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Does this make me a dark person?
Hey everyone :)
I'm sorry if I offend you in any way in this question.
I started to think it would be amazingly problem solving if the world did end on December 21.
Now there's something you all need to know before you answer this, angrily.
I'm a very happy person, I love my family, I love everyone. I just see my life, & everyone's life, as pointless. Everything I care about, everyone I love, is not permanent. Everything dies, nothing lasts forever. So I don't see the point in caring so much about a life that is so unimportant as the ones we lead. This is something that really worries me at times. I feel like my thoughts are very negative, me being the happy, very grateful & thankful person that I am. My own thoughts confuse me sometimes, though.
I think that with all of these people I see on Facebook with completely naked pictures & people saying they hate their parents, bath salts, babies with iPhones, people who don't say I love you to their parents because its "embarrassing", crimes committed every day that involve deaths, people with no confidence, peer pressure, jealousy, addiction, teen pregnancy, rape, shooting in a theatre, shooting of children that could be the next president one day, & just
negativity in general.
I'll tell you one thing. When people commit suicide, I don't feel bad at all. In fact, I don't respect the idea of it at all. It's kind of even funny to me. The only people I would cry over taking their own life is a schizophrenic. They all have a good reason to want to die. They're trapped in their own brain. The brain is such an important thing to have control over. It literally summons up everything that ever happens for you (if you're confused, watch the movie "The Secret") and to not have control over it, you're basically as good as dead, anyway
People take things for granted. I would never take my family or my friends, or anyone who wants to be around me in general, AT ALL for granted. My life is too important to me for me to be spending it with hate.
Keep in mind, I want to live my life. I want to be happy as much as possible. But I can't just sit back & not say anything about the very sad & careless things that happen every day, & the crimes committed toward innocent people every day. This is my first attempt at saying something. Feel free to call me names, speak your mind. I want to know what people think.
Is it bad that I feel this way? Am I the only one? Am I wrong?
Any comments/opinions are appreciated.
If in any way, this upsets you, please let me know why.
Thank you for reading :) & have a nice day :D
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Hi. You've got a lot of stuff going on in your mind at the moment. All bubbling away and possibly putting it down in a fairly structured way like this and posting the question was a very smart move. There seems to be a theme running through it, the one you more or less open with. The feeling that life, and the people and things you love are not permanent, fleeting almost. It will all pass, and what purpose will it have served? I think that maybe mankind has argued this many times. On a personal level (via the philosophers and great thinkers) and collectively (through religions and belief systems in general). At his (her!) core, I believe that man is probably not equipped to deal with the concepts of eternity and infinity. (Let me use 'man' to mean mankind, icluding women from here on...it's easier!) I would argue that as much as the greatest thinkers (formal, not hocus-pocus!)can explain and even quantify the infinite, even they cannot truly have an intuitive understanding of these concepts. They are beyond the probing of our minds. We are temporal creatures. We live out the span of our time on earth, and eternity rumbles on largely untroubled by us. We surround ourselves with other people, our own projects, ambitions, loves and hates. Most share the same span. A Newton might leave his laws of physics, an architect may leave a St. Pauls Cathedral, a Tolstoy or a Shakespeare may leave his body of work. But in the light of eternity, even the Great Pyramid is a fleeting, short-term structure. I can see also that you seem to be dwelling on the deplorable acts of man. The majority of them involve the conscious acts of individual people...murder, rape, mass-shootings are not random acts of 'evil'. Each is a deliberate act. The unwanted pregnancies and addictions likewise do not just spontaneously 'happen'. Each is a specific act of self-determination. We ponder here the 'dark acts' of individual men. Yet man is not, I believe collectively 'dark'. And YOU are not 'dark' for gazing into these waters. You have conscience, care and feel deeply about the world around you, the world you are a part of. You have 'humanity'....and it's a good thing. I believe tha all men do have to a lesser or greater extent, a shade of this 'darkness' in them. It exists as the counterpoint of 'light' (the happy, grateful and thankful 'you'). Bad things are of course 'not good'. But that doesn't mean that bad things aren't anything at all. The evil is as real as the good, the ugly is as real as the beautiful...and so on. It was Confucius I think who said 'A man is better employed lighting a single candle than he is in raging about the darkness'. Journey on....seeker. There's light in you!
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Hey. So I know exactly what you mean. Granted I am depressed and have severe anxiety, but I have the same thoughts. Mine might even be a tad darker than yours. So, no. I don't think that you are a dark person. I think you are just simply curious about the point to life and why we make so much of it when it's all going to go away in the end.
The money we make and the relationships we build don't go with us when we die, so I get the idea of why should we really care all that much. Personally, I don't think we should. This is where the "make the most of your life" comes in. You have all this time here to become whoever you wanna be. Money shouldn't be the center of that. Heartbreak and envy shouldn't either. We should simply be living to be happy otherwise what's the point?
You'll end up looking back one day when you are older thinking what the hell happened to my life? I'm successful, but now I have all this money I don't even have time to spend.
