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I live in an apartment complex, and the apartment above mine decided to overload their washer, causing massive leaking from my ceiling. I have come to notice than when my one year old son and I are home, we are very congested, but when we leave, within minutes, our noses are clear and we can breath just fine again. I have spoken to the maintenance man about the possibility of their being mold, but EVERY time I bring this up "Oh you don't know what mold looks like. It ain't mold" I had lived in an apartment before this one, where there was NO ventilation system installed in the restroom, and yes, I dealt with black mold before. I know what it looks like, and what effects it has on me. I was mostly wondering, what organization would I get a hold of to hopefully get this situation properly taken care of? I am worried about my sons health, and speaking with the buildings management seems to do me no good. I can't move out because I can't afford to break the lease and to find a new place to live on my salary. Any and all help is greatly appreciated. For easier references, I live in the state of Indiana, and my apartment is supposedly owned by the IRS, so they say. Thank you for your time. (link)
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When you signed the lease, there should have been a section about upkeep done by the building management. If you still have a copy of your lease, go through and see what it says about a situation like this. Because the management isn't doing anything about it, you can get in touch with the city or town officials. They aren't holding up their end of the lease which is a violation of the landlord/tennant contract. You could also have an outside source come in for you and investigate the area and get the confirmation from a professional that it is mold. If management still doesn't take care of it, you can she them and probably end up with a decent amount of money. It is a major health risk so I would get on top if this right away. Best of luck!
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There's a boy in my class named Brian. He always sits with me and my friends and makes jokes and always makes me laugh. He always pokes and tickles me in the side a lot, pretends to take my stuff and just mess with me, and recently I've started to like him. I always can't wait to get to school to see him and talk to him. One day he was telling me how much he liked my best friend (she doesn't like him) (she doesn't sit with us) I felt crushed when he said that but didn't say anything. I also get mad with another "friend" making fun of me and saying if he did like me, he'd just want to sleep with me. I don't want to ask him out because I'm afraid that he'll hate me and not want to be around me anymore. How can I get him to like me? (Btw I'm almost 16) (link)
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If he doesn't already see you as someone he likes romantically, it might not happen. There is nothing you can do to make someone like you unless you become someone you're not. Which is a terrible idea. If you are yourself around him and he doesn't like that, then you should be looking elsewhere.
Just be the friend he sees in you for now. Who knows? Maybe he will get over your friend and see you as more simply because you are such good friends. Just don't try too hard because then you can come off desperate. That can be a turn off or he will just see you as someone he could potentially sleep with. You deserve better than that, so maybe just don't focus too much on that right now.
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So my ex boyfriend and i were together for over a year. We broke up for 3 months now and ive been trying to pull him back. Hes had major problems lately and i feel like because of how i keep like selfishly constantly askin him to get back with me that it gives him more stress. And due to that and our argument just not that angerily he told me he has no feelings for me anymore because hes so tired of all the problems in his life like fmaily problems and friends provlems.he told me tjat hes been trying to move on and forget about me but my constant texts make it harder for him. I was wonder if the no contact method would really work? Because i feel like if i dont contatc him he will forget me. Please give me advice on what i should do to get him back please. (link)
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If you want him back, maybe just be a friend for now. It sounds like he's going through a lot and may just need a friend at the moment. If you make it clear that you are there for him to support him, it will most likely bring you two closer together. In those hard times, he will think about how you were there for him and it may have him see you in a new light that could rekindle the relationship.
He won't think of you as the person who added more stress. Just be there for him now and maybe, just maybe, it will help you guys down the road.
Don't initiate no contact though because then it could seem like you just don't care. And don't send a million messages at once. Just take it slow.
Hope this helped.
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okay i am a 13/f in middle okay. i went with this boy name j. okay during our relationship he seem like he was afarid to speak to me. so i broke up with him for another reason. now he speak to me like everyday now and be my friend.
I wonder why he would do that to me?
What does this mean?
please help.
~thanks (link)
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There is lot of pressure in relationships. You are young and when you are having the first couple relationships, it will be a little nerve wracking and will make it awkward when you two are around each other. Once you broke up with him, you took that pressure off and he only has to see you as a friend now. It's a lot easier to talk to a friend.
Maybe just keep up with this friendship and if it continues to go in this direction, revisit the relationship when you are both more comfortable around each other.
