the night trying to convince me.I am in a fix. I know my ex is all wrong, he will go back on his word .

The one I am going to marry now is a research scholar and all that, more mature, good nature d ,trustworthy, respects me, families are happy,but he is not as interesting, spontaneous, passionate as my ex.I respect him , but I am not as passionate about him as I was towards my ex. Will I regret my decision to marry him? I'm scared . What do I do?



Jealousy speaks in weird ways, If it didn't work several times it is not going to work this time.

Clearly, You both have differences. You are engaged to someone else and soon to be married, Why are you even rethinking the possibility of getting together with someone that you have not worked out with several times? If you really want to seek happiness then I suggest you cut this guy loose and move on with your life. We can only give people so many chances before we need to begin to realize that it just isn't going to work. Likely, He is jealous because you've moved on from him and wants you too THINK he has changed. Even if he did, He had his chance. We cannot live on "what if" This guy is baggage and he needs to stay in the past, Don't become gullible because you will end up loosing what you have now and fall back into your tracks once again.

Focus on your life and stop contacting him

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So this guy and I have been dating a year. We've never met, planning on meeting very soon. But we thought we would do an exchange of gifts! SO here's my idea, a necklace with one of my rings on it so he has somethign of mine with him. And a letter telling him how much he means to me. I am 19 he is 20, Is this too childish? Or too girly?




I think the idea is very cute but only if you were serious with someone. I think the gift seems to be a bit personal to give someone whom you've never met before. I wouldn't go to deep with it but rather more casual. I would maybe save this idea for when you two have actually been together and seen each other for awhile.

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Okay i am a 13/f in middle school.Okay my friend T and me have been friends every since 3 grade to now.Last year in 6th grade.I started to have a crush on him.He said he had a crush on me every since 3 grade.We went together that 6th grade year then broke up that summer to 7th.He broke up with me for i don't know reason.Later in July he asked me back and i said no.Because i was afraid to get hurt again.This year we became close friends.One day in a connection class he was closer to me than normal and my friends was just looking like why he so close.The boy that had a crush on me was getting mad. Every time i see him he smile at me. when we switch classes he find some way to see me in my class. He always whisper stuff in my ear.I really do miss him we seem to have that chemistry.

My question is do you think he want me back.
And should i give him a second chance?
Thanx for your time.



You are 13, You are going to experience more breakups and hurt in relationships.

Does he want you back? I really don't know. Do I think it will last forever? No. Realistically, You are both young and have a lot of growing up to do. It's normal to have crushes at your age but boys don't actually know what they want until they are at least in their 20's.

Dating wise, You should ask him. Just remember once a relationship has been damaged it's hard to get it back to what it once was.

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I'm a thirteen year old (nerdy) girl, and it's been pointed out to me that thinking nerdy boys are cute is atypical. I simply don't find what people would consider "normal" boys my age attractive. I think nerdy boys are very cute, especially boys with glasses (I've also been told this is odd), and I've never had a crush on anyone who isn't as smart or smarter than I am (I realize this may seem somewhat rude, as that's saying I think myself to be very intelligent, which I do not- just somewhat competent). What do you think? Is this weird? I never thought of as being so, just not the dominant opinion.



Who said it was odd? Your friends?..

You are 13, Many young teenagers nowadays are stereotypical. No, There is nothing wrong with it not even a wee bit. We all like different things, Everyone isn't meant to like the same things.

Ya know what? My first boyfriend wasn't no prince charming to others as he was 5'7 about 210 pounds with long curly hair. It doesn't matter what others think, It matters what YOU think. We aren't meant to like the same things, So this guy might not be someone else taste but that's the whole point. Never judge someone by appearance as that is not what loving or liking someone is about. It's about who they are as a person. If you like nerdy guys then go for it, At least you know what you want. Don't ever let someone tell you otherwise

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I'm so confused whether my crush likes me or not! I've searched dozens of websites and I'm still not so sure! So I'm going to explain how our relationship is right now.