I was raped, I was suicidal, I witnessed a suicide, and I was stalked. I came out to friends and family. All of this happened in the matter of 4 months. But fuck that. I'm not going to let that be the definition of my life. There is no point to dwell.
Sorry if I ranted too much, but this is what I think about a lot.
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No I don't think you're a bad person or a dark person. In fact I think you are probably quite normal for your probable age just over analyzing the world we live in.
At some point in our young lives I believe all of us come face to face with reality and we don't like what we see. we are helpless to change what see and that scares us. For those of us that fall into this position it happens partly because of the education we receive. Because of it we are forced to become more aware of ourselves and the world around us.
You most likely are a more sensitive person, more outgoing more empathetic towards those that don't have what you have. There is nothing wrong with this. The problem you have is balance. Balance in that this has been going on long before you arrived. The world was not a better place when decades ago I was your age.
Sure we have found better way to hurt and kill our fellow man. Statistically though if you look at the population today versus the population when I was your age. The crime patterns of today are lower than the crime patterns back then. The difference is media attention and advances in how news is gathered and the advances in how that news is reported. Today if a crime is committed that is newsworthy the cameras are on scene almost before police and the footage is being sent directly into our living rooms unedited. This is relatively new technology.
Todays war on the six o'clock news. During Vietnam and Korean war what you saw was well edited and two days old as film had to flown to New York, edited and then presented on the news. Today you have the report live from the battlefield.
When you put things in prospective or add balance you will see that the world does not have to end or will not end. The world did not come to an end in the 50's, 60's or 70's it has continued basically unchanged. The world will continue and your children may feel as you do when they reach your present age though the world will continue for them.
It would be nice if there was true peace in the world and maybe your generation can do something about it . Mine has tried and failed as has my parents and grandparents generations.
To see the world as you are seeing it without accepting the fact that you need to accept balance for your view is only going to paralyze you and them maybe make you dark with fear. Education is the answer to you concerns. the more you learn the better you knowledge of what the world is doing and how it affects you. The better prepared you are to deal with it.
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Well it's your opinion and you obviously have every right to feel the way you feel.
It's the truth that life isn't permanent and there's a lot of bad things in the world. But there's a lot of good things in the world too, and I guess it's overlooked. I mean it's not like we don't understand that there are bad things out there.
I also don't agree about wanting the world to end just to end problems. Life is beautiful, in my opinion.
I understand what you mean about suicide, but I don't agree that it's funny at all. Suicide isn't funny. I didn't really understand your feelings on that. I understood the schizophrenic part but not I got confused when you said that you didn't respect the idea of it at all but you still find it funny. You'll have to explain that one to me.
Anyways, most of the people who end their life are suffering from depression. It's still a brain thing going on that they can't control and need serious help. If they don't get that help, then they're stuck too.
It's good that you don't just want to sit back and not say anything. That's a very good thing. But also don't forget all the good things in life. There will always be selfish people, crimes, and just negativity around us. But likewise, there will be good, giving people (like yourself who don't want to sit back and ignore it) and positive things in life.
I get where you're coming from.
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Hey there,it's not bad if you feel that way.And you are not the only one who think in that way,i feel it too,but it's wrong.....
You may see your life and your family life is a pointless,but to someone who believe in God.They are really-really appreciate it,cause God have give their chance to live in this beautiful world.
Yes,everything live's in this world will die when the times come's.But When we still alive,we should do something that can make the God think it's not a waste to create us to live in this beautiful world.
And it's not funny,when people feel bad for someone who's taking suicide.Based on my experience to see people taking suicide,when i see they suicide himself i feel bad.I feel bad because,they cannot go on with their life and they think suicide is a way to get out of their problem.
All people in this world want's to be happy as much as possible.But we will not feel happy if we haven't face a sad thing,terrible thing and a challenge in our life.Because the happiness is only come when we face all of it.And you should know the happiness would not come without a courage to face your life that have been given to you.
To wish this world did end in 21 December.When we have a big problem in our life,the only thing we think is we wish this world would end but you know what,after we face the problem and it's end good we will wish this world will never end.Believe me,it's true.
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No, It isn't all bad you feel this way.
It's the truth but on the other hand we also need to remember all the people that have never had the chance to live. We were all put here for a reason. We may not be permanent but we maybe we are meant to change someone else life, Maybe we are meant to save a life, Help someone, Make a difference or even just set an example. Sometimes it's better to be thankful for what we have, To enjoy life and to love memories that come of it. People that we love, We should be thankful once again that we got the chance to know them, love them and be apart of their lives. Hurt, Lies, Betrayal are all apart of creation, Identity and morphing people into who they are or become. Life isn't about dwelling on what is but rather cherishing memories and creating them.
I used to feel this way, I realized as I got older that life isn't about what if, It's about living and making the best of things. There is a reason why I am here and that reason I may never know, but while I AM here I must be the best I can be. I n my lifetime I have lost 143 lbs in less then 2 years. Now I am handing in down by doing public seminars for those who need motivation and advice on how to loose weight. Well, I feel personally that maybe this is apart of my path too life. To help others, To motivate them and to pass down a life experience that not many have. We each have a reason, We just need to find it.
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