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am i too young for sex
i am a 11 year old boy and my gf is 12 she wants to have sex some of my friends who have done it before say i should i don't know what to do
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Ok, for starters if you have to ask if you should or shouldn't then you are not ready for this HUGE decision. Sex is a HUGE life changer. It's not like picking out a pair of shoes, once this deed is done it can not be taken back. You are only 11, ask yourself this...In 5 or 10 years can you still see yourself with this girl?In 10 years can you see yourself committing to marriage or ready to bring a child into this world? Once you look at the bigger picture I'm sure you will change your mind. It is not easy raising a child in your twenties I can't imagine having a child in middle/high school. So think about that before committing to a decision. I am not being hypocritical as I made this huge decision at 18, and had graduated high school. Even being 18 and making this decision I am not with that person and we no longer speak. Sex can change you life/relationship, so please think about this before acting on impulse.
P.S. If your girlfriend doesn't understand that you are not ready for this big step then she doesn't deserve you or care about your feelings.
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You are too young
Legally, You not able to consent to sex until you reach the age of 16. Having sex at your age is considered rape, Sexual assault.
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It's normal to want sex at your age. It's obviously not a smart thing to do though.
It will hurt her like crazy since her body is still developing. Not only that, I don't think you want to have a child when you're only 11. I doubt since she's only 12, she can get on birth control. She can't even see a doctor without her mother present since she's only 12. So it's best to just wait it out because a lot of bad things can happen.
Also, you don't have to do it just because your friends have done it.
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The desire to explore ones sexuality hits when going through puberty. The overload of hormones flooding the body are responsible for the desires, the horny feelings.
Rather than just re-acting to the feelings, both you and her, the best way to go is to educate yourself. There is a lot of information on the internet regarding sex, how women become pregnant. Now is the time to learn anything and everything. It is a young age to begin having sex. Your friends are answering most likely out of feelings too...do it cus its 'FUN!'. Yes its enjoyable. But as a guy, one thing you should know is that young girls who haven't started a period yet, can get pregnant because ovulation will come before her first period. These are things to study and learn about. Also, young girls ages 10-15 when they first get a period, about half of them or more will not get a regular monthly cycle for about one or two years. The timing between, length of period and density to flow will vary all over the place. You wont believe how many girls write in who are afraid they are pregnant, when it is either stress that is causing period to be late or the fact of her being very young. I would suggest waiting a few years until you are older and doing lots of study now instead, and enjoy masturbating. There is a lot more to our sexuality than just the penis in the vagina part of it.
There is also a great responsibility that comes along with it.... You must be responsible enough to prevent contracting or spreading disease by use of condoms. There are ways a girl can get pregnant if relying only on condoms cus parts of your sex play will include mutual masturbation which can transfer cum or precum to her vagina, a time when you are not yet wearing a condom...so if she is ready to start having sex, and will not consider waiting until older, then it's best she get on some more reliable birth control. She should go to Planned Parenthood. the laws will protect her privacy and parents will not be told.
I have a you tube site I recommend to teens, done by a college age girl who at one point did videos for Planned Parenthood. She is funny, entertaining, videos are short but the info. all right on and its a good place for both of you to start watching. If you ever want some suggestions for other sites, let me know, I'd be glad to help.
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