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Hi,
I'm 16. I use tampons and have been fingered. Wheneveri have the tampon in and clench or tug on the string, it feels good. Am i the only one?
Thanks :) (link)
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You are definitely not the only one. You seem to just have a very sensitive vagina. A tampon does the same act as a penis during sex, so it would only make sense for it to have some sort of pleasure when using it.
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18/f
So I've been with a guy for two months now in a relationship.
He's really into me, and even talks of me being 'the one' and marriage etc.
However I recently went out clubbing and remembered how good the single life is. Not in a hoe type way-but how nice it is to be free and flirty.
I do love my boyfriend, but I just don't fancy him and (this sounds so harsh) I do think I could do better.
However I'm his first girlfriend and considering he thinks we'll be life partners, I don't want to hurt his feelings. He said he thought he'd be a loner all his life until he met me.
I used to think when I came to Uni that I wanted a relationship, now I'm in one all I want is to have a bit of freedom again. I mean heavens, somethings wrong here when I find 80% of the club guys hotter than my boyfriend.
How can I get out of this mess? And sorry this is so long! (link)
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Well first off, don't stay in the relationship because you are afraid to hurt his feelings. That won't be a healthy relationship for either of you. It will hurt him, but he will move on. If he found you, he could definitely heal and find someone else.
Honestly, talking about marriage that quickly might be a sign to back off a little bit. That shouldn't be the norm, especially for 18 year olds. No offense.
You may simply be destined to be good friends rather than in a relationship together. Just understand that you may not have that friendship if you decide to move on.
I hate saying it, but it doesn't sound like you should stay in this relationship. If you are more attracted to other people, then explore that. If you were with the one, you would think he was the only one for you.
I wish you the best of luck. I hope everything works out so that you are both happy.
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Hey everyone :)
I'm sorry if I offend you in any way in this question.
I started to think it would be amazingly problem solving if the world did end on December 21.
Now there's something you all need to know before you answer this, angrily.
I'm a very happy person, I love my family, I love everyone. I just see my life, & everyone's life, as pointless. Everything I care about, everyone I love, is not permanent. Everything dies, nothing lasts forever. So I don't see the point in caring so much about a life that is so unimportant as the ones we lead. This is something that really worries me at times. I feel like my thoughts are very negative, me being the happy, very grateful & thankful person that I am. My own thoughts confuse me sometimes, though.
I think that with all of these people I see on Facebook with completely naked pictures & people saying they hate their parents, bath salts, babies with iPhones, people who don't say I love you to their parents because its "embarrassing", crimes committed every day that involve deaths, people with no confidence, peer pressure, jealousy, addiction, teen pregnancy, rape, shooting in a theatre, shooting of children that could be the next president one day, & just
negativity in general.
I'll tell you one thing. When people commit suicide, I don't feel bad at all. In fact, I don't respect the idea of it at all. It's kind of even funny to me. The only people I would cry over taking their own life is a schizophrenic. They all have a good reason to want to die. They're trapped in their own brain. The brain is such an important thing to have control over. It literally summons up everything that ever happens for you (if you're confused, watch the movie "The Secret") and to not have control over it, you're basically as good as dead, anyway
People take things for granted. I would never take my family or my friends, or anyone who wants to be around me in general, AT ALL for granted. My life is too important to me for me to be spending it with hate.
Keep in mind, I want to live my life. I want to be happy as much as possible. But I can't just sit back & not say anything about the very sad & careless things that happen every day, & the crimes committed toward innocent people every day. This is my first attempt at saying something. Feel free to call me names, speak your mind. I want to know what people think.
Is it bad that I feel this way? Am I the only one? Am I wrong?
Any comments/opinions are appreciated.
If in any way, this upsets you, please let me know why.
Thank you for reading :) & have a nice day :D (link)
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Hey. So I know exactly what you mean. Granted I am depressed and have severe anxiety, but I have the same thoughts. Mine might even be a tad darker than yours. So, no. I don't think that you are a dark person. I think you are just simply curious about the point to life and why we make so much of it when it's all going to go away in the end.
The money we make and the relationships we build don't go with us when we die, so I get the idea of why should we really care all that much. Personally, I don't think we should. This is where the "make the most of your life" comes in. You have all this time here to become whoever you wanna be. Money shouldn't be the center of that. Heartbreak and envy shouldn't either. We should simply be living to be happy otherwise what's the point?