1. He's really sweet and funny! Always making jokes and making me laugh all the time

2. We talk about the most randomness stuff ever and we're so comfortable with each other to talk about the most difficult subjects

3.We share food and drinks! Every time at lunch we trade drinks, share a cookie, etc.

4. IDK but I guess he's with me all the time and always wants to be with me
For example when the teacher made new seating arrangements he personally asked the teacher to sit right next to me!

5.He smiles and laughs a lot with me more than with his usual friends! And he always makes the dumbest excuses to be near me
For example "Oh I'm going to sit here because the sun is blinding me" ( He's saying this when it was cloudy)

So I know it definitely looks like he likes me but I'm not really sure and should I ask him out?



The best way to know is just to ask him, It sounds like he may like you but we can only judge from what you wrote.

A website isn't going to tell you whether he likes you or not.

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Okay so me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 days but we have known each other since I was 14 years old and I have no idea what to get the boy for Christmas . He is 25 if that helps any. I talked to his brother to see what he is into and he told me that he liked music and loved to read and liked sports but I don't have much money to spend either please consider i am on a $40.00 a week budget .



Doll, You don't need a butt load of money to get someone a nice gift.

Here are some very nice ideas that are in the $40.00 range. One thing you can't go wrong on is gift cards, These not only make a good gift but can be used anytime.

Movie Tickets - It's a perfect catch, Some theaters even offer discount on tickets one day a week! You can purchase the Movie Ticket package and use it on discount day.

Restaurant gift card

Does he like video games? How about Gamestop?

Frame a picture of the two of you if you have one too.

You do not need to go expensive, You never do. My husband and I have been together for 6 years and it's from the heart not about getting the bang for your buck.

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F/24. Ok, so about 3 years ago i found out that i have polysistic ovarian syndrome and one of the side affects is that I will either have a lot of problems trying to get pregnant or I won't be able to at all. I just started seeing a new guy. Were only about 6 weeks into a relationship. My question is this. When should I tell him that I may never be able to get pregnant. Should I do it right away? Should I wait until we become more serious? I don't want him to think I have been keeping secrets from him. Also, how should I tell him??? Help!




I would wait


Also, I would never drop the bomb on someone until you have a better idea where you stand. I also suffer from PCOS and I was told that I had a high chance of infertility but I have a son. You can't assume unless you are told by a doctor that you cannot have children.

Also, I would wait until things get a bit more serious. Not only is it very quick to bring something like that up but the talk of kids 6 weeks into a relationship is a bit of a scare off. If he questions it then simply tell him you didn't think to bring it up until things became more serious with the two of you.

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I'm 16, female. I need help with learning how to stop disrespectful people from being unnecessarily disrespectful. I need something that will teach me how to make them respect me. People pull/touch my hair, call me things that I'm clearly not, and are just plain rude to me when I even just talk to them. I don't know what to do, do I respond at all or not? It's not exactly bullying, but my blood boils every time this happens, which is more often as the days go on and I have no idea why. I can't afford to let this go on, because one day I'll get too angry and get myself in trouble. If I left out an important piece of information, please let me know. I thank everyone in advance for taking the time to read/answer me. Have a wonderful day :)



If people are touching you without your desire, Then tell them to please not touch your hair as you do not like it. If they don't listen then be stern and say "Don't touch my hair, I already told you once. Stop seriously" Unfortunately when it comes to people being rude in general, You can't stop it. Society is bitter these days and many people are rude, ignorant and just disrespectful. If someone is treating you this way then either tell them point blank how you feel or you walk away and cut them loose.

If someone was messing with my hair all the time, Well... I would probably say something along these lines.

