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Can second chances be true?
Okay i am a 13/f in middle school.Okay my friend T and me have been friends every since 3 grade to now.Last year in 6th grade.I started to have a crush on him.He said he had a crush on me every since 3 grade.We went together that 6th grade year then broke up that summer to 7th.He broke up with me for i don't know reason.Later in July he asked me back and i said no.Because i was afraid to get hurt again.This year we became close friends.One day in a connection class he was closer to me than normal and my friends was just looking like why he so close.The boy that had a crush on me was getting mad. Every time i see him he smile at me. when we switch classes he find some way to see me in my class. He always whisper stuff in my ear.I really do miss him we seem to have that chemistry.
My question is do you think he want me back.
And should i give him a second chance?
Thanx for your time.
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At older grade school thru high school there is a lot of changing and growing up that a young person will do, including you. You can't label a person you know today by what they have done in the past.
In your case, you don't know why he broke up with you. So ask him and let him know that the never having known why has weighed on your mind all this time. Obviously by his current actions, there is an interest in you. If he didn't want to win you back, he wouldn't be putting so much effort into being close to you..something a guy does when attracted to a girl.
Most likely causes for break ups at that age are boredom/loss of interest or they are interested but can't handle the teasing from friends after a while and break up. If your girlfriends are staring and another boy with interest in you in getting upset, I'd say that isn't bothering him even if it did once in the past.
Did he lose interest in you? If he admitted back then he had a crush on you since 3rd grade, I find it unlikely that he lost interest or got bored with you. More likely a peer pressure thing. So you do need to ask. Even if he's gotten over whatever the problem was, the break up is still having its effect on you, and until you get explanations and apology, you personally won't be able to move on with your friend because that is between you. If you get on so well together it would be sad to see you not work it out. He may not know it bothered you so much. He is still young and needs to know that you are not a mind reader so he has to communicate better and you need to learn how to ask questions when he is not forth-coming with information. I think it is more a lack of experience rather than trying to keep things from each other. Good Communication is a very important part of every relationship, not just dating ones. So don't assume anything or make a decision without more info. talk to him
Good luck dear! Happy Holidays to you
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So I second what Zane said. You have a lot more to experience since you're only 13. You and this guy are going to keep changing.
Once you and someone break up, it's hard to get it back to where you can trust each other and get all the problems resolved.
He broke up with you for a reason that you don't even know. Before you even think about dating him again, you need to know what happened and if it is something that can actually be fixed.
If it's something that can't be fixed, then the chemistry you guys have isn't worth anything.
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You are 13, You are going to experience more breakups and hurt in relationships.
Does he want you back? I really don't know. Do I think it will last forever? No. Realistically, You are both young and have a lot of growing up to do. It's normal to have crushes at your age but boys don't actually know what they want until they are at least in their 20's.
Dating wise, You should ask him. Just remember once a relationship has been damaged it's hard to get it back to what it once was.
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