You'll end up looking back one day when you are older thinking what the hell happened to my life? I'm successful, but now I have all this money I don't even have time to spend.
I was raped, I was suicidal, I witnessed a suicide, and I was stalked. I came out to friends and family. All of this happened in the matter of 4 months. But fuck that. I'm not going to let that be the definition of my life. There is no point to dwell.
Sorry if I ranted too much, but this is what I think about a lot.
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I keep it clean when I masterbate but what Im afraid is my vagina is so red. How do I get rid of the redness? Do I put on a special of cream? Baby powder?? I tried the baby powder but seems like is still red.
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Generally it will be red afterwards. A) because you are warming up the area with the friction and B) because you are in a way bruising the area and popping blood vessels. The only way you would really be able to stop the redness all together is to stop masturbating, but it is completely normal for that to happen.
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I am 26, his 41 things have only just started. He is married with 3 kids but things have been over for awhile it is all for the kids. He is very sincere and genuine and I do trust him and I know he won't purposely hurt me. He is very affectionate and I guess he is going to want to take it to the next level some stage. I am a virgin and keeping feeling like I might be like a hermit or frigid or something like that. I just really don't no what to think I don't want this to ruin the best thing that has ever happened to me. Just some advice would really be appreciated. Also any questions you have I will answer. (link)
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The best thing to do is to tell him your concerns. I figured this out the hard way and almost lost my relationship. It is better to voice it now than wait.
Just tell him that you are a virgin and that you want to be with him, but that it might take you a little bit to get there. Tell him, if you're nervous that is, that he should help you along and teach you. That can be a huge turn on.
Make sure to tell him your needs and find out what he expects from you and just discuss. It will be extremely awkward at first, but it will bring you guys closer and might take away some of that frigid feeling you have. If he turns you away for being open and honest and willing, then he probably isn't who you thought he was.
Hope this helped!
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14/f
My brother and I have always been very close. We have a great time together and he is my best friend. He is going to be a sophomore in college this year. I survived him being gone when he was a freshman because I found I didn't think about him much when I was busy. However, he is leaving tomorrow and I am so so so sad. I always cry when he leaves to go back after breaks and stuff. I am crying right now because I am going to miss him so much. Any tips on how to not feel so depressed? I start high school in two days so that should help a little, but I am still so sad :( (link)
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Well, just hang out with him right now as much as possible and don't focus on him leaving yet. When it does come, just remember that you have tons of ways to stay in touch with him -- phone, facebook, email, letters, skype -- and let him know that you want to keep in touch with him. You can also remember to visit him so that you don't feel so unconnected to him. It will be hard and I know this because me and my brother went through the same thing, but it was me leaving and I went to school across the country. It's hard but doable and as long as you focus on keeping in touch, you can do it.
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What if the ibuprofen doesn't work and I end up coming back with brain damage? I'd be worse off than I was before. (link)
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Please think about this before you act. Just please remember that you mean so much to people and are just as important as anyone else. You are worth something and there is no problem in the world that has the solution of suicide. There is always another way to fix a problem.
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There is guy at work I seen looking at me a couple of times. Both times I was looking down doing something and when I looked up i saw him looking at me as he walked by. One of the times when passed by he looked back at me. Why is he looking at me? I like him should I go up and talk to him? (link)
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I think the answer is kinda obvious...he is interested! Maybe the next time he looks at you, just smile or say "hey" just to make it less awkward and to break the ice for him :)
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I am thinking about committing suicide. I've made some really bad decisions and feel that it would be best for everyone if I were gone. My family would get insurance money and would be taken care of financially. (link)
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So, I can relate in the sense that my friend just recently tried to commit suicide because her boyfriend broke up with her. It may not be the same reason, but this is just not something you should even consider.
Things may seem horrible right now, but just think of the motivation given to you to make it better for yourself and the others around you who love you.
There is nothing that can't be fixed or doesn't have some sort of solution. You are a human being who makes mistakes just like everyone else. You ARE worth something and WILL be missed and mourned by those around you.
Suicide isn't the answer because you don't deserve to die for anything you may have done or are doing. Just please think this over and remember you are just as important as the next person out there -- no more, no less.
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