"Please don't touch my hair I don't like it"
Stop touching my hair I really don't like to be touched"
Or... "DON'T TOUCH MY HAIR!" that would of course be my tone when I loose my patience but you need to be direct and tell them. Don't let people walk on you

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How can I get over wanting to see his phone?? I wanna see it every time we're together.. Trust issues /: we been together 10 months.. I'm 16 he's 17



Has your boyfriend ever given you a reason to not trust him? If not, Then you need to loosen the hell up. Trust is a big factor, Without it then you don't have a relationship. Spying or being paranoid is only going to cause him to resent you. You are without saying it accusing him of possibly cheating. If you want your relationship to work then you are going to have to learn to trust him. Give him his space, Talk to him about how you feel without accusing and nagging, Checking his phone because you are feeling insecure is only going to ruin your relationship.

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Hi, today I got diagnosed with anxiety, and I've been under ALOT of stress. My shoulders have been killing me, And now on my left side it's like my houlder cramps up for about thirty seconds? I was afraid I was having a heart attack, but I'm sixteen and healthy so I don't think that likley... No chest pain at all or numbness. Just my shoulders! Also I cry a lot due to m anxiety And stress. I am very emotional right now. Does it seem like a heart attack or just pain with the anxiety?



Anxiety can really fuck up a personal both mentally and physically.

I, A lifetime sufferer of both anxiety and depression know all to well what kind of pains it can cause. When my anxiety kicks in, It's in my lower back, neck, shoulders and at times even my eyes are strained. You are much too young for a heart attack, These like Rainhorse said are all classic symptoms of Anxiety.

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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for over a year now. Around about the time we got in a relationship together, it had been 3 years since him and his ex girlfriend had been split. All the way through our relationship, she has done nothing but harass him. Sometimes she will go weeks without texting him, then she will harass him all day for days, it's mostly when she's drunk. She sometimes texts him in a general chit chat, like "Hi, how are you?" Etc, and he replies being short and blunt, but when she texts him saying she loves him, he just says ok and haha. She knows he is with me, so why won't she leave him alone? Why won't he tell her to leave him alone? He says he feels sorry for her, I tell him that the only way she's going to get over you is for you to completely blank her. When he sees her in public, he won't even look at her. Why is this? I've told him to ignore her, for her to move on but he just doesn't listen... I know he doesn't have feelings for, but why is this? What can I do?



Over the course of a 3 years of his ex harassing your relationship, Why hasn't he put any effort into making it stop? Why hasn't he changed his number, blocked her or even grown brass balls to tell her to stop? I'm sorry for my blunt rant but it sounds to me that he isn't doing much to stop the problem but rather antagonize and escalate her to make the problem worse. Perhaps he gets a high off messing with her head, but in the end it is damaging on behalf of your relationship with him. His immaturity is what is going to drift you both apart. I feel personally that in some aspect he still cares otherwise he would of left the situation high and dry a long time ago.

You need to talk to him, Give him the ultimatum. Either he grow up or you move on.

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20/f
As the title says I'm always afraid that someone close to me will die. Whenever my boyfriends phone is off or he isn't answering I imagine him being in a terrible accident. Whenever he's late I think the same thing. Or I think he just dropped dead. The same thing goes for my mom when she doesn't answer the phone. I don't know what's wrong with me. I've never had anyone close to me die or anything like that. I've never lost someone I love before so why is this always happening? Right now my boyfriends phone is off and it's probably because his battery is dead. He should be home by now but he's not which probably means that he just had to stay a little longer at work. But I'm still sitting here with an uncomfortable feeling in my stomach that something terrible happened. I actually thought about what I would say at his funeral. What can I do about this, it's driving me crazy :(



It's a form of anxiety, I have been there also.

Anxiety causes us to worry, panic and stress. I would suggest talking to a doctor or a therapist to help you cope.


Best wishes

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i am a 11 year old boy and my gf is 12 she wants to have sex some of my friends who have done it before say i should i don't know what to do



You are too young


Legally, You not able to consent to sex until you reach the age of 16. Having sex at your age is considered rape, Sexual assault.

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Hello, I need help with my relationship with my mother. I am 18 and I feel as though we are growing more distant and hostile towards each other. I feel as though every time I do something wrong (which I will freely admit I am guilty of), my mother and I over react to each others response and it just ends in a shouting match. We continue to do this (and have done so for years) and I can certainly say it is not pleasant for either of us. It has gotten to the point that I am reluctant to talk with her as it almost always ends with one of us upset and angry at the other.

I am not writing this because they took my phone or Xbox or something and I am just complaining because they are unreasonable. I'm here because I need some genuine advice on how to communicate openly with my mother about why this always happens.

I know I am not the perfect son, but I feel as though the instant I do something wrong, we just get into it.

I can't stand to be angry all the time anymore.



This is something you should sit down and talk to your mother about.

Tell her how you are tired of arguing and feel the need to try and talk about the problem rather then picking a fighting match. If you openly admit to doing a lot of wrong things, Maybe you could try to work on these things. If you feel that talking won't get anywhere then you should try writing her a letter and put it somewhere where she will read it. Explain to her how you feel and that you are tired of attacking one another. It sounds like lack of communication on both parties, If you both can learn to talk about the problem then it will get better but again, Write to her.

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I am 17 years old girl.I have a family and a friend,but everyday in my life..i feel so lonely.I have do a lot of things,to make myself happy,but it doesn't work.

I try to go hangout with my family,but..my heart feel so lonely and sad.....

I have talk to family about my problem..but they doesn't understand me.And i don't know what to do...i feel like, it's better if i die than live like this....




"It's better if I die then live like this"


I'm not a doctor but you sound depressed. As a 17 year old you legally are able to see a doctor without your parents. I would suggest talking to someone about how you feel and see if you can possibly get on some anti-depressants.

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Im pushing my boyfriend away. Im 16 hes 17. We been together for 10 months on December 2nd. I have a BAD JEALOUSY problems and bad TRUST issues. Hes cheated on me before in the past. Im trying to trust him again and I do then I stop again. We fight so much. Im always mad about something, him texting this girl everyday. He comments on instagram photos saying to text him and stuff, ofcourse im going to get mad. Hes my bestfriend so how can I stop this? How can I stop pushing him away?? Please help me I don't want to lose him.. I need as much advice as I can get!!!



Unfortunately, When someone cheats in a relationship it can be very damaging to the point where we cannot allow ourselves to truly forgive someone. We can "forgive" but we can't truly "forgive"

The problem is that you don't trust him, If he cheated then I do not blame you. However, If you cannot both be faithful and trust one another then you do not have a relationship. This isn't really a factor of age, Maybe just a tad but the main source of the problem is how you handle a relationship and the maturity to be able to hold a relationship as two.

In my personal opinion, It is a mistake to forgive someone who cheats in a relationship, It is also a mistake to take someone back. Once someone damages a relationship, It's almost impossible to get that relationship back to what it once was. Meaning, In order to truly repair a damaged relationship you both must be mature enough to work as two.

Basically, You both are not right for one another. You are stringing along a relationship that is not there.

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there is this tutor I work with in the tutoring lab in college. She's great and a wonderful person to be around with. She is about 28 and I am 22 and she is engaged, My class ended a few months ago but I saw her around campus when I was going to meet up with a friend recently and chatted with her


now I find myself going out of my way to that location just so I can hopefully see her and talk to her again. Is this creepy?



It's not normal, I disagree with the user who said it was.

It is one thing to enjoy someone's company, It's another when you begin to go out of your way to see them. In this case, This is classified as stalking someone, Yes.

It is okay to like someone, It's not okay to let feelings gain control to the point where it gets out of hand. This women is engaged, Therefore she is by all means not available. To try and come between her and her fiance is not only disrespectful but it may only lead to hard feelings.

If you have to ask, Then you must know that on some level this behavior is not okay. I would suggest leveling down until you can except the fact that she is with someone and not available to date. Give yourself space and time to get over it, If you feel that you cannot do so then it may be best to stop all together